Hey Guys …..after some advice ? What does everyone do with time wasters ? We seem to spend all week messaging people and arranging a meet then last minute there’s no reply . Understandably things come up but when there no response its sooo frustrating .
Have you guys had the same issues ? Single men seem to be by far the worst offenders for us ……..but why ? |
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In my opinion it mainly due to so many 'single ' guys on the site who are already in a relationship in the real world, and only get limited time when it suit them to meet with someone off here.
So when something arranged that doesn't fit into their personal life free time they simply ghost, don't turn up or come up with an 'excuse', in hope you'll believe and rearrange another time
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By *arri54Woman 4 weeks ago
Newport |
Albeit infuriating, just block!
This happens all the time and it's just bad manners...
I always meet socially its clear from the start, the ones that go along with it thinking they will change my mind, then don't show really annoy me, just block and move on...
The genuine ones do outweigh the time wasters though  |
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By *arri54Woman 4 weeks ago
Newport |
I think you've the keyboard warriors who talk the talk but shit out last minute, the ones that throw out their toys because they think it's a fuck site, that's not what swinging is!
Its totally disrespectful and I haven't time for it..
Block, don't need those people around |
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"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…"
Same here, makes life simpler |
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I've lost count the amount of times women have messed me about.
I've also had the female side of a couple blow me out to.
In terms of single guys blowing out couples/singles it could be a number of things, could be in a relationship already and they may not be able to get the time, could be nerves, erectile dysfunction etc..
Still no excuses, I always carry out my meets when I plan something.. |
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It's why I ask for a phone call, the good ones are happy to speak before meeting for social or fun. That voice call makes it genuine.
Have text/chat for a while, they ask for more pictures of my partners, ask to speak first, then ghosted. |
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I had two last week, and mostly I put it down to bad manner and lack of respect/consideration for others. People now being in a me me mentality.
First guy stopped communicating 1 hour before the meet time after chatting all day. Came up with a lame excuse 24 hrs later.
Second one, I was at a local dogging spot and he said he was 30 min away and would drive. Even messaged saying leaving now. He didn't turn up. Next evening he said he had broken down and had to wait 2 hours for the breakdown truck, not a single apology for not letting me know.
I will not block them, I will just let them keep on asking for a meet, as they had already been doing, but strangely I will be busy every day they are free. I find that more rewarding than blocking! |
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"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…"
Same here! |
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"So strange ! Surely there should be a way of stoping it "
I'm not sure there is, it's mainly down to crappy, indecent behaviour, but that's not always easy to spot from the off. I use to just block if they stood me up, now I only meet in clubs, that way if they don't show, I'm already in a safe space with decent folk |
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My bestest ever friend here cancelled on me three times before we finally met. If I'd have given up on her we wouldn't have had all the amazing times that then followed. The difference was she was communicative and apologetic, so I guess what I'm saying is, every time needs consideration based on it's own circumstances.
Radio silence and ghosting mind; unforgivable. |
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By *onwelshMan 3 weeks ago
Where the Dragons Live |
Believe it or not us guys experience the same issues.
I had been speaking to a girl for a few months and last week we arranged to meet. She went quiet on here and another messaging platform, then all of a sudden I'm blocked.
The weird bit is, she had good veris and a good _rofile and seemed extremely genuine, I just don't get it.
If there are genuine couple or women reading this, I am a genuine guy and would love to hear from anyone that actually follows through with what they say.
Heres hoping haha x |
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"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…
Same here!"
Me as well X |
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By *ev257Man 3 weeks ago
cardiff |
Constantly get no shows as a single male, but expect that.
But when meeting as a couple we expected single males to show up, but it's exactly the same.
With our couples meets we have around 50% no shows, that is after we get past the messages back n forth n then get blocked or just ignored.
I find nothing more insulting than to offer another man to join us n then they block you or don't turn up. |
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Yep, I think there's a lot of guys who are just here for dirty talk and to get their kicks. That's why I rarely indulge in chat. Happy to exchange a few messages but no interest in being penpals. Clubs all the way or those I've had socials with. |
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There are so many on here which makes it so hard for genuine single guys , I just block them now as soon as they start to play games
I find the _rofiles with no _rofile pic or no effort are generally the ones or the people that open a _rofile then close it a day later
Best bet is read verifications and decide after a few messages as you can work out the time wasters easily
We all have lives outside but people need to be respectful and not waste peoples precious time
The worst is when they get you to drive to a postcode then don’t answer or say sorry I can’t now or block you after you driven 30 mins
Unfortunately we will not get rid of them
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I think the only way was if admin changed site rules so that you can only message people after you have a verified picture uploaded
I love the people that won’t put any sort of picture up and say it’s because of my job I have to be careful !!! Do does your Boss know what you look like naked or can they tell it’s you from a pic of your dick or vagina ??? Ummmm I doubt it
Idiots all of them |
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100% this same as verification tick it shows a big red X
So it would show a green verified by 20 as it does now then under it a big X with the number of no shows
Only issue is some could abuse the button just to make others look bad
But the genuine swingers on here would be the ones that use it properly |
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"Hey Guys …..after some advice ? What does everyone do with time wasters ? We seem to spend all week messaging people and arranging a meet then last minute there’s no reply . Understandably things come up but when there no response its sooo frustrating .
Don't count me in on that one. If i say I'm meeting. I always turn up.
Have you guys had the same issues ? Single men seem to be by far the worst offenders for us ……..but why ? "
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"Hey Guys …..after some advice ? What does everyone do with time wasters ? We seem to spend all week messaging people and arranging a meet then last minute there’s no reply . Understandably things come up but when there no response its sooo frustrating .
Have you guys had the same issues ? Single men seem to be by far the worst offenders for us ……..but why ? "
I always turn up. Could be the ones you ask to meet are married or they have had a better offer. Rude i know but theres loads on here the same. Including couples. |
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Generally, we have a tick list.
Site verified, at least 1 public pic, a _rofile that actually says something & can accommodate (especially single guys).
Meet verified is also good but we will meet for a social if not.
We also exchange phone numbers if arranging a meet too.
If they are serious (& not married!) It's generally not a problem |
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By *CT69Man 1 week ago
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I was chatting to a couple. We arrange for me to drive to them I told them I would be about 40 min. I messaged again before I left to say I was on my way. when I got to there place they where no longer online so I could not get a door number. Over half hour traveling and nothing |
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