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can i ask a question please without having any back lash its genuine
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As one of the people trying to get interest 'in the Valleys', I've got to say that my opinion is that people are more interested in socials in locations where they can book hotel rooms close by and make a night of it.
Our venue for the Valleys social had no decent hotels nearby and there aren't many in the Pontypridd area.
Events held in the larger towns with big cheap hotels seem more popular.
Taxis are expensive and people want to go out and enjoy a drink ... and maybe have some late night fun too!
I'm going to do a bit of looking around for a venue that may be more popular. .... but would be interested in other thoughts on this topic.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i found a venue with a hotel in grounds in valleys but cant name it in forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would be ideal in valleys as im new and would like to get to know more people from the site and get some advice also |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I may go for another when I'm less busy!
Unfortunately also, the Pontypridd social being advertised at present, is on the same date as a large private swingers party that has been organised locally .... 50 people have booked and paid to go to it. These clashes can't be helped sometimes. |
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By * and CCouple
over a year ago
near Cardiff |
For us, a social in ponty would be tempting but we try and keep this separate to our real life and it may be a bit close to home.
We'd be more likely to see people we knew etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us, a social in ponty would be tempting but we try and keep this separate to our real life and it may be a bit close to home.
We'd be more likely to see people we knew etc.
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i would like to keep it away from my normal life but there does seem to be alot from the valleys on here what if someone knew you and they were local would they keep it between ourselves or not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That is the element of discretion and trust in the community. Remember if they have seen you there, couldn't it be the same vice versa? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For instance D and C both my age live in my area im probably 90% sure im going to know them . We most proabably went to the same schools lol but what im saying is would people keep it between us on the site or not x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol .... there are very close communities in the Valleys. But the swinging community is quite close too .. so loyalty and discretion should abound in theory.
Also, when I used to work in RCT Council we used to laugh that the Cynon valley was abroad for people from the Rhondda! So if a social is in one valley it might mean people from there won't go, but people from other valleys might.
We're a funny lot! |
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By *alleycplCouple
over a year ago
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"Lol .... there are very close communities in the Valleys. But the swinging community is quite close too .. so loyalty and discretion should abound in theory.
Also, when I used to work in RCT Council we used to laugh that the Cynon valley was abroad for people from the Rhondda! So if a social is in one valley it might mean people from there won't go, but people from other valleys might.
We're a funny lot! "
we recently went to newport social and reconised other local people there so its going to happen if you go to socials,just remember we are all there and all on here,we are all the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So where is the private party on the same night as pontypridd social haven't seen anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us, a social in ponty would be tempting but we try and keep this separate to our real life and it may be a bit close to home.
We'd be more likely to see people we knew etc.
i would like to keep it away from my normal life but there does seem to be alot from the valleys on here what if someone knew you and they were local would they keep it between ourselves or not "
That's how I felt before my first social-esp as was less than mile from my house but now I love them best way to catch up with friends and make new ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I checked most recent statuses in forum for the date and didn't clash with anything |
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By *lexisMan
over a year ago
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not been to a social in a while myself  |
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I no a few of us organisers book our venues about 6 months in advance x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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True but there's nothing in the forums for the 28th November I could book it for another date |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe, just maybe there is a saturation point!
Socials are good but playing is better
Some use fab as their social life, some use it to have recreational sex (Swinging).
The former usually seem to be able to make socials but cannot get sitter for meets or work gets in the way etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So where is the private party on the same night as pontypridd social haven't seen anything "
That's what I meant about sometimes clashes are unavoidable. It's a private party by invite, hence it wasn't put on the forum.
It's getting near to the festive season so finding a date when there isn't loads of other things going on will be difficult.
That's why I think I'll wait til it all calms down in the new year before attempting to arrange anything again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good on you I've cancelled the Pontypridd one I wish you luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i always thought socials are a good way to meet new people with NO PRESSURE then you arrange your playtimes, such a shame. but well done for thinking of us members anyway and tring xxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i always thought socials are a good way to meet social new people with NO PRESSURE then you arrange your playtimes, such a shame. but well done for thinking of us members anyway and tring xxxxxxx"
How do you arrange playtime when nearly every week there's a social.
