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You might as well tell him just to make yourself feel better about things but it's unlikely to make a difference to his motivation to play. I suppose it depends how this new attachment makes you feel, if you're jealous of his other meets & feeling the need for an exclusive relationship you could very well have a problem, unless he's on the same page. It is possible to develop that particular attachment & carry on with the swinging but it isn't an easy life tbh. Good luck with it all X |
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"You might as well tell him just to make yourself feel better about things but it's unlikely to make a difference to his motivation to play. I suppose it depends how this new attachment makes you feel, if you're jealous of his other meets & feeling the need for an exclusive relationship you could very well have a problem, unless he's on the same page. It is possible to develop that particular attachment & carry on with the swinging but it isn't an easy life tbh. Good luck with it all X"
Either way you'll feel bad . . You have to be honest with yourself, first and foremost.
Feel your anguish, I really do x |
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"I've only gone and fallen for my regular FB.
Should I tell him how I feel and take the risk of spoiling what we have?
Confused.com"
Oh god women
Text me lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've only gone and fallen for my regular FB.
Should I tell him how I feel and take the risk of spoiling what we have?
Confused.com
Oh god women
Text me lol "
You've enough on your plate without listening to my woes! |
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"You might as well tell him just to make yourself feel better about things but it's unlikely to make a difference to his motivation to play. I suppose it depends how this new attachment makes you feel, if you're jealous of his other meets & feeling the need for an exclusive relationship you could very well have a problem, unless he's on the same page. It is possible to develop that particular attachment & carry on with the swinging but it isn't an easy life tbh. Good luck with it all X"
Thanks Peachy - he's not meeting anyone else at the moment.think I'll fess up and take the risk - at least I'm being true to myself |
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Either way you'll feel bad . . You have to be honest with yourself, first and foremost.
Feel your anguish, I really do x"
I think you are right - thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Walk away
Feelings=heartache
Fuck that shit"
 nothing ventured nothing gained ! If you taste a piece of fruit and don't like it,that doesn't mean you won't enjoy a different piece? Enjoy the experience. |
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You have 3 options in my view
1 tell him ( hopefully he'll feel the same ) & nothing changes
2 do nothing & carry on as you are
3 walk away (clean break)
All 3 have good & bad sides
Or flip a coin heads you say something tails you don't. (If it's ment to be then chance will decide.
Good luckxxx |
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"You have 3 options in my view
1 tell him ( hopefully he'll feel the same ) & nothing changes
2 do nothing & carry on as you are
3 walk away (clean break)
All 3 have good & bad sides
Or flip a coin heads you say something tails you don't. (If it's ment to be then chance will decide.
Good luckxxx"
You forgot number 4... She tells him, and he doesn't like it, and it all goes to ratshit! |
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"You have 3 options in my view
1 tell him ( hopefully he'll feel the same ) & nothing changes
2 do nothing & carry on as you are
3 walk away (clean break)
All 3 have good & bad sides
Or flip a coin heads you say something tails you don't. (If it's ment to be then chance will decide.
Good luckxxx
You forgot number 4... She tells him, and he doesn't like it, and it all goes to ratshit! "
True place as no4 |
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"I've only gone and fallen for my regular FB.
Should I tell him how I feel and take the risk of spoiling what we have?
Confused.com
Oh god women
Text me lol
You've enough on your plate without listening to my woes!"
Don't be so daft
That's what friends are for |
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"You might as well tell him just to make yourself feel better about things but it's unlikely to make a difference to his motivation to play. I suppose it depends how this new attachment makes you feel, if you're jealous of his other meets & feeling the need for an exclusive relationship you could very well have a problem, unless he's on the same page. It is possible to develop that particular attachment & carry on with the swinging but it isn't an easy life tbh. Good luck with it all X
Thanks Peachy - he's not meeting anyone else at the moment.think I'll fess up and take the risk - at least I'm being true to myself"
I think you have to do it anyway.. eventually it has to come out, so go for it |
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I think I'd have to get it off my chest, you'll never know if he feels the same as you otherwise, if he does that's great, if he doesn't then I think it's probably best you move on and find that person who deserves your love.
Good luck
Mia xx |
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"I think I'd have to get it off my chest, you'll never know if he feels the same as you otherwise, if he does that's great, if he doesn't then I think it's probably best you move on and find that person who deserves your love.
Good luck
Mia xx "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh post an update on how it turns out.
Best of luck."
Thank you - not going to rush anything. Need to get used to the idea myself first. Didn't expect to have these feelings for him lol |
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By *igjrvMan
over a year ago
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Ask him how he feels first, it's simple. if he says no and asks why? Make up a really over the top lie. Something involving an escaped chipmunk, how bad the weather is in Peru or tripping over a match stick and falling down a manhole. This has never worked for me personally. I live in hope that It will for someone. Let me know if it does as their could be a reward xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Walk away
Feelings=heartache
Fuck that shit
That can be a lonely way to live long term ?? "
Loneliness is less painful than heartbreak
Each to their own |
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Good luck hope it turns out the way you want x
You didn't feel the same way? 