Because as the amount of single men have joined the site, the stop seeing it as swinging site and think that it is an instashag site and that all women should drop to their knees for them.
Then get rude etc when they dont get their way |
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It's a real shame but as someone who meets single guys, the amount of relentless shit that comes through our inbox makes if difficult to spot the nice guys. This week I met a guy I've chatted to on & off for years, lots of times I just deleted his messages along with all the others, now I've met him I'm gutted to have missed out for so long, but that's the nature of it & it wears you down. If you're a genuine, nice n polite single guy you'll win through & getting to a social will make all the difference x |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"Yes i get what your saying,only takes a few to spoil it for others who are new."
Women on here are undoubtedly put off by the idiots.
However, there's a danger that single guys use that as the sole reason why they're not getting making any progress, when, in reality, there's other obvious reasons too.
Some guys do very well on here and don't seem to have suffered because of the idiots. It's not rocket science why.
I'm not saying you're making that assumption about the idiots btw, but lots of guys do and it's easy to fall into that trap. |
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"How come when you join a swining site is it so hard for new men to get meets or a veri,when every body on fab was new once."
You need to stand out from the rest. Make your profile count, check the sort of pictures to display (do people want to see cock pictures, bathroom pictures or pictures with sky remotes?, if you can venture into the chatrooms and make friends with people and attend social events, go to clubs where you can meet a lot of people in one event. (I had 4 verifications on the day I joined Fabs as I had met a few people at an event the night before so they could verify me as being genuine, nice to chat to and shows I actually leave my house and attend events)
IMO - If you are in for the quick shag and you don't bother with those suggestions then your meets will be very limited. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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The social events sound good but when you got no veris you cant even attend the socials unless you have veris with some one that got 3 or more.so.with out meets the socials are a no no.  |
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Speaking from a couples point of view , there's a huge amount of luck involved as to whether single guys get a meet .
Sometimes it's a case of being in the right place at the right time . We occasionally meet single guys but never plan it , it's always a spur of the moment thing so we'll decide we're in the mood to meet a guy , take a look at who's online then send a message if the pics look decent and they're not too local but not a million miles away , we don't pay a lot of attention to veri's although we do skim over them . That's why we think there's luck involved , it's just luck of the draw for us |
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To be honest, if I (Rob) were on here as a single guy, I just wouldn't bother trying to contact women or couples over messaging. There's so much negativity towards them coming from the forums that single women and couples (ourselves included) are automatically primed to assume any single guy contacting them is going to be a bitter, aggressive jerk.
Some of this negativity is warranted but mostly it's a case of the few spoiling it for the many.
We aren't looking to meet guys so we filter them out of our inbox. However every single guy we've gotten chatting to in a club has been utterly charming and a great laugh. If we ever did decide to meet single guys then we'd drop them a line to see if they fancied it. We'd never pick one from fab directly as it's very hard to suss people out via text.
tl:dr - go to clubs with the sole intention to get chatting with people. If they like you and you like them - ask them to write you a veri. Networking is important.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's a daytime social in Neath after Xmas, there was one in Caerphilly recently & an evening single social in Newport, all need no verification x"
The Caerphilly one is actually this coming Monday |
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"There's a daytime social in Neath after Xmas, there was one in Caerphilly recently & an evening single social in Newport, all need no verification x
The Caerphilly one is actually this coming Monday "
Ooops, thought it was last Monday, perfect opportunity for the op right there x |
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"How come when you join a swining site is it so hard for new men to get meets or a veri,when every body on fab was new once."
There have been socials organised for unverified singles as a way of them being able to get verified. Andy and I have met single guys for socials just to help them x |
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We aren't looking to meet guys so we filter them out of our inbox. However every single guy we've gotten chatting to in a club has been utterly charming and a great laugh. If we ever did decide to meet single guys then we'd drop them a line to see if they fancied it. We'd never pick one from fab directly as it's very hard to suss people out via text."
THIS!
We have asked some quality guys to contact us.
Only those validated can contact us, but 5 out of 10 of them all of which have more than 3 validations, have fake photos of them on their profile who are of foreign actors, bodybuilders etc.
You cant trust anything you see on fab.. get to parties and socials to meet real people. |
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"Because as the amount of single men have joined the site, the stop seeing it as swinging site and think that it is an instashag site and that all women should drop to their knees for them.
Then get rude etc when they dont get their way"
Totally agree with that I get that happen to me nearly on a daily level now it is a real shame for all the genuine men |
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We all have preferences on here of who we are attracted to and types . Just because it's a swinging site doesn't necessarily mean we fuck
anything . It s about the socials and clubs meeting new people and friends . As single female I used to reply to all messages but then got abusive replies if they weren't my type . so I tend not to reply to ones that I ve no intention of meeting . Don't just say hi on your message say a bit about you be different . Happy swinging hugs xxx |
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"Time patience and hard work my friend you got to put in the groundwork!!
God I love you xxxxxx
Well that's put a huge smile on my face..Love you more beautiful Xxx"
hugs too baby boy xxx |
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"We all have preferences on here of who we are attracted to and types . Just because it's a swinging site doesn't necessarily mean we fuck
anything . It s about the socials and clubs meeting new people and friends . As single female I used to reply to all messages but then got abusive replies if they weren't my type . so I tend not to reply to ones that I ve no intention of meeting . Don't just say hi on your message say a bit about you be different . Happy swinging hugs xxx"
this is what happens to myself xxxx |
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Tarring ALL men with the same brush is a bit like saying "I had a bad experience with a women once who didn't do x y or z therefore ALL women are like that"!
By all means have your guard up and use all the tools the site puts at your disposal to set your preferences and peform your own style of vetting to see if someone might be suitable for you but please don't jump on the bandwagon And say ALL men/women/couples are the same based on a narrow experience set. Use your OWN common sense.
Cool?
Peace out
Dave  |
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"Tarring ALL men with the same brush is a bit like saying "I had a bad experience with a women once who didn't do x y or z therefore ALL women are like that"!
By all means have your guard up and use all the tools the site puts at your disposal to set your preferences and peform your own style of vetting to see if someone might be suitable for you but please don't jump on the bandwagon And say ALL men/women/couples are the same based on a narrow experience set. Use your OWN common sense.
Cool?
Peace out
Dave "
Not tarring any one with any brush we all have our own choices end of !!!  |
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