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meeting and then not verifying

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

going to have a bitch. we have met several members on here whether it be social or actual play meets. we always leave a verification to show they are genuine. but it seems a lot don't bother doing them in return. is this standard practice or am I missing something.

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By *ardiff123Man over a year ago

Cardiff

Def out of order!!

However if you meet me I will def veri you, it's only correct & proper....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"going to have a bitch. we have met several members on here whether it be social or actual play meets. we always leave a verification to show they are genuine. but it seems a lot don't bother doing them in return. is this standard practice or am I missing something. "

Funnily enough, this happened to me recently, and I found it odd and thought maybe he wasn't interested but we've since met up again and played.....but still no veri, each to their own I guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

what I find stranger is they are quite happy to show your verifications on they're page but won't take 2 min to write one for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suppose it depends on the situation. If you have got nothing nice to day don't say anything.

Personally I wouldn't say a bad thing about anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just find this rude & on my single profile I would block guys to prevent them showing my Veri if they hadn't reciprocated. Not that I needed the Veri I was happy not to have any, but it's a matter of manners.I would always have the 'shall we bother to Veri' conversation so to not reciprocate is plain rude x

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By *roggMan over a year ago

haverfordwest

"I just find this rude & on my single profile I would block guys to prevent them showing my Veri if they hadn't reciprocated. Not that I needed the Veri I was happy not to have any, but it's a matter of manners.I would always have the 'shall we bother to Veri' conversation so to not reciprocate is plain rude x"
that is people on here for you though it does not take much to acknowledge that a meeting has taken place between people via verifying

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By * and CCouple over a year ago

near Cardiff

I dont write a really nice verification if the meet didn't go well. You cant write 'we met and they are real', without saying more. I'd rather not say anything than lie or be horrible.

Luckily only happenef once.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met a single guy verified him and he didn't bother to veri me or display it. Even though we speak on regular basis and had him around to our party lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had meets where they haven't verified me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had lots & not been verified but if they ask for one but can't be arsed to reciprocate...

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"I've had lots & not been verified but if they ask for one but can't be arsed to reciprocate..."

This grates on me something chronic as it just looks like they were out for the verification

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont very often give veris and if I do its only a social meet one.

I have a few veris off friends that I dont show so not bothered about them really.

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By *exy_WelshLadMan over a year ago

Neath Port Talbot

I've had this problem a few times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"what I find stranger is they are quite happy to show your verifications on they're page but won't take 2 min to write one for you"

this grate's my nerve lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has been a real bugbear of ours in the past. We were always of the opinion that if someone is willing to meet and have sex with us they should be upfront about it, even proud. I know we would never meet with someone we felt ashamed to verify.

But these days it doesn't annoy us so much. I think a lot of what goes on in Fab goes over our heads now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree veris shud be made, it allows others to get a gist of what ur actually like. Problem is some don't veri or don't show them incase it offends others Aswell I think or maybe just clocked up to many lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Totally agree veris shud be made, it allows others to get a gist of what ur actually like. Problem is some don't veri or don't show them incase it offends others Aswell I think or maybe just clocked up to many lol"

How on earth can there be too many? What's that about?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How on earth can there be too many? What's that about?"

Lol just sayin that some people may prefere to hide them incase they feel that they've run up so many it may scare people off

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By *urpinMan over a year ago

Cwmbran/Swansea

I sent a veri to someone last year but they never got it. Probably was my fault - I must have missed something. But how do you know they've not received it? I just assumed they'd got it until I found out later by accident that they hadn't had it.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

How on earth can there be too many? What's that about?

Lol just sayin that some people may prefere to hide them incase they feel that they've run up so many it may scare people off"

I do agree with this when I had all my verifications on show, which have racked up for the last 3 1/2 years which a vast majority are from social events. I had some not so nice messages off not just single males but a few couples too. Now I just show my most recent of people

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By *manda321TV/TS over a year ago

Carmarthen

not to mention a lot of straight guys wont do a verification for you or publish yours because they are scared that it will put off the straight couples and females .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How on earth can there be too many? What's that about?

Lol just sayin that some people may prefere to hide them incase they feel that they've run up so many it may scare people off

I'd tell those judgemental twats to fuck off, they don't mind fucking anything that's offered but want to judge as well lol. I think we should do as we wish with our profiles & if you're happy with that fine, but to change because of negative comments isn't good x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How on earth can there be too many? What's that about?

Lol just sayin that some people may prefere to hide them incase they feel that they've run up so many it may scare people off

Well unfortunately there seems to be alot of judgemental people on fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't mean we have to repeat the judgements or change our profiles because of them, I've been happy to be considered a "slag" in the past, true swingers see the value of the Veri process x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv met and not verified people and had people not verify me, it dont really bother me at all but i guess some people do like them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been verified on this site before under a different profile, so asked the same person to verify this profile, but stated "I'll verify you again so long as I can nosh you off first". To say the least, I declined as I've since found a hoover can probably do a better job than him...

Can't believe some people on here will do that!!

Hence why I'm not bothered about being verified now.. And tbh, don't really see the need to try and prove to someone your genuine or not just by leaving a message... Shouldn't be like that...

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By *wjadMan over a year ago

Aldershot

A few people I've met have left the site, I dnt expect a verification straight after a meet as it's up to the other party but it is nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has happend to me a few times too. Its a pain the bum to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had same experience with verification its a propper pain i always veri

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone is different, some people want to be verified, and some don't. we are in that bracket not intrested in being veried or giving end of.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Every person is different. I dont care if the person verifies or not. I have my green tick. I dont verify unless the person is a newbie and needs one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met people and not been verified by them, even after they have displayed mine on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think this is very rude too, especially if I've verified them and they display what I've written. It's poor etiquette and I don't meet people again if they do this. Manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

my personal opinion is if you verify someone and they display it on their page they should verify you back.

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By *uby and RavenCouple (FF) over a year ago

Chelmsford

Meh. A little disrespectful. But only on the basis that either a) you need the verification for attendance purposes (i.e. Socials etc).

b) you need the verification for self gratification.

If you are well verified. Then I personally think that a pm is sufficient. And no public declaration necessary.

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