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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Going tomorrow and had a curious thought...for those who get checked out, do you openly tell them that you are a swinger? I'm tempted to be upfront rather than try to make up excuses. I'm a crap liar  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went the beginning of the month and instead of an excuse I told them i'm on fabswingers I also said altho I play safe i'd still like to be checked fully, there was a few more questions than your normal asked but at least I didn't have to lie about why I was there.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was wondering this.. do they make a note on your record or anything.
Would be nice not to have to lie x"
they do yes but its private to the clinic, the lady there said its so that when you go next time there wont be any need to explain your personal life and they will no to run full tests every time you go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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in my experience its best to be very honest and open about everything. these are professional and knowledgable people, who are there to help. they know stuff that we only only have vague ideas about, and i always ask a load of questions. they have surprised me a couple of times with tips and very useful advice. so go with a smile and confidence, its an education! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we are up front with them they don't judge you, they made a note on the forms what site we are on but the info isn't passed on to anyone unless you tick the box to say they can pass details onto your doctor . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just totally honest, no one judges & I doubt your Doctor would care, they certainly can't tell anyone. I go religiously every 2 months, even if it's just to have my throat swabbed. You just never know nowadays, some guys stick their cocks anywhere & they're not always truthful about it & that applies in vanilla life as much as here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have worked in the GUM clinic they are never shocked, just be honest with them that is the best way for them to know what to test for xxxx you be fine im sure love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are honest, you can get your HEP jabs done for free, plus you can request they don't share info with your doctor.
Its just them words.. i dont like them.
( i am a swinger)"
all files have numbers anyway not names and they dont share with GP unless you ask them to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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forgot to say the only thing you have no control of is if you test positive for hiv cirus then the government has to know etc., etc., thats the law. you dont have to tell them you are on a site on the internet, just tell them that you have a certain free lifestyle thats all they need to know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are honest, you can get your HEP jabs done for free, plus you can request they don't share info with your doctor.
Its just them words.. i dont like them.
( i am a swinger)"
Why be ashamed of something you enjoy? They see many Swingers & won't even bat an eyelid, you won't stand out for them x |
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Just to clarify meaning some people like to make quick assumptions, we only ever play safe and always attend clinic regular and have the appropriate swabs and tests.
Only difference is she thinks im a slut not a swinger.
Had to explain as some messages we had are vile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to clarify meaning some people like to make quick assumptions, we only ever play safe and always attend clinic regular and have the appropriate swabs and tests.
Only difference is she thinks im a slut not a swinger.
Had to explain as some messages we had are vile "
Report, block, delete, you don't need to justify to them  |
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"Going tomorrow and had a curious thought...for those who get checked out, do you openly tell them that you are a swinger? I'm tempted to be upfront rather than try to make up excuses. I'm a crap liar "
fair play to you be honest they dont judge they will probobly give you loads of condoms free its a pity more people did not go i used to work in one in london and there's a great respect for swingers and honest people they'd rather people kept a check on things than have an epidemic youll be fine its nothing to be embaresed about good luck
llantrisant is a good one there are loads of swingers go there i used to go with my partner when i was attached nice people but there all the same not judgmental at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fuck that, it's the same results no matter if you tell them your a swinging sexual animal hanging off dicks all over the place or the Virgin mary!
Nosey bastards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck that, it's the same results no matter if you tell them your a swinging sexual animal hanging off dicks all over the place or the Virgin mary!
Nosey bastards "
the thing is.. you don't get the same results! they can do different tests for different people, and can personalise your treatment. so you can either say nothing and get the general check up, or get a more meaningful and personally useful treatment. we are lucky to have such a system available and I, for one, appreciate it. whether you take advantage of it or not, is completely up to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck that, it's the same results no matter if you tell them your a swinging sexual animal hanging off dicks all over the place or the Virgin mary!
Nosey bastards
the thing is.. you don't get the same results! they can do different tests for different people, and can personalise your treatment. so you can either say nothing and get the general check up, or get a more meaningful and personally useful treatment. we are lucky to have such a system available and I, for one, appreciate it. whether you take advantage of it or not, is completely up to you. "
Definitely this, it's up to you fabsters, but why be ashamed of such an enjoyable pastime, it's not as if the staff at these places can tell anyone, they'd be sacked. Confidentiality is a big issue in the health profession & it is best for you & those you play with, to get it right X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Going tomorrow and had a curious thought...for those who get checked out, do you openly tell them that you are a swinger? I'm tempted to be upfront rather than try to make up excuses. I'm a crap liar "
It's likely recorded I did porn so just stick with that myself haha.
They are not there to judge just offer advice and check that you've not been exposed to or likely caught an STI.
They'll have heard a million and one different stories why you're ikely to have had a higher than average number of multiple sexual partners so you're unlikely to make them blush.
Telling them you're a swinger or whatever will only be greeted with an 'oh, ok' then they'll just ask if you've been safe and all of that, and the dreaded... "How many sexual partners have you had in the last month" then 3 months prior, sometimes it's fun just to say none in the 3 months prior and give the whole number for the last month |
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"i saw a sign in the clinic saying fabswingers members are more likely to contract Chlymdia etc, happy to see you lot are all safe x"
In the one in Cardiff? I didn't see that last time I was there.
