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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Today has been frustrating I've arranged 2 3sums with couples sorted out where and when but then when they come to confirm they disappear off site. Does this happen to others?

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By *onny-n-clydeCouple over a year ago

cwmbran,

Yep all the time. There's a lot an talk the talk but walking is just above their capabilities. You get used to it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Today has been frustrating I've arranged 2 3sums with couples sorted out where and when but then when they come to confirm they disappear off site. Does this happen to others? "

With depressing frequency alex x

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By *onnie and JohnCouple over a year ago

andover

"Today has been frustrating I've arranged 2 3sums with couples sorted out where and when but then when they come to confirm they disappear off site. Does this happen to others?

With depressing frequency alex x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

The two are entirely different. One is a meet where someone's plans for their day rely solely on you attending...the other is a room full of people that can continue their plans with or without your attendance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

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By *aloncoupleCouple over a year ago

carmarthen

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

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got to go with missp69 on this one it take seconds to message and the people who organise them give up hours of there time where has all the manners gone in the world

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter"

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

I don't usually bother but at the Neath day social this week I'll be doing what most other South Wales event organisers do and sharing a list of no shows who don't have the decency to message to say if they can't attend, so people can prohibit them from attending any events in future

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is a bit annoying but there are many reasons why meets do not take place. Some of which are to do with real life in the vanilla world. If it's possible though I agree that notice should be given to the other parties

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By *unnynbugsCouple over a year ago

Neath

Yeah we have had a few show interest then get to organising times etc and they just dissappear off the face of the earth. Now I just block and move on. Time is precious and if you can't show common decency in saying sorry we changed our mind or we have decided your not our type then I'd rather not bother again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Constantly sadly mate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep all the time. There's a lot an talk the talk but walking is just above their capabilities. You get used to it and move on"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah we have had a few show interest then get to organising times etc and they just dissappear off the face of the earth. Now I just block and move on. Time is precious and if you can't show common decency in saying sorry we changed our mind or we have decided your not our type then I'd rather not bother again"

I can't talk for couples. But I pride myself on arranging and keeping up with the plan. My first neath social is Thursday so I'm looking forward to that.

But to date I've never cancelled a date.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We think that you need to take more time to establish whether they are genuine or not? Fakes are generally easy to spot!

We have never let anyone down and no one to date has let us down either!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

Its digferent because a no show for a meet shatters plans...no shows for group socials wont crash the event.

Just to declare. I have committed to one social i didnt attend but my son was run over by a car an hour before. Life goes on right...my point being if i have a dozen people showing up at an event and 2 dont show big deal? If i invite a couple around...set date and time sacrifice time for them and any other plans and they dont show then that's potentially an evening/weekend totally wasted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

Its digferent because a no show for a meet shatters plans...no shows for group socials wont crash the event.

What if they also experienced a last minute emergency that is out of their hands like you did??

Hope your son is ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

Its digferent because a no show for a meet shatters plans...no shows for group socials wont crash the event.

What if they also experienced a last minute emergency that is out of their hands like you did??

Hope your son is ok

Yeah it was 3 years ago...the event survived without me though. See?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

Its digferent because a no show for a meet shatters plans...no shows for group socials wont crash the event.

What if they also experienced a last minute emergency that is out of their hands like you did??

Hope your son is ok

Yeah it was 3 years ago...the event survived without me though. See?"

I don't think anyone implied that an event would fold without you, unless of course I've missed something

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its annoying when people are interested in meeting you. But then blocks you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

Its digferent because a no show for a meet shatters plans...no shows for group socials wont crash the event.

What if they also experienced a last minute emergency that is out of their hands like you did??

Hope your son is ok

Yeah it was 3 years ago...the event survived without me though. See?

I don't think anyone implied that an event would fold without you, unless of course I've missed something

Of course vanilla life gets in the way sometimes.

I'm going on about people who put there names down and just don't bother turning up or leering you know but they can log on to fab.

It's just as much as a inconvenience as I have to pay for a room and also get raffle prizes.

That's my point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

Its digferent because a no show for a meet shatters plans...no shows for group socials wont crash the event.

Ok regardless what anyone else thinks

I'd say f u my kid comes first and I'm not apologising for not turning up

As it was a one off and like you said yeah there is a difference between a social and a proper meet

Hope you son is ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

Yes kids will always come first

And yes I do pay for the room

Hence why I charge entry

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly

How would you know ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost as annoying when you put your name down for a social and don't turn up

It is still common courtesy to let the organiser know if you can't attend

Naturally...but that's a different matter

How on earth is it different???

If it's a social meet or a play meet they are both the same.

