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Would this work and help us gen swingers??

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

All profiles that are active but haven't had a meet,phone or photo verified in the 6 months or up to a year even since they joined should get booted because why else are they on here if not to perv ppls piks,copy them or waste folks time and all cpls must get photo varied before added as a member to the site ,photo will always be kept private its just so fab can see the 2 in the same pik, now i know this wouldn't get rid of the time wasters and fakes but it would lower that amount massively the time wasters and fakes on this site now who thinks that these could work and aid us genuine folk coz lets be fair its getting beyond now on here ????????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OK think you on the right lines, boot profiles who are not regular users, ie no activity, new verifications, new pictures or Site Supporters with in a 6 month period. However Photo Verification is something I have not done ........ ever and will not do either. Lets face it here anyone can set up a profile and add pics as they feel fit and getting Photo Verified wont stop them either.......

Dont get me wrong we agree something needs to be done but dont think Photo Verification would work effectivly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont get me wrong we agree something needs to be done but dont think Photo Verification would work effectivly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we agree this site full of fake profiles and couples that never meet they shouled be booted or even add a flag saying timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

stop people joining after midnight on a Fri & Sat night will cut down the wankers by about 75% i reckon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight...."

Why do they need to be photo verified when they have plenty of in the flesh verifications. It's a reasonable question they'd raised so why post crap? Either contribute or say nowt.

Totally agree with the thread posters. Something has to be done. Too many dreamers, wannabies and time wasters on here x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All profiles that are active but haven't had a meet,phone or photo verified in the 6 months or up to a year even since they joined should get booted because why else are they on here if not to perv ppls piks,copy them or waste folks time and all cpls must get photo varied before added as a member to the site ,photo will always be kept private its just so fab can see the 2 in the same pik, now i know this wouldn't get rid of the time wasters and fakes but it would lower that amount massively the time wasters and fakes on this site now who thinks that these could work and aid us genuine folk coz lets be fair its getting beyond now on here ????????"

Spot on but nothing will be done

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well if you all have ideas, please post them in the site feedback forum.

Admin will see it in there and act apon it if there is enough support.

They are constantly looking on helping you make the most of the site, and anything that can out the fake, timewasers, and profile hoppers, is welcomed.

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By *f3_ladyWoman over a year ago

Cardiff

What about those that have plenty of in person verifications but then have to take time out for six months for example due to ill health or family circumstances? Do they get booted even though they are totally genuine?

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight....

Why do they need to be photo verified when they have plenty of in the flesh verifications. It's a reasonable question they'd raised so why post crap? Either contribute or say nowt.

Totally agree with the thread posters. Something has to be done. Too many dreamers, wannabies and time wasters on here x"

Agree with this and OP. but as you say a couple being photo verified is not needed as long as upto date meet in person veris are on profile. And although we have pics on ours they are only of mrs.. a couple with only pics of male we would think ..oh yeah !!

But yes something needs to be done.

Also would be good if it was possible to restrict new members who join Frid,sat or sun and maybe not allow them to message people over that period until mon. this would restrict the shit we get from d*unk blokes wanting a shag so jiin on weekend do all they can to get on and annoy members then delete account on monday... thats not a swinger. lets face it.

Its easy enough to get meet i person veried by going to a social so no excuse.

Yes something needs to be done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Weve uploaded many pics but it wont work weve got meet verifies and webcam , u think that would be enough plus we been to a few clubs and socials x

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

How about you if you see profiles which haven't been verified in anyway, have up to date verifications, up to date pictures etc that you pass them by.

Just because they don't "conform" to your expectations doesn't make them any less genuine in my opinion.

You use the site how you see fit and let others use it their own way.

There are filters to stop unverified people from contacting you, try using them

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Weve uploaded many pics but it wont work weve got meet verifies and webcam , u think that would be enough plus we been to a few clubs and socials x"

Yep that should be enough. We only consider meet in person veris, not phone or webcam or photo verified. we prefer to know someone has met them in person.. doesnt need to be play meet social meet is fine.

We wouldnt think you should need anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight....

