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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This isn't a gripe or a whinge.....but!
How hard is it for genuine single blokes to get a fair crack on here.....yes, I'm booked in for the next Caerphilly Social but Jeez man, it's hard being a single guy here.....I await sarcastic comments off some, but come on man, I'm not expecting gangbangs with a load of Swedish nurses....I just want a foot in the door, that's all! |
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Unfortunately the actions of some single men put single women or couples off meeting them. Some think all the women on the site are here to fuck them. Going to a social is a good way of getting your foot in the door. I am going to my first one in about 4 years on the 8th of December. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is unfortunate that for some single guys the only way to get a foot in the door is to spend a fortune on travel, hotels, etc. Although, when I was previously on this site a few months ago did infact meet a lovely couple who were not only what I was looking for, but local too. It's just unfortunate that a few other locals on this site got jealous of our meets and caused no end of grief for us, to the point where we actually lost contact.. Hence why I no longer meet locals, too much dramas..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even got my verifications and all, and, like most, displayed them, but some local arsehole drama queens used that to hurl abuse at not only them but me too... It appears with some that if you get more luck with them, they throw a strop.. Very sad! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it is hard but it will be worth it once you get started
Socials are always a good place to start
Maybe your not the right age or type for some woman or couples you have to remember that as well
But don't take knock backs personal and get abusive like so many men tend to do
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it's pretty unique here, single males may go out every weekend and pull women, but on here the huuuuuge amount of single guys means couples and fems can be extra picky! We spend most of our time on here finding the perfect male that ticks all our boxes before we let them join us. Profiles need to be on the money, and most of all there needs to be an attraction. Don't envy you single guys at all, must be hard work! Clubs are your best bet, can't be as scrutinised there! |
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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago
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This is my input: I always check the pics on a profile before I read the profile text. It's the pics thar draw me in initially. So if there are no pics I don't even bother reading the profile text.
If there are some pics and I find something attractive about them I will read the text.
If there is no text or I don't like what is written I move on...
There needs to be something about a profile that's draws me in..
Just my way of doing things. Other may manage their selection differently though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How on earth did folk ever get on before fab? 
I personally don't do the fab socials as as they come round too infrequently and besides I don't need them.
I am fortunate enough to be able to get away once a month for 2,3 or 4 nights.
In between I get out and about locally...I am very friendly smiley and sociable and take my opportunities,,, with some luck I must add,,, in cafes,pubs and yes even shops and supermarkets.The females are out there guys.Be interesting and approachable but most of all be yourself.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my input: I always check the pics on a profile before I read the profile text. It's the pics thar draw me in initially. So if there are no pics I don't even bother reading the profile text.
If there are some pics and I find something attractive about them I will read the text.
If there is no text or I don't like what is written I move on...
There needs to be something about a profile that's draws me in..
Just my way of doing things. Other may manage their selection differently though "
I would say this is pretty much how we search.  |
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By *roggMan
over a year ago
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There are so many guys on here people have a lot of choice and pushy impatient ones give others a bad impression, the social scene in south wales does help in giving people an awareness of you and a good way of meeting a good variety of people aswell |
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"This is my input: I always check the pics on a profile before I read the profile text. It's the pics thar draw me in initially. So if there are no pics I don't even bother reading the profile text.
If there are some pics and I find something attractive about them I will read the text.
If there is no text or I don't like what is written I move on...
There needs to be something about a profile that's draws me in..
Just my way of doing things. Other may manage their selection differently though
I would say this is pretty much how we search. "
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over a year ago
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"This is my input: I always check the pics on a profile before I read the profile text. It's the pics thar draw me in initially. So if there are no pics I don't even bother reading the profile text.
If there are some pics and I find something attractive about them I will read the text.
If there is no text or I don't like what is written I move on...
There needs to be something about a profile that's draws me in..
Just my way of doing things. Other may manage their selection differently though
I would say this is pretty much how we search.
Me too "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello,
we can get 100 messages a day from men on here . How do you read or reply to all ?
99 percent have obviously not read our profile or have read it and messaged anyway. Why should we reply to them ?
The one percent who have read your profile , have a decent profile themselves and have written a decent message REALLY stand out .
