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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ladies I am bored. I have been thinking about possibly finding a guy to couple up with to meet as a couple on here and maybe to go to clubs and parties with as the usual 1 on 1 meets with men are really not ticking my box anymore. I love Fab especially the social side so don't want to chuck in the towel but am just thinking of ways to make it fresh and exciting again as the novelty is really going now  |
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I was thinking the exact thing last night... I have a couple of issues with playing as a "couple" when you aren't actually a couple. Mainly from negative experiences in their company and from
Playing as a "couple".
From my experience these types of relationship are the ones to cause bitching and slagging. And usually end in drama. They also attract lots of, "but he's/she's single", "this is a swinging site", "nsa". Etc etc
the last time I tried to play with a fb as a couple, all of our pre-arranged plans etc got tossed to the wayside. I then had the other woman kicking off because she couldn't understand why I had an issue with HIM, as he was a single man etc etc... And that I had crossed the NSA line. She had no idea what we had agreed to prior to playing, both HIS expectations or mine.
Now, I appreciate some of us are "singles", however, I think for these types of "couples" to work there needs to be respect between the parties, but more importantly also others towards them.
Miss.M xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a couple of play mates over the years on here
We went clubs parties and met other couples to play together
I felt more relaxed and enjoyed it
There is nothing wrong with it if that's what you both want
I'm sure you will find a willing partner p xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was thinking the exact thing last night... I have a couple of issues with playing as a "couple" when you aren't actually a couple. Mainly from negative experiences in their company and from
Playing as a "couple".
From my experience these types of relationship are the ones to cause bitching and slagging. And usually end in drama. They also attract lots of, "but he's/she's single", "this is a swinging site", "nsa". Etc etc
the last time I tried to play with a fb as a couple, all of our pre-arranged plans etc got tossed to the wayside. I then had the other woman kicking off because she couldn't understand why I had an issue with HIM, as he was a single man etc etc... And that I had crossed the NSA line. She had no idea what we had agreed to prior to playing, both HIS expectations or mine.
Now, I appreciate some of us are "singles", however, I think for these types of "couples" to work there needs to be respect between the parties, but more importantly also others towards them.
Miss.M xxx"
I can see exactly where you're coming from Miss M. I have never given it much thought before but the single guy thing isn't working for me atm I have a bit of a thing for someone and it has done my head in for a while so I thought maybe it is time I try a different approach and find someone new for this sort of thing instead. Take the pressure off myself so to speak. Do I sound insane as I feel it sometimes?? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've had a couple of play mates over the years on here
We went clubs parties and met other couples to play together
I felt more relaxed and enjoyed it
There is nothing wrong with it if that's what you both want
I'm sure you will find a willing partner p xxx"
I have never done it Lush I have always been an out and out single fem but I just feel maybe it could be the type of thing that suits me atm. I am worried about coming across as needy  |
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"I was thinking the exact thing last night... I have a couple of issues with playing as a "couple" when you aren't actually a couple. Mainly from negative experiences in their company and from
Playing as a "couple".
From my experience these types of relationship are the ones to cause bitching and slagging. And usually end in drama. They also attract lots of, "but he's/she's single", "this is a swinging site", "nsa". Etc etc
the last time I tried to play with a fb as a couple, all of our pre-arranged plans etc got tossed to the wayside. I then had the other woman kicking off because she couldn't understand why I had an issue with HIM, as he was a single man etc etc... And that I had crossed the NSA line. She had no idea what we had agreed to prior to playing, both HIS expectations or mine.
Now, I appreciate some of us are "singles", however, I think for these types of "couples" to work there needs to be respect between the parties, but more importantly also others towards them.
Miss.M xxx
I can see exactly where you're coming from Miss M. I have never given it much thought before but the single guy thing isn't working for me atm I have a bit of a thing for someone and it has done my head in for a while so I thought maybe it is time I try a different approach and find someone new for this sort of thing instead. Take the pressure off myself so to speak. Do I sound insane as I feel it sometimes?? Xx"
Not at all! Try it, what's the worst that can happen? Lol
I wouldn't say it's needy at all, simply a different dynamic which will enable you to have different experiences.
