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over a year ago
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Open this to the forum. How has swinging changed over the years? Is dogging now dead? Is it all about clubs and sociala these days? Is it less popular than it used to be? |
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"Open this to the forum. How has swinging changed over the years? Is dogging now dead? Is it all about clubs and sociala these days? Is it less popular than it used to be?"
No to all the above just kept of the media although I'm more into the dark side (people are more genuine)swinging dogging and clubs are all going well in fact some have improved |
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I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X |
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"I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X"
Me too Peach. Most men on here these days are just looking to empty their balls.
The good old days are gone along with the relaxed no pressure meets and often following fun that you describe.
Most men on here see me as a free prostitute, nothing more.
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I've been living this lifestyle for a number of years now and as previous ladies have stated it's gone a tad as all meets should be enjoyable non expectant and what happens happens!!--however I do think this site has gone a lot like Facebook and loosing it's way alittle!!--good guys get missed as so many men on here just looking to empty balls as miss p put it!!--yup that's the hope but gotta have a laugh and a connection in my opinion!!--role back the years I say  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X
Me too Peach. Most men on here these days are just looking to empty their balls.
The good old days are gone along with the relaxed no pressure meets and often following fun that you describe.
Most men on here see me as a free prostitute, nothing more.
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It's that mind set that stops me meeting alone anymore & that does piss me off because I would love to be back in the game but it's harder & harder to find those few nice guys. I wish there was a better way but tbh I don't know what it is. Socials, parties & club's are great but it's not the same as the spontaneous coffee that on occasion could lead to some mutually enjoyable fun X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X
Me too Peach. Most men on here these days are just looking to empty their balls.
The good old days are gone along with the relaxed no pressure meets and often following fun that you describe.
Most men on here see me as a free prostitute, nothing more.
It's that mind set that stops me meeting alone anymore & that does piss me off because I would love to be back in the game but it's harder & harder to find those few nice guys. I wish there was a better way but tbh I don't know what it is. Socials, parties & club's are great but it's not the same as the spontaneous coffee that on occasion could lead to some mutually enjoyable fun X"
I've gone I can't even be arsed to look anymore
If I get talking to someone cool they usually suddenly turn into a fucking creep |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi guy's,when I and my wife wear younger,it was called wife swapping then we would go to rugby clubs and each couple would put there keys on the table with the wifes name on with some tape over,at the end of the night,which ever set you picked up that is you you went home with,it was not a select game, any one could play,so you got to fuck girls,ladies,that you would never expect to fuck,I also visited some of these friends last year and we were invited to play in a new game,will explain it if you want  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi guy's,when I and my wife wear younger,it was called wife swapping then we would go to rugby clubs and each couple would put there keys on the table with the wifes name on with some tape over,at the end of the night,which ever set you picked up that is you you went home with,it was not a select game, any one could play,so you got to fuck girls,ladies,that you would never expect to fuck,I also visited some of these friends last year and we were invited to play in a new game,will explain it if you want "
i remember those days, was golf club for me and my hubbie |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I prefer to have a choice Tbh, why would I just fuck randomly, that's no different to saying yes on here. I get that some people are into the randomness of all this but I like to fancy who I have fun with. Yeah, me n Ch3wy have a similar party game but there's always a clause so none of us are made to feel obligated to have fun with someone we don't fancy & tbh we usually only had those we'd be happy to fuck along to our parties X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes me to these day's,but back then and after a few, to much beer you would fuck anything, but I am a strong believer in all like to be fucked and never mind what anyone looks like as long as they are clean and you both enjoy it,but everyone to there own,in saying that I was lucky and had some great fucks,but my wife kept getting the short straw and mostly had lousy fucks so we stopped then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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& that's where it all falls down women I know & me included just don't want to have sex with guys who have no standards, well they don't want it blatantly in their face. There's nothing to put us of sex more than the feeling we're a replacement for a wank, somewhere warm to dump it, somewhere to empty their balls & yep we've had all those offers & more. What happened to the guys who understood the need to make a woman feel desired in that moment? I'm not talking about relationships etc, I'm talking about being the wanted one in that moment & time, other women will get what I mean but most gits will see this as neediness & not NSA, how naive they are X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have never been like that,but as my wife experienced there wear men like that than as today,I was only saying what it was like then,for guy's to see if it as changed over the years,as it did then,the next thing was part,s after the pub closed and couples would slope off to bedrooms,but what as defiantly changed is back then a female joining a couple was a closed door secret, but now it is more open |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"& that's where it all falls down women I know & me included just don't want to have sex with guys who have no standards, well they don't want it blatantly in their face. There's nothing to put us of sex more than the feeling we're a replacement for a wank, somewhere warm to dump it, somewhere to empty their balls & yep we've had all those offers & more. What happened to the guys who understood the need to make a woman feel desired in that moment? I'm not talking about relationships etc, I'm talking about being the wanted one in that moment & time, other women will get what I mean but most gits will see this as neediness & not NSA, how naive they are X"