Most single male profiles seem very lazy to us and we feel that if they put so little effort into a profile then they'll put as little effort into ( phnarr phnarr ) us |
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over a year ago
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"This is my input: I always check the pics on a profile before I read the profile text. It's the pics thar draw me in initially. So if there are no pics I don't even bother reading the profile text.
If there are some pics and I find something attractive about them I will read the text.
If there is no text or I don't like what is written I move on...
There needs to be something about a profile that's draws me in..
Just my way of doing things. Other may manage their selection differently though
I would say this is pretty much how we search.
Me too
Me three "
me four! Have to say though that accounts for around 95% of the messages I receive! |
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over a year ago
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The way I see it is that it's a numbers game. I'm only guessing but would say for every women on here there must be 100 men. So of course women have all the power ( nothing wrong with that of course ) so asking for pics when they don't have one deleting unread messages etc.
But what this means is that let's say a plain Jane slightly overweight girl can have her pick of all the best looking men with the best bodies, dicks etc and as the men are fighting for scraps they say yeah let's meet but soon realise that in the vanilla world the chubby checkout girl from Asda isn't someone he would look twice at so let's them down. So as you see on the status part it littered with women moaning they have been let down again giving us singles a bad name. Ladies stick to your levels.
So as a single man you either have to go with women way below your level to meet people and lots do as you see all the laughable flirting on these forums or take your time and accept that to find someone who is your level is a nightmare.
This is no where meant as a rant just my observations on here , at the end of the day why wouldn't women select the best looking men that they couldn't get in the vanilla world ,, let's face it me we would if the odds were in our favour but they are not.
Personally I think all the read my profile make your message stand out stuff is rubbish it's all about attraction simple as
Happy fabbing all |
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"The way I see it is that it's a numbers game. I'm only guessing but would say for every women on here there must be 100 men. So of course women have all the power ( nothing wrong with that of course ) so asking for pics when they don't have one deleting unread messages etc.
But what this means is that let's say a plain Jane slightly overweight girl can have her pick of all the best looking men with the best bodies, dicks etc and as the men are fighting for scraps they say yeah let's meet but soon realise that in the vanilla world the chubby checkout girl from Asda isn't someone he would look twice at so let's them down. So as you see on the status part it littered with women moaning they have been let down again giving us singles a bad name. Ladies stick to your levels.
So as a single man you either have to go with women way below your level to meet people and lots do as you see all the laughable flirting on these forums or take your time and accept that to find someone who is your level is a nightmare.
This is no where meant as a rant just my observations on here , at the end of the day why wouldn't women select the best looking men that they couldn't get in the vanilla world ,, let's face it me we would if the odds were in our favour but they are not.
Personally I think all the read my profile make your message stand out stuff is rubbish it's all about attraction simple as
Happy fabbing all"
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"The way I see it is that it's a numbers game. I'm only guessing but would say for every women on here there must be 100 men. So of course women have all the power ( nothing wrong with that of course ) so asking for pics when they don't have one deleting unread messages etc.
But what this means is that let's say a plain Jane slightly overweight girl can have her pick of all the best looking men with the best bodies, dicks etc and as the men are fighting for scraps they say yeah let's meet but soon realise that in the vanilla world the chubby checkout girl from Asda isn't someone he would look twice at so let's them down. So as you see on the status part it littered with women moaning they have been let down again giving us singles a bad name. Ladies stick to your levels.
So as a single man you either have to go with women way below your level to meet people and lots do as you see all the laughable flirting on these forums or take your time and accept that to find someone who is your level is a nightmare.
This is no where meant as a rant just my observations on here , at the end of the day why wouldn't women select the best looking men that they couldn't get in the vanilla world ,, let's face it me we would if the odds were in our favour but they are not.
Personally I think all the read my profile make your message stand out stuff is rubbish it's all about attraction simple as
Happy fabbing all"
You're wrong as far as we are concerned . If you have an awesome attractive photo but don't suit us or look totally reliant on mere looks , it is going to put us off you |
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"The way I see it is that it's a numbers game. I'm only guessing but would say for every women on here there must be 100 men. So of course women have all the power ( nothing wrong with that of course ) so asking for pics when they don't have one deleting unread messages etc.