Why do they need to be photo verified when they have plenty of in the flesh verifications. It's a reasonable question they'd raised so why post crap? Either contribute or say nowt.

Totally agree with the thread posters. Something has to be done. Too many dreamers, wannabies and time wasters on here x"

Its hardly 'crap'. If they want other people to be pic-verified then practice what you preach. Pull your tampax out sweetie, bitchiness doesn't befit you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the veris for us, we like to have feedback from people that we meet, and some are quite detailed. We don't want to publish what we consider "private", but would be more than happy with a simple check box on our profile that those who have met us could tick to say they've met us and that we're who we say we are, not to publish on the web just what we've got up to behind closed doors.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The only reason we arnt photo varied our selfs is coz ours is a new prof due to me fekking the last 1 up and as we are pretty well known on here we just asked folk that have met/played or know us to vari us so for us no point in getting photo varied as we can prove our wroth easily but if it was made mandatory that all new cpls had to get photo varied then we would have done it but if fab made it that there's no other way to get on site unless your photo varied by them ie,a male and fem in same pik together holding a piece of paper with fab swingers on would minamize alot of time wasters and fakes,we agree it wont always work but its better than the way it is now ,any bugger joining willy nilly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight....

Why do they need to be photo verified when they have plenty of in the flesh verifications. It's a reasonable question they'd raised so why post crap? Either contribute or say nowt.

Totally agree with the thread posters. Something has to be done. Too many dreamers, wannabies and time wasters on here x

Its hardly 'crap'. If they want other people to be pic-verified then practice what you preach. Pull your tampax out sweetie, bitchiness doesn't befit you."
like ive said if it was made mandatory then your comment wouldn't have grounds that's the whole point of this thread don't you not agree????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We think that people who are not verified, or without profile pictures etc, you should be able to block from viewing your profile - and thus be filtered from your search results.

read here, and agree please!

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/121744

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes we know that but would it not be better to boot active profiles which are clearly not meeting or varied in any way after a certain time span to ensure that its mostly gen cpls o here and by photo varifying with fab as a cpl right from the offset would also aid us all in the same sort of way ,no pick to prove that you are a cpl no entry would work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight....

Why do they need to be photo verified when they have plenty of in the flesh verifications. It's a reasonable question they'd raised so why post crap? Either contribute or say nowt.

Totally agree with the thread posters. Something has to be done. Too many dreamers, wannabies and time wasters on here x

Its hardly 'crap'. If they want other people to be pic-verified then practice what you preach. Pull your tampax out sweetie, bitchiness doesn't befit you.like ive said if it was made mandatory then your comment wouldn't have grounds that's the whole point of this thread don't you not agree????"

Fair enough, I now understand what you are trying to say. My bad, I hold my hands up and admit that I read it in a rush and the wrong way.

I busted one little runt the other day who'd used his own couples account to falsely verify his own male account, so unfortunately the fakes won't stop, but I agree, put the suggestion to admin and get some support behind it on the feedback forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight....

Why do they need to be photo verified when they have plenty of in the flesh verifications. It's a reasonable question they'd raised so why post crap? Either contribute or say nowt.

Totally agree with the thread posters. Something has to be done. Too many dreamers, wannabies and time wasters on here x

Fair enough, I now understand what you are trying to say. My bad, I hold my hands up and admit that I read it in a rush and the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use filters provided.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

God folk going on about filters and missing the whole point of thread ,yes we all kno bout filters but still dosent stop th site over flowing with wasters does it now thats the point of the thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Says the couple who aren't photo-verified themselves. Riiiiiiight....

Why do they need to be photo verified when they have plenty of in the flesh verifications. It's a reasonable question they'd raised so why post crap? Either contribute or say nowt.

Totally agree with the thread posters. Something has to be done. Too many dreamers, wannabies and time wasters on here x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why and what reason would admin need to remove/delete inactive accounts?

If you are suggesting that because a user doesn't get a meet within 6 months plus or unless they upload a photo verified within that time frame then it gets deleted?

Even if admin could or did they have a legal obligation to hold information for a specified time.

