Does anyone think the socials are killing the fun off fab ? As people don’t meet like they use to. as a long time member off many years I find it’s got worse on here so much so it’s not worth upgrading to become a site member |
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By *an1978Woman 51 weeks ago
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I'm a bit confused?
Socials speed up the meeting process?
You get to meet a lot of people in one evening, get contact details of those you want to take things further with, and politely pass by those you don't?
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"I'm a bit confused?
Socials speed up the meeting process?
You get to meet a lot of people in one evening, get contact details of those you want to take things further with, and politely pass by those you don't?
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I would agree with this, saves having several 1:1 socials X |
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"I'm a bit confused?
Socials speed up the meeting process?
You get to meet a lot of people in one evening, get contact details of those you want to take things further with, and politely pass by those you don't?
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yea I see your point but all you see is verifications saying they met at the social week after week and HOPE to meet again with no intention’s until the next time they attend a social. And people even put in their profile and updates they are not meeting just here for the socials.. as if they don’t have friends out off fab |
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"I'm a bit confused?
Socials speed up the meeting process?
You get to meet a lot of people in one evening, get contact details of those you want to take things further with, and politely pass by those you don't?
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yea I see your point but all you see is verifications saying they met at the social week after week and HOPE to meet again with no intention’s until the next time they attend a social. And people even put in their profile and updates they are not meeting just here for the socials.. as if they don’t have friends out off fab "
A lot have stopped meeting (mostly single males) away from socials due to the ammout of time waisters and bull shitters who do not understand the lifestyle of swinging on here now, from experience we have had single males arrive who were supposed to be a couple.
Now at social events you meet the person / couple and see them 1st hand if they are a true representation of the profile so not wasted precious time. |
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"I'm a bit confused?
Socials speed up the meeting process?
You get to meet a lot of people in one evening, get contact details of those you want to take things further with, and politely pass by those you don't?
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yea I see your point but all you see is verifications saying they met at the social week after week and HOPE to meet again with no intention’s until the next time they attend a social. And people even put in their profile and updates they are not meeting just here for the socials.. as if they don’t have friends out off fab
A lot have stopped meeting (mostly single males) away from socials due to the ammout of time waisters and bull shitters who do not understand the lifestyle of swinging on here now, from experience we have had single males arrive who were supposed to be a couple.
Now at social events you meet the person / couple and see them 1st hand if they are a true representation of the profile so not wasted precious time. "
yea I totally get it and as a single guy on here I come see many fake profiles but fortunately I’ve never had any problems when meeting with people… I’m just saying I’ve seen the decline in people meeting |
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By *almprintsWoman 51 weeks ago
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" yea I see your point but all you see is verifications saying they met at the social week after week and HOPE to meet again with no intention’s until the next time they attend a social. And people even put in their profile and updates they are not meeting just here for the socials.. as if they don’t have friends out off fab "
Some people also don't post anything about their play meets for personal reasons. So you can't assume that all profiles are only meeting for socials. |
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" yea I see your point but all you see is verifications saying they met at the social week after week and HOPE to meet again with no intention’s until the next time they attend a social. And people even put in their profile and updates they are not meeting just here for the socials.. as if they don’t have friends out off fab
Some people also don't post anything about their play meets for personal reasons. So you can't assume that all profiles are only meeting for socials. "
off course that is possible |
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Just like I wouldn't judge how you behave on fab or how you meet I would expect the same from "open minded individuals".
We use the socials to meet like minded people and quite often we will take these people back with us.
This doesn't mean we will leave filthy detailed verifications but even if it is just a social, who cares?
Our choice is that we wouldn't meet without a social
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"I'm a bit confused?
Socials speed up the meeting process?
You get to meet a lot of people in one evening, get contact details of those you want to take things further with, and politely pass by those you don't?
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yea I see your point but all you see is verifications saying they met at the social week after week and HOPE to meet again with no intention’s until the next time they attend a social. And people even put in their profile and updates they are not meeting just here for the socials.. as if they don’t have friends out off fab
A lot have stopped meeting (mostly single males) away from socials due to the ammout of time waisters and bull shitters who do not understand the lifestyle of swinging on here now, from experience we have had single males arrive who were supposed to be a couple.
Now at social events you meet the person / couple and see them 1st hand if they are a true representation of the profile so not wasted precious time. yea I totally get it and as a single guy on here I come see many fake profiles but fortunately I’ve never had any problems when meeting with people… I’m just saying I’ve seen the decline in people meeting "
No decline here & I'm sure others would agree, a lot of people don't display their intimate verifications. I certainly don't show all of mine, only the ones that make me laugh for some reason or other X |
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The issue i have found with some socials is that everyone knows each other and as newbies to that way of meeting people it meant we were/are left on the outskirts frequently, especially at the larger ones.
