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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all. I know this is probably not the happiest of topics but don't seem to have anyone to talk to lately so was hoping some of you lovely fabbers might help. I stupidly had an affair and left my wife for this new girl, i now think I have ruined my life as the grass is black on the other side not greener. I have lost my friends and my house and marriage and daughter and now feel so alone I don't know what to do.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All I would say is everything happens for a reason. If you were still meant to be with your wife you would be. With regards to accommodation you can always something out. You should not be stopped from seeing your child as it is her that will suffer not anyone else. Maybe a solicitor can help or citizens advice have some fab advice online for marriage splits etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've quite recently been in a similar situation as your ex, and it's not good. If she asked to get back with me, I would tell her to fuck right off, but people have come back from things like it in the past |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All I can say is I'm sorry that it's a rough time but having gone through something similar myself years ago I can assure you that you DO come out the other side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm really trying not to sound like a dick here op, but you probably shouldn't have done it in the first place. But atleast you know now who your priorities are with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know dude and I do hate myself. But think it's too late to do anything about it now "
It's a shitty situation, but has she moved on yet? If she haven't it could be a good time to try and get in her good books |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm trying Sansa but seems like my ex is using her as a weapon. Just started court proceedings to try and see my lil girl more than a few hours a week. I'm worried she is getting twisted by my ex to hate men. Makes me feel like crying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know she has blocked me on everything and Havnt spoken to her since February so I guess she has "
That is a long time, but it's long enough for you to realise what you want. Don't stalk her but just try and make amends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regardless of the circumstances any woman (or indeed man for that matter) who use kids as weapons or withold contact out of pure spite utterly disgust me.
I've been seperated from my kids father for a few years and we have always maintained a decent relationship for the sake of the kids and they can see him whenever they like.
A lot of adults, whilst seperating sometimes forget that it really is not all about them  |
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By * and CCouple
over a year ago
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"Regardless of the circumstances any woman (or indeed man for that matter) who use kids as weapons or withold contact out of pure spite utterly disgust me.
I've been seperated from my kids father for a few years and we have always maintained a decent relationship for the sake of the kids and they can see him whenever they like.
A lot of adults, whilst seperating sometimes forget that it really is not all about them "
Too right. Everyone makes mistakes. The kids should always come first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Regardless of the circumstances any woman (or indeed man for that matter) who use kids as weapons or withold contact out of pure spite utterly disgust me.
I've been seperated from my kids father for a few years and we have always maintained a decent relationship for the sake of the kids and they can see him whenever they like.
A lot of adults, whilst seperating sometimes forget that it really is not all about them "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm trying Sansa but seems like my ex is using her as a weapon. Just started court proceedings to try and see my lil girl more than a few hours a week. I'm worried she is getting twisted by my ex to hate men. Makes me feel like crying "
Feelings are very raw at the moment but your ex shouldnt use your daughter against you.
My kids are at an age where they have made their own minds up about their Dad. Sometimes its good sometimes not so good but then I suppose they dont like me all the time either.
Its one of the joys of being a parent  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know it's pure evil. When we were together and friends were going through it she said if we ever split she would never stop me seeing our daughter and it was the first thing she did. She is only 3 and has started saying she doesn't like men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know it's pure evil. When we were together and friends were going through it she said if we ever split she would never stop me seeing our daughter and it was the first thing she did. She is only 3 and has started saying she doesn't like men "
You have to see your little girl, remind your ex of her promise. You can show humility in regret for the way you broke up but be firm in your intentions regarding your daughter, tell your ex that even if you don't get back together you see no reason why you can't both be amicable even friendly going forward. Good luck x |
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