But what this means is that let's say a plain Jane slightly overweight girl can have her pick of all the best looking men with the best bodies, dicks etc and as the men are fighting for scraps they say yeah let's meet but soon realise that in the vanilla world the chubby checkout girl from Asda isn't someone he would look twice at so let's them down. So as you see on the status part it littered with women moaning they have been let down again giving us singles a bad name. Ladies stick to your levels.
So as a single man you either have to go with women way below your level to meet people and lots do as you see all the laughable flirting on these forums or take your time and accept that to find someone who is your level is a nightmare.
This is no where meant as a rant just my observations on here , at the end of the day why wouldn't women select the best looking men that they couldn't get in the vanilla world ,, let's face it me we would if the odds were in our favour but they are not.
Personally I think all the read my profile make your message stand out stuff is rubbish it's all about attraction simple as
Happy fabbing all
You're wrong as far as we are concerned . If you have an awesome attractive photo but don't suit us or look totally reliant on mere looks , it is going to put us off you "
Of course I agree in respect as you are a couple and looking for something specific ,, but suppose that if you had 3 pertential men who all suit your needs exactly 100% ,, the best looking one wins of course nothing wrong with that ,,, so when women don't have specifics like you both and is just sex like 99.9% want I do feel this is how it works |
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"The way I see it is that it's a numbers game. I'm only guessing but would say for every women on here there must be 100 men. So of course women have all the power ( nothing wrong with that of course ) so asking for pics when they don't have one deleting unread messages etc.
But what this means is that let's say a plain Jane slightly overweight girl can have her pick of all the best looking men with the best bodies, dicks etc and as the men are fighting for scraps they say yeah let's meet but soon realise that in the vanilla world the chubby checkout girl from Asda isn't someone he would look twice at so let's them down. So as you see on the status part it littered with women moaning they have been let down again giving us singles a bad name. Ladies stick to your levels.
So as a single man you either have to go with women way below your level to meet people and lots do as you see all the laughable flirting on these forums or take your time and accept that to find someone who is your level is a nightmare.
This is no where meant as a rant just my observations on here , at the end of the day why wouldn't women select the best looking men that they couldn't get in the vanilla world ,, let's face it me we would if the odds were in our favour but they are not.
Personally I think all the read my profile make your message stand out stuff is rubbish it's all about attraction simple as
Happy fabbing all
You're wrong as far as we are concerned . If you have an awesome attractive photo but don't suit us or look totally reliant on mere looks , it is going to put us off you
Of course I agree in respect as you are a couple and looking for something specific ,, but suppose that if you had 3 pertential men who all suit your needs exactly 100% ,, the best looking one wins of course nothing wrong with that ,,, so when women don't have specifics like you both and is just sex like 99.9% want I do feel this is how it works"
No , we are a triple , not a couple and we'd meet all 3 chaps together for a social and possibly meet them all together x |
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Personally the whole he/she's above my level is a load of crap. No one has the right to tell someone they are punching above there weight. Every one has a right to think yeah that person is attractive to me I'm gonna go for itand ok if he/she say sorry not my type sorry be it but why shouldn't they have the confidence to think "I'm worth it" I'll give it a shot. Sometimes it works out for the best.
I personally would rather looks and personality. Yes it nice having a wall flower to look at but if there's no connection then it's pretty boring.
Men you need to stand out from a crowd. Make your messages interesting. Funny maybe. Something that's sets you apart from the rest. Fab is just as much your oyster as it is the fems and couples! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thought I'd add our two penny's to this, we recently joined back up and we're open (still are) to having a mmf meet. We let single men message, the message we received were either blatantly rude, no effort made or just lazy.
We had a few guys who were asking to meet the female half of us alone, endless dick pics.
We did have one or two really well thought out messages from one or two guys who are still on our friends list for when we have the time to sync calendars up we can meet up with.
attraction is important but also is personality.
A few guys sadly ruin it for the actual genuine guys who respect what this site it stands for.
Some guys see you on a site like this and automatically think it's their right to have sex with you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if a girl is good looking she can be what ever size dress. I think lots of guys are rude on here asking someone what size they are before meeting. I'm sure if a woman asked us how bigs your cock before meeting we would be offended |
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"The way I see it is that it's a numbers game. I'm only guessing but would say for every women on here there must be 100 men. So of course women have all the power ( nothing wrong with that of course ) so asking for pics when they don't have one deleting unread messages etc.
