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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Just wondering what people's views are. Whenever you see a man who is open about being married and going behind partners back- 80% of the comments seem to be that he's an arsehole. A liar. Scum etc
But when you see a woman commenting that they're cheating... no one seems to bat an eyelid and sometimes it's even "poor you being in a sex less marriage"
Why is this do you think?
FYI this post is not aimed at anyone in particular. Just seems to be something I've noticed and am curious. Personally I've slept with a few married guys (yes. I'm a slut/whore blah blah) just inquisitive I guess and I am also bored and wanted to maybe start a debate NOT an argument.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe people (both men and women) think that men should be more responsible due to the ways in which generations before us used to life! Men should be more respectful of their wives.
Where as people give more sympathy to women.
From experience, people judge me, even though I'm honest, before even contemplating my situation |
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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Maybe. I suppose people could claim the moral high ground as a reason for not meeting.
And that's a rather outdated way of thinking though. Cheating is cheating surely? If a gay man cheats is it different because there's no wife? (This is not meant in a argumentative way. Just pondering.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is outdated, but I think that's just the way most people look at it.
I have a friend who gets with other females without her be knowing, but she doesn't see it at cheating at all |
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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
Ahh yeah. The "if it's the same sex it doesn't count" but then again that only works for women.
When men cheat with other men, women question their womanhood but when a woman cheats with another woman the man should be excited or happy.
Or at least that's the feeling I get from men and women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So out of curiosity, do you play with married men also?
I've had married women on here telling me they don't meet married men.
I find that being very hypocritical |
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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Here I am, be gentle. I'm a married woman but I'm here and having my cake and eating it as they say  "
Oh I'm all for cake eating haha.
Everyone cheats for there own reasons. I don't judge. I'm just interested in how people think tbh aha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Beatrice I'm happy to see on yours that you are into larger hairy guys.
Doesn't mention single or married though, is this optional? Because you seem a right sort xx |
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Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice who they go with and to face the consequences . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Society is full of hypocrisy. The OP is spot on with her initial post. It's the same as if a man owns a blow up doll or a fake vagina he is a pervert yet it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to own a dildo or a vibrator. |
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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago
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As a single woman on here I just ask for honesty so I can then make an informed decision as to whether I want to meet or play with a person. I'm not here to judge or be judged in return. Everyone has their reasons for being on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it is unfair at the moment.
If a man is meeting because he is in a relationship but it doesn't forfil all his sexual wants he is cheating and a
If a woman does it then it's seen as a you go for it about time a woman gets what she wants positive way.
We all have our reasons for being here we all have physical needs and wants. Sometimes those needs and wants can't be met by a life partner. It might be a difference in sexual appetite, the need of the chase some kink aspects that the other partner doesn't enjoy.
We should all be allowed to go after what we want / need without anyone having a go
Everyone makes a choice of if they want to play with a married person. But tha5 choice is equal. I do think it is wrong where someone's says they won't play with a married man because they are cheating but will play with a married woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So out of curiosity, do you play with married men also?
I've had married women on here telling me they don't meet married men.
I find that being very hypocritical "
I have never refused to meet married men, a lot of men on here haven't the first clue about how many messages, winks, friend and meet requests we get as females and I would imagine couples as well.
I personally have my own way of eliminating guys I won't meet, many guys find it harsh, I don't blame anyone for saying they won't meet a certain type like marrieds. As single men you should just bear one thing in mind WE CAN'T MEET YOU ALL lol   |
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Op is pretty spot on but as we all know as mentioned the ratio of men to women here is crazy so upper hand from the start lol--personally I do meet married females once I get a feeling of why but the long n short of it is it's them that's cheating not myself so it's they're drama not mine!!!-we all have our reasons to be hear so luck to all I say and we all need it on this pretty bonkers site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my time on the site I've seen equal measures of vitriol & scorn poured on men & women, both for cheating & for meeting those who cheat. I think it's such an emotive issue for some people that you will get a polarisation of views.
I'm very matter of fact about things & I know people have had quite extreme things to say about my viewpoint, but I'm not concerned about the status of a person I'd like to meet, male or female, but if they are attached it helps to be informed. But before all the jumpers jump on it, I was the cheated on party & this was my view before that experience & remains so now X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice who they go with and to face the consequences ."
