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Can you overdo swinging??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been on this site a while and others for some years. But we do find people who, for a while are very prolific and their veri list show they have played a lot. And then, all of a sudden, they are gone! No longer on site etc!etc! We only play now and again and are not serial swingers. Can it be over done?? Loose touch of the real world?? It seems to happen. Some peeps are out every night of the week. Some once a month. Some once a year! It's a random post but opinions welcome! While we are at it might as well say if we would do the one above!! ! Seems a popular one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well, as a single male, i don't get the chance to be out every night of the week, i'm happy with the frequency of my meets, play when I want, sometimes lucky sometimes not, I've found being genuine, and polite is a bonus, and not into the "fuck me tonight" messages helps,
and yes to both the couples above |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes there are some people on here who are constantly in chat,especially after a party who are on cam begging for people to go round ,bit sad really, where as most of us try and fit swinging around our vanilla lives it seems they cant fit there vanilla lives around swinging,its almost like an obsession |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes please to above!!
We tend to swing when we want and to be honest its been a while in my view (About 2 months)
Some people swing by the week and to me that is over doing it, But to them its what they want.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do think that yes many people do seem to overdo it ! Personally we are as the name suggests part timers we enjoy being together and our vanilla life is WAY to busy for us to play all the time but even if our vanilla life was less busy we would still only play as often as we do as for us its about that little added injection of naughtiness not about a need to do it !
But then again each to their own if people choose to flat out swing that's their own choice ! |
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been swinging almost 8 years now, so long as its kept to where and when u want its fine, get priorities in order.... normal life, like family, careers, friends ect.. must come and will always come first...  |
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I'd agree with Bombshell above, it's all about finding the right balance to suit your life - that said, I think it can be too easy to get a bit 'hooked' on the whole thing, especially when you first discover it all.
Like so many things on the internet, the sheer easy availability of swinging sites can make it quite addictive.
As a singleton, it doesn't matter that much to anyone but me if I get a bit Fab-a-dab-a-doo once in a while (so long as the kids still get fed, of course!) - but for a couple it can be tricker I suspect, simply because one half is always likely to be slightly more into it than the other. That's when it can begin to cause friction, I reckon.
As with all things 'swingy', the important thing is to communicate openly. I should have been an agony aunt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well said '_iceguydave'.
I am still in the discovery stage and sometimes overdo it. On the other hand, it depends on my mood and availability. I have a difficult family life that is sometimes quite exhausting, and i come on here to just chat and flirt instead of answering potential meets messages.
.. also nessa mentioned that it's a bit 'sad' that people are 'begging' for sex in the chat room after a party. Each to their own honey, some are hornier than others and are just having a laugh and a bit of fun.xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes i do, it's a free site and we are all different and have differing libido's /sex drive's whatever its called lol. You swing the way you are comfortable with, whoever did the 'begging' might be a bit out there for some, but again, we are all different and it doesn't make it 'sad' it just differs from what you and your hubby may ever do.
But since this OP asked about overdoing it.. i am still pretty new at this but i can imagine people do over do things, have a break, stop coming to the site, do their own thing and when ready for more come back to it. x |
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We hit the ground running when we first started swinging, if we wern't at a party on a weekend we went to chams. We then hit a bit of a road-block as Jayne got ill, and our vanilla lives were suffering a little too, so we eased off, and now we just go with the flow, love to get a party invite, but we dont get all bent out of shape if a party happens and we dont get an invite.
Currently, illness (both of a family member and Jayne) has us on a pause, but you can bet we will be back on it when we get the chance!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is my preference, but i enjoy reading some of the feedback on a profile as it shows they are genuine, sociable, and i know to a certain degree what their taste is.
Besides which, how do you know if there are few verifications on a particular profile makes them inactive and more appealing to you? The profile owners may just choose not to show who they have met or just put up social meets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think when we first started it was definitely a case of "kid in a candy shop" syndrome.
When the initial novelty wore off we definitely then opted for quality over quantity.
The problem for us is usually a case of all or nothing. We seem to get all the good offers at once and then nothing for a while. Sometimes it feels like we are doing too much so we just stop for a while until we miss it.
I would agree with a number of the previous posts. It's all about balancing things and doing nothing just for the sake of it.
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"To us, it puts us off seeing a meet in person verification list like the index of the argos catalogue so we avoid them. But thats our preference"
Guess it just goes to show that we are all different!
We like to see a few verifs, firstly it proves that the person(s) are genuine, and secondly it shows us a "snapshot" of what they are like, giving us a chance to see if we match what they are looking for, and vice versa.
Its not foolproof, but it hasnt failed us yet!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its grt when u meet people but first u need to meet people to swing as we havent met any yet we not sure about over swinging it would be nice to star swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ooops looks like i touched a raw nerve im obvioulsy not entiltled to my opinion so i,d better shut up "
of course you are entitled to your opinion, as for touching a raw nerve i've no idea to whom you might be applying that comment to.
I am new to swinging and obviously not as well heeled as some on here, but do make allowances for those who have 'obsessions' and those that swing once a year..
I don't have enough insight to anyone's private life to pass comment on what is acceptable swinging and what is all consuming. Even if i did pass comment it's only my opinion after all ... no one has to agree to it anyway ness.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Violette, all your comments are spot on and very insightful for a newish swinger. It's a great shame others don't see what your saying.
We've been on the scene for 11 years and take breaks now and then up to 18 months sometimes because we play when it suits our life and we don't play when it suits our life. A lot of couple go through purple patches when a lot of offers come in and a lot of meets are arranged. We were quite active before we went to cancun in may yet haven't done a play meet since we got back. At the moment we have a speed date on for tonight because we fancy a bit of fun and because it's been a while we're very nervous and excited lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our opinion when swinging becomes obbsesive, and therefore takes over your life it is time to quit. There are people on the site this to whom this applies, some that are prepared to sacrifice thier "vanilla" lives for the thrill of it so to speak, neither of us would sacrifice the other, our kids, or or jobs for swinging, and in our opinion it is blatently clear that some do. We haven't had a meet or been to a club in over two months due to a mixture of kids, and work commitments even though we would like to, it doesn't bother us one bit we know we will resume play when life dictates we can. In essence we do agree with Nessa and Smiffy, it is a shame to see someone have thier posts overly analysed with such repition, but this is the way the forums seem to be heading these days. |
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