Surely there's someway of stopping blokes opening pretend couple profiles on here? The amount of friend invites and messages we have from 'couples' who blatantly are single guys with one verification from their single account is unreal! And theres even a few that have put in a load of ground work so we accept their friend invite because they seem genuine, only for every status they put up to say, just the male half tonight! It's frustrating more than anything! Can't see an easy answer but it's wrecking what used to be a really good site! |
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why is it wrecking the site?
just ignore the ones who have not got a few verifications of people meeting the male and female you will know if they are or not genuine then.
happy swinging there are good couples out there dont give up xx |
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Why blank unverified people? We were all unverified at some point and 2 of the best meets we've had have been with unverified people. You all seriously ring every couple that shows interest ? We don't have the time or the patience for that. And thats not saying we have loads of interest, we're just busy people! Surely fixing the problem would be much easier for everyone? |
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"Why blank unverified people? We were all unverified at some point and 2 of the best meets we've had have been with unverified people. You all seriously ring every couple that shows interest ? We don't have the time or the patience for that. And thats not saying we have loads of interest, we're just busy people! Surely fixing the problem would be much easier for everyone? "
If you don't like the suggestions come up with your own solution! You said yourselves that there is "no easy answer". |
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"You all seriously ring every couple that shows interest ? We don't have the time or the patience for that. And thats not saying we have loads of interest, we're just busy people! "
It takes 1 min.
Far less time than getting messed about by fakers - which you seem to be having an problem with.
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"You all seriously ring every couple that shows interest ? We don't have the time or the patience for that. And thats not saying we have loads of interest, we're just busy people!
It takes 1 min.
Far less time than getting messed about by fakers - which you seem to be having an problem with.
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over a year ago
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You should go to clubs like chams or socials . People get to know you and you also get verifications . We tend to not trust couples who have been on this site for a long time with one mans verification . Bit obvious lol |
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I think this site is littered with timewasters and frauds sadly. I don't think that the verification filter is necessarily a good thing as it precludes genuine new users of the site EVER getting a meet.
Oddly enough us single guys get frustrated by fraudy couples too. I have been duped by idiots on here too, I am reluctant to meet anyone who has been here for several months/a year plus with no veris (definite tourists) |
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"I don't think that the verification filter is necessarily a good thing as it precludes genuine new users of the site EVER getting a meet.
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Dont agree with that.
We'll meet unverifieds if as a couple they have pics of them both and both of them together on their profile.
So long they are what we are looking for, and they conduct themselves and their profile as a couple then anything else is down to our own methods of verifying people. Of course due to the filters - we'd have to contact them first. |
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Each to their own, I do think that a great deal of people here are very close minded, that said it is their right to be so.
I don't think it will ever be possible to eradicate timewasters and frauds sadly |
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The verification filter doesn't prevent Newbies from getting meets as not everyone chooses to use it. We have decided to switch it on after being pestered by too many unverified single guys. We'll take a risk on missing out on a meet or two as we'd rather not get our inbox filled with messages from new single guys joining the site. |
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Wasn't asking for rocket science! Ok an answer would be before a couple status profile is granted, a photo of both with username should have to be presented? Like I said we don't use this site to chat and spend hours filtering through people, simply don't have the time! Would just like to be able to come on, search couple aged... In so many miles of... Interested in.... And boom up come your choices, see one that suits what your looking for, and message them! Not have to spend hours deciding which one is a man pretending to be a couple! Don't understand the negative replies, it's a discussion to improve the site and make it better for all concerned? |
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"You should go to clubs like chams or socials . People get to know you and you also get verifications . We tend to not trust couples who have been on this site for a long time with one mans verification . Bit obvious lol"
We have been to clubs, and are verified |
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"Wasn't asking for rocket science! Ok an answer would be before a couple status profile is granted, a photo of both with username should have to be presented? Like I said we don't use this site to chat and spend hours filtering through people, simply don't have the time! Would just like to be able to come on, search couple aged... In so many miles of... Interested in.... And boom up come your choices, see one that suits what your looking for, and message them! Not have to spend hours deciding which one is a man pretending to be a couple! Don't understand the negative replies, it's a discussion to improve the site and make it better for all concerned? "
Then pick people (couples) who are photo verified and show pics of them both, and both together - just like our profile.
If anyone contacts you and doesn't provide this request it. Or if you message them first, request it.
Solves a lot of time wasting - anyone who is genuine will be prepared to do it.