Correct me if I'm wrong but what you're saying is it's ok to cheat in an every day relationship but not on a swinging one?
Surely cheating on all levels is about lies and deceit, using a sexless, dysfunctional marriage is just an excuse if your not happy change it or leave, it's far to clichéd to stay for the kids sake |
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"Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice who they go with and to face the consequences .
Correct me if I'm wrong but what you're saying is it's ok to cheat in an every day relationship but not on a swinging one?
Surely cheating on all levels is about lies and deceit, using a sexless, dysfunctional marriage is just an excuse if your not happy change it or leave, it's far to clichéd to stay for the kids sake"
I think he was trying to say that if you are with a swinger then you shouldn't need to as they would understand that you need more. It would be a lot easier to find it together or do it with permission than to hide it and go behind thier back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol, if a person is inclined to seek additional fun elsewhere I don't think being in a swinging relationship makes little difference, rarely is sex about the act of sex & the reasons for looking elsewhere are so complex, risk taking, supplementing, greed, because they can etc |
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"Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice who they go with and to face the consequences .
Correct me if I'm wrong but what you're saying is it's ok to cheat in an every day relationship but not on a swinging one?
Surely cheating on all levels is about lies and deceit, using a sexless, dysfunctional marriage is just an excuse if your not happy change it or leave, it's far to clichéd to stay for the kids sake"
Have to disagree. It's a parents obligation to put their children before themselves. If you decide to have kids you should do everything in your power to keep the family together. Because children need a mother and a father and a family environment.
Once they pop out its time to be selfless.
Fortunately we don't have a problem because we both like seeing each other fuck other people. Long may it continue |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice who they go with and to face the consequences .
Correct me if I'm wrong but what you're saying is it's ok to cheat in an every day relationship but not on a swinging one?
Surely cheating on all levels is about lies and deceit, using a sexless, dysfunctional marriage is just an excuse if your not happy change it or leave, it's far to clichéd to stay for the kids sake
Have to disagree. It's a parents obligation to put their children before themselves. If you decide to have kids you should do everything in your power to keep the family together. Because children need a mother and a father and a family environment.
Once they pop out its time to be selfless.
Fortunately we don't have a problem because we both like seeing each other fuck other people. Long may it continue "
It can cause more harm to a child living with the effects of a marriage full of regrets, there is no need to take a parent away, if you are adults you can surely both remain active parents, and probably better people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a single woman on here I just ask for honesty so I can then make an informed decision as to whether I want to meet or play with a person. I'm not here to judge or be judged in return. Everyone has their reasons for being on here "
This is exactly what I'd like!!
Well said mamma  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice who they go with and to face the consequences .
Correct me if I'm wrong but what you're saying is it's ok to cheat in an every day relationship but not on a swinging one?
Surely cheating on all levels is about lies and deceit, using a sexless, dysfunctional marriage is just an excuse if your not happy change it or leave, it's far to clichéd to stay for the kids sake
Have to disagree. It's a parents obligation to put their children before themselves. If you decide to have kids you should do everything in your power to keep the family together. Because children need a mother and a father and a family environment.
Once they pop out its time to be selfless.
Fortunately we don't have a problem because we both like seeing each other fuck other people. Long may it continue
It can cause more harm to a child living with the effects of a marriage full of regrets, there is no need to take a parent away, if you are adults you can surely both remain active parents, and probably better people "
I agree my children have both me and hubby at home and I'm having the fun I need I suppose I'm fortunate as I don't care what strangers think of me lol "for the kids is NOT a cliche"!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cheaters
People that lie to those they claim to love, and then expect strangers to believe they are honest. That's a special kind of conceited.
I've been cheated on, I forgave, I was cheated on again, I was an idiot, now I'm smart |
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People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me 
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them 
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
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Cheaters specifically, or everyone? |
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?"
Those who have sex outside of a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship "
Do you mean married people, or singles? |
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?"
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business"
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental |
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental "
I never said that I condone them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps you should google the definition of condone, while your there do infer too.
Work for me now sorry, I'd love to stay and chat but needs must for us single parents |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is entitled to their opinion and to express it. But your not entitled to bully, harass, or defame anyone. I believe some of us are polygamous and others monogamous like some are gay and some straight.
