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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have noticed myself when someone tries to start up a social in their area, generally you'll get negative forum responses.. It appears when some people try and give it a go, users of the more known socials (only a small number of) will start meh meh meh'ing about it.. We could do with some good ones in Pembrokeshire.. Maybe not 'so dark' though as that's not everyone's cuppa... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have noticed myself when someone tries to start up a social in their area, generally you'll get negative forum responses.. It appears when some people try and give it a go, users of the more known socials (only a small number of) will start meh meh meh'ing about it.. We could do with some good ones in Pembrokeshire.. Maybe not 'so dark' though as that's not everyone's cuppa... "
A prime example of this is on a previous thread whereby they wanted to start a 10 pin bowling social.. Some responses were quite shitty.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I did mine they were always open to everyone and I never competed with anyone else as there was no need to
I ahve no issue with any other social organisers never have
Not a clue what or who this is aimed at but think some people need to grow up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do a Sunday lunch one & I've had no issues, it doesn't take any special effort to do a small social & anyone can do it. I didn't notice anything on the 10 pin one & that was a brilliant night, one of the funniest nights I've had in ages X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what I can gather, he's pissed that for a lot of socials, the organisers want to keep the m/f ratio as even as possible. Y'know, instead of having 3 women and 48 dudes turning up hoping for a bonk |
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Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).
The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.
There are two socials being organised in that area.
Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.
Just call me Sherlock lol!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).
The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.
There are two socials being organised in that area.
Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.
Just call me Sherlock lol! "
ooooo Jessica Fletcher eat your heart out!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).
The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.
There are two socials being organised in that area.
Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.
Just call me Sherlock lol! ooooo Jessica Fletcher eat your heart out!
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Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts
It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others
Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to |
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"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts
It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others
Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to"
I get the house party bit & I don't attend some for that very reason, but it shouldn't apply to socials. Most that arrange them like to have a mix of people. I'm guessing there's a little spat going on down West & tbh it needs to stay down there & off the forum. The socials down this way are going really well atm & we don't want to spoil that. |
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"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts
It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others
Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to
I get the house party bit & I don't attend some for that very reason, but it shouldn't apply to socials. Most that arrange them like to have a mix of people. I'm guessing there's a little spat going on down West & tbh it needs to stay down there & off the forum. The socials down this way are going really well atm & we don't want to spoil that."
Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well
As you say it could well be a personal spat
Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?
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"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts
It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others
Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to
I get the house party bit & I don't attend some for that very reason, but it shouldn't apply to socials. Most that arrange them like to have a mix of people. I'm guessing there's a little spat going on down West & tbh it needs to stay down there & off the forum. The socials down this way are going really well atm & we don't want to spoil that.
Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well
As you say it could well be a personal spat
Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?
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I wouldn't worry about the "M/F/MF" ratio, most "single" guys who put their names down don't turn up... they cant get their wives to let them out for the evening lol! |
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over a year ago
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"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts
It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others
Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to
I get the house party bit & I don't attend some for that very reason, but it shouldn't apply to socials. Most that arrange them like to have a mix of people. I'm guessing there's a little spat going on down West & tbh it needs to stay down there & off the forum. The socials down this way are going really well atm & we don't want to spoil that.
Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well
As you say it could well be a personal spat
Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?
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Like Mart says controlling numbers rarely works I've been to many socials & parties, they look cock heavy on site but never are in practice. Most couples & females pm X |
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"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts
It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others
Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to
I get the house party bit & I don't attend some for that very reason, but it shouldn't apply to socials. Most that arrange them like to have a mix of people. I'm guessing there's a little spat going on down West & tbh it needs to stay down there & off the forum. The socials down this way are going really well atm & we don't want to spoil that.
Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well
As you say it could well be a personal spat
Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?
Like Mart says controlling numbers rarely works I've been to many socials & parties, they look cock heavy on site but never are in practice. Most couples & females pm X"
Might try to build up the courage to find a friendly one to attend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're all friendly & you'll always find someone willing to hold your hand to begin. Depends what type of social you enjoy, the lunchtime ones have more chat, the evenings ones are more music & dance based & the bowling social is just a good laugh x |
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What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event. |
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"They're all friendly & you'll always find someone willing to hold your hand to begin. Depends what type of social you enjoy, the lunchtime ones have more chat, the evenings ones are more music & dance based & the bowling social is just a good laugh x"
Thanks for the advice I'm in wales weekday days and evenings when I stop over in a hotel.
Are they more weekend based ? |
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"What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event. "
That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op |
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Either way I can't see the problem.. I arranged one in a local town a few years back, alright, it was slow to begin with and, initially, only around 8 people showed (2 MF CPL, 1 F and 5 M), it's just a shame we couldn't continue using the venue as management changed hands and shortly after I left the site for the first time (one of many ) everyone kind of gave up and went their own separate ways..