Dont see what all the fuss is about? It hardly takes any time really - its just due diligence on your part. |
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over a year ago
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"Wasn't asking for rocket science! Ok an answer would be before a couple status profile is granted, a photo of both with username should have to be presented? Like I said we don't use this site to chat and spend hours filtering through people, simply don't have the time! Would just like to be able to come on, search couple aged... In so many miles of... Interested in.... And boom up come your choices, see one that suits what your looking for, and message them! Not have to spend hours deciding which one is a man pretending to be a couple! Don't understand the negative replies, it's a discussion to improve the site and make it better for all concerned? "
You can use your mail filters to tailor which mails you get.
http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters
The rest you have to work out for yourselves...if you want things to move fast to save you wasted time, find the people who are quite happy to confirm who they are early on, and avoid the people who don't want/ can't confirm. |
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"Or maybe the site owners setting something up like we suggested, eradicating the problem for good?! Why work around something that can be fixed?"
It's a free site so don't expect a perfect solution anytime soon! |
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"Or maybe the site owners setting something up like we suggested, eradicating the problem for good?! Why work around something that can be fixed?"
It cant be fixed.
Not unless everyone goes through a video verification process with admin.
Thats going to cost mega money - not even expensive paid sites are free from fakers! |
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"Ok maybe fixed was a touch too far, but could certainly be improved on! "
Basically what you have suggested, is to get photo verified.
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http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/photo_verification
For females/couples: Proves you are a genuine female/couple, rather than a single guy pretending. For single guys: Proves your pics are genuine and helps you stand out from the crowd.
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But.. how come you haven't done this, since this is what you are after from others?
Also you ask of photos of both.. but again, you haven't provided this.
Not being picky but shouldn't you practise what you preach?
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how long does it take for a female just to say hi on the phone ? prob quicker than it took me to type this message.
i dont see the problem here. we all know the signs of fakers when you been on here a while and you have answered your own questions on this forum.
we all get caught out but with experiance you get wiser and know the signs
and by the way im genuine anyone whos interested lol  |
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"Ok maybe fixed was a touch too far, but could certainly be improved on!
Basically what you have suggested, is to get photo verified.
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http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/photo_verification
For females/couples: Proves you are a genuine female/couple, rather than a single guy pretending. For single guys: Proves your pics are genuine and helps you stand out from the crowd.
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But.. how come you haven't done this, since this is what you are after from others?
Also you ask of photos of both.. but again, you haven't provided this.
Not being picky but shouldn't you practise what you preach?
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If it was mandatory to have a verified photo to get a couples profile we would do it, but it's not so kind of pointless and being 100percent honest, noone has ever questioned us not being genuine? Think maybe we will end this conversation now, was a simple discussion on ways to improve the site, but everyone seems pretty happy spending their time filtering through profiles, which is fine, just not for us. |
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"Ok maybe fixed was a touch too far, but could certainly be improved on!
Basically what you have suggested, is to get photo verified.
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http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/photo_verification
For females/couples: Proves you are a genuine female/couple, rather than a single guy pretending. For single guys: Proves your pics are genuine and helps you stand out from the crowd.
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But.. how come you haven't done this, since this is what you are after from others?
Also you ask of photos of both.. but again, you haven't provided this.
Not being picky but shouldn't you practise what you preach?
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We have no need to filter trough profiles.
If we get a message and like what we see, we insist that the female part of the couples arrange everything.
When it comes down to the inital meet there are sutch things as webcams and phones to prove they are genuine ?
Anyway, if you are clever enough to ask the right questions you can sift out the single males and use the report button.
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We can sieve them out, but don't want to have to, that was the point, time Is a precious thing, for us anyway. Will go back into our corner and carry on reading the would you f**k the one above, below and sideways threads. |
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"We have no need to filter trough profiles.
If we get a message and like what we see, we insist that the female part of the couples arrange everything.
When it comes down to the inital meet there are sutch things as webcams and phones to prove they are genuine ?
Anyway, if you are clever enough to ask the right questions you can sift out the single males and use the report button.
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that's what we do its easy to find the fakes and why is it so hard for people to use a phone? get a shag phone pay as you go we never had a problem  |
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"We have no need to filter trough profiles.
If we get a message and like what we see, we insist that the female part of the couples arrange everything.
When it comes down to the inital meet there are sutch things as webcams and phones to prove they are genuine ?
Anyway, if you are clever enough to ask the right questions you can sift out the single males and use the report button.
that's what we do its easy to find the fakes and why is it so hard for people to use a phone? get a shag phone pay as you go we never had a problem "
Agreed. Plain common sense. |
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"We have no need to filter trough profiles.
If we get a message and like what we see, we insist that the female part of the couples arrange everything.
When it comes down to the inital meet there are sutch things as webcams and phones to prove they are genuine ?
Anyway, if you are clever enough to ask the right questions you can sift out the single males and use the report button.
that's what we do its easy to find the fakes and why is it so hard for people to use a phone? get a shag phone pay as you go we never had a problem Agreed. Plain common sense. "
That's not common sense, we don't want a 'shag' phone! We were after suggestions of ways to prevent single men being able to do it in the first place! And by speaking out of line about something that is a problem, no matter what anybody says we get accused of wrecking the site, seriously?! Until now weve been on here, off then on again for about 4 years minding our own business and having the odd meet now and again! have all spoke about your ways of getting AROUND the problem, which is fine, and Thankyou for your suggestions, although spotting them was never an issue, having to spot them was the problem! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Sadly on every site there is a problem of men pretending to be women/ couples.
