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"I think with stuff like this you just have to fake it till you make it as well. "
Exactly this my fab persona is the complete opposite to my vanilla life, in the fab world I'm this out going popular guy who actually don't do that bad with the lady's in real life I'm kind of rubbish lol  |
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Unfortunately my attitude is take me as I I'm or leave me where I was, So i'm thinking that its going to be rather hard to near impossible to make a name for myself as a straight edge single male  |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked  "
Spot on fella there |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked "
naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?  |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't? "
Exactly this
We have all been newbies at social events at some point and if I had chosen to sit in the corner and not mix with anyone then I would not have expected people to make an effort with me, if I couldn't be bothered to make an effort with them, regardless of the fact I have tits  |
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"Unfortunately my attitude is take me as I I'm or leave me where I was, So i'm thinking that its going to be rather hard to near impossible to make a name for myself as a straight edge single male "
But that's the kind of attitude that dooms you before you start, doesn't seem any point you being here tbh, you get out what you put in. I'm painfully shy in group situations & I don't particularly enjoy that much, but I make the effort because to speculate is to accumulate & I'm not an egotistical person X |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't? "
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples "
in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever? |
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"Unfortunately my attitude is take me as I I'm or leave me where I was, So i'm thinking that its going to be rather hard to near impossible to make a name for myself as a straight edge single male
But that's the kind of attitude that dooms you before you start, doesn't seem any point you being here tbh, you get out what you put in. I'm painfully shy in group situations & I don't particularly enjoy that much, but I make the effort because to speculate is to accumulate & I'm not an egotistical person X"
I'm the same being painfully shy in crowd's  |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever? "
I agree, you gotta be in it to win it |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever? "
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever? "
I'm not saying that i'm not going to make the effort at all, Just that some males like myself are extremely shy and not so good in crowd's of random people, I just can't be myself in crowd's but when it comes to 1 on 1 conversation with a female i shine  |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys "
I wasn't referring to you specifically.
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Why not see if there's a small group going to a pub nearby beforehand? Will have a few familiar faces at the social then.
I only have this advice as I was spotted on my own before the last Newport social, made things a lot easier |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys "
That's exactly my style too, I'd rather hopefully get the chance to talk to single females and see what if any chances i may have of success on here |
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"Why not see if there's a small group going to a pub nearby beforehand? Will have a few familiar faces at the social then.
I only have this advice as I was spotted on my own before the last Newport social, made things a lot easier "
eagle eyes lol |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys
That's exactly my style too, I'd rather hopefully get the chance to talk to single females and see what if any chances i may have of success on here "
Thing I'd when I 1st joined fab the social side was the hardest part. Now it's the best part of most favorable. Just do what's best for you and push yourself once in a while and you may surprise yourself. Just picture everyone naked. That may help lol |
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"Why not see if there's a small group going to a pub nearby beforehand? Will have a few familiar faces at the social then.
I only have this advice as I was spotted on my own before the last Newport social, made things a lot easier "
I would love that as that would definitely ease the nerves a lot and may make me more socialable |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys I wasn't referring to you specifically.
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smile it suits you more |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys
That's exactly my style too, I'd rather hopefully get the chance to talk to single females and see what if any chances i may have of success on here
Thing I'd when I 1st joined fab the social side was the hardest part. Now it's the best part of most favorable. Just do what's best for you and push yourself once in a while and you may surprise yourself. Just picture everyone naked. That may help lol"
As being a life model years ago it was quite the opposite  |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys
That's exactly my style too, I'd rather hopefully get the chance to talk to single females and see what if any chances i may have of success on here
Thing I'd when I 1st joined fab the social side was the hardest part. Now it's the best part of most favorable. Just do what's best for you and push yourself once in a while and you may surprise yourself. Just picture everyone naked. That may help lol
As being a life model years ago it was quite the opposite "
I wish you well fella |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
Im very sociable thanks. But I do see plenty of guys just sitting there or being like flys round shit around the females. When that happens I take a backward step as it's not my style. I suppose is I'd be a unsociable single guy then lol
I've never once seen a single female just left on her own. Always ppl that will go up to hey her involved. I guess she's more valuable then the lots of single guys
That's exactly my style too, I'd rather hopefully get the chance to talk to single females and see what if any chances i may have of success on here
Thing I'd when I 1st joined fab the social side was the hardest part. Now it's the best part of most favorable. Just do what's best for you and push yourself once in a while and you may surprise yourself. Just picture everyone naked. That may help lol
As being a life model years ago it was quite the opposite
I wish you well fella "
Cheers dude and the same to you too |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
I'm not saying that i'm not going to make the effort at all, Just that some males like myself are extremely shy and not so good in crowd's of random people, I just can't be myself in crowd's but when it comes to 1 on 1 conversation with a female i shine "
You don't HAVE to attend socials. Infact, if you actively dislike large groups surely it would make more sense not to attend, if you already say you will spend the whole time probably alone and feeling uncomfortable. Why not just stick to what you actually enjoy?? |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
I'm not saying that i'm not going to make the effort at all, Just that some males like myself are extremely shy and not so good in crowd's of random people, I just can't be myself in crowd's but when it comes to 1 on 1 conversation with a female i shine
You don't HAVE to attend socials. Infact, if you actively dislike large groups surely it would make more sense not to attend, if you already say you will spend the whole time probably alone and feeling uncomfortable. Why not just stick to what you actually enjoy??"