For a social maybe go to your local pub.these have been a great way to meet people. You will find quite a few. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i dont need that i hold mine invite only and it works well i think everyone enjoys its a bit of sort of naughty fun in good spirits but there is not the added pressure of sitting opposite a couple and thinking shit dont fancy her/ or him and vice versa, and they must work cos always got a full house lol xxxx but different horses for different courses or whatever that saying is xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't all drink |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We don't all drink "
nor me im always driving cept at mine lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"True but there's nothing in the forums for the 28th November I could book it for another date "
But you do have off the top of my head
30th Oct jades party
31st oct neath social
6th nov singles social
20th and 21st nov club invasions
5th Dec newport social
In between daytime socials and private partys and other events not every one can afford to do all of the socials and find time for play meets  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"True but there's nothing in the forums for the 28th November I could book it for another date
But you do have off the top of my head
30th Oct jades party
31st oct neath social
6th nov singles social
20th and 21st nov club invasions
5th Dec newport social
In between daytime socials and private partys and other events not every one can afford to do all of the socials and find time for play meets "
we also getting two a month now newport and swansea usually a week or so apart every month but hey ho all good fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People have options.........if they so want to attend socials, private parties, clubs or discreet meets then so be it.
Personally, I do find there are too many socials and being on low income I can't always attend these whereas party invites are generally free and always welcome if I can get to them |
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Newport and Swansea social are usually every 8 weeks sometimes more than that. The other social then slot between. Daytime ones started for the people who couldn't always make evening events.
You don't have to attend these if you don't want to. If there weren't any people would moan then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of people from the Rhondda valley have always requested a social closer to home but as usual must be timewasters I understand there's lots going on but not everyone can get to these places |
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By * and CCouple
over a year ago
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Sorry guys been away for a while. I agree that couples are likely to want to use the same discretion as us and most single men would be the same. Sadly not all single men would. I've overheard two blokes talking in the gym and one was laughing and talking about fab to the other. He was even explaining where the single female he met lived.
I know it's unlikely but it does scare us. |
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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry guys been away for a while. I agree that couples are likely to want to use the same discretion as us and most single men would be the same. Sadly not all single men would. I've overheard two blokes talking in the gym and one was laughing and talking about fab to the other. He was even explaining where the single female he met lived.
I know it's unlikely but it does scare us."
I had a message last night from a guy who said he had joined just to have a look at my pics after guys in the pub were talking about me. I've not met anyone in the village I live in though.
It proves that some people definitely aren't respectful of people's privacy |
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By * and CCouple
over a year ago
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"Sorry guys been away for a while. I agree that couples are likely to want to use the same discretion as us and most single men would be the same. Sadly not all single men would. I've overheard two blokes talking in the gym and one was laughing and talking about fab to the other. He was even explaining where the single female he met lived.
I know it's unlikely but it does scare us.
I had a message last night from a guy who said he had joined just to have a look at my pics after guys in the pub were talking about me. I've not met anyone in the village I live in though.
It proves that some people definitely aren't respectful of people's privacy"
Yeah exactly. It's not something that you want to be common knowledge. Unfortunately, the minority do ruin it for the majority. |
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"For us, a social in ponty would be tempting but we try and keep this separate to our real life and it may be a bit close to home.
We'd be more likely to see people we knew etc.
i would like to keep it away from my normal life but there does seem to be alot from the valleys on here what if someone knew you and they were local would they keep it between ourselves or not "
i have found someone on here that i work with but know he would not say anything to anybody as much as i would not say anything to anybody |
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand."
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one |
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one"
This is drivel.
Social and event organisers will let anyone attend if they fit the criteria.
Most ask for verifications so as to out anyone who may have joined Fab for reasons other than swinging.... i.e. the Press etc.
Some people have been asked not to attend future socials due to causing problems i.e. fighting, being abusive, or causing other kinds of disruption.
Social and event organizers also try and balance the numbers of single guys, as having an "open door" policy would mean the place would probably be swamped.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one"
So where did u get that info from?
I can assure you as you already know I run the singles social and I for one don't even look at profiles when people ask to be added.
It isn't for me to dictate who goes and who doesn't go.
Socials are for every one and im sure all organisers will say the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one
So where did u get that info from?
I can assure you as you already know I run the singles social and I for one don't even look at profiles when people ask to be added.
