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Struggling to find what we want
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over a year ago
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Anyone struggling with interest and to find what your looking for to explore bi side with woman who can lead the way and help me come out of my shell hubby doesn’t have to be involved just there for moral support we understand we aren’t for everyone had a bit of luck with couples we get it that currently circumstances don’t help lol x |
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You’ve been here 5 weeks, in a pandemic. Patience is needed on here, for couples not just for single men. You’re also not only looking for a unicorn, but one who doesn’t mind being an experiment and also putting on a show for hubby - both of those are things that come up regularly on “where are the unicorns” threads as things that put women off. I’m not saying no-one will be up for it, just that it’ll be harder to find someone who is. Don’t be discouraged that in 5 weeks you haven’t found someone, I’m sure you will in time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You’ve been here 5 weeks, in a pandemic. Patience is needed on here, for couples not just for single men. You’re also not only looking for a unicorn, but one who doesn’t mind being an experiment and also putting on a show for hubby - both of those are things that come up regularly on “where are the unicorns” threads as things that put women off. I’m not saying no-one will be up for it, just that it’ll be harder to find someone who is. Don’t be discouraged that in 5 weeks you haven’t found someone, I’m sure you will in time."
thanks so much for advice and help x
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Single bi female here.
For a start we’re in a lockdown I’ve not had sex in months now.
Besides the Covid factor most single females on Fab are in my experience (7 years, attending socials, clubs etc) are also single parents. Single parents have understandably been slightly tied up with responsibilities for the best part of a year.
When I start having sex being part of an experiment isn’t going to be top of my list.
In my opinion you’re better off focusing on the social side of things when restrictions lift and allowing things to happen organically.
Also 90% of public photos I saw on your profile are the female half of the couple. From your writing it seems like you want a woman to lust after your husband/partner but know that it’s unlikely to proceed further. Unless actually what you are looking for is the proverbial unicorn. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Single bi female here.
For a start we’re in a lockdown I’ve not had sex in months now.
Besides the Covid factor most single females on Fab are in my experience (7 years, attending socials, clubs etc) are also single parents. Single parents have understandably been slightly tied up with responsibilities for the best part of a year.
When I start having sex being part of an experiment isn’t going to be top of my list.
In my opinion you’re better off focusing on the social side of things when restrictions lift and allowing things to happen organically.
Also 90% of public photos I saw on your profile are the female half of the couple. From your writing it seems like you want a woman to lust after your husband/partner but know that it’s unlikely to proceed further. Unless actually what you are looking for is the proverbial unicorn. "
ok great we understand the Covid and kids thing we have 3 ourselves so work on pics and profile thanks for advice and help x |
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"By the sounds of it he wants to be involved well we are couple after all but the only seen to want me is he that ruff or something lol x"
I think you need to be clear about what you want then. If he wants to be involved don’t say he’s only going to watch or be there for “moral support”, and if he wants to be involved it would be good to see some more photos of him as well. |
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"By the sounds of it he wants to be involved well we are couple after all but the only seen to want me is he that ruff or something lol x
I think you need to be clear about what you want then. If he wants to be involved don’t say he’s only going to watch or be there for “moral support”, and if he wants to be involved it would be good to see some more photos of him as well."
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If you have already had some success with couples, why did you not explore your bi curiosity then? You want a female to take the lead, but no mention of reciprocation? If you really want to explore your bi side, let it happen naturally at the next opportunity. Not many women want to play with a 'novice'. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you have already had some success with couples, why did you not explore your bi curiosity then? You want a female to take the lead, but no mention of reciprocation? If you really want to explore your bi side, let it happen naturally at the next opportunity. Not many women want to play with a 'novice'."
ok great but this sounds like you being a bit mean do we not all start as novices and we had social first to check we click the the COVID hit thanks for help x
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"If you have already had some success with couples, why did you not explore your bi curiosity then? You want a female to take the lead, but no mention of reciprocation? If you really want to explore your bi side, let it happen naturally at the next opportunity. Not many women want to play with a 'novice'.
ok great but this sounds like you being a bit mean do we not all start as novices and we had social first to check we click the the COVID hit thanks for help x"
Yes, we do all start as novices, but you could say the same about anything to do with sex. I’ve never described myself as bicurious, even when I had no experience with women, because I’ve always loved women and have never had even a second’s doubt about having sex with a woman.
The way I see it personally is that saying “bicurious” because you (general “you” not you specifically) haven’t been with a woman and you aren’t sure if you want to go down on one (for example) sounds rather like saying you’re “straight-curious” before you’ve been with a man. I never had any doubt that I was attracted to men and wanted to have sex with them, and it was the same for women.
The wariness that a lot of women will have (including me) is that you might not really be into women and are only doing it to please your partner. I’m not saying that’s the case for you, but it often is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you have already had some success with couples, why did you not explore your bi curiosity then? You want a female to take the lead, but no mention of reciprocation? If you really want to explore your bi side, let it happen naturally at the next opportunity. Not many women want to play with a 'novice'.
ok great but this sounds like you being a bit mean do we not all start as novices and we had social first to check we click the the COVID hit thanks for help x
Yes, we do all start as novices, but you could say the same about anything to do with sex. I’ve never described myself as bicurious, even when I had no experience with women, because I’ve always loved women and have never had even a second’s doubt about having sex with a woman.
The way I see it personally is that saying “bicurious” because you (general “you” not you specifically) haven’t been with a woman and you aren’t sure if you want to go down on one (for example) sounds rather like saying you’re “straight-curious” before you’ve been with a man. I never had any doubt that I was attracted to men and wanted to have sex with them, and it was the same for women.
The wariness that a lot of women will have (including me) is that you might not really be into women and are only doing it to please your partner. I’m not saying that’s the case for you, but it often is."
ok thanks and thanks for understanding and wording it the way you have we appreciate that a lot x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sorry if we came across as being 'mean', not intended. Just saying you need to let if happen naturally. And as you've said, Covid has got in the way. Good luck anyway, stay safe & take good care. "
thank you guys x
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the main thing you are up against is most bisexual women dont want to play with a pillow princess. They want their pussy played with back in return. Also if the hubby is only there for moral support they might not like it when he tries to join in. You have to be more open and honest in what you are looking for as i know jenny would not play with any woman who only wanted to just lay there and be played with only. |
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