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This is what I do. I don’t think it’s pushy, but maybe wrong.
If I send a message & it’s been read I’ll wait a couple of days & ask “I don’t know if you missed my message or shall I move along “
I’ve had replies that have stated they’ve missed the message & we’ve met & I’ve had the “yes please I thinks it’s best” which I’ve always respected.
What’s peoples thoughts on getting a “shall I move along” message? |
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Occasionally one of us will read a message but won't reply, intending to reply later. We normally mark it 'unread' but sometimes don't.
A polite follow up message like that is OK and pretty harmless, in our opinion. You'll either get a 'no thanks', ignored again, blocked or a positive message.  |
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I don’t see an issue in a follow up message, as long as it’s polite. Getting shitty for a non response is so childish, makes me think how some people on here can be considered adults.
If they have read and not sent a response, it’s more often than not a no! Just accept it and move on. |
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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t see an issue in a follow up message, as long as it’s polite. Getting shitty for a non response is so childish, makes me think how some people on here can be considered adults.
If they have read and not sent a response, it’s more often than not a no! Just accept it and move on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women get so many messages on here that they can afford to be really picky.
Imagine yourself walking into a bar and 9/10 of the women there wanted you…..that’s the situation you’re in unfortunately so you’ve got to stand out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No reply is a reply.
Move on.
Nobody accidentally reads a message.
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This
Also, if you just delete all your sent mail then you can't even trouble yourself by checking it's status
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only time I don't reply is if they haven't read my full profile. I've very limited free time and stipulate early afternoon only midweek if very local.
I get messages from people over 10 miles+ away wanting evening weekend, over night meets. I look at their profile and if they are too far, married or no public photos I wont reply. It says so in my bio |
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"No reply is a reply.
Move on.
Nobody accidentally reads a message.
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I agree with this too. There's no need to get arsey with anyone should they choose not to reply. Just move on and spend your time on people who do choose to reply. |
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I normally only message once, some probably haven't been seen or read and meant to reply later but didn't. I do wonder if I've missed potential meets but I'm sure they will approach me if want to anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read all my messages and if you're not for me, I mark as unread until I do a delete session. Repeated messages when I haven't replied earn the profile a block. |
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"This is what I do. I don’t think it’s pushy, but maybe wrong.
If I send a message & it’s been read I’ll wait a couple of days & ask “I don’t know if you missed my message or shall I move along “
I’ve had replies that have stated they’ve missed the message & we’ve met & I’ve had the “yes please I thinks it’s best” which I’ve always respected.
What’s peoples thoughts on getting a “shall I move along” message? "
I call BS. You get replies? 
Seriously though, your approach seems to be working out for you so there is no need to worry about what anyone else thinks. That's the beauty of places like this, everyone is free to find what works best for them. And if you find someone who is on the same wavelength, even if it is just messages, then good for you . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had some appallingly abusive messages because I haven't replied.
One in particular where we potentially might have met. I didn't reply for a few days and got called all sorts.
Puts me off meeting anyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had some appallingly abusive messages because I haven't replied.
One in particular where we potentially might have met. I didn't reply for a few days and got called all sorts.
Puts me off meeting anyone "
This is the issue with people thinking they’re entitled to a reply.
Fail to reply you’re in the wrong.
Reply with a ‘no thanks’ then await abuse.
Can’t win.
This is why I generally just block those I’m not interested in. |
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Might take us days to reply to a new message. We've only got limited time, sometimes a message will come through and the receiver may be interested but currenty busy with other members. We just leave the message there and move on. If anything comes back its a bonus. |
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"I've had some appallingly abusive messages because I haven't replied.
One in particular where we potentially might have met. I didn't reply for a few days and got called all sorts.
Puts me off meeting anyone "
That’s unacceptable. |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
West Mids |
"This is what I do. I don’t think it’s pushy, but maybe wrong.
If I send a message & it’s been read I’ll wait a couple of days & ask “I don’t know if you missed my message or shall I move along “
I’ve had replies that have stated they’ve missed the message & we’ve met & I’ve had the “yes please I thinks it’s best” which I’ve always respected.
What’s peoples thoughts on getting a “shall I move along” message? "
If we had ignored the first one we would ignore the second one.
The clarification of what no reply means is there for us all to see in the FAQS. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A no reply is to be taken as a no thank you, it's not difficult to understand but people continue to get arsey about that sense of entitlement & this misplaced view that it's ignorant/rude not to reply. I wouldn't expect to be approached in Asda with a 'hey nice tits' & to politely respond, 'thank you but no thank you'. Try it tomorrow guys & see how many polite responses you get X |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
West Mids |
"A no reply is to be taken as a no thank you, it's not difficult to understand but people continue to get arsey about that sense of entitlement & this misplaced view that it's ignorant/rude not to reply. I wouldn't expect to be approached in Asda with a 'hey nice tits' & to politely respond, 'thank you but no thank you'. Try it tomorrow guys & see how many polite responses you get X"
Perfectly put.
Come on chaps, stop moaning so immaturely.
If you can't cope with how the site works, maybe you should reconsider being a member.
Tell you what we find REALLY funny.
You don't find many couples moaning about this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women get so many messages on here that they can afford to be really picky.
Imagine yourself walking into a bar and 9/10 of the women there wanted you…..that’s the situation you’re in unfortunately so you’ve got to stand out! "
OMG I'll have a 10some! |
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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago
Uptown Top Ranking |
"A no reply is to be taken as a no thank you, it's not difficult to understand but people continue to get arsey about that sense of entitlement & this misplaced view that it's ignorant/rude not to reply. I wouldn't expect to be approached in Asda with a 'hey nice tits' & to politely respond, 'thank you but no thank you'. Try it tomorrow guys & see how many polite responses you get X"
Same as people who go straight to talking about their genitals... just delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don't like their profile or they are not your type what are you supposed to say....
Guys message over and over when you haven't replied, so God help you if you do, they don't take the hint, if I don't reply I'm not interested |
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"A no reply is to be taken as a no thank you, it's not difficult to understand but people continue to get arsey about that sense of entitlement & this misplaced view that it's ignorant/rude not to reply. I wouldn't expect to be approached in Asda with a 'hey nice tits' & to politely respond, 'thank you but no thank you'. Try it tomorrow guys & see how many polite responses you get X
Same as people who go straight to talking about their genitals... just delete "
I’m assuming that was directed at me
So sorry…I was meant to be a joke, but my sense of humour is sometimes very dry. I do sincerely apologise.  |
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