But what this means is that let's say a plain Jane slightly overweight girl can have her pick of all the best looking men with the best bodies, dicks etc and as the men are fighting for scraps they say yeah let's meet but soon realise that in the vanilla world the chubby checkout girl from Asda isn't someone he would look twice at so let's them down. So as you see on the status part it littered with women moaning they have been let down again giving us singles a bad name. Ladies stick to your levels.
So as a single man you either have to go with women way below your level to meet people and lots do as you see all the laughable flirting on these forums or take your time and accept that to find someone who is your level is a nightmare.
This is no where meant as a rant just my observations on here , at the end of the day why wouldn't women select the best looking men that they couldn't get in the vanilla world ,, let's face it me we would if the odds were in our favour but they are not.
Personally I think all the read my profile make your message stand out stuff is rubbish it's all about attraction simple as
Happy fabbing all
You're wrong as far as we are concerned . If you have an awesome attractive photo but don't suit us or look totally reliant on mere looks , it is going to put us off you
Of course I agree in respect as you are a couple and looking for something specific ,, but suppose that if you had 3 pertential men who all suit your needs exactly 100% ,, the best looking one wins of course nothing wrong with that ,,, so when women don't have specifics like you both and is just sex like 99.9% want I do feel this is how it works
No , we are a triple , not a couple and we'd meet all 3 chaps together for a social and possibly meet them all together x"
Lol ok but im pretty certain you know what I mean |
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I get it's the pc thing to say it's personality first of course but we all know it's physical attraction first so no worries.
And of course due to the ratio on here the guys have to lower standards ( just look at the person above thing ) and the women can aim higher as they have the choice.
Nothing wrong with this it's human nature and natural selection. But to deny this is a bit silly
Just hope everyone enjoys themselves and has fun |
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"I think if a girl is good looking she can be what ever size dress. I think lots of guys are rude on here asking someone what size they are before meeting. I'm sure if a woman asked us how bigs your cock before meeting we would be offended "
Really ??? Why wouldn't a man or a woman want to know who he or she was really meeting ,, strange comment that mate no offence |
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Why would it be rude surely it would be natural to what to know who your meeting ,, what if he or she were good looking but for some reason the rest of them was somehow awful what a waste of time that would be ,, chatting and meeting.
But hay there are no rules on this of course but is it rude to ask ? No it definitely isn't
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"This is my input: I always check the pics on a profile before I read the profile text. It's the pics thar draw me in initially. So if there are no pics I don't even bother reading the profile text.
If there are some pics and I find something attractive about them I will read the text.
If there is no text or I don't like what is written I move on...
There needs to be something about a profile that's draws me in..
Just my way of doing things. Other may manage their selection differently though
I would say this is pretty much how we search.
Me too
Me three "
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"I get it's the pc thing to say it's personality first of course but we all know it's physical attraction first so no worries.
And of course due to the ratio on here the guys have to lower standards ( just look at the person above thing ) and the women can aim higher as they have the choice.
Nothing wrong with this it's human nature and natural selection. But to deny this is a bit silly
Just hope everyone enjoys themselves and has fun "
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"I get it's the pc thing to say it's personality first of course but we all know it's physical attraction first so no worries.
And of course due to the ratio on here the guys have to lower standards ( just look at the person above thing ) and the women can aim higher as they have the choice.
Nothing wrong with this it's human nature and natural selection. But to deny this is a bit silly
Just hope everyone enjoys themselves and has fun "
It's an interesting opinion to have and certainly very revealing of your attitudes in general.
I imagine you're not particularly bothered about winning any fab popularity contests... |
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"I get it's the pc thing to say it's personality first of course but we all know it's physical attraction first so no worries.
And of course due to the ratio on here the guys have to lower standards ( just look at the person above thing ) and the women can aim higher as they have the choice.
Nothing wrong with this it's human nature and natural selection. But to deny this is a bit silly
Just hope everyone enjoys themselves and has fun
It's an interesting opinion to have and certainly very revealing of your attitudes in general.
I imagine you're not particularly bothered about winning any fab popularity contests..."
Lol to be fair if everyone is honest it's everyone's attitude when it comes to being on a sex site.
