I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
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Had mine last year. Kids were a complete no go, so time was right. Op was half hour. Discomfort during rather than pain but given whats happening, it's understandable.
Day or so of a strong ache afterwards, a week of tenderness but nothing that interrupted work.
Nothing is affected as a consequence. Mrs R is happier not having to take the pill as she had done for years, so I figured it was the least I could do. |
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My position on this is this…. It’s your body. You know when you have enough responsibility and you don’t want to over do that to put yourself in a position where you burn out. Your relationship could break down for it and either way you need to sit down with her and explain you don’t want anymore children and maybe come some sort of agreement. Explain that you take parenthood very seriously and you only have enough energy that you have to give to the ones you love and bringing in another child into that would mean burn out. It’d mean financial strain. It could potentially lead to you having negative feelings towards her if you do have another child that you don’t want. It’s not fair on the child either.
Have a chat with her about it and be calm and civil and I wish you all the best of luck. I’ve read online that they’re not that bad - heard a few horror stories but you always hear the bad. 99% of the time it all goes smoothly and you’re back to your normal self within a week! |
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Similar to last poster but 20 years ago. Mine DID hurt. Like being kicked by a horse...twice. Major discomfort for the rest of the day and then a week of gradually fading aches. Maybe techniques are better now.
Zero effects other than the intended ones. Well worthwhile when you consider that the alternative of female hormonal contraception carries a small but real health risk of cancer which is completely avoidable by us guys stepping up and taking responsibility.
Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.
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Is there another reason you want the snip? Do you think your wife suspects you're playing away?
If you ended up in another relationship and you wanted children, What then?
You're quite young, you may not meet the criteria for having it on the nhs. |
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I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.
On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed. |
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Had mine about 25 years ago, some soreness for a week but it was manageable.
Only thing I’d say OP is your age, seems a little early to me, but that’s just an opinion. I had to convince my Dr. that I was ready as it’s a hard procedure to reverse, so that may be something to bear in mind. |
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I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.
On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed. |
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I had it done many years ago and fortunately, my wife was fully supportive. Nothing changed in the bedroom, just as good as it always had been. With swinging it actually gave me confidence knowing that if something happened like a condom failing/coming off, (it does happen to most of us), then no way was an unwanted pregnancy going to be an issue. Win win.  |
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"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.
On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed."
yep agree only tattie juice now no custard 😂 |
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"Similar to last poster but 20 years ago. Mine DID hurt. Like being kicked by a horse...twice. Major discomfort for the rest of the day and then a week of gradually fading aches. Maybe techniques are better now.
Zero effects other than the intended ones. Well worthwhile when you consider that the alternative of female hormonal contraception carries a small but real health risk of cancer which is completely avoidable by us guys stepping up and taking responsibility.
Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.
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Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.
So don't consider the snip as temporary. |
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By *4BSCouple 7 weeks ago
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I had it done earlier this year, procedure was uncomfortable rather than painful then about a week of that weird feeling in your stomach you get after hurting your balls.
Have noticed no difference at all in the bedroom since. |
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Decided to get it done nigh on thirty years now and never regretted the decision. Sex was a lot more enjoyable when the worry of getting someone up the duff was gone.
It's your body, your choice. As seems to be today's mantra. |
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Had mine done this year. Hurt like hell. And wasn’t done correctly so had to go back for a re snip a week after which hurt twice as much.
And 6 months on I still get pains every now and then.
I would say the amount of cum I produce since having it done is mostly a lot lower.
Also 6 months on and I still haven’t had my result come back as negative. Several cup samples in now. So isn’t the best after experience. |
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Yeah a bit achy afterwards for a few days but nothing compared to child birth as they say.
I would say my libido has diminished as I have got older but that could be natural anyway and as a result I prefer the cuckold scene more as I feel less pressure to perform but still enjoy the spectacle of Mrs N having naughty fun with more potent men that can satisfy her more than I can nowadays. |
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What was it like? ….. different for everyone mate but for what it’s worth this is what it was like for me.
Had mine done many years ago. Into hospital for 9am, home at 2 pm. A dull ache, nothing more. 9 holes of golf after my tea and off to the pub after. No problems at all and nothing changed.
I could tell you about my mate who had his done after I told him how easy mine went but that would really put you off 😁
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Had mine nearly 30 years ago.
No regret dull acre for a few day. Balls felt heavy for a week guess that was bit swelling . Would do it again tomorrow. Made thing in bedroom better as no condoms or wife at time could stop pill
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"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.
On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed.yep agree only tattie juice now no custard 😂"
Not my experience, nor anyone else's I know, who've had it done. Same orgasms, sometimes more intense, sometimes not.
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Vasectomies are easy.
Reversals are not.
This is more about your relationship than your sperm count though.
If you don't want more kids and she does, having the snip is only going to fix one of your problems.
I walked home after I got the snip. |
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I got the snip when I was in my early 30s because my now ex wife wouldn't have sex with me as she didn't want to risk getting pregnant again,she didn't want to go back onto the pill and she didn't like using condoms.
My advice is to do what is right for you,talk to her and if your wife can't respect your decision then you have alot of talking to do lol
As for pain I was back at work in the afternoon with just some mild discomfort, people's pain thresholds are different |
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"Similar to last poster but 20 years ago. Mine DID hurt. Like being kicked by a horse...twice. Major discomfort for the rest of the day and then a week of gradually fading aches. Maybe techniques are better now.