The problem we have is people have the choice to use their account for whatever reason they choose, for example the lady might be pregnant or they decide to take a break; many have done that which would render the 6 month theory redundant also how can you justify putting a time frame on people so they keep their account, after all I thought this site was supposed to be a no pressure place.

Then we get to how do you know they are not using the account and meeting people? All admin have is when they are logged in amongst other server information, they do not have the ability to verify you have had a meet at any time. So if the parties do not verify each other then there is no way of proving, and then there’s the privacy of actually showing it on your profile even if a meet did take place or are we saying you have to show a verification to prove you are not a fake?

Now onto the “fake profiles” there are some very adept people on the internet and some of these people have the ability to fake a photo relatively easily, yes even a “verified” photo and even verify it! So how do admin combat that? Well the answer is they can’t

By the very nature of this site it will have fake profiles, some purely for the element of perving profiles, some for malicious acts (allegedly “Daily Mail”) and some to waste people’s time intentionally and unintentionally.

The only way to actually verify if someone is genuine is to meet socially. All the verified options be it the green tick the photo verified flag or membership support have face value and mean nothing if the person doesn’t want or can’t meet. There is no way admin can even attempt to enforce this even if they did try to implement it or even if the site was a paid site only.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why and what reason would admin need to remove/delete inactive accounts?

If you are suggesting that because a user doesn't get a meet within 6 months plus or unless they upload a photo verified within that time frame then it gets deleted?

Even if admin could or did they have a legal obligation to hold information for a specified time.

not talking about folk taking time out for health/preganancy or what ever its just from the off set making it mandatory for new cpls to send in a pik with them both in there before they can use site and lets be fair prof when you see a profile that active but with absolutly no piks ,varis or nuffing and they been on here over a year what are they doing ????

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why and what reason would admin need to remove/delete inactive accounts?

If you are suggesting that because a user doesn't get a meet within 6 months plus or unless they upload a photo verified within that time frame then it gets deleted?

Even if admin could or did they have a legal obligation to hold information for a specified time.

and again i think your missing the point prof tbh m8

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let me get on the same page as you

" haven't had a meet,phone or photo verified in the 6 months or up to a year even since they joined should get booted "

Are we saying that if the account does not have the above they get their account suspended or deleted?

Then you reply with
" making it mandatory for new cpls "

Are you saying that they have no choice BUT to prove they are genuine, yet couples like yourself and others who have “granddaddy” rights don’t?

As I posted above it is easy to fake a photo.

" when you see a profile that active but with absolutly no piks ,varis or nuffing and they been on here over a year what are they doing ???? "

I don’t know the answer to this, maybe they have dual profiles so they can enter the chat rooms, maybe they want to keep up with people, maybe they want to stalk! Maybe they just want to perv photo’s who knows.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Let me get on the same page as you

haven't had a meet,phone or photo verified in the 6 months or up to a year even since they joined should get booted

Are we saying that if the account does not have the above they get their account suspended or deleted?

Then you reply with making it mandatory for new cpls

Are you saying that they have no choice BUT to prove they are genuine, yet couples like yourself and others who have “granddaddy” rights don’t?

As I posted above it is easy to fake a photo.

when you see a profile that active but with absolutly no piks ,varis or nuffing and they been on here over a year what are they doing ????

Grandaddy rights !!! m8 why so arsy???That's the whole point of the thread and m8 we have been on here 5 years and have been picture varied right up until recently because we set up a new account and if i had to send fab in a pik to show that we are a cpl to prove our self then not a prob at all and i think every new cpl and cpls that aint varied in any way who are members should do the same or loose they account or cant join up,that will filter a lot of crap out big time ,not all but a lot but grandaddy rights,cummon dude that's harsh

and as for active accounts that aint got any photos,or varis of any sort and have been sculling round the site for considerable lengths of time like a year or so should be booted ,why else would they be on here it is a swingers site for swingers do meet and greet not to be perved at by folk who aint ever gonna meet at all???

but i not going to get into this with a singleton as my suggestion was purely to try make thing easier for us gen cpls ,aint mentioned single blokes or fems just cpls but again it should go for all ,whats good for the goose and all

But grandaddy right wtf???