I hope you find a good one  And that others are able to respect the dynamic and not treat you as just the door opener |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After playing single for so many years it's been great to be part of couple fun & I do mostly that nowadays. I do still meet alone, as does Ch3wy but it's not add often as it used to be & usually when one or other of us is ill & out of action. Soon I'll be having a big op so I'll be taking a break from fun for a couple of months & Ch3wy will be playing alone, but we both agree the sharing experiences are more relaxed & enjoyable. Can't see me going back to single fun in a hurry unless Ch3wy gets out of the shackles & legs it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No way that could ever come across as needy. I think there's a lot of genuine singles on here that would love to eventually find a partner to experience these things with
I know I would x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had a 2 or 3 couples profiles on here but only really played as a couple a few times.
I like being single on here, only myself to please then even though I very rarely meet these days. Its more about the social side for me now.
I do hope you find what you are looking for MissP as your one of the good ones on here.
Good luck with your search xxxxx |
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I would in time love to find a partner to create a couples profile on here and attend clubs/parties with. I'm also getting bored of the same old on here, since experiencing the club scene (in particular my recent experiences at Chams and Swindon Swingers) I'm more drawn towards the clubs rather than the same old 'one on one' meets!
I would love to have this sort of lifestyle with a partner and obviously it has to all be about trust and putting in to it what you get out of it, the thought excites me x
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's not needy in anyway, I would never describe me n Ch3wy as partners mind we are more like best friends, very comfy together but no great emotional attachment. It's an awesome arrangement but not one that's easy to find X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've only been on here nearly 6mths, while I get what you are saying from my personal perspective as a SF, these singles FB relationships are what cause the most drama and confusion for everyone. For bonafide couples to swing effectively I think they have to have a strong relationship and fully trust each other. They have been through the whole 'honeymoon' phase and probably know each other inside out (literally).
I find that singles acting as couples lay way too much claim over a partner and there is often lots of jealousy involved.
Having said that, I know quite a few singles who have met on here and actually fallen in love, but I don't think a lot of them were looking. Just happened naturally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've only been on here nearly 6mths, while I get what you are saying from my personal perspective as a SF, these singles FB relationships are what cause the most drama and confusion for everyone. For bonafide couples to swing effectively I think they have to have a strong relationship and fully trust each other. They have been through the whole 'honeymoon' phase and probably know each other inside out (literally).
I find that singles acting as couples lay way too much claim over a partner and there is often lots of jealousy involved.
Having said that, I know quite a few singles who have met on here and actually fallen in love, but I don't think a lot of them were looking. Just happened naturally."
So very true & captured perfectly, although I am part of one such couple. Luckily We don't fall into that box though because we do successfully meet others on our own & we've been happily doing this for over 3 years x |
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"I've only been on here nearly 6mths, while I get what you are saying from my personal perspective as a SF, these singles FB relationships are what cause the most drama and confusion for everyone. For bonafide couples to swing effectively I think they have to have a strong relationship and fully trust each other. They have been through the whole 'honeymoon' phase and probably know each other inside out (literally).
I find that singles acting as couples lay way too much claim over a partner and there is often lots of jealousy involved.
Having said that, I know quite a few singles who have met on here and actually fallen in love, but I don't think a lot of them were looking. Just happened naturally.
So very true & captured perfectly, although I am part of one such couple. Luckily We don't fall into that box though because we do successfully meet others on our own & we've been happily doing this for over 3 years x"
I've actually found it the other way, where the "other woman" makes out that there's a jealousy issue, and laying claim, when there's not.
If you go to a club or whatever as a couple, and set out desires and wants for the night ahead. If one person doesn't stick to that, then of course there will be an issue between them.
What drives me up the wall is it nearly always involves another single fem who then pulls out the "jealousy" card. If you are there as a couple, single women should respect that and play accordingly.
I've been accused of being jealous and laying claim, when I've attended parties/clubs, after the guy has specifically asked that we stay together and only play together...
Yet he gets off with someone, and I get called possessive because I kick off at him.
It's very easy as a single female to do whatever you want, and chuck the jealous/possessive card around. At the end of the day, you have no idea what their boundaries are beforehand.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Works both ways...jealous single guys, jealous single girls, NOT properly laying down boundaries....all of which would probably not happen in a bonafide partnership/marriage as the trust, understanding and communication would be there from the outset...just a bit of a dodgy area. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to have single profiles  knew him in real life anyway then we just fell for each other and thought we may as well make a couple profile and carry on from there!
Loved every minute
Lady xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lots of couples start swinging as a last ditch attempt to save their relationship. It never works.
Lots of couples who I thought had good relationships split up after being on here for years.
Know a few couples where one of them has had a single profile that the other has known nothing about.
Been to 3 wedding parties of couples on Fab |
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had a few offers and I'd love it too!
Lady xx 