It's kind of weird, a lot of people say single women are unicorns but we are finding it impossible to find single guys that fit what we want impossible.
It's not that we have a huge list of unobtainable targets set. We are picky, yes. We won't play on first meet and we don't accommodate. You'd think we were asking for Dwayne Johnson. Lol
Anybody else find this or are we just Uber fussy? |
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Totally agree with you, I don't want a first meet in my home so that leads to guys saying bye bye or just blocking me. I see it as a bonus now, if they're not willing to speculate they're not going to accumulate  |
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By *itenDaysCouple
over a year ago
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We see the same issue where you get the messages, send the responses and then nothing or they do not turn up, we find this with single males as well as females.
We like you cannot accommodate but don't mind sorting out hotels or club meets but it is getting a lot harder recently, especially trying to find regular singles. |
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"Totally agree with you, I don't want a first meet in my home so that leads to guys saying bye bye or just blocking me. I see it as a bonus now, if they're not willing to speculate they're not going to accumulate "
Meeting on ‘neutral’ territory for a social shouldn’t be an issue. It’s a chance to not only be sure each other is genuine, but if you do get along, it raises the sexual tension for when you do get together to fuck. |
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"Totally agree with you, I don't want a first meet in my home so that leads to guys saying bye bye or just blocking me. I see it as a bonus now, if they're not willing to speculate they're not going to accumulate
Meeting on ‘neutral’ territory for a social shouldn’t be an issue. It’s a chance to not only be sure each other is genuine, but if you do get along, it raises the sexual tension for when you do get together to fuck."
Unfortunately many guys refuse a social. One guy kept asking me for a meet and I invited him to mine for a cuppa. Stating that it was just a chat and a drink. He refused as he wasn't willing to travel for just a social as he says this is a sex site. |
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Many people forget about the social side of things many think everyone on here just here to have sex with everyone one. Social meet can be great fun and teasing even if it just banter and flirty fun |
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Yeah, a social is no big deal
If it goes well great, if not no harm no foul
The last social I had was fine but after meeting in person I text after to say it was nice to meet but I wasn't interested in more and that was that, no stress |
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"Yeah, a social is no big deal
If it goes well great, if not no harm no foul
The last social I had was fine but after meeting in person I text after to say it was nice to meet but I wasn't interested in more and that was that, no stress "
This is how things should be, however a lot of guys think sex sex sex. If not offering on 1st meeting then they go away.
Glad it's not just us though. |
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"It's kind of weird, a lot of people say single women are unicorns but we are finding it impossible to find single guys that fit what we want impossible.
It's not that we have a huge list of unobtainable targets set. We are picky, yes. We won't play on first meet and we don't accommodate. You'd think we were asking for Dwayne Johnson. Lol
Anybody else find this or are we just Uber fussy?"
That about sums it up in our experience too!
May be imagining this, but seems worse since the return from Covid than before. restrictions. |
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Fitting what you want is the key here, I suspect. You might find someone suitable who's not available when you are. And the ones who are available don't float your boat. Then there's the question of whether they'll turn up or not. Some chaps talk a good fight. There are various elements at play here that remind me of Parkinson's Law of job applications, which held that the perfect job advertisement would receive one reply from the ideal candidate. More than one application, you've been too vague. No applications at all, you've been too specific. |
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"Totally agree with you, I don't want a first meet in my home so that leads to guys saying bye bye or just blocking me. I see it as a bonus now, if they're not willing to speculate they're not going to accumulate
Meeting on ‘neutral’ territory for a social shouldn’t be an issue. It’s a chance to not only be sure each other is genuine, but if you do get along, it raises the sexual tension for when you do get together to fuck.
Unfortunately many guys refuse a social. One guy kept asking me for a meet and I invited him to mine for a cuppa. Stating that it was just a chat and a drink. He refused as he wasn't willing to travel for just a social as he says this is a sex site. "
I’d never turn down a cuppa, tea is better than sex |
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"Totally agree with you, I don't want a first meet in my home so that leads to guys saying bye bye or just blocking me. I see it as a bonus now, if they're not willing to speculate they're not going to accumulate
Meeting on ‘neutral’ territory for a social shouldn’t be an issue. It’s a chance to not only be sure each other is genuine, but if you do get along, it raises the sexual tension for when you do get together to fuck.
Unfortunately many guys refuse a social. One guy kept asking me for a meet and I invited him to mine for a cuppa. Stating that it was just a chat and a drink. He refused as he wasn't willing to travel for just a social as he says this is a sex site. "
That's what I'm getting nowadays, never used to struggle to get a social before, but in the last few months there's a definite shift. I now accept that all my meets will be at clubs X |
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It's a male thing. Most men don't need a connection to fuck yet most women need a connection before anything happens. It's just biology. Personally I need a good level of intimacy otherwise it is just sex and its just all a bit mechanical. At the very least, I need a good snog before the nekid bit. |
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"It's a male thing. Most men don't need a connection to fuck yet most women need a connection before anything happens. It's just biology. Personally I need a good level of intimacy otherwise it is just sex and its just all a bit mechanical. At the very least, I need a good snog before the nekid bit. "
Omg the snog is key. The passion killer for me is that feeling of expectation a man brings into your home, which leaves you feeling obliged not to waste their time. To cut that out totally it's easier to meet in clubs, total choice & transparency all round & its easier to say no X |
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Yep, the cringe bit when your there, they are there, you set it all up so your not backing out but you know this might be a bit awkward. I had a meet once and it wasn't working for either of us and after 5 mins we just had to stop, laugh it off as a failure and go our separate ways. I can't just get my end away. A mind fuck is just as good as a physical one. |
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I went to a party once &was the only one turned up, I was happily enjoying a cuppa & the guy, who was over 30 years younger than me, said oh well I guess we'll have to fuck then  there wasn't the slightest whiff of a click...AWKWARD & he didn't take no very well because he'd 'wasted his night. He'd had the pleasure of my company for 2 hours ffs |
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I'm always happy to chat over a cuppa, and flirt and seduce if the signals are right. I would never expect sex, and certainly never get abusive. After all, what's wrong with a bit of flirty dating? |
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By *ac711Man
over a year ago
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"Totally agree with you, I don't want a first meet in my home so that leads to guys saying bye bye or just blocking me. I see it as a bonus now, if they're not willing to speculate they're not going to accumulate
Meeting on ‘neutral’ territory for a social shouldn’t be an issue. It’s a chance to not only be sure each other is genuine, but if you do get along, it raises the sexual tension for when you do get together to fuck.
Unfortunately many guys refuse a social. One guy kept asking me for a meet and I invited him to mine for a cuppa. Stating that it was just a chat and a drink. He refused as he wasn't willing to travel for just a social as he says this is a sex site. "
You are welcome to join me at my place for a social meet plenty of coffee available x |
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It's funny to hear us chaps as unicorns but I have been for some lovely people. Must be friendship and a connection there too for all parties involved. But when it all clicks some amazing times can be had by everyone x |
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