I must admit it had put us off going for a while previously. Which was a shame. (F)
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As a single guy I love the socials, I can’t go to them all but when I do it gives others a chance to meet me and see I’m decent..
there’s too many single guys and time wasters here, it makes it difficult to even get a message read when a woman or couple receives 100’s every day.. the social evenings cut through all that  |
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"As a single guy I love the socials, I can’t go to them all but when I do it gives others a chance to meet me and see I’m decent..
there’s too many single guys and time wasters here, it makes it difficult to even get a message read when a woman or couple receives 100’s every day.. the social evenings cut through all that "
yea I understand your point but I’m saying that they are all the time and their for you don’t see people meeting like they did before |
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"The issue i have found with some socials is that everyone knows each other and as newbies to that way of meeting people it meant we were/are left on the outskirts frequently, especially at the larger ones.
I must admit it had put us off going for a while previously. Which was a shame. (F)
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yea I’ve been told that it’s the same people all the time and if your face don’t fit you get pushed to the side I’ve officially spoken to a lot off people over the years and many said it’s like the club some people just go sit around in a little group and talk amongst them
Selfs and don’t really interact with others.. it’s why I’m trying to find a couple or lady to join me on my first visit so I’m not sat in the corner by my self |
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By *ory_xWoman 51 weeks ago
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I only ever met once without a social and it was a disaster. After that, when I was meeting on my own I would not meet anyone that hadn't made an effort to go to group social. I found this a lot safer and more enjoyable.
Any good organiser will introduce you to people if you just ask. A lot of social organisers host Telegram groups for people to chat with each other before the social. This breaks the ice. |
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As a returning member (ain't we all?)
I attended a social year's ago.
I wasn't sure what to expect. It was OK.. in hindsight I arrived and left too early.
I stayed for a few hours chatted to a few couples.. but I had another pre existing commitment which meant I probably left as things were warming up.
I deffo got the vibe most people knew each other there (I suppose that's the point)
I get how it could be intimidating to a 1st timer.
But it didn't put me off.
Now I'm back.. I hope to attend a social again, when work and other stuff allows...
As a single guy on here I get you have to front up and prove your genuine .. I've no problem with that.
It's funny people want to get out of their comfort zone in the bedroom .... but not socially !!
So hopefully I'll see you all at somepoint |
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"The issue i have found with some socials is that everyone knows each other and as newbies to that way of meeting people it meant we were/are left on the outskirts frequently, especially at the larger ones.
I must admit it had put us off going for a while previously. Which was a shame. (F)
yea I’ve been told that it’s the same people all the time and if your face don’t fit you get pushed to the side I’ve officially spoken to a lot off people over the years and many said it’s like the club some people just go sit around in a little group and talk amongst them
Selfs and don’t really interact with others.. it’s why I’m trying to find a couple or lady to join me on my first visit so I’m not sat in the corner by my self "
On the feed or telegram if you state you are going alone people will offer to meet you before hand. |
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A lot of our verifications are from socials, but fab isnt just about sex, its about the community. We see loads of people at regular socials who we wouldn't play with, but we enjoy their company.
I think they're called "friends".
Not all friends, have to be "friends friends". |
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"A lot of our verifications are from socials, but fab isnt just about sex, its about the community. We see loads of people at regular socials who we wouldn't play with, but we enjoy their company.
I think they're called "friends".
Not all friends, have to be "friends friends"."
I don't think I could have put it better
I'd like to add that nobody should feel left out in the cold at a social event, and unfortunately the only way you Will interact is by making conversation.
It's the same in vanilla life as is is in this lifestyle.
There are many here that will go out of their way to make you feel comfortable at an event, but they can't be with everyone all the time. |
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By *9alMan 51 weeks ago
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"The issue i have found with some socials is that everyone knows each other and as newbies to that way of meeting people it meant we were/are left on the outskirts frequently, especially at the larger ones.
I must admit it had put us off going for a while previously. Which was a shame. (F)
yea I’ve been told that it’s the same people all the time and if your face don’t fit you get pushed to the side I’ve officially spoken to a lot off people over the years and many said it’s like the club some people just go sit around in a little group and talk amongst them
Selfs and don’t really interact with others.. it’s why I’m trying to find a couple or lady to join me on my first visit so I’m not sat in the corner by my self "
I have been to a few socials & it is difficult unless you are very outgoing & thick skinned which I am not |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"The issue i have found with some socials is that everyone knows each other and as newbies to that way of meeting people it meant we were/are left on the outskirts frequently, especially at the larger ones.
I must admit it had put us off going for a while previously. Which was a shame. (F)
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I know what you mean, I'm a corner hugger so I'm happy to sit back & watch, but even I find the large socials intimidating. I reckon the quiz based or bowling socials are best if you want to really get to know people, they're always more inclusive X |
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"As a single guy I love the socials, I can’t go to them all but when I do it gives others a chance to meet me and see I’m decent..
there’s too many single guys and time wasters here, it makes it difficult to even get a message read when a woman or couple receives 100’s every day.. the social evenings cut through all that yea I understand your point but I’m saying that they are all the time and their for you don’t see people meeting like they did before "
Are less people meeting or just not talking about it in public? I’ve had meets away from the organised socials, what happened in some of those is not for public consumption  |
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By *coutDWoman 51 weeks ago
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2 screnarios:
1. I meet a man for coffee and after 10 mins I have a strong feeling we won’t get on. I don’t feel comfortable making an excuse to leave so I go to the toilet, text a friend and ask them to call me pretending to be the kids school telling me they are ill and I need to collect them immediately. Bye!!