Also I wish I could be one of those people that can say things just to look good and get into someone's knickers like most on here but unfortunately I'm pretty honest and say things like they are , and not one to just settle for less
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"I get it's the pc thing to say it's personality first of course but we all know it's physical attraction first so no worries.
And of course due to the ratio on here the guys have to lower standards ( just look at the person above thing ) and the women can aim higher as they have the
Nothing wrong with this it's human nature and natural selection. But to deny this is a bit silly
Just hope everyone enjoys themselves and has fun
It's an interesting opinion to have and certainly very revealing of your attitudes in general.
I imagine you're not particularly bothered about winning any fab popularity contests...
Lol to be fair if everyone is honest it's everyone's attitude when it comes to being on a sex site.
Also I wish I could be one of those people that can say things just to look good and get into someone's knickers like most on here but unfortunately I'm pretty honest and say things like they are , and not one to just settle for less
Happy fabbing mate "
parts I agree bud parts no but hey all opinions count or so they should but as no doubt you will soon find out there's a fab click n police that will very soon gang up to hit ya down in flames---or atleast try pms!!!---my only view is women say it's hard to sift through all the mail and I bet it is but my god some don't half let if go to they're heads that coz they get 100s messages that they're awesome----nooooooo if you gotta a pulse here that works--obviously lmao I wish all good hunting!!--enjoy the backlash bud it's always interesting how fast the gang attack |
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"Lol to be fair if everyone is honest it's everyone's attitude when it comes to being on a sex site.
Also I wish I could be one of those people that can say things just to look good and get into someone's knickers like most on here but unfortunately I'm pretty honest and say things like they are , and not one to just settle for less
Happy fabbing mate "
But it's not everyone's opinion, just your opinion and the opinion of many here, I'm sure...
To me, personality and something between the ears is far more sexy than simply relying on physical attraction. But that's my opinion and I freely admit I'm not everyone and it would be very boring if we were all the same...
But apart from that, you seem pretty honest in setting out what you're looking for... |
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Ive met IMSOREADY a few times at parties.He a very sexy,good looking guy who chatted and mingled with everyone.
Its just a shame Im way out of his league |
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All the years I've been on here it's never been so bad with single man posting on a forum saying how bad it is to get a meet.
I've given advice endless times and even had sarcastic remarks and rude messages back but I will say it once again....
1. No thanks means NO THANKS
2. No reply means NO THANKS
3. polite messages almost always get a reply.
4. Social events are the best way to get known.
5. Attending a club is expensive but pays off in the long run.
All of the above only work with patients and by being polite no matter what the answer is.
Respect people and people will respect in return.
Good luck CJ |
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"Ive met IMSOREADY a few times at parties.He a very sexy,good looking guy who chatted and mingled with everyone.
Its just a shame Im way out of his league "
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"All the years I've been on here it's never been so bad with single man posting on a forum saying how bad it is to get a meet.
I've given advice endless times and even had sarcastic remarks and rude messages back but I will say it once again....
1. No thanks means NO THANKS
2. No reply means NO THANKS
3. polite messages almost always get a reply.
4. Social events are the best way to get known.
5. Attending a club is expensive but pays off in the long run.
All of the above only work with patients and by being polite no matter what the answer is.
Respect people and people will respect in return.
Good luck CJ"
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Guys, you are being told quite clearly by a number of women and couples that what you have written on your profile is important. Why are you disagreeing with them/is? Lol
Everyone is different and looking for different things! But in order to reply to someone, you need to know what the hell they are after?! Don't assume everyone wants a quick fuck. Don't assume that everyone wants someone good looking and don't assume that all women get asked the same questions!
One of my biggest bug bears is men who think they know what type of messages I get... |
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"Guys, you are being told quite clearly by a number of women and couples that what you have written on your profile is important. Why are you disagreeing with them/is? Lol
Everyone is different and looking for different things! But in order to reply to someone, you need to know what the hell they are after?! Don't assume everyone wants a quick fuck. Don't assume that everyone wants someone good looking and don't assume that all women get asked the same questions!
One of my biggest bug bears is men who think they know what type of messages I get... "
Good morning
To be fair to yourself it does seem to be true for yourself what yours saying as I looked at your veris and red there profile so yeah fair play for you this is correct.
But I also do the same on lots of other women and would say that 95% back up what I'm saying mind, God I wanted you to be wrong lol
All the best and happy fabbing |
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