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where are all the confident men?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As part of a couple, not single men
It seems I always have to make the first move, I want to be grabbed and pounced on! Lol
Have yet to find anyone who is confident enough to do that
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As part of a couple, not single men
It seems I always have to make the first move, I want to be grabbed and pounced on! Lol
Have yet to find anyone who is confident enough to do that
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lol
shame im over your age range i would show you confidence but that's life xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol ok i am actually quite shy (shurrup anyone who laffs) and quite respectful i couldnt just pounce without permission lol stupid i kno pmsl xxx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol well I would make it clear by flirting, but I still end up having to be the one to start things or join in with others
I'd love someone to take my flirt hint and make there move/seduce me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know that feeling well, at clubs parties and on meets it is generally me who leads the way, it would be nice on occasion if someone else took the lead.
On single meets however, I do tend to pick guys who are able to take the lead, Unless of course I'm looking to dominate |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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That's because guys are respectful @ party's + in Clubs.They don't want to risk beeing thrown out 
Before a private meet you establish through chatting what you like and want,therefor dominant guys can be more 'forceful'.
It's easier @ kinkster partys with Masters/Doms + their slaves/subs where your kink is fully acepted + guys know how to play that way 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol well I would make it clear by flirting, but I still end up having to be the one to start things or join in with others
I'd love someone to take my flirt hint and make there move/seduce me lol"
That's something I would more than happy do lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its nice not to b the forward one lol but reading people is hard lol xx"
methinks you got that covered. I mean you don't want to spoil a meet by possibly frightening someone to death.
I would reckon you should tell peeps how you like them to be when you arrange a meeting (other than socially).
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hmm I guess I can see why men wouldn't want to risk it at party's, but if the chemistry is there then maybe they should take a chance? When worst that can happen is they get told no?
Cheers I don't know, think I will just have to continue to pounce lol
Have just added it to my profile anyway plus changed my age range, was pleasantly surprised the other day when I found myself wanting someone who was above my age limit, so I have now raised it lol |
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As the female half of a couple i always make the first move, i think it's because a single guy doesn't want to over step the boundaries, but i agree, after giving lots of sexy hints and loads of flirting, sometimes it would be nice for the guy to pick up on them and make the first move, however i can be quite forward and usually get what i ask for 
I'm far more shy when it comes to couples meets as i then feel i'm not the one in control. Girls eh, we are very complex creatures lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As the female half of a couple i always make the first move, i think it's because a single guy doesn't want to over step the boundaries, but i agree, after giving lots of sexy hints and loads of flirting, sometimes it would be nice for the guy to pick up on them and make the first move, however i can be quite forward and usually get what i ask for
I'm far more shy when it comes to couples meets as i then feel i'm not the one in control. Girls eh, we are very complex creatures lol xx"
See thinking about it, I always thought i was more sub but i guess i must be quite dominant as i always start off the fun or put myself in a group situation, i do this whether its a private meet or a party/club, and like you, i tend to always get what i want haha.
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"Hmm I guess I can see why men wouldn't want to risk it at party's, but if the chemistry is there then maybe they should take a chance? When worst that can happen is they get told no?
Cheers I don't know, think I will just have to continue to pounce lol
Have just added it to my profile anyway plus changed my age range, was pleasantly surprised the other day when I found myself wanting someone who was above my age limit, so I have now raised it lol"
I hate a "NO" cos I feel it means I havent read the signs properly. The minute I know its green light then I def take charge, always easier if u kinda have an idea the lady wants to be pounced on, lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Lol well now you all know, I'm a terrible first, especially if I have had a glass of wine or two, so I'm pretty sure any men will know if I like them |
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I'm very shy, whereas Jayne is more outgoing.
At parties, or clubs, I find it very hard to "read" the signals, if I am chatting to a lady and getting on well I just think that we are getting on well lol!
Even when I get given the "green light" I can still be very reserved, I don't like to assume that I can do what I like. However, give me a little time, perhaps a meet or two, and I'll soon have a lady out of her clothes and onto a bed as soon as I see her lol! |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm very shy, whereas Jayne is more outgoing.
At parties, or clubs, I find it very hard to "read" the signals, if I am chatting to a lady and getting on well I just think that we are getting on well lol!
Even when I get given the "green light" I can still be very reserved, I don't like to assume that I can do what I like. However, give me a little time, perhaps a meet or two, and I'll soon have a lady out of her clothes and onto a bed as soon as I see her lol! "
A Bed? lol.....a sofa is often closer 
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"I'm very shy, whereas Jayne is more outgoing.
At parties, or clubs, I find it very hard to "read" the signals, if I am chatting to a lady and getting on well I just think that we are getting on well lol!
Even when I get given the "green light" I can still be very reserved, I don't like to assume that I can do what I like. However, give me a little time, perhaps a meet or two, and I'll soon have a lady out of her clothes and onto a bed as soon as I see her lol!
A Bed? lol.....a sofa is often closer
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Yes, and some like to take it to the floor lol! |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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....anyway my advise:
1.Look if any Dominant guys are present,i can spot them a mile off
2.Just flirting isn't enough!Make sure you bring up your kinky subject + take note of who takes a closer interest in you + who shys away when you mention what you like.
3.Beware of your own behaviourseen many fems wanting to be dommed but ended up arousing submissive guys because all about them shouted DOMME which in turn didn't interested the Masters/Doms who don't switch.
4.point 3 is important when the guys present enjoy both beeing dominant + beeing 'grabbed' by a fem.Awaken their Dom side...Told a guy @ a party who wanted to play with me:No,you to sub for me(i knew he enjoys both sides!)...well he turnd proper Dominant,talking grabbed + the rest
5.No guys with a dominant side present?Just enjoy the sex and may be more luck @ the next party.
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I would like to add my point as I am a Dom man.
1. often in my exerience at parties when women say they like to be dommed, what they mean is they like 'rough sex'.
2. If any fem expects me to Dom her, then she MUST be submissive! I don't want to get into the 'make me' game, that's not what it's about.
3.When My slave and I are at a B/D M/S party, there is certain etiquete. I am not permitted to 'Dom' or 'Direct' anyone elses slave without their Masters permission! We always have a ceramony at the start of a BD party which allows all the 'Dom's' present to have free access to the slaves! Masters still remain overall responsible for their slave's but another Dom may use any slave for his pleasure.
When I am at a vanilla swingers party, I find it difficult to get into this role as the atmosphere is very different.
My advice would be that if you want to be 'Dommed' and not just have rough sex then get yourself along to a B/D M/S party....They are great fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its good to talk. I like people saying what they want. Before a meet, making it clear that if u click you want the guy to take charge, makes life so easy. "
I'm with you on that. If i've met the guy before and he dominates as soon as i open the door... Well i'm a quivering horny hot wreck lol!
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