They have to put scaremongering posters up though as so many people don't give a shit about their health. It is good that people are willing to get tested. We both get tested every few months but also don't meet that regularly. |
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"Going tomorrow and had a curious thought...for those who get checked out, do you openly tell them that you are a swinger? I'm tempted to be upfront rather than try to make up excuses. I'm a crap liar "
Best to be open and honest . However if you don't want to say how many partners you have had , tell them that you have had unprotected sex which should ensure you are offered all the tests . You are asked quite a few detailed questions including how many partners , have you been to Africa , have you slept with prostitutes and when you last had sex. The questionnaire is designed to risk assess you. I opted for urine sample and blood test. Only takes about ten minutes and you get a supply of condoms free. |
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"i have worked in the GUM clinic they are never shocked, just be honest with them that is the best way for them to know what to test for xxxx you be fine im sure love "
What tests are performed apart from those which analyse blood and urine . ?. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have worked in the GUM clinic they are never shocked, just be honest with them that is the best way for them to know what to test for xxxx you be fine im sure love What tests are performed apart from those which analyse blood and urine . ?."
i am sure you will find out when you attend nothing painful lol |
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"i have worked in the GUM clinic they are never shocked, just be honest with them that is the best way for them to know what to test for xxxx you be fine im sure love What tests are performed apart from those which analyse blood and urine . ?.
i am sure you will find out when you attend nothing painful lol"
I had both blood and urine tests . Are they all that is necessary or what do throat swabs do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have worked in the GUM clinic they are never shocked, just be honest with them that is the best way for them to know what to test for xxxx you be fine im sure love What tests are performed apart from those which analyse blood and urine . ?.
i am sure you will find out when you attend nothing painful lol I had both blood and urine tests . Are they all that is necessary or what do throat swabs do."
You need the throat swabs, things are easily caught in the throat & most people don't seem to understand this, Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, not nice things to get & asymptotic for most. Very rarely to people practice safe oral, where would the fun be if we did eh X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i do remember from my time working at gum when fems caught genital herpes it never goes away nasty ulcers all over their you know where bu the males catch it in their throats very very nasty indeed |
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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago
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There should be more clinics , with longer opening hours . I have to travel a great distance to mine and wait 2 weeks on results . They are lovely and friendly though . Free condoms and free advice . Felt really comfortable yesterday , the 2 nurses that dealt with me this time had me in kinks . Joan Armatrading we on the hospital radio an the nurse taking my blood told me she loved her singing , she wants to go see her singing live at our local opera house soon because she lost her virginity to her music . But her husband is working . I told her to go alone and enjoy the memories . Last thing I expected to hear we a nurse divulging the loss of her virginity . So it's not all doom n gloom . They are human too . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i saw a sign in the clinic saying fabswingers members are more likely to contract Chlymdia etc, happy to see you lot are all safe x"
Same as the one in Newport, I don't tell them what I get up to as they don't need to know....just always ask for full works including bloods everytime....your there and it's free so just as well! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was at the newport one they just said 'Internet dating sites'. I don't tell them I'm on a site, just that I sleep with different people occasionally. No point lying about anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At mine they just whether you met via social netwoking, they then tick yes or no against each of your sexual partners, don't see any point lying about it X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, no point in hiding that one has numerous partners. They dont judge, they just snigger when youve gone lol
But who cares, you never know you may meet them at chams ! Lol x |
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By *adie7Couple
over a year ago
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I got fed up of making excuses & them thinking myself & my husband were being unfaithful...furthest thing from the truth. So I took my courage in both hands & explained that we enjoyed a lifestyle with other sexual partners. Best thing I ever did. I feel comfortable & honest chatting to them. They know who I am when I turn up lol and yes the tests are more relevant to me. Until I told them they never mentioned the Hep A vaccination you & your partner can have... Best thing I ever did telling them. Makes the whole experience much more bearable lol. |
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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago
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"I got fed up of making excuses & them thinking myself & my husband were being unfaithful...furthest thing from the truth. So I took my courage in both hands & explained that we enjoyed a lifestyle with other sexual partners. Best thing I ever did. I feel comfortable & honest chatting to them. They know who I am when I turn up lol and yes
the tests are more relevant to me. Until I told them they never mentioned the Hep A vaccination you & your partner can have... Best thing I ever did telling them. Makes the whole experience much more bearable lol. "
As soon as I mentioned the lifestyle to the lead nurse she offered the hepatitis vaccination programme . I've 2 more visits for that . Then back to check bloods in 3 months to make sure the vaccinations worked . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went 2weeks ago to the walk in one in newport and they didn't ask any questions like they used to. Just asked what I wanted to be tested for on a sheet they had given me and that was it really. U even do the test yourself now except the blood part |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Going tomorrow and had a curious thought...for those who get checked out, do you openly tell them that you are a swinger? I'm tempted to be upfront rather than try to make up excuses. I'm a crap liar "
why tell them the average 18 year old has more shags in a year than most swingers on here.
just tell them (I have had a few partners and am concerned about my health).it takes one person to infect and this could be the evening after the test result .its a risky game we play bit like riding a motorbike etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes ... when asked about multiple partners I said I am on a k own nsa site..There was a sign at reception warning about the increase of syphilis amongst users of certain sites so I was honest in order to have full screening..
Now its on system they do full tests without me having to ask..
It's nothing to be embarrassed about ..she was completely in shocked and has heard it many times before x |
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"Yes ... when asked about multiple partners I said I am on a k own nsa site..There was a sign at reception warning about the increase of syphilis amongst users of certain sites so I was honest in order to have full screening..
Now its on system they do full tests without me having to ask..
It's nothing to be embarrassed about ..she was completely in shocked and has heard it many times before x"
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