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By (user no longer on site) OP 15 weeks ago
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Hi lovely people I wanted to know do people read profiles or do they assume because you are on this site they can avoid reading and speak to you like rubbish ,why are some men like this ,we ain't all here for fuck boys |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 15 weeks ago
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Thank you. I'd rather be open and honest in what I'm looking for than get people message and I day not my type then they go on the attack after giving me a compliment it turns to an insult |
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By *3xymamaWoman 15 weeks ago
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I read the profile before I even open the message. If the profile text isn't what I'm looking for, I will delete the message. It saves the possible abuse or questions asking why I haven't replied |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 15 weeks ago
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"I read the profile before I even open the message. If the profile text isn't what I'm looking for, I will delete the message. It saves the possible abuse or questions asking why I haven't replied "
Exactly my point ,we all have our preferences and we are entitled to them |
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I read the profile second after checking the age range,some long profiles to read just to find out you are a year out of the age range and therefore the dreaded yellow line appears when you try to respond.... nice to see a fellow northerner on here 😀 |
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Always read the profile, we did as singles too. Would never have met if didn't, so it's a good endorsement to put the time in (especially single men).
We understand ours is a bit wordy, but it lays out what we are after clearly, but still people chance it. It kind of annoys as we tend to reply to most people (even if to gently let them down), but it does annoy when someone clearly ignores the first paragraphs at least. |
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I always read a profile. You need to in order to know whether or not to even send a message.
There has been many a time I've thought someone looked hot, or I've thought I'd be interested but after reading their profile there could be something that tells me I'm really not the person for them, or vice versa, so why waste everyone's time?
There has also been the opposite. We can all be guilty of snap judgements and sometimes I've had a look thinking we're not going to be compatible but after reading their profile something catches my attention and I find people I'd love to play or have a drink with, or even just chat to.
Profiles are the first port of call as to who you are and what you like. And if you've taken the time to write one properly and honestly and people have read it and aren't interested, then at least that's you being you and you're not right for each other anyway.
N.b. Not everyone who's profile I view and not message isn't because of the profile, it's nerves and/or self preservation 😂. |
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N.b. Not everyone who's profile I view and not message isn't because of the profile, it's nerves and/or self preservation 😂."
When I was single (Del)
, then you nailed it for me here, also the rejection on the already fragile confidence at that time would do the same. |
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By *3xymamaWoman 15 weeks ago
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"I always read a profile. You need to in order to know whether or not to even send a message.
There has been many a time I've thought someone looked hot, or I've thought I'd be interested but after reading their profile there could be something that tells me I'm really not the person for them, or vice versa, so why waste everyone's time?
There has also been the opposite. We can all be guilty of snap judgements and sometimes I've had a look thinking we're not going to be compatible but after reading their profile something catches my attention and I find people I'd love to play or have a drink with, or even just chat to.
Profiles are the first port of call as to who you are and what you like. And if you've taken the time to write one properly and honestly and people have read it and aren't interested, then at least that's you being you and you're not right for each other anyway.
N.b. Not everyone who's profile I view and not message isn't because of the profile, it's nerves and/or self preservation 😂."
I think we all have a certain degree of anxiety when sending a message to a potential new friend, but it also adds to the excitement. Even those who seem confident and self assured get anxious at times 😊 |
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N.b. Not everyone who's profile I view and not message isn't because of the profile, it's nerves and/or self preservation 😂.
When I was single (Del)
, then you nailed it for me here, also the rejection on the already fragile confidence at that time would do the same. "
100%, some people get put into the "I'll message when I'm having a confident day" category 😂 |
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"I think we all have a certain degree of anxiety when sending a message to a potential new friend, but it also adds to the excitement. Even those who seem confident and self assured get anxious at times 😊"
Oh definitely, and I'm not saying I'm not a confident person,and excitement is always good, but some days you're more confident than others.
And it's just that if I pop up in someone's recently viewed but haven't messaged it could be because their profile has told me that for whatever reason we're not really compatible, or it could be that my brain just says "you won't get a reply" lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I read profiles but came to realise that they generally sound very similar in nature and tone.
Without reading yours I'd guess it goes along the lines of......
Been here before so know what it's like.
Social first.
Not looking for a quickie.
Don't take shit.
Speak my mind. Honest
Not looking to sleep with the whole sight. Selective.
Don't meet attached men
No one liners or short bios
No dick pics. Face pic in first message
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I read profiles, if I’m going to send a message it depends on what’s in that profile.
When we recieve a message it’s obvious if the sender has our the profile or not, mostly we just ignore those who’ve either not read or ignored what we have in our profile.. sometimes I can’t resist letting my sarcasm out when we receive something stupid 
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"I always read a profile. You need to in order to know whether or not to even send a message.
There has been many a time I've thought someone looked hot, or I've thought I'd be interested but after reading their profile there could be something that tells me I'm really not the person for them, or vice versa, so why waste everyone's time?
There has also been the opposite. We can all be guilty of snap judgements and sometimes I've had a look thinking we're not going to be compatible but after reading their profile something catches my attention and I find people I'd love to play or have a drink with, or even just chat to.
Profiles are the first port of call as to who you are and what you like. And if you've taken the time to write one properly and honestly and people have read it and aren't interested, then at least that's you being you and you're not right for each other anyway.
N.b. Not everyone who's profile I view and not message isn't because of the profile, it's nerves and/or self preservation 😂."
In a nutshell, this 
Anyone who doesn't bother reading a profile is shooting themselves in the foot!
Fully realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea and vice versa, but it's far better for all involved if that's established before anyone's time is wasted... |
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We try to stay (reasonably) positive on here.
However.
We often find ourselves questioning our particular area of Wales' ability to read and levels of comprehension. There's a certain level of irony that induces eyerolling when a profile demands to be read; and then they in return clearly haven't read yours. |
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We read profiles all the time. It's clear loads don't. What we have started doing is if they send a stupid message, they get the same in return. If they send a nice message then we respond nice. Some of the messages we get are just comical. |
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