2. Arrange to meet at a social, say hello and realise we won’t get on very quickly, wave to a friend across the room leave and say goodbye.
The 2nd is so much easier and I don’t have to let friends know I’m safe; they are right there with me.
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"I rarely show my verifications and when I do they are only the social ones, it's my choice."
Completely agree with you, only a few meet veris are on show and equally I don’t want people knowing whether I was wearing tutti-fruity, peaches or strawberry and cream lotion, that’s the surprise for on the night…  |
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"2 screnarios:
1. I meet a man for coffee and after 10 mins I have a strong feeling we won’t get on. I don’t feel comfortable making an excuse to leave so I go to the toilet, text a friend and ask them to call me pretending to be the kids school telling me they are ill and I need to collect them immediately. Bye!!
2. Arrange to meet at a social, say hello and realise we won’t get on very quickly, wave to a friend across the room leave and say goodbye.
The 2nd is so much easier and I don’t have to let friends know I’m safe; they are right there with me.
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But isn't it best to just be honest ?
Hi thanks for the cuppa chat ect but this isn't going to go any further ,
That way the person isn't waiting on a message / 2nd meet |
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"2 screnarios:
1. I meet a man for coffee and after 10 mins I have a strong feeling we won’t get on. I don’t feel comfortable making an excuse to leave so I go to the toilet, text a friend and ask them to call me pretending to be the kids school telling me they are ill and I need to collect them immediately. Bye!!
2. Arrange to meet at a social, say hello and realise we won’t get on very quickly, wave to a friend across the room leave and say goodbye.
The 2nd is so much easier and I don’t have to let friends know I’m safe; they are right there with me.
But isn't it best to just be honest ?
Hi thanks for the cuppa chat ect but this isn't going to go any further ,
That way the person isn't waiting on a message / 2nd meet "
yea that’s the way I personally rather it keep it simple and fun.. fab should make other site for socials |
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Sorry but being a swinger from back before fab. All we had was socials, they were advertised in magazines and sex shops. Fab made it easier to keep in touch with people. Problem is fab has become more af a hook up and sex site than a swingers scene that it was before. |
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I think like any form of organised "fun" the larger socials are like anything else..
You get out what you put in.
Turn up with an open mind an attitude.. worst case you've had a few drinks with some new people |
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Who we meet/have met is our business that's why we rarely put our veries on show. Sad thing is guys come on here thinking this is instashag and women will guaranteed fuck them. Socials can be daunting if they are the big ones even for cpls like us but we have met some good people who we have played with or kept as good friends. Maybe fab has changed but for the better as you can at socials see the real them and if things are not to good you can just say thanks for the chat and move on to chatting to others. As a woman I'd find 1-1 meetings for socials more intimidating than at a big social gathering.
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"I think like any form of organised "fun" the larger socials are like anything else..
You get out what you put in.
Turn up with an open mind an attitude.. worst case you've had a few drinks with some new people "
Now that's a good attitude to project |
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"The issue i have found with some socials is that everyone knows each other and as newbies to that way of meeting people it meant we were/are left on the outskirts frequently, especially at the larger ones.
I must admit it had put us off going for a while previously. Which was a shame. (F)
yea I’ve been told that it’s the same people all the time and if your face don’t fit you get pushed to the side I’ve officially spoken to a lot off people over the years and many said it’s like the club some people just go sit around in a little group and talk amongst them
Selfs and don’t really interact with others.. it’s why I’m trying to find a couple or lady to join me on my first visit so I’m not sat in the corner by my self "
I attended my first social many moons ago totally alone. Knew absolutely noone. You get out what you put in. I am not speaking for everyone but when I was actively meeting if a guy couldn't manage to attend a social himself and at least try and make links etc he wouldn't have been for me. A certain level of self confidence is needed to succeed on Fab. Good luck OP  |
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By *3xymamaWoman 51 weeks ago
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"I rarely show my verifications and when I do they are only the social ones, it's my choice.
Completely agree with you, only a few meet veris are on show and equally I don’t want people knowing whether I was wearing tutti-fruity, peaches or strawberry and cream lotion, that’s the surprise for on the night… "
Oh my god! I used to love the Avon peaches cream that came in a peach shaped bottle
Sorry I digress, I attended the first ever Newport social on my own. I wandered in, bought a diet and chatted to a few people. That was over 10 years ago. I have made many good friends from attending that social. Some I wouldn't play with, but are great friends just the same. I enjoy the socials, I often find the smaller ones more intimidating if I'm honest.
Anyway, each to their own. One size doesn't fit all |
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