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The social idea sounds like a massive gamble. You've got this mental image of her being intrigued and going for it. Plenty of others will have a mental image of you being kneed in the bollocks.
Also, what couple are going to take a chance on that. Time is precious and there's a risk they'll get kneed in the bollocks/minge too. I guess you might find the odd ones who fancy a conversion project, but most would steer clear and go for the sure bets.
Sorry, but better to be realistic than a trip to A&E for bollock treatment...or much worse.
Talk to her. Find a way to bring it into conversation and the don't nag if she doesn't jump at the chance. Respect is important. | |||
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"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?" If she's not into the swinging scene, then it's obviously not for her.. Don't try and arrange socials with other swinging couples if she isn't into it, it could end up messy  surely if you are married to her, you would already know what rocks her boat?!  | |||
"I've been single so long I'm probably not the best person to offer advice. Confused though - if you've not talked to her, how do you know she doesn't like it? How else are you going to broach the subject if you don't talk to her? Mime it? .
The social idea sounds like a massive gamble. You've got this mental image of her being intrigued and going for it. Plenty of others will have a mental image of you being kneed in the bollocks.
Also, what couple are going to take a chance on that. Time is precious and there's a risk they'll get kneed in the bollocks/minge too. I guess you might find the odd ones who fancy a conversion project, but most would steer clear and go for the sure bets.
Sorry, but better to be realistic than a trip to A&E for bollock treatment...or much worse.
Talk to her. Find a way to bring it into conversation and the don't nag if she doesn't jump at the chance. Respect is important."Well put...We'd stay well away from this one I'm afraid. | |||
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"Think you need to find out about her fantasies are and build it up from there, it could,take months to get it right but could end in divorce if you push to hard." 
Find a way to broach the subject, a way into the conversation. Be gentle. If she shuts you down then you'll just have to accept her decision. If she's intrigued don't go I'm guns blazing arranging g stuff.
You got to talk about it, talk about and talk some more about it. | |||
"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?" Be careful as she might have you swinging by your bollocks if she doesnt take to the idea well | |||
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"Epic fail... don't do it!! lmao" I'm sorry, but this poor fella's last two posts are a mini online tragedy. You can write a whole soap opera episode imagining the scene. I'm not taking the p*ss - they encapsulate the issues of trust, risk etc amazingly. | |||
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"A bottle or two of wine, set a relaxed scene, easy chat about your life, eventually move the subject to fantasies, keep the glass filled and see what is said. Remember, there are some things that can't be put back in the box once opened." Ahh Booze the key that unlocks everything ,,,,even Pandoras box but what happens when she sobers up and throws it all back in your face? | |||
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"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?" Your profile says you're looking for a couple or single female, makes no mention of being married at all. Why don't you just show her that and see how it goes? | |||
"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?" You obviously have a truthful and honest marriage just carry on as your are behind her back, maybe she's doing the same behind yours . | |||