I like other organisers spend hours and hours arranging stuff for then someone not to bother showing :-

It makes me laugh when people winge and moan about no shows when they do exactly the same.

What's the saying"don't do to others that you doing like having done to yourself"

Its digferent because a no show for a meet shatters plans...no shows for group socials wont crash the event.

Ok regardless what anyone else thinks

I'd say f u my kid comes first and I'm not apologising for not turning up

As it was a one off and like you said yeah there is a difference between a social and a proper meet

Hope you son is ok "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

What is the link ? It doesn't work

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

Found it now.

Top find !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What if the organisers of socials had a last minute crisis? We can't just msg everyone and cancel? ( Well I can cos mine is only in a pub)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What if the organisers of socials had a last minute crisis? We can't just msg everyone and cancel? ( Well I can cos mine is only in a pub)"

Luckily I have some one on standby just in case that happens lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it's the usual ones who repeatedly put their names down for anything and everything with no intention of ever actually going who are the cunts

I agree if they are repeatedly doing it then they should be banned

But if it's a one off and genuine reason why they couldn't attend then they shouldn't be slated for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What if the organisers of socials had a last minute crisis? We can't just msg everyone and cancel? ( Well I can cos mine is only in a pub)

Luckily I have some one on standby just in case that happens lol

I mean mine would still go ahead cos its only in a pub for lunch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Today has been frustrating I've arranged 2 3sums with couples sorted out where and when but then when they come to confirm they disappear off site. Does this happen to others? "

I havent arranged a 3sum for months ..... Must be awful for you to have arranged so many.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Today has been frustrating I've arranged 2 3sums with couples sorted out where and when but then when they come to confirm they disappear off site. Does this happen to others?

I havent arranged a 3sum for months ..... Must be awful for you to have arranged so many."

Bit like buses wh? Wait a week for one then 2 come along on same day

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"I think it's the usual ones who repeatedly put their names down for anything and everything with no intention of ever actually going who are the cunts

I agree if they are repeatedly doing it then they should be banned

But if it's a one off and genuine reason why they couldn't attend then they shouldn't be slated for that "

One or two no-shows for a small event isn't a big issue, but what about 70+ no-shows?

And that's not me making up a figure for shock value, that actually happened to one organiser!!!

On a more personal meet level, if you refine your selection process, then you can virtually eliminate being let down, although, like the guy above who's son had an accident, real life will throw a genuine spanner in the works sometimes. If you have done all you can to prove they are genuine, then it's down to gut-instinct as to whether you give them a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

stalker alert

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

Unless I copied wrong link I don't know what this has to do with this thread!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

stalker alert

Why is he a stalker ??????

Hes just clicked on the green arrow like we all can do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well a guy from London who I have never spoke to decides to go through all the threads that I have commented on

Maybe I have a life and some people have to much time on their hands as that's strange

sorry didn't realise having a laugh was a crime

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

stalker alert

Why is he a stalker ??????

Hes just clicked on the green arrow like we all can do."

I think it was more the fact that she quotes "kids come first "

Then on that thread if she won the lottery she would put her kids in boarding school

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

stalker alert

Why is he a stalker ??????

Hes just clicked on the green arrow like we all can do.

I think it was more the fact that she quotes "kids come first "

Then on that thread if she won the lottery she would put her kids in boarding school

Sorry 20million lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah cos kids come first

And didn't think the pub charged for that room you had anyway

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/532470

stalker alert

Why is he a stalker ??????

Hes just clicked on the green arrow like we all can do.

I think it was more the fact that she quotes "kids come first "

Then on that thread if she won the lottery she would put her kids in boarding school

Ahhhhh didn't make the connection

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She

I said private school and it was a joke

But there we go forum police on the patrol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She

I said private school and it was a joke

But there we go forum police on the patrol "

The gentleman was just pointing something out

Nothing forum police about it

Just like there is no stalker alert

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you need too go too the opticians as your eyes seem to be rolling quiet a lot lately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you need too go too the opticians as your eyes seem to be rolling quiet a lot lately

Seriously spat coffee over my laptop reading that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you need too go too the opticians as your eyes seem to be rolling quiet a lot lately

My eyes are fine

Just don't have a pic for someone yawning sadly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having read this thread it's no wonder people are reluctant to comment in forum discussions for fear of being slated for their opinions. Freedom of speech should be for all members not a select few. Being respectful of others opinions as well as others respecting our own opinions is also a fantastic trait to possess. We are all adults on here with differing opinions X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having read this thread it's no wonder people are reluctant to comment in forum discussions for fear of being slated for their opinions. Freedom of speech should be for all members not a select few. Being respectful of others opinions as well as others respecting our own opinions is also a fantastic trait to possess. We are all adults on here with differing opinions X "

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