Got it in one Peach
I find that as a woman who (used to at least) enjoy nsa friendships/sex, men view me as some sort of emotionless robot who as you describe is nothing more to them than someone to empty their balls over |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am not one of them,but as I was talking about,as swinging changed over the years,back in the day in Rugby wear I thought it is wear swaping went on, rugby players,well most of them are like that just, somewhere to empty there balls empty there sacks my wife would say so they would not dangle when they scrumed down I am not like that,why she married me, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let's all think of some nice ways you guys can make us feel you're not a spunk dumper, what makes you different? Inspire us single women to want to return X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always put the lovely lady first, let her Cum first, and let her direct wear she wants you to cum,then tell her you will hoover the house,do the dishes and get the kids,bet she will say,do it again first, so who is boss,not the one that as a dicks ha ha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always put the lovely lady first, let her Cum first, and let her direct wear she wants you to cum,then tell her you will hoover the house,do the dishes and get the kids,bet she will say,do it again first, so who is boss,not the one that as a dicks ha ha "
Hmmmm you've definitely confused your life with swinging, that dynamics well beyond my swinging experience X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always put the lovely lady first, let her Cum first, and let her direct wear she wants you to cum,then tell her you will hoover the house,do the dishes and get the kids,bet she will say,do it again first, so who is boss,not the one that as a dicks ha ha "
See now to me this is cringeworthy.
It's all about cum this cum that
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In my opinion....every member of this site should be photo verified. It's a start....cut out 70% of fakes. Swinging isn't about sex sex sex. It's sharing fantasies. Talking about the taboos. It's not just get your end away....again....is swinging changing...more are the people blinded by the media |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As has been previously mentioned we always meet for a social first,as how can you gauge chemistry through msgs,we do like the social aspect of a meet but we're certainly not here to just get a quick jump. We've embraced the scene since joining ie doing both swansea and Newport socials,but there does seem to be a massive influx of weekend profiles,sign up on Friday and delete on Sunday. X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's Peachy btw, Ch3wy is the more restrained, outside the bedroom, half. I don't think the true swingers have lost their way or their identities, parties, club's & group fun still goes on, even some very exciting couple & single meets, although I do think we're one of the few existing lucky couples her; it's just become diluted & harder to pick through the dross. Like Miss P I'm still mourning my single female days, I like to meet alone but I rarely do anymore not because I can't but because it's soul destroying nowadays X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I think there are some very lucky couples who get the benefit but there is so much dross. So many topics are cringe worthy. There is still the market for swinging in my opinion. You just need to have a Large filter.....no pun intended |
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Both Peachy and MissP have put it quite right. The site has just seem to of lost it's way not the true swingers.
The influx of men and women signing up then leaving them signing up again time and time again when they don't get what they want is what's starting to blow my head.
I've not met off site for ages. I get fed up of reading the same statuses about emptying bollox and licking a nice pussy! Ok maybe the guy just wants to get his end away but the chase has gone. There's no effort put into the meet. Just expecting wham bam thank you mam! Yes it can be NSA sex but the least the man pick someone they'd actually fancy away from site not just see the Fem as a piece of meat to be used to satisfy their needs.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Somehow it needs to be harder to just join & join again, multiple accounts as male, female, couple & one guy I knew even had a tv one, not because he was or even wanted to meet one, it gave him easier access to some couples. I don't really know where to begin to be honest, we have guys blocked & I hate that but when I'm bored & open the filters I have to close them again within 10 minutes, the shit is relentless. Let's just move on to something happier like cake cos the sun is shining x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not one of them,but as I was talking about,as swinging changed over the years,back in the day in Rugby wear I thought it is wear swaping went on, rugby players,well most of them are like that just, somewhere to empty there balls empty there sacks my wife would say so they would not dangle when they scrumed down I am not like that,why she married me,"
Can someone tell me if this is a new type of urban language, as I have a migraine trying to decrypt it. If it is English, please get me a 20,because that's good gear |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I could write an essay on this after being on the site from its very beginnings.