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

it would help if folk actually read what id put

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

We think that people who are not verified, or without profile pictures etc, you should be able to block from viewing your profile - and thus be filtered from your search results.

read here, and agree please!

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/121744"

Thats all that needs to be done.. if then people are not verified not meeting etc you can stop them veiwing your profile.

What annoys us is the guys mainly that are here to just chat, webcam or just look at everyones pics. now if people are happy to let them view their pics fair enough. but we would rather only let people we are interested in meeting view our pics. We are here to meet not provide material for guys who arent planning to meet anyone wank over. plenty of sites for that already. This is after all a swinging site not a site just to provide pics for non genuine people and non swingers to wank to.

It is completely down to each person how they use their account but it is a swinging site and think what alot would appreciate is the genuine swingers being favoured and looked after a bit more and reducing the number of non gen swingers on the site.. if you cant do that then you should have the right to decide who can look at your profile and pics. Okay yes you dont have to have pics but you do need them to help you find the guys or people you do want to meet.

Our opinion and we would enjoy the site so much more if it was like that.

Currently see new messages in our inbox and before opening the we sigh and say 'oh now what' because its usually a clearly non genuine guy.. oh the joy if its from a genuine one.. but not many of then..

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

Even if I wasn't verified by other users, I would not be putting on a picture of ourselves with a piece of paper with the word FABSWINGERS on it.

Pictures like that can be easily found and can do a lot of damage to reputations and families if they fall into the wrong hands.

I don't NEED to prove we are genuine to anyone. If I chose not to have pictures or verifications then I wouldn't have them.

Having profiles where they haven't been used for "x" amount of time does not slow the site down, it's not going to slow it down either.

Admin have actually answered questions regarding this before and have said that they have no intention of deleting inactive accounts, no matter how long they have been inactive.

I like the idea about being able to block your profile from people you don't want to be contacted by. Altho I think that would just make way for a whole new plethora of threads about blocking

Not having pics or verifications doesn't make someone fake, or a timewaster or even not genuine. It just means they use the site differently to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Even if I wasn't verified by other users, I would not be putting on a picture of ourselves with a piece of paper with the word FABSWINGERS on it.

Pictures like that can be easily found and can do a lot of damage to reputations and families if they fall into the wrong hands.

I don't NEED to prove we are genuine to anyone. If I chose not to have pictures or verifications then I wouldn't have them.

Having profiles where they haven't been used for "x" amount of time does not slow the site down, it's not going to slow it down either.

Admin have actually answered questions regarding this before and have said that they have no intention of deleting inactive accounts, no matter how long they have been inactive.

I like the idea about being able to block your profile from people you don't want to be contacted by. Altho I think that would just make way for a whole new plethora of threads about blocking

Not having pics or verifications doesn't make someone fake, or a timewaster or even not genuine. It just means they use the site differently to you."

the pik that you are referring to would be sent direct as a 1 off to fab swingers direct to be excepted for your cpls profile and its not about speeding the site up its that if folk are gen bout all this from the time they start using the site then they shouldn't have a prob wi sending in a piks if they are genuine and want to join the sceene and the site its up to the if they want to show it on they prof but a little tick from fab letting us know that they have sent a pick in aof a male and fem in same pik then thats got2 help us all and get them soon as they join and its not about showing just anybody the pick itll be showing the runners of fab so they can say if ,when ,how,yes or no ?

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

oh, I know how the pic verification works. I don't need to be told step by step but it's still not something that we will consider doing.

If it's not about slowing the site down and you say the filters are not the answer then I have no idea why you want to get rid of people who are using the site differently to you.

I have been on other sites where you have to pay a monthly fee, and there was still people who were just picture collectors etc.

Using the filters correctly will stop those who are unverified from contacting you, it will stop those without public pictures from contacting you. What more is it that you actually are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm genuine

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"oh, I know how the pic verification works. I don't need to be told step by step but it's still not something that we will consider doing.

If it's not about slowing the site down and you say the filters are not the answer then I have no idea why you want to get rid of people who are using the site differently to you.

