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over a year ago
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To have a vanilla relationship after you've been on fab for years?!
I've been single (on and off) 3/4 years now and absolutely fucking freeze like a rabbit in headlights when somebody mentions the 'R' word beyond Fab.
I think I'm just programmed to assume even on vanilla dates it's dinner, drinks and then fuck or it's cool to bring up sex topic at the dinner table or at a bar  that and when I bring up fab I'm just judged as a male slut (no denying I could be labelled as one).
My questions are.... who the fucks gonna tickle my neck when I'm sleepy?
And if I'm doomed to remain single - who's gonna mother my children?
Who wants a key to my house to wake me up to a blowjob?
(I'll literally do anything to get out of working, can you tell?!) |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I think age makes it harder in a way (and I'm a good bit older).
It's not that I don't want a "proper" relationship, but I find I over-think things as I get older. Often to the point of driving me mad. I guess I'm scared of failure too - unraveling a relationship seems harder at this point.
I see women friends and wonder endlessly about the extent of my feelings for them e.g. one I think is beautiful, but who I somehow can't imagine being with. That triggers endless questions "why not?", "what's the matter with you?", "maybe you like X more?".
Then my head explodes!
I think it'd take someone walking into my life who totally blows me away to resolve it. I reckon that could change things for a few other Fabbers who think it's no longer for them too.
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I'm in my early 40s now, been single over 5 years with two kids at home (19&11)
No one is going to take all that on in a vanilla relationship!!!
It's going to take someone really special to do that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't think of anything worse than another relationship! I have a few select regulars, and that suits me fine. Commitment is definitely not for me.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think age makes it harder in a way (and I'm a good bit older).
It's not that I don't want a "proper" relationship, but I find I over-think things as I get older. Often to the point of driving me mad. I guess I'm scared of failure too - unraveling a relationship seems harder at this point.
I see women friends and wonder endlessly about the extent of my feelings for them e.g. one I think is beautiful, but who I somehow can't imagine being with. That triggers endless questions "why not?", "what's the matter with you?", "maybe you like X more?".
Then my head explodes!
I think it'd take someone walking into my life who totally blows me away to resolve it. I reckon that could change things for a few other Fabbers who think it's no longer for them too.
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I don't think that's an age thing I think it's the length of time you've been single.
The longer you're single the harder it is to find what suits and ticks all the boxes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm in my early 40s now, been single over 5 years with two kids at home (19&11)
No one is going to take all that on in a vanilla relationship!!!
It's going to take someone really special to do that!"
I think most guys would expect a female over 40 to have kids etc - just as you'd expect a guy over 40 to have kids and baggage. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I couldn't think of anything worse than another relationship! I have a few select regulars, and that suits me fine. Commitment is definitely not for me. "
Same at the min (well, for a good while yet to come too).
I have way too much fun with my 'buddies' and doubt I'd find a one size fits all that'll make me want something vanilla |
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"I'm in my early 40s now, been single over 5 years with two kids at home (19&11)
No one is going to take all that on in a vanilla relationship!!!
It's going to take someone really special to do that!
I think most guys would expect a female over 40 to have kids etc - just as you'd expect a guy over 40 to have kids and baggage."
Very few are prepared to take it all on though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wondered this myself hunni.
I've been happy single for a while now but I miss cwtches and some of the romantic stuff"
This for me too - it's not always about the sex for me, sometimes it's just a bit of male company and banter....x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think age makes it harder in a way (and I'm a good bit older).
It's not that I don't want a "proper" relationship, but I find I over-think things as I get older. Often to the point of driving me mad. I guess I'm scared of failure too - unraveling a relationship seems harder at this point.
I see women friends and wonder endlessly about the extent of my feelings for them e.g. one I think is beautiful, but who I somehow can't imagine being with. That triggers endless questions "why not?", "what's the matter with you?", "maybe you like X more?".
Then my head explodes!
I think it'd take someone walking into my life who totally blows me away to resolve it. I reckon that could change things for a few other Fabbers who think it's no longer for them too.
I don't think that's an age thing I think it's the length of time you've been single.
The longer you're single the harder it is to find what suits and ticks all the boxes "
If you speak to my vanilla friend's - they will definitely tell you I fall into this category  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think most guys would expect a female over 40 to have kids etc - just as you'd expect a guy over 40 to have kids and baggage."
I am the exception - I am in my 40's and have no children or baggage - a great catch if you speak to my friends - a very fussy bitch, if you talk to me though! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm single after over 20 years of marriage & feel thankful to have found a BFFS in Ch3wy, we're both now single & neither has the desire to be in anything approaching a formal relationship, we each enjoy our space & the opportunity to meet others if we choose, but we also enjoy cwtchy time. He really is my best friend for sex  |
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