Its unfortunate that sometimes we fall in love and partner with the wrong type. I don't have any emotional connection with guys I meet we have the kinky unbridled sex I don't get at home and leave satisfied and not frustrated. My children have myself and my husband together not divorced, and I cannot see a downside but that is just my opinion which I am as entitled to as someone who sees it as wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone is entitled to their opinion and to express it. But your not entitled to bully, harass, or defame anyone. I believe some of us are polygamous and others monogamous like some are gay and some straight.
Its unfortunate that sometimes we fall in love and partner with the wrong type. I don't have any emotional connection with guys I meet we have the kinky unbridled sex I don't get at home and leave satisfied and not frustrated. My children have myself and my husband together not divorced, and I cannot see a downside but that is just my opinion which I am as entitled to as someone who sees it as wrong!"
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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental "
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person. "
At least none of us who meet attached people have been called scum yet, I see that as a positive |
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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person.
At least none of us who meet attached people have been called scum yet, I see that as a positive "
I have been waiting for that 
If the partner doesnt know, I get why people disagree. But when they do know- people still think it's wrong. But surely it's no different to sleeping with one half of a couple who are swinging. Just so happens that only one of them is into it? Just my view anyway.
The definition of affair is "Extramarital affairs are relationships outside of marriage where an illicit romantic or sexual relationship or a romantic friendship or passionate attachment occurs" so even with partners knowledge it's still an affair.. or is that me being pedantic |
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It's the numbers thing again.far more guys than women so most guys morals go out the window to get a meet.and I think one of the main reasons guys get more stick for it is because they are dumb enough to moan about it by creating threads on it. I'm not the cheating type but I'm pretty sure discretion is a big part of that game and women are far better at it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at your definition above, for me the key words are 'relationship' and 'attachment'.
I meet fellow swingers .. as does my hubby, to enjoy sex as a social encounter. And whilst we have developed friendships with lots of people we've met on the scene, the line is drawn at forming relationships.
I think swinging is very different from having an affair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person.
At least none of us who meet attached people have been called scum yet, I see that as a positive
I have been waiting for that
If the partner doesnt know, I get why people disagree. But when they do know- people still think it's wrong. But surely it's no different to sleeping with one half of a couple who are swinging. Just so happens that only one of them is into it? Just my view anyway.
The definition of affair is "Extramarital affairs are relationships outside of marriage where an illicit romantic or sexual relationship or a romantic friendship or passionate attachment occurs" so even with partners knowledge it's still an affair.. or is that me being pedantic "
I can't agree with your point about meeting one half, I love Ch3wy to meet other couples & singles on his own & it's the main reason we go to clubs because that's where he gets to play alone most. It's always his preference for me to be there & join in but my preference is watching or knowing, I'm a cuckqueen who very much controls & arranges the fun, but my horn comes from not being involved. As those who know me will confirm I'm certainly not the other half who doesn't want to swing, I do swing |
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"Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice
who they go with and to face the consequences .
Correct me if I'm wrong but what you're saying is it's ok to cheat in an every day relationship but not on a swinging one?
Surely cheating on all levels is about lies and deceit, using a sexless, dysfunctional marriage is just an excuse if your not happy change it or leave, it's far to clichéd to stay for the kids sake"
All swingers should be honest and believe me I've seen a lot of couples split up because of decite I personally would not shag another swingers wife without him knowing in the vanilla world I don't care |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Honesty is best policy for sure!! I found from bein honest from the start I've had no issues or abuse from people I've met or messaged. I think Aslong as people state t he ur situations honestly it's either a simple yes or no rather than u cheating dooschbag lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person. "
Are you for real?
It's condescending BTW, if you're going to have a pop please make more of an effort not to look thick in the process |
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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person.
Are you for real?
It's condescending BTW, if you're going to have a pop please make more of an effort not to look thick in the process"
Well, thanks for proving my point there.
And FYI I'm not thick but do have dyslexia.
And yes I am for real. And you couldn't even answer my point so had to have ago at my spelling. Shown yourself up alot more than you've shown me up. |
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By *FFB69 OP Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person.