I have been on other sites where you have to pay a monthly fee, and there was still people who were just picture collectors etc.

Using the filters correctly will stop those who are unverified from contacting you, it will stop those without public pictures from contacting you. What more is it that you actually are looking for?"

Dont you think it help drastically slow down the flux of cpls profiles who arnt even cpls ,and why would you join a swingers site if your not going to meet and if the site required it every bugger would send in a pik if it ment staying on or getting booted and i don't believe otherwise ,after all it is a free site so to ask a cpl as they joining to send a pik ov them selvs to show that they are a cpl shouldn't be an issue but seems for some it would be????

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

no, i don't think it would drastically reduce fake couples profiles being made.

You say they need to do it within the first what? 6 months or a year? So a new couples profile could be opened and for that amount of time they don't have to do a thing, no photo verification, no meet verification, no photos on profile. At the end of the allotted time, they get a notice saying verify or profile is deleted. So the person deletes it themselves and then sets up another fake profile. They can carry on doing that until the end of time because, well, they can.

Forcing people to do things is only going to drive people away IMO. It's a free, fun site and it should stay that way.

My motto on here is "use the site as you see fit, others will use it as they see fit".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

@the OP I wasn’t and am not being arsey or derogatory , for clarification “grand daddy” rights happened to me on another site when they introduced a fee for joining, hence I had in affect a free single guys account with all the privileges that went with paying. Were new guys had to pay for it, I didn’t have to prove who I was claiming to be and to be honest it was totally unfair.

What I’m trying to do is discuss the very point you are trying to present to admin, who ultimately have the say on how the site is run and no doubt have tried to solve the problem.

I agree that there is a need for a more stringent vetting process and I don’t profess to have the answer that’s why the subject has been raised in the forum, so it can be discussed and a solution/ recommendation can be presented to the relevant people.

But you need to remember that at some point someone new who is only curious in the scene will stumble or get prompted to sign up to the site whether they are genuine or not there is no vetting of any sort no need to upload a photo and no need to prove yourself.

Sending a photo to admin is not going to work as my previous post explains they are super easy to fake. Only today I have reported a fake account, so if it’s that easy to make a fake profile how easy to you think it is to get photo verified?

The only way I see that you can verify couples as genuine is by a social or club as _ilandlarry post highlights it can’t be enforceable, but im sure admin are open to idea’s

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely if you don't trust anyone that doesn't meet a certain criteria, you just avoid making arrangements with them. You cannot make people present pictures of themselves as a joining criteria.

I have had meets with people who have no public veris, no public pics etc and they have been great. I have also had my time wasted by a couple with a huge list of veris. They strung me along completely, even let me book the hotel etc.

I do agree with the idea of not being able to contact people within say 72hrs of joining, would definitely reduce the weekend d*unken messages.

I just don't think you can use public displayed information as a way of ing out timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We think that people who are not verified, or without profile pictures etc, you should be able to block from viewing your profile - and thus be filtered from your search results.

read here, and agree please!

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/121744

Thats all that needs to be done.. if then people are not verified not meeting etc you can stop them veiwing your profile.

Our opinion and we would enjoy the site so much more if it was like that.

There are a few simple answers to this.

1 List your pics as private, so as you are able to send them to whom you choose.

2 List your pics as viewable by friends only, and choose your friends

Any other problems could be sorted by the appropriate filters.

Favouring "genuine swingers" as you put it is IMO flawed, who selects these genuine swingers? What happens when you find yourselves classed as a non genuine and your account deleted ?

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By *elshcoup3Couple over a year ago

rhondda cynon taff

There are a few simple answers to this.

1 List your pics as private, so as you are able to send them to whom you choose.

2 List your pics as viewable by friends only, and choose your friends

Any other problems could be sorted by the appropriate filters.

Favouring "genuine swingers" as you put it is IMO flawed, who selects these genuine swingers? What happens when you find yourselves classed as a non genuine and your account deleted ?

We have pics that only our friends on here can see, we have also been to the socials in Cardiff and in Swansea, and also have met a few people who are on this site.