Zero effects other than the intended ones. Well worthwhile when you consider that the alternative of female hormonal contraception carries a small but real health risk of cancer which is completely avoidable by us guys stepping up and taking responsibility.
Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.
Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.
So don't consider the snip as temporary."
Well they will obviously say that as part of the selection process? Dumb not to. But it takes very little thought to realise that the sperm are still there and a new childless wife would be an ample (or slim) reason to request reversal. It is possible, though maybe not guaranteed, whatever the nhs propaganda currently says. |
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"Had mine done this year. Hurt like hell. And wasn’t done correctly so had to go back for a re snip a week after which hurt twice as much.
And 6 months on I still get pains every now and then.
I would say the amount of cum I produce since having it done is mostly a lot lower.
Also 6 months on and I still haven’t had my result come back as negative. Several cup samples in now. So isn’t the best after experience."
It would appear it's a bit like a modern car? Faster, relatively cheaper, safer, Mrs loves it, but oh what a pain when it goes wrong! 🤣 wishing you the best. |
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Done a couple years ago, felt like I was kicked by a donkey in the nuts, but worth it as I didn't want anymore kids spoke to Mrs and she agreed, things can happen like relationships breakdown but even with that I was convinced I didn't want anymore kids anyway |
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She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.
I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.
The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.
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I've been snipped. Made the decision after 2 different pills that she was taking failed on seperate occasions. You know yourself when you're done, I was done at 2 but ended up with 4. It really affected and still is affecting my mental health. |
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Had it done an age ago… not thought about it much as it was relatively pain free.
Funnily during the sorting out phase I found I only had one working nut. Damaged it during a climbing accident another 20 years prior.
Check your nuts chaps… |
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Best thing I did, decided young not want anymore children had it done in my early 20s pain was ok 2 days off work & tight boxers for a few days after then was all good.
You would still have to play safe with other as it don't stop std's etc only thing changes is the fact you not going to have more kids. |
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"Similar to last poster but 20 years ago. Mine DID hurt. Like being kicked by a horse...twice. Major discomfort for the rest of the day and then a week of gradually fading aches. Maybe techniques are better now.
Zero effects other than the intended ones. Well worthwhile when you consider that the alternative of female hormonal contraception carries a small but real health risk of cancer which is completely avoidable by us guys stepping up and taking responsibility.
Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.
Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.
So don't consider the snip as temporary.
Well they will obviously say that as part of the selection process? Dumb not to. But it takes very little thought to realise that the sperm are still there and a new childless wife would be an ample (or slim) reason to request reversal. It is possible, though maybe not guaranteed, whatever the nhs propaganda currently says."
Propaganda? If I was the nhs I'd say yeah have the snip but you want it reversed, go private, still no guarantee it'll work. |
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"She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.
I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.
The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.
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But the wife does have a say if she wants a divorce... |
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"She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.
I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.
The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.
But the wife does have a say if she wants a divorce..."
She gets as much of a say as the husband gets, when she makes the decision on whether to have the child, or not. |
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I had it done about 2 years ago. Took around 30 minutes and needed a couple of stitches lol. Overall the recovery wasn't too bad, a bit tender for a few days.
Since then when I cum it's a lot more intense for some reason |
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Had it done a few years ago. Procedure was done at Dr's. Lasted 30 minutes.
Quite sore for a few days. Was fun making the required amount of "cums" for the tests to see if it worked.
Cumming feels better now |
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"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
Thanks in advance "
Your body your choice. |
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"She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.
I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.
The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.
But the wife does have a say if she wants a divorce...
She gets as much of a say as the husband gets, when she makes the decision on whether to have the child, or not. "
I understand that. But if OP wants to consider his wife's opinion, then who are we to say otherwise. |
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By *uzzleMan 7 weeks ago
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I think only 2 options:
1. Trade the wife in for a new model, after all what's the point of divorce if you're not going to use it
2. Go f**k it and get it done anyway
Interestingly, a guy at work got a vasectomy about 5 years ago. He has teenage kids already with his first wife but got married again (don't make the same mistake twice), to a woman 7 years his junior who wanted kids. He had the vasectomy reversed! They are now getting divorced..... |
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Had it done in my early 30s, with no complications at all and no change to sex life in anyway, still have the same sensation and cum just the same. As other have said though it is not a decision to be taken lightly as reversal is quit a low success rate and very expensive to have done as not covered by the NHS (rightly so) as for your wife not wanting you to have it done this is something you both need to discuss very carefully and work out between the two of you as if I remember rightly you still need your spouse to consent to you having the operation for some reason that I have never understood as it is your body and your choice. |
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Had mine 9 years ago.
Doctors side office and key hole.
Took 10 mins and he worse part was the smell of burning flesh.
Show me the tube he cut out as well.
Cheers.
Back to work the same day and then just clean and enjoy the next few months until all clear |
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By *omRachCouple 7 weeks ago
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"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
Thanks in advance "
Rach and I cracked heads over this when we both about to hit 40. I was adamant that I did not want another child (with her or anyone else) whereas she didn't want to rule