All I can quickly type on my "phone" is...the improved technology of communication has changed lifestyles to instantaneous instead of taking time and that's why swinging has changed...it's no longer the select few who do it for a lifestyle change but the masses who use it for what they presume is instantaneous fun ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I could write an essay on this after being on the site from its very beginnings.
All I can quickly type on my "phone" is...the improved technology of communication has changed lifestyles to instantaneous instead of taking time and that's why swinging has changed...it's no longer the select few who do it for a lifestyle change but the masses who use it for what they presume is instantaneous fun !"
Well said but unfortunately the masses have spoilt it for that select few with the result that the select few have effectively closed shop to said masses, hence the comment above from a single guy X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to be quite active and as a social kind of guy. I prefer that element to a social meet, unfortunately all men are tarred and as my female friend on here got over a 100 different messages in a day that were just full of porno fantasies I can see why it's a massive turn off and the change has started.
That said anyone wants to join me for a beer or curry on the 22nd in Swansea your more than welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be quite active and as a social kind of guy. I prefer that element to a social meet, unfortunately all men are tarred and as my female friend on here got over a 100 different messages in a day that were just full of porno fantasies I can see why it's a massive turn off and the change has started.
That said anyone wants to join me for a beer or curry on the 22nd in Swansea your more than welcome. "
Hmmmm curry, next to cake that's a fave. Hope you find the company you're seeking X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be quite active and as a social kind of guy. I prefer that element to a social meet, unfortunately all men are tarred and as my female friend on here got over a 100 different messages in a day that were just full of porno fantasies I can see why it's a massive turn off and the change has started.
That said anyone wants to join me for a beer or curry on the 22nd in Swansea your more than welcome.
Hmmmm curry, next to cake that's a fave. Hope you find the company you're seeking X"
Cheers but as a single man on here it will be poppadoms for one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be quite active and as a social kind of guy. I prefer that element to a social meet, unfortunately all men are tarred and as my female friend on here got over a 100 different messages in a day that were just full of porno fantasies I can see why it's a massive turn off and the change has started.
That said anyone wants to join me for a beer or curry on the 22nd in Swansea your more than welcome.
Hmmmm curry, next to cake that's a fave. Hope you find the company you're seeking X
Cheers but as a single man on here it will be poppadoms for one "
If I wasn't working that night I'd offer to join you for curry & a pint if you found nothing else X |
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By *nice44Man
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"I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement
to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X"
Those were the days peach
Flirty banter and a laugh
And fun if it happened |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Those were the days my friend
We thought they'd never end
We'd swing and flirt forever and a day
We'd live the life we choose
We'd fuck and never lose
For we were young and sure to have our way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be quite active and as a social kind of guy. I prefer that element to a social meet, unfortunately all men are tarred and as my female friend on here got over a 100 different messages in a day that were just full of porno fantasies I can see why it's a massive turn off and the change has started.
That said anyone wants to join me for a beer or curry on the 22nd in Swansea your more than
welcome
Hmmmm curry, next to cake that's a fave. Hope you find the company you're seeking X
Cheers but as a single man on here it will be poppadoms for one
If I wasn't working that night I'd offer to join you for curry & a pint if you found nothing else X"
Cheers , I'm in Swansea every three weeks so another time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Guys are getting some stick here for wanting to empty there sack at weekends dare I say females are becoming just as liberal as well. The whole scene is changing media spotlight could be a hindrance but it evolves the situation also as brings in potential new blood.