We have no veri`s on our profile..... SO DOES THAT MEAN WE ARE NOT GENUINE ??? I think NOT. We are not concerned that we have no verifacations on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If after 6 months singles or couples have no verifications of meeting then they should be removed think we all know if after 6 months you have not met anyone chances are your not going to it's not rocket science lol.

We also think going on cam and talking to someone on the phone should not count.

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"If after 6 months singles or couples have no verifications of meeting then they should be removed think we all know if after 6 months you have not met anyone chances are your not going to it's not rocket science lol.

We also think going on cam and talking to someone on the phone should not count."

what about those who don't want verifications? Why shouldn't they be allowed to use a FREE site because you say so?

If you have a problem with people with no verifications then block them!

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

I didn't say they weren't meeting people. Some people meet but don't bother with verifications so why should they HAVE to get them to stay on the site?

Some people use the site to find out about socials in clubs and nothing more. Why should they have to conform to yours and the op's standards because you say so?

Why can't you let others use the site as they see fit?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Even if I wasn't verified by other users, I would not be putting on a picture of ourselves with a piece of paper with the word FABSWINGERS on it.

Pictures like that can be easily found and can do a lot of damage to reputations and families if they fall into the wrong hands.

I don't NEED to prove we are genuine to anyone. If I chose not to have pictures or verifications then I wouldn't have them.

Having profiles where they haven't been used for "x" amount of time does not slow the site down, it's not going to slow it down either.

Admin have actually answered questions regarding this before and have said that they have no intention of deleting inactive accounts, no matter how long they have been inactive.

I like the idea about being able to block your profile from people you don't want to be contacted by. Altho I think that would just make way for a whole new plethora of threads about blocking

Not having pics or verifications doesn't make someone fake, or a timewaster or even not genuine. It just means they use the site differently to you."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't say they weren't meeting people. Some people meet but don't bother with verifications so why should they HAVE to get them to stay on the site?

Some people use the site to find out about socials in clubs and nothing more. Why should they have to conform to yours and the op's standards because you say so?

Why can't you let others use the site as they see fit?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we haven't had a verify in longer than 6 mnths,dont meen were not genuine or pic hunters were sure fab isnt the only site on the net that has pics.

we just have circumstances that makes it difficult to meet all the time,we do attend most cardiff socials

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"we haven't had a verify in longer than 6 mnths,dont meen were not genuine or pic hunters were sure fab isnt the only site on the net that has pics.

we just have circumstances that makes it difficult to meet all the time,we do attend most cardiff socials

But you have veri from the socials so people have seen you know you are genuine thats all that matters. social veris are all good thats the only ones we put on, at least people get to see veris but can stay discrete with play meets etc..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

forgot we had soz haven't looked at them in ages lol.

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"forgot we had soz haven't looked at them in ages lol.

It doesnt take alot to confuse me i know lol was a bit baffled.. we only put up social veris for us its enough.

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Use filters provided."

Where is the filter that stops fakes profile from messaging me.....where is the filter that stops bi's from messaging me. Trouble in this game we rely on the honesty of others, sadly honesty is in short supply....once a faker is outed it's too simple for them to delete old profile, make a new one....some aren't even very bright when it come to that and set up their new profile with the same or similar username and even use the same pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We also think going on cam and talking to someone on the phone should not count."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I just genuinely think that anybody who puts any sort of ideas up for thought in here are gonna get bombarded with folk that simply miss the point and just want to argue just outa boredom. Now how could anybody even suggest that having singles when they join sending a photo of themselves just to show that there's 1 person in that pick so here's a singles account and a tick and the same for cpls and everybody else is a bad idea now would it make anything any worse?????? The only thing a time waster hates is wasting his own time so you think the majority of wasters are gonna be putting piks of themselves onto accounts to waste folks time and to have they face seen as a time waster and they are recognized as 1 now i think not so for that reason if you set these rules down at the front door everybody will conform.Its always the same with new things or ideas ppl will always knock them until they start working and even then they'll never bow and say ok you've got a point coz folk are just way to argumentative but this idea will do away with the vast majority of fake profiles and alot of fri,sat and sun idiots joining just coz they have just come in from clubbing and they offit and as for the folk that say that they would never send a pick in of them selfs to prove nuffing well that's absolute rubbish because if you wanted to join the site and it was required youd do it and its alright to sit there and say it when youve already got an account but if you were required to send a pik in then you would and if you didnt then your out simples the choice would be yours