At least none of us who meet attached people have been called scum yet, I see that as a positive
I have been waiting for that
If the partner doesnt know, I get why people disagree. But when they do know- people still think it's wrong. But surely it's no different to sleeping with one half of a couple who are swinging. Just so happens that only one of them is into it? Just my view anyway.
The definition of affair is "Extramarital affairs are relationships outside of marriage where an illicit romantic or sexual relationship or a romantic friendship or passionate attachment occurs" so even with partners knowledge it's still an affair.. or is that me being pedantic
I can't agree with your point about meeting one half, I love Ch3wy to meet other couples & singles on his own & it's the main reason we go to clubs because that's where he gets to play alone most. It's always his preference for me to be there & join in but my preference is watching or knowing, I'm a cuckqueen who very much controls & arranges the fun, but my horn comes from not being involved. As those who know me will confirm I'm certainly not the other half who doesn't want to swing, I do swing "
I totally get where you are coming from. To be honest I was just making a point.
Cheating and swinging are very different as others have said. And I agree with that. My original thing was the disparity in how some people feel about men vs women cheating.
And I think some people have proven my point by having ago at the guys on this post who agree with it but not saying anything to the women.
It's always interesting to see others points of view. What I don't agree with is attacking those views or other people personally. |
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"People are very judgemental, and the sheer hypocrisy no longer surprises me
I've become very accepting of all people, whatever their circumstances might be, and I don't judge them
But, on fab at least, there does seem to be a favorable bias towards women rather than men (nothing to do with the ratio of m/f)
Cheaters specifically, or everyone?
Those who have sex outside of a relationship
Do you mean married people, or singles?
If you're single then it would suggest that you're not in a relationship.
However if a single person had sex with a person in a relationship then that's their business
You didn't define a type of relationship. Nice to see you condone extramarital affairs, the mark of a true man
But at least you're not judgemental
What does being a man have to do with it?
There are women on this thread that have similar views. I don't see you condemning them.
And he didn't say he condoned affairs. He said if a single person has sex with someone in a relationship that's their business.
I started this threat to start a debate. Not to have people make snide and condicending remarks to others.
Challenge the opinion not the person.
Are you for real?
It's condescending BTW, if you're going to have a pop please make more of an effort not to look thick in the process
Well, thanks for proving my point there.
And FYI I'm not thick but do have dyslexia.
And yes I am for real. And you couldn't even answer my point so had to have ago at my spelling. Shown yourself up alot more than you've shown me up. "
I am also dyslexic well said |
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"Well I am all for honesty if a lady says she's married and wants to discreetely meet that's fine providing she's not cheeting on a fellow swinger, cheeting happens in all life more males stray but a man or woman who tells the conquest the situation is better than the ones who lie to all there will always be dishonest people in the world espeshily on sites like fab it's anyone's choice who they go with and to face the consequences .
Correct me if I'm wrong but what you're saying is it's ok to cheat in an every day relationship but not on a swinging one?
Surely cheating on all levels is about lies and deceit, using a sexless, dysfunctional marriage is just an excuse if your not happy change it or leave, it's far to clichéd to stay for the kids sake
Have to disagree. It's a parents obligation to put their children before themselves. If you decide to have kids you should do everything in your power to keep the family together. Because children need a mother and a father and a family environment.
Once they pop out its time to be selfless.
Fortunately we don't have a problem because we both like seeing each other fuck other people. Long may it continue "
Putting your children first DOES NOT mean remaining in an unhappy relationship.
Parents separating DOES NOT make them selfish.
Children can still have a mother, a father and a stable family environment without both parents living under the same roof |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Totally agree with DotCotton. I left my marriage as my ex was abusive mental and physical. I didnt want my child growing up thinking its accepted for men or women to hit each other.
My child now has a stable environment and has a set of happy parents that are living apart.
Then started having fun when I was single. It is down to personel preference tbh. There isnt a right or wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a single woman on here I just ask for honesty so I can then make an informed decision as to whether I want to meet or play with a person. I'm not here to judge or be judged in return. Everyone has their reasons for being on here "
Well said Mama |
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By *handi83Man
over a year ago
Right here |
The clue is in the post topic... cheat. It's never good to cheat, whether it's monopoly or in relationships... you cheat you lie, you deceive. If it's understood or mutual then that's ok. But it's never ok to cheat... or lie. |
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