Anywho, Pembrokeshire needs a good couple of socials, all different so people can pick and choose what one(s) they would like to attend.. Keep it up, Warren, you'll get people who show! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I stopped going to socials now I went to three different ones in different areas but all same faces.  "
That is true for some of the local ones, I just threw on a disco and good couple of pints (I was friends with the pub owners who had a little dance floor on the second floor) |
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"What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event.
That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op"
Mostly because the organiser is a control freak. The reason I started a Caerphilly social was for unverified users to get that much need verification in order to allow them to the weekend socials. I have NEVER told anyone they could not attend if they were also going to a different one run by someone I may not like. |
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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago
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"the bowling social is just a good laugh x"
Thanks ... Always good to know people enjoy themselves..
As an organiser of socials it takes a bit of work to get the right balance of people...
My socials are always open to all but I do try and make sure I get a 50/50 gender split.
Ten Pin Bowling socials are fun but by their nature are numbers limited and also numbers and payment needs to be confirmed and paid in advance to guarantee a booking which I do willingly.
What is annoying is guys (and it is predominantly guys) who confirm and then do a "no show". It's just lack of manners.
I tend to under book the numbers but also over invite as I know that for every six guys invited only four will bother to turn up...
Anyway that's my rant for the year over..
To everyone who attends my future socials have a great time and enjoy yourselves....
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"What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event.
That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op
Mostly because the organiser is a control freak. The reason I started a Caerphilly social was for unverified users to get that much need verification in order to allow them to the weekend socials. I have NEVER told anyone they could not attend if they were also going to a different one run by someone I may not like."
The Sunday lunch social is the same, I started it because I was having lunch alone most Sundays & I knew others were as well. It's a great way for those with no veris to get started & I've no interest in other socials people attend or who puts them on, that's not my concern & luckily most other organisers are like us, I think you've got caught up in a particular dispute there Warren, best left to it because socials run by people like that tend to fail X |
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"What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event.
That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op
Mostly because the organiser is a control freak. The reason I started a Caerphilly social was for unverified users to get that much need verification in order to allow them to the weekend socials. I have NEVER told anyone they could not attend if they were also going to a different one run by someone I may not like.
The Sunday lunch social is the same, I started it because I was having lunch alone most Sundays & I knew others were as well. It's a great way for those with no veris to get started & I've no interest in other socials people attend or who puts them on, that's not my concern & luckily most other organisers are like us, I think you've got caught up in a particular dispute there Warren, best left to it because socials run by people like that tend to fail X"
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"What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event.
That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op
Mostly because the organiser is a control freak. The reason I started a Caerphilly social was for unverified users to get that much need verification in order to allow them to the weekend socials. I have NEVER told anyone they could not attend if they were also going to a different one run by someone I may not like.
The Sunday lunch social is the same, I started it because I was having lunch alone most Sundays & I knew others were as well. It's a great way for those with no veris to get started & I've no interest in other socials people attend or who puts them on, that's not my concern & luckily most other organisers are like us, I think you've got caught up in a particular dispute there Warren, best left to it because socials run by people like that tend to fail X"
Exactly
The numbers attending speak for themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start
 really, I think I know what you're on about now X"
Yea I twigged earlier |
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"And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start
really, I think I know what you're on about now X
Yea I twigged earlier "
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"Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).
The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.
There are two socials being organised in that area.
Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.
Just call me Sherlock lol! "
Spot on mart and you know me be safe |
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"What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event. "
Thank you Hun as you know from my past I have supplyed raffle prizes at loads of socials and comps in the chat room I also run my own socials I can't name and shame on here xx |
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"They're all friendly & you'll always find someone willing to hold your hand to begin. Depends what type of social you enjoy, the lunchtime ones have more chat, the evenings ones are more music & dance based & the bowling social is just a good laugh x
Thanks for the advice I'm in wales weekday days and evenings when I stop over in a hotel.
Are they more weekend based ?"
Look on welsh forum enjoy |
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"Either way I can't see the problem.. I arranged one in a local town a few years back, alright, it was slow to begin with and, initially, only around 8 people showed (2 MF CPL, 1 F and 5 M), it's just a shame we couldn't continue using the venue as management changed hands and shortly after I left the site for the first time (one of many ) everyone kind of gave up and went their own separate ways..
Anywho, Pembrokeshire needs a good couple of socials, all different so people can pick and choose what one(s) they would like to attend.. Keep it up, Warren, you'll get people who show! "
Got the venue if someone wants to take Pembs socials over they sre welcome. This one was in Carmarthen |
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