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"I just genuinely think that anybody who puts any sort of ideas up for thought in here are gonna get bombarded with folk that simply miss the point and just want to argue just outa boredom. Now how could anybody even suggest that having singles when they join sending a photo of themselves just to show that there's 1 person in that pick so here's a singles account and a tick and the same for cpls and everybody else is a bad idea now would it make anything any worse?????? The only thing a time waster hates is wasting his own time so you think the majority of wasters are gonna be putting piks of themselves onto accounts to waste folks time and to have they face seen as a time waster and they are recognized as 1 now i think not so for that reason if you set these rules down at the front door everybody will conform.Its always the same with new things or ideas ppl will always knock them until they start working and even then they'll never bow and say ok you've got a point coz folk are just way to argumentative but this idea will do away with the vast majority of fake profiles and alot of fri,sat and sun idiots joining just coz they have just come in from clubbing and they offit and as for the folk that say that they would never send a pick in of them selfs to prove nuffing well that's absolute rubbish because if you wanted to join the site and it was required youd do it and its alright to sit there and say it when youve already got an account but if you were required to send a pik in then you would and if you didnt then your out simples the choice would be yours "

I wouldn't join a site where a picture of me was a required element. No matter what you say. There are plenty sites out there that don't have that as a "must have" to join.

We have been on here for about 5 years now and NEVER encountered a timewaster. We have never had anyone arrange a meet and then pulled out because we use the filters provided and make sure that we go with our gut instinct with regards to folk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I wouldn't join a site where a picture of me was a required element. No matter what you say. There are plenty sites out there that don't have that as a "must have" to join.

That's is the point inni ??? That its up to you at the front door weather you chose to send a pick just for verifying purposes or jog on and we have been on here round 5 or so years our selfs and just got back on the scene after 18 months off where we to never had our time wasted but in the last 3 months we have had a night mare of a time with being messed around and getting our time wasted even last night at our party loads turned up but a few didn't who had confirmed and didn't even bother letting us know ,1 even made an excuse and was sat in a pub in Cardiff till 2 this morn which if they weren't attending another fit cpl was gagging to come so since we have been back we have noticed a sharp rise in shit cumming onto this site and fucking everybody around now good for you that you've never been messed around in the 5 years you been on here but tbh your 1 ov the very few that can state that but the vast majority has been stung more than 1s and to top it all off we are filtered up to the eyeballs on this site our selfs but we still get our time wasted so i think your just speaking for your self so its really not an avid argument when im talking bout the site and things over all in general

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

You are speaking for yourself too tho, we can only speak for ourselves.

I have known people to get mucked about a bit but I also know people who have never had a bit of bother too.

There are people on this thread who have agreed with both sides of the argument, if you like. It doesn't mean that yours is any more valid than mine.

I genuinely don't think that getting photo verified from the initial sign up will stop people from turning up for meets or socials.

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

and for what it's worth .... i'm not here to be educated. I'm here to have fun!!! I don't want a bloody examination before I can join a website and I doubt the majority of people do either. But you keep living in your little bubble that you are mr/s right!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"and for what it's worth .... i'm not here to be educated. I'm here to have fun!!! I don't want a bloody examination before I can join a website and I doubt the majority of people do either. But you keep living in your little bubble that you are mr/s right!"

Totally disagree but hay hoo like i said new thing dont suit ever1 and if its your perogative not to send a pik in if it was required just to let site runners see that you are a cpl and not a single 18 yr old boy trying to get on as a cpl to perv and copy other folks piks and stuff which this site is over run with then that's up to you so go to 1 ov the other sites that you going on about but that is exactly why for that reason i put this thread up and if you cant see that well sorry but your clearly misunderstanding the point tbh

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

I don't need to do anything. We show that we are here as a couple by being on webcam together in the chatrooms, by going to socials and parties together. A picture doesn't prove anything at all IMO.

