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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i have been seeing this very sexy lady for a while now and last night it was cards on the table night. She confessed a few things to me and I confessed one or two things to her, One of which was I was on fab swingers ! Straight away she got all defensive and said, there is no way she can be with anyone who is a part of a freak cirus ! I asked her to elaborate ! She replied swingers are freaks ! What do I do ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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best to call it off with her ... but if shes hot give her my number :P
seriously though
i would say we all have a "past" would she rather you were having sex in the past with swingers or just smashing loads of randoms???
now i understand her not wanting you to swing if you two get together - thats a perogative of hers.
but i think its unfair to judge on previous exploits
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have a tough decision to make. If you want to be with her that much then fab is going to have to go. I wouldn't keep this up behind her back because it will eventually bite you in the ass. If you can't see your relationship going anywhere then you have your answer there as well.
I am lucky I met Andy on here and we have been together over a year now xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She is not judging me at all, she is saying to me she can't be with someone who is on a swingers site. "
I would say that if she says everyone on here are "freaks" which would include you, then yes she has just judged you. If it were myself then that attitude alone would put me right off  |
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I don't think your relationship will survive this, if I'm honest.
She called swingers (including you) freaks, and her opinion of you will always be tainted by the knowledge that you were a swinger, trust will deteriorate.
Whilst it was great that you were honest, her reaction will leave a scar on you, and I'm not sure you can distance yourself from swinging, or the desire to, in the future.
All in all, a recipe for disaster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She is not judging me at all, she is saying to me she can't be with someone who is on a swingers site. "
That would imply that she would be happy if you were not on one, and the real issue is the fact you would have the opportunity to engage in sex with other like minded "freaks"
You should be commended for you honesty but as there is only one side to this story and a private and intimate conversation between two adults should stay private it's a difficult session you have to make.
Also consider that this is the normal response from your average vanilla.
If you want a relationship and have this lifestyle then I would say find someone on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you stopped playing around anywhere even on here would she accept you then, some ppl think if their fella/gal shags around is cos they think their not good enough its a toughie. swinging MAKES and also BREAKS marriages hun |
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