Hey all. Been on here a while now but getting nowhere.
How do I get someone to verify me when no one responds because I'm not verified?
Its just like when you get a new qualification yet can't get the job without so many years experience. Bit of a ball ache |
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I wish it was that easy. Anxiety is a curse, relentlessly belittling every movement and thaught I have, its rather ironic that it has the voice of my narsacistic ex partner.
I have no problem going to a social event besides walking into the venue alone. All it would take is a few messages with someone then meeting outside the venue and walking in together. It really is that simple to overcome the mental bullshit ????? |
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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago
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Some use status updates and forum interaction as a tool to filter those they don't wish to meet at all. It's a swingers site, not an instant sex site, get your dick wet site...
Swingers= is as much about friendships, connections, chemistry as it is about the naughtiness |
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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago
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"Some use status updates and forum interaction as a tool to filter those they don't wish to meet at all. It's a swingers site, not an instant sex site, get your dick wet site...
Swingers= is as much about friendships, connections, chemistry as it is about the naughtiness "
100% agree 
Too many think this is a fuck site but it's so much more than that.
If I am going to a social and someone is nervous of going in then I'll meet them outside to take them in. It can be nerve racking for your 1st one but it is literally going to the pub. |
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By *einzMan
over a year ago
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Got to agree with everyone here. Socials are the answer for you. Regarding shyness, there are people willing to meet up and ease you into these events, just ask on the forum. You’ll not regret going. |
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While I agree with the advice of encouraging people to go to socials I also don't. Social events aren't for everyone. Some are either just not into it that much or have social anxieties that hinder them going. We have to respect that not all want to rock up to a room full of swingers just to chat. Whilst yeah socialising in the scene is a key part there are a vast majority that still do well on this site but have never been to an event.
The suggestion of clubs is also great but let's face the expense for a single guy is enormous, especially if you then find out it's not for you.
There are chat rooms with web cams maybe try that to get a verification. Or just simply change up your approach on messaging women/couples. There are loads of threads with great advice previously posted that might help.
Remember though this site has a very heavy based male membership compared to women, so to stand out in the crowd not only has your message got to get through but your profile needs to also. What you think might turn a woman on probably won't! Again there are loads of threads where women have given ideas of what they like to see and read in a message. More than likely it'll also be in their profile text! |
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"While I agree with the advice of encouraging people to go to socials I also don't. Social events aren't for everyone. Some are either just not into it that much or have social anxieties that hinder them going. We have to respect that not all want to rock up to a room full of swingers just to chat. Whilst yeah socialising in the scene is a key part there are a vast majority that still do well on this site but have never been to an event.
The suggestion of clubs is also great but let's face the expense for a single guy is enormous, especially if you then find out it's not for you.
There are chat rooms with web cams maybe try that to get a verification. Or just simply change up your approach on messaging women/couples. There are loads of threads with great advice previously posted that might help.
Remember though this site has a very heavy based male membership compared to women, so to stand out in the crowd not only has your message got to get through but your profile needs to also. What you think might turn a woman on probably won't! Again there are loads of threads where women have given ideas of what they like to see and read in a message. More than likely it'll also be in their profile text! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe consider the tone of your updates & how they might come across to others, no one likes a hint of desperation, a lighter tone & you might get some responses. I'm a single female who goes to clubs & socials alone. I'm over 60, fat & have social anxiety, but I know if I don't put the big girl pants on I'm going to be awful lonely X |
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"Hey all. Been on here a while now but getting nowhere.
How do I get someone to verify me when no one responds because I'm not verified?
Its just like when you get a new qualification yet can't get the job without so many years experience. Bit of a ball ache "
Like everyone else, socials are the best way to do this. If you’re serious about becoming a swinger, you’ll make loads of contacts and get a butt load of verifications. If it’s just a shag you’re after, try a dating website. Sometimes the organisers will even meet you beforehand to verify before being invited to a social. |
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"Some use status updates and forum interaction as a tool to filter those they don't wish to meet at all. It's a swingers site, not an instant sex site, get your dick wet site...
Swingers= is as much about friendships, connections, chemistry as it is about the naughtiness
100% agree
Too many think this is a fuck site but it's so much more than that.
If I am going to a social and someone is nervous of going in then I'll meet them outside to take them in. It can be nerve racking for your 1st one but it is literally going to the pub."
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You say you've been here a while, but your profile is only 9 weeks old. It's not unusual to take months to get verified. And what makes you belive that you don't get responses because you aren't verified? Has someone told you that? In which case did they offer you any advice that might help? |
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"I wish it was that easy. Anxiety is a curse, relentlessly belittling every movement and thaught I have, its rather ironic that it has the voice of my narsacistic ex partner.
I have no problem going to a social event besides walking into the venue alone. All it would take is a few messages with someone then meeting outside the venue and walking in together. It really is that simple to overcome the mental bullshit ?????"
I'll take you to a social of you like. Also happy to meet you locally for coffee and verify. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wish it was that easy. Anxiety is a curse, relentlessly belittling every movement and thaught I have, its rather ironic that it has the voice of my narsacistic ex partner.
I have no problem going to a social event besides walking into the venue alone. All it would take is a few messages with someone then meeting outside the venue and walking in together. It really is that simple to overcome the mental bullshit ?????
I'll take you to a social of you like. Also happy to meet you locally for coffee and verify."
Now that's an offer you won't get every day opp. socials are the answer but verification won't change much for you it's about making an impression and people will talk |
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