I'm not missing the point, I just think that your idea is flawed but you fail to see that and choose to be rude to people who don't agree.

We have been on other sites where you have had to pay to join and you still had pic collectors, time wasters, guys posing as females and couples. It doesn't matter what sort of regulations you bring in, there will always be a way to circumnavigate it. We like it here, we won't be going anywhere fast ..... but thanks for the out

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don't need to do anything. We show that we are here as a couple by being on webcam together in the chatrooms, by going to socials and parties together. A picture doesn't prove anything at all IMO.

I'm not missing the point, I just think that your idea is flawed but you fail to see that and choose to be rude to people who don't agree.

Cam varis,phone or meet dont mean absolutly naff all in our experience still dont mean that they gonna ever get naked or play so play varies are the way forward to be sure you aint gonna be messed around

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

I think you have quoted the wrong person

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think you have quoted the wrong person

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oops lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What about those that have plenty of in person verifications but then have to take time out for six months for example due to ill health or family circumstances? Do they get booted even though they are totally genuine?"

The varies are always there weva u played yesterday or 8 months befor folk will see that you have played ,im on about no varied or meet and no pik and have been on here 6 months or more coz lets be honest if they aint even got a pik of themselves up what are they o here 4 ini?

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

What about the people who don't have any public pictures but keep them private to send in messages to people?

They aren't hurting anyone, they just choose to be careful about who sees them. Nothing wrong with that either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What about the people who don't have any public pictures but keep them private to send in messages to people?

They aren't hurting anyone, they just choose to be careful about who sees them. Nothing wrong with that either."

Again on about stuff that haven't even been mentioned ,i not on about folks private piks or whether they will meet coz they are varied or not im on about folk with no piks,varies or meets on the prof and are still active after a year ,what are they doing all that time ???,it is swingers site hence the name its not called fab pervs or fab pik collectors or fab time wasters its fab swingers intended for swingers we wouldent have joined otherwise and as for new cpls joining the site ,the pik would be for them to show fab they are who they say they are from the offset as there are 1000s on here arnt and even if these steps took 500 of them off the site at least thats 500 less time wasters to worry bout which would reduce the number of folk on here and up the number of ppl who are really looking to play

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

But if people have private pics then you won't ever know if they have pictures on here unless they mail them to you.

I know people who are on here that have specifically asked that people DON'T leave them verifications. It's personal choice.

Admin have already said that they have no intention of deleting any profiles from the site. Regardless of the last time that they were logged in. This site is a tool for you to meet other people. It's not about who can have the most verifications, the most meets or the most pictures.

Some people prefer to keep their private lives just that, private. And if that means that they don't want to post public pictures, or have verifications, or even get photo verified then that is up to them.

I truly understand what you are trying to achieve but I still think your idea is flawed (as said previously). You cannot force people to do anything while it is still a free site, and admin have said it will always stay a free site.

If you have had your time wasted by a member, block them. Make sure that you don't invite them to future nights you are holding.

You had a go about the guy that commented earlier. Your post came across as though he had no right to say anything because he had no pictures on his profile. I didn't realise there was a rule regarding this? He has a meet verification, which you say people should have yet you slate him for it.

I think you need to start leaving people to enjoy the site how they want to instead of trying to force people to use it how you do.

People are on here for lots of different reasons, leave them be and concentrate on yourselves

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By *ing manMan over a year ago

"I think you have quoted the wrong person

oops lol"

nuff said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But if people have private pics then you won't ever know if they have pictures on here unless they mail them to you.

I know people who are on here that have specifically asked that people DON'T leave them verifications. It's personal choice.

If you have had your time wasted by a member, block them. Make sure that you don't invite them to future nights you are holding.

I think you need to start leaving people to enjoy the site how they want to instead of trying to force people to use it how you do.

People are on here for lots of different reasons, leave them be and concentrate on yourselves

Most eloquently put. Let's not impose rules likely to affect genuine people. The fakes and trouble makers soon themselves out !

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I think this has run it's course and going round in circles.

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