I can't comment on the past as I'm new and I've made a billion mistakes already in my first year but that was circumstances more then anything else... but in the time I've seen it change I've made some really good friends and that's what we are and it's helped me learn....dare I say a social is next on my list of things as is a club.....but a guide would be nice lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Unfortunately only single females & couples have provided their response so only their perspective has been expressed, you maybe right about females doing the same but that isn't my experience & therefore has had no impact upon my discussion. I think CJ hit the nail on the head & whether that be male, female or couples seeking the instantaneous fix it still impacts upon the traditional long term swingers who remain X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unfortunately only single females & couples have provided their response so only their perspective has been expressed, you maybe right about females doing the same but that isn't my experience & therefore has had no impact upon my discussion. I think CJ hit the nail on the head & whether that be male, female or couples seeking the instantaneous fix it still impacts upon the traditional long term swingers who remain X"
Very much so especially for those who want to journey more no doubts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guys are getting some stick here for wanting to empty there sack at weekends dare I say females are becoming just as liberal as well. The whole scene is changing media spotlight could be a hindrance but it evolves the situation also as brings in potential new blood.
I can't comment on the past as I'm new and I've made a billion mistakes already in my first year but that was circumstances more then anything else... but in the time I've seen it change I've made some really good friends and that's what we are and it's helped me learn....dare I say a social is next on my list of things as is a club.....but a guide would be nice lol "
It's not anyone being liberal that's the issue
It's the terminology often used by men....the number of status' along the lines of "my balls need draining" or "who wants my huge load?" is quite staggering.
Surely even the most inept of men can see how fucking repulsive that is?? |
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It's not anyone being liberal that's the issue
It's the terminology often used by men....the number of status' along the lines of "my balls need draining" or "who wants my huge load?" is quite staggering.
Surely even the most inept of men can see how fucking repulsive that is??"
totally this!
Also the same guys a few hours later moaning that this site is shit because no female has jumped to his pitter patter and relieved him of his burdan. God forbid women have a choice and are not here to just be a vessel for man's seed!! (Via a condom of course we are in the 21st century  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been a member for about five years now (have left and returned a couple of times throughout that period).
In the last 18 months or so, Fab has changed dramatically for me. I had a couple profile with my former FB until we went our separate ways quite some time ago, and communicating with friends and new people was never an issue. Now as a single on here, its almost impossible.
I enjoy chatting with the few female friends I have on here, but finding new ladies who want to chat and meet is like trying to push custard uphill. It's completely understandable when they're getting overwhelmed with messages from men asking 'fancy a fuck' and the like, and the volume of messages they receive in general, but its almost destroyed the chances for me finding friendship and fun sadly.
I'll continue on here in the hope that something changes, but its certainly not what it used to be. |
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"I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X
Me too Peach. Most men on here these days are just looking to empty their balls.
The good old days are gone along with the relaxed no pressure meets and often following fun that you describe.
Most men on here see me as a free prostitute, nothing more.
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I buy you food and dark fruit and don't even get a blow job... time to up my game and be a prick  |
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"I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X
Me too Peach. Most men on here these days are just looking to empty their balls.
The good old days are gone along with the relaxed no pressure meets and often following fun that you describe.
Most men on here see me as a free prostitute, nothing more.
I buy you food and dark fruit and don't even get a blow job... time to up my game and be a prick "
Yea just turn into a dangerous narcissistic cunt and I'll be all over you  |
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"I'd say it's changed for women in recent years especially with all the recent press interest. There's always been the join Friday leave by Sunday guy's & girls tbh, but in the past 2 years I'd say they've saturated the site with their sense of entitlement to a shag cos they've joined a sex site. The site is now full of too many people looking for what they'd go to the pub or club for & wading through that dross & the inevitable put downs & nasty comments certainly had a lot to do with my decision to delete my single profile. Via this profile I can do my thing in a safe & controlled way via club's & parties. I miss the old days of coffee, chatting & flirting, the chase that possibly lead to fun X
Me too Peach. Most men on here these days are just looking to empty their balls.
The good old days are gone along with the relaxed no pressure meets and often following fun that you describe.
Most men on here see me as a free prostitute, nothing more.
I buy you food and dark fruit and don't even get a blow job... time to up my game and be a prick
Yea just turn into a dangerous narcissistic cunt and I'll be all over you "
So stay as I am |
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