It isn't for me to dictate who goes and who doesn't go.
Socials are for every one and im sure all organisers will say the same "
You are talking shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i always thought socials are a good way to meet new people with NO PRESSURE then you arrange your playtimes, such a shame. but well done for thinking of us members anyway and tring xxxxxxx"
I agree kitten....socials are great for meetingwith NO PRESSURE thats why l enjoy going to them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one"
i must admit i have only heard on event that banned a certain person have never known newport, swansea, cardiff and the singles social ever ban anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one"
Well you know the answer then, if you think that is how we go about things ...
organise a social yourself so that you can be 'number one'.
Bloody, stupid comment from someone who has only been on here two weeks.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one
Well you know the answer then, if you think that is how we go about things ...
organise a social yourself so that you can be 'number one'.
Bloody, stupid comment from someone who has only been on here two weeks. "
 maybe they looking for their five minutes of fame lol |
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By *aws28Man
over a year ago
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none in carmarthen ether |
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one
This is drivel.
Social and event organisers will let anyone attend if they fit the criteria.
Most ask for verifications so as to out anyone who may have joined Fab for reasons other than swinging.... i.e. the Press etc.
Some people have been asked not to attend future socials due to causing problems i.e. fighting, being abusive, or causing other kinds of disruption.
Social and event organizers also try and balance the numbers of single guys, as having an "open door" policy would mean the place would probably be swamped.
everything you post is drivel thnx for letting us know at the beginning of the post
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one
This is drivel.
Social and event organisers will let anyone attend if they fit the criteria.
Most ask for verifications so as to out anyone who may have joined Fab for reasons other than swinging.... i.e. the Press etc.
Some people have been asked not to attend future socials due to causing problems i.e. fighting, being abusive, or causing other kinds of disruption.
Social and event organizers also try and balance the numbers of single guys, as having an "open door" policy would mean the place would probably be swamped.
everything you post is drivel thnx for letting us know at the beginning of the post
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At least I dont hide behind a myriad of fake profiles to snipe at others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one
This is drivel.
Social and event organisers will let anyone attend if they fit the criteria.
Most ask for verifications so as to out anyone who may have joined Fab for reasons other than swinging.... i.e. the Press etc.
Some people have been asked not to attend future socials due to causing problems i.e. fighting, being abusive, or causing other kinds of disruption.
Social and event organizers also try and balance the numbers of single guys, as having an "open door" policy would mean the place would probably be swamped.
everything you post is drivel thnx for letting us know at the beginning of the post
At least I dont hide behind a myriad of fake profiles to snipe at others. "
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"Every week we see someone or other asking about socials why arent there more etc., etc., Am on about the big organised ones not ones in private homes. The Valleys Social had two tidy ones then third one cancelled "due to apathy~" now there is a Pontypridd Social not many ppl putting names down, Swansea/Newport been going years brill socials. Everyone loves them and so it should be. But why arent members interested in socials in the valleys . We do have a lot of members in the valleys i dont understand.
i blame the ppl that organise them, they only let ppl they like or ppl who fit in with what they call swinging go they think they own fab and invented swinging that why same faces at every social no one new will ever go cos of the ppl who ran them want to be number one
This is drivel.
Social and event organisers will let anyone attend if they fit the criteria.
Most ask for verifications so as to out anyone who may have joined Fab for reasons other than swinging.... i.e. the Press etc.
Some people have been asked not to attend future socials due to causing problems i.e. fighting, being abusive, or causing other kinds of disruption.
Social and event organizers also try and balance the numbers of single guys, as having an "open door" policy would mean the place would probably be swamped.
everything you post is drivel thnx for letting us know at the beginning of the post
At least I dont hide behind a myriad of fake profiles to snipe at others. "
one profile i not hiding inbox u my number now nights at 730 though |
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By * and CCouple
over a year ago
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This post got heated quickly. ??
We attended the Newport social the other day and had a great time. In all fairness we really appreciate that people take the time to organise them. Everyone was lovely and we really enjoyed.
Been to a few in Cardiff and we had a good time too. They only asked that we had verifications to be able to attend and they were really friendly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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shy is it a normal simple question has turned into a load of shit yet again we gonna get our forums taken away if this carries on come on now keep it nice. if nothing positive to say dont comment |
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