So, if I've read this right, you are declining someones advances because they are a successful swinger....on a swingers site?
If they have veries (I'm assuming positive) from multiple people, then surely that should be a huge plus, not a negative?  |
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"So, if I've read this right, you are declining someones advances because they are a successful swinger....on a swingers site?
If they have veries (I'm assuming positive) from multiple people, then surely that should be a huge plus, not a negative? "
I'm meaning one name keeps appearing on the guys who are engaging with me.. and I'm clear in what I'm seeking from Fab. Which I anticipated you will have an opinion about. |
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"verifications are not specific they can just mean that you met them at a social & they exist & photos are not off a porn site "
She specifically mentions that the veries are of the "play" variety. |
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"So, if I've read this right, you are declining someones advances because they are a successful swinger....on a swingers site?
If they have veries (I'm assuming positive) from multiple people, then surely that should be a huge plus, not a negative?
I'm meaning one name keeps appearing on the guys who are engaging with me.. and I'm clear in what I'm seeking from Fab. Which I anticipated you will have an opinion about. "
Your OP was ambiguous, which is why I commented as I did.
My opinion on your profile is that you know what you want, and have set that out very clearly, anyone who approaches you that doesnt match with what you seek probably wont get very far.
Thats not a negative comment, people should be comfortable saying what they want, and holding out until they get it.
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"I think as a single woman seeing the same name on a verification about a play meet means that the guy can be trusted & was a good meet just my opinion  "
I'm referring to multiple profiles.. not recurring same individuals or couples. |
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"So, if I've read this right, you are declining someones advances because they are a successful swinger....on a swingers site?
If they have veries (I'm assuming positive) from multiple people, then surely that should be a huge plus, not a negative?
I'm meaning one name keeps appearing on the guys who are engaging with me.. and I'm clear in what I'm seeking from Fab. Which I anticipated you will have an opinion about.
Your OP was ambiguous, which is why I commented as I did.
My opinion on your profile is that you know what you want, and have set that out very clearly, anyone who approaches you that doesnt match with what you seek probably wont get very far.
Thats not a negative comment, people should be comfortable saying what they want, and holding out until they get it.
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Depends on how long the person / persons have been on fab really, if they have many but have been on fab / in lifestyle for many years then they will naturally have many verifications & means that they can be trusted in our eyes. |
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"I think as a single woman seeing the same name on a verification about a play meet means that the guy can be trusted & was a good meet just my opinion "
Snap. It gives us feedback he is ok to meet. |
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"If someone has repeating meet verifications from the same person I find it more attractive. To me it means they are trusted and worth a revisit  Dory x"
Yes I completely get that.. I'm referring to someone popping up on numerous profiles every week.. not repeat playing.. |
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"If someone has repeating meet verifications from the same person I find it more attractive. To me it means they are trusted and worth a revisit Dory x"
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I had an interesting conversation about this subject the other week, and whether people verify a regular play partner every time they meet.
Personally I don't. I'll do one for social, another for play meet, and maybe a third somewhere down the line.
If I verified some people every time I play with them, and get verified in return, I'd be in the 100s by now. |
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By *coutDWoman 40 weeks ago
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"If someone has repeating meet verifications from the same person I find it more attractive. To me it means they are trusted and worth a revisit Dory x
Yes I completely get that.. I'm referring to someone popping up on numerous profiles every week.. not repeat playing.."
So they are someone who plays a lot and with different people? Well good for them and fortunate they have the opportunity to.
The verification process and availability of site links gives us all information to use that knowledge as we wish but it's rather judgemental of any of us to say it's a negative thing and highlight it to others.
Information is power. We make the choice what to do with that knowledge
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Why is it a bad thing. If he’s safe and fun? He’s found the key to success. He must also be good if he’s getting verified. Unless something in particular was said in a veri that puts you off I’d get your ticket and wait your turn |
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"If someone has repeating meet verifications from the same person I find it more attractive. To me it means they are trusted and worth a revisit Dory x
Yes I completely get that.. I'm referring to someone popping up on numerous profiles every week.. not repeat playing..
So they are someone who plays a lot and with different people? Well good for them and fortunate they have the opportunity to.
The verification process and availability of site links gives us all information to use that knowledge as we wish but it's rather judgemental of any of us to say it's a negative thing and highlight it to others.
Information is power. We make the choice what to do with that knowledge
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I have asked a question.. not highlighted. And yes it does give us the information for us to make our own decision. Not everyone plays safe and that information is not available in a verification. |
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"Why is it a bad thing. If he’s safe and fun? He’s found the key to success. He must also be good if he’s getting verified. Unless something in particular was said in a veri that puts you off I’d get your ticket and wait your turn "
I'm referring not just the guys verifications.. what if a females profile keeps popping up all over fab.. different guys 4/5 times a week no repeat playing..
And I'm not a fan of q's |
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So basically, the guys you are engaging with have had play meets with a particular female and it’s putting you off them ?
If that’s the case then just move on as it comes across as a bit stalkerish as anyone is entitled to meet whomever they want without explanations |
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"So basically, the guys you are engaging with have had play meets with a particular female and it’s putting you off them ?
If that’s the case then just move on as it comes across as a bit stalkerish as anyone is entitled to meet whomever they want without explanations "
Lol stalkerish..
Everyone has different opinions and standards.. I genuinely wanted to know how others looked at the verifications.. Obviously I'm new to the Fab site and I'm aware that the site is different to how it used to be.. from engaging in conversation with long term fabbers..
But I'm just trying to stay safe. |
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By *inx300Woman 40 weeks ago
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Your op came across as quite judgemental. If a person has lots of verifications whether social or play who are you to judge?
If you're put off meeting someone because they've been with another person then maybe a Swingers site isn't for you.
I truly hope you find what you're looking for though |
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We think verifications are a good thing as it shows the guy,lady or cpl are doing something right. Just move on if they are not for you.Saying if they met this person or they met 4 different people this week is nothing to do with anyone. If that bothers you just use it as a filtering tool but leave others use fab as they wish. It's not the same on here now you're right but you have to box cleaver and use fab as you feel is right for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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I echo many of the comments. Unless there’s evidence of non safe play what’s the issue? If you meet him and he agrees to safe play then have fun. If there are good verifications then grab him (pretty sure I know who you are talking about btw) just chill and have fun |
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Everyone had their own opinions of what they want to get out this site.. and its the last place it should be for judgement
If someone or something isn't for you, just move on and enjoy the rest of YOUR fab journey |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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I personally prefer people who have multiple & regular verifications, especially from sex meets. I like to know they're sexually active, pleasing to a variety of people & therfore, usually a swinger with the right mindset. Absolutely love a man slut  |
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I keep all my veri’s visible,
As a single guy it’s harder to get noticed.
If ppl want to judge me by them they are more than welcome to.
In life ppl judge you over everything that they don’t like.
My veri’s prove to this community that im genuine, not a time waster and hopefully ppl see what their potentially looking for.
I’ve had various different types of meets from a coffee to going to club events.
This proving I’m into the lifestyle and not instashag
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