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Women that like to de dominated
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've talked to/met a few women that like to be dominated. I've wondered why.
Is it from wanting relief and release(busy job, managing home life on their own etc.)?
Or it is a biological thing - part of the evolutionary hard wiring?
Please tell us...
And...If you wrote a degree level thesis on it I guess it would have to be for a Masters. Should you do it at Sydney University?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons. |
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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons."
Not really. The submissive has all the control in the end. |
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I like being submissive in the bedroom cause it's the only time I let go, in everyday life I'm a control freak about everything, it's nice to take a break from that and also it just turns me on being dominated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like being submissive in the bedroom cause it's the only time I let go, in everyday life I'm a control freak about everything, it's nice to take a break from that and also it just turns me on being dominated "
This for me, although it takes a very strong man to dominate me X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A submissive is an individual who is completely free.
What a dominant will value the most, is with all of that freedom. She chooses to kneel before him.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons."
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons.
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally. "
Oh right. So basically she is letting him do what he wants to a point. But if he loses the plot it gone. Good for thought I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons.
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally.
Oh right. So basically she is letting him do what he wants to a point. But if he loses the plot it gone. Good for thought I think"
kind of yes. But he will, or should, know what she will like and enjoy and how far to push it. If he goes off on a tangent, and she doesn't enjoy it, that's not dominance in the sense of the dom/sub dynamic. Id say doing something that the sub doesn't enjoy is edging more towards sadist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never see this as a conscious choice to be made, there are times when you meet a person & the dynamic naturally dictates the role. I've never chosen to be submissive to Ch3wy, he just naturally assumes control in the bedroom & it flows naturally. Outside the bedroom I'm in control lol X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons.
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally. "
Can't agree enough with this.
Submission is earned and given never taken. Without complete trust it is nothing as soon as any of that trust is lost it will never work.
The Don's focus is always on the sub. Their care and enjoyment it never being too much. It always being enough to give what the sub wants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons.
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally.
Can't agree enough with this.
Submission is earned and given never taken. Without complete trust it is nothing as soon as any of that trust is lost it will never work.
The Don's focus is always on the sub. Their care and enjoyment it never being too much. It always being enough to give what the sub wants."
Couldnt agree more spot on both  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never see this as a conscious choice to be made, there are times when you meet a person & the dynamic naturally dictates the role. I've never chosen to be submissive to Ch3wy, he just naturally assumes control in the bedroom & it flows naturally. Outside the bedroom I'm in control lol X"
Exactly the same here..... my bf is very much in control within the bedroom, he doms and I give into his wishes, but in reality he does stuff and demands things he knows I love doing, I get off on him being the "master" so to speak and he gets to see me "worship" and give into his commands.....
Outside the bedroom that's dropped and we run everything 50/50 x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons.
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally. "
I can't discern from your comment where my lack of understanding lies. It is a form of self-surrender surely, but I quite understand that what appears as weakness is in fact a form of control and power.
The OP really was about why this appeals. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly & this is the very reason we don't indulge in the "scene", we find it too prescriptive & serious. For us this is a naturally occurring dynamic that we wish to explore together in a fluid way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Exactly & this is the very reason we don't indulge in the "scene", we find it too prescriptive & serious. For us this is a naturally occurring dynamic that we wish to explore together in a fluid way."
naturally occurring is the absolute best. Anything else I've found just doesn't work for me. It's either there or it isn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never see this as a conscious choice to be made, there are times when you meet a person & the dynamic naturally dictates the role. I've never chosen to be submissive to Ch3wy, he just naturally assumes control in the bedroom & it flows naturally. Outside the bedroom I'm in control lol X
Snap xx
Exactly the same here..... my bf is very much in control within the bedroom, he doms and I give into his wishes, but in reality he does stuff and demands things he knows I love doing, I get off on him being the "master" so to speak and he gets to see me "worship" and give into his commands.....
Outside the bedroom that's dropped and we run everything 50/50 x "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons.
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally.
Can't agree enough with this.
Submission is earned and given never taken. Without complete trust it is nothing as soon as any of that trust is lost it will never work.
The Don's focus is always on the sub. Their care and enjoyment it never being too much. It always being enough to give what the sub wants.
Couldnt agree more spot on both "
Absolutely agree with this. As a submissive woman, this is so right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really dislike it when people say that it's all about a Dom and them being in charge and it being about power.
It's not part of it is about being honest about who we are. When playing if doing things like impact or rope while there is enjoyment there for the Dom they have to be far more concerned and aware of the sub. The sub has the control at all times. If a sub doesn't trust and it doesn't happen naturally then it will not be good for either.
A Dom had admit thier faults and weaknesses much more than a sub does. How else can a sub feel safe?
It will at times to a point where a sub wants more but the Dom can tell that it's not good for the sub to continue so has to stop and then take care of the sub.
Personally I have been told that I am a nice guy and a gent. To me that goes hand in hand with being a Dom. It is about respect and care.
I have also been told it is like a switch with me when starting playing and I go into my Dom space. |
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"I never see this as a conscious choice to be made, there are times when you meet a person & the dynamic naturally dictates the role. I've never chosen to be submissive to Ch3wy, he just naturally assumes control in the bedroom & it flows naturally. Outside the bedroom I'm in control lol X"
A switch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the opposite of my everyday life.i think that's fairly common. I also think I can be a lazy cow, as in I don't want to think about it. I want someone else to do all the planning and arranging. It's very much a mind thing. |
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Dom or a bully. I love the lifestyle and see loads of failures on both sides . I have brought a lot of people into the dark side I don't hide who or what I am.
50 shades brought hundreds of want to be's to the scene mostly from the swinging community witch also expanded as things got more public I love this life and will pass any knowledge on. Keep it safe ,learn |
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"A submissive is an individual who is completely free.
What a dominant will value the most, is with all of that freedom. She chooses to kneel before him.
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This is the perfect understanding!!-for me the natural progression is the best form |
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"I know...but domination is a form of self-surrender to someone more powerful...can't help but wonder why that appeals. I guess everyone has their own reasons.
I'm sorry but this shows a huge lack of understanding.
A submissive is always in control. However they allow the "Dominant" to do things that they wouldn't allow others to do. It's a trust thing. And the dominant must be able to do it, without cocking it up: or the sub/dom is lost and she takes over. Not nesecarily physically, but certainly mentally. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never see this as a conscious choice to be made, there are times when you meet a person & the dynamic naturally dictates the role. I've never chosen to be submissive to Ch3wy, he just naturally assumes control in the bedroom & it flows naturally. Outside the bedroom I'm in control lol X
A switch "
That's me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never see this as a conscious choice to be made, there are times when you meet a person & the dynamic naturally dictates the role. I've never chosen to be submissive to Ch3wy, he just naturally assumes control in the bedroom & it flows naturally. Outside the bedroom I'm in control lol X"
This. But I do love it when I meet someone who takes control. Sadly, it doesn't happen very often. |
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