No site owner will be able to them all out on their own, but if people report any they think are dodgy, it goes a long way to help.
Being on sites like this you are bound to get some fakes, you can't expect everyone to be vetted before you speak to them to save you some time, so the best thing to do is go with your gut instinct , and if it doesn't sound right to you, hit the report button , block and move to the next one. |
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"That's not common sense, we don't want a 'shag' phone! We were after suggestions of ways to prevent single men being able to do it in the first place! And by speaking out of line about something that is a problem, no matter what anybody says we get accused of wrecking the site, seriously?! Until now weve been on here, off then on again for about 4 years minding our own business and having the odd meet now and again! have all spoke about your ways of getting AROUND the problem, which is fine, and Thankyou for your suggestions, although spotting them was never an issue, having to spot them was the problem!"
totally agree I was duped into a meet by a "couple" they sent me to the wrong address, turned out to be a single guy when I picked a few holes in his excuses, it isn't on really but I am not sure what the answer is. I reported the profile and he returned with the same profile name but a sa single guy!!! |
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"We have no need to filter trough profiles.
If we get a message and like what we see, we insist that the female part of the couples arrange everything.
When it comes down to the inital meet there are sutch things as webcams and phones to prove they are genuine ?
Anyway, if you are clever enough to ask the right questions you can sift out the single males and use the report button.
that's what we do its easy to find the fakes and why is it so hard for people to use a phone? get a shag phone pay as you go we never had a problem Agreed. Plain common sense.
That's not common sense, we don't want a 'shag' phone! We were after suggestions of ways to prevent single men being able to do it in the first place! And by speaking out of line about something that is a problem, no matter what anybody says we get accused of wrecking the site, seriously?! Until now weve been on here, off then on again for about 4 years minding our own business and having the odd meet now and again! have all spoke about your ways of getting AROUND the problem, which is fine, and Thankyou for your suggestions, although spotting them was never an issue, having to spot them was the problem!"
We've come across "real" couples, where the females has no idea about what her male partner is doing, and agreeing things on her "behalf".
A call between fem's is plain common sense - not only to out fakes, but also to find out who is being real and truthful in their relationships.
Whilst agreeing with your original post, that something more does need to be done, it's practically impossible. (not unless you want to start a new site - with a strict video sign up to show how real they are every so many months - encase they break up or separate and the guy then carries on alone).
Not everyone (even real genuine couples) wants to fall in line and get photo verified - some are quite happy without it - some dont show any validations whatsoever.
Admin have it there for those that do want it - its optional (for everyone) If you choose not to use it, thats your choice, but you also can use it to help you find real couples.
The sites offers you so many ways to "help" you.
You are being targeted, because people who are offering ideas and help in ways to help you, and your throwing it back into their faces and saying they aren't common sense!
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"That's not common sense, we don't want a 'shag' phone! We were after suggestions of ways to prevent single men being able to do it in the first place! And by speaking out of line about something that is a problem, no matter what anybody says we get accused of wrecking the site, seriously?! Until now weve been on here, off then on again for about 4 years minding our own business and having the odd meet now and again! have all spoke about your ways of getting AROUND the problem, which is fine, and Thankyou for your suggestions, although spotting them was never an issue, having to spot them was the problem!
totally agree I was duped into a meet by a "couple" they sent me to the wrong address, turned out to be a single guy when I picked a few holes in his excuses, it isn't on really but I am not sure what the answer is. I reported the profile and he returned with the same profile name but a sa single guy!!!"
Did you not see them on cam or have a phone call with them before going to meet them? |
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"no, foolishly I did not"
Then thats where you are going wrong mate....if we were meeting couples and we wanted confirmation there was a woman actually there, it would have to be cam to show face and a call when the meet was arranged ( much like what we do now to confirm who we are arranging meets with )
The net is a wonderful place but it is also a place full of weirdos and fakes, always check the people are who they say they are and it will save you being disappointed |
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"no, foolishly I did not
Then thats where you are going wrong mate....if we were meeting couples and we wanted confirmation there was a woman actually there, it would have to be cam to show face and a call when the meet was arranged ( much like what we do now to confirm who we are arranging meets with )
The net is a wonderful place but it is also a place full of weirdos and fakes, always check the people are who they say they are and it will save you being disappointed "
Exactly, there is no guarantee the "couple" is still a couple after a few weeks of joining.
Verifications are only as good as the day there were done.
Just like an MOT or an STI check at the GUM clinic.
There are no guarantees people are who they say they are..
cam and phone proves valuable tools to out fakes! |
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