That's great advice and what ever you do just be yourself don't do something you don't want to just to fit in ( or what you think is fitting in )
Personally I like socials but hey I like a drink so I'm happy if there is girls and booze |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
I'm not saying that i'm not going to make the effort at all, Just that some males like myself are extremely shy and not so good in crowd's of random people, I just can't be myself in crowd's but when it comes to 1 on 1 conversation with a female i shine
You don't HAVE to attend socials. Infact, if you actively dislike large groups surely it would make more sense not to attend, if you already say you will spend the whole time probably alone and feeling uncomfortable. Why not just stick to what you actually enjoy??"
To get verified and to get known you have to attend a social if you've not had any success with any meets |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
I'm not saying that i'm not going to make the effort at all, Just that some males like myself are extremely shy and not so good in crowd's of random people, I just can't be myself in crowd's but when it comes to 1 on 1 conversation with a female i shine
You don't HAVE to attend socials. Infact, if you actively dislike large groups surely it would make more sense not to attend, if you already say you will spend the whole time probably alone and feeling uncomfortable. Why not just stick to what you actually enjoy??
To get verified and to get known you have to attend a social if you've not had any success with any meets "
You don't HAVE to do anything OP
If your sole purpose of dragging yourself to a social you say you will struggle to enjoy just to get a green tick in the hope other women will meet you....I think you will struggle. I wish you all the best though |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
I'm not saying that i'm not going to make the effort at all, Just that some males like myself are extremely shy and not so good in crowd's of random people, I just can't be myself in crowd's but when it comes to 1 on 1 conversation with a female i shine
You don't HAVE to attend socials. Infact, if you actively dislike large groups surely it would make more sense not to attend, if you already say you will spend the whole time probably alone and feeling uncomfortable. Why not just stick to what you actually enjoy??
To get verified and to get known you have to attend a social if you've not had any success with any meets "
We personally don't enjoy the socials but they are very well attended so you'll meet plenty of people.
Get yourself a drink take a deep breath and just say hi to people, explain it's your first social and that your as nervous as hell and you'll be fine, when the nerves have settled relax and enjoy the evening.
Good luck, I'm sure you'll enjoy yourself. |
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"Just wondering what you (single females) would think of a guy who is great talking 1 on 1 but not so great in crowds ?  "
I won't leave you on your own and will introduce you to everyone.
If it makes you feel a little bit better I will even meet you outside and walk in with you.
We were all new once  |
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"Just wondering what you (single females) would think of a guy who is great talking 1 on 1 but not so great in crowds ?
I won't leave you on your own and will introduce you to everyone.
If it makes you feel a little bit better I will even meet you outside and walk in with you.
We were all new once "
There you are OP, sorted
Can't get it much better than that |
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I got into socials via the chat room just got chatting and one lady put me onto Miss Giggles for a social on Newport where you didn't have to be verified. .. it was an eye opener in a good way and some really friendly people ... it wasn't crowded either probably 25 max but big room and I just got chatting with 3 people on a table and the rest is history. .. .. what you have to realise fab swinging is not an exercise/hard work ... it's fun and we are all in the same boat (some more experience than others because they have been members for a long time and know more people etc... but they are nice chatty people ) so mate grab the bull by the horns and just chill and enjoy .. the ladies don't bite at socials lol ... good luck m8 ?? |
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"If you had tits you're laughing fella.
Buy there's a hugh mix of single guys on fab so it's a case of the quiet ones getting over looked naaa I wouldn't agree with that. At the end of the day, everyone has to make an effort. Everyone. If he choses to sit in a corner and not speak to anyone, then that's his choice. Why should everyone else make an effort to have a conversation when he won't?
Plenty will go to a unicorn sitting in the corner though. Single guys. Couples in my experience, there's far more men who sit in the corner starring and being anti social, than there is women. What's the point of attending a social if your intention is to make no effort whatsoever?
I'm not saying that i'm not going to make the effort at all, Just that some males like myself are extremely shy and not so good in crowd's of random people, I just can't be myself in crowd's but when it comes to 1 on 1 conversation with a female i shine
You don't HAVE to attend socials. Infact, if you actively dislike large groups surely it would make more sense not to attend, if you already say you will spend the whole time probably alone and feeling uncomfortable. Why not just stick to what you actually enjoy??
To get verified and to get known you have to attend a social if you've not had any success with any meets "
You make your own success here,it take's time and effort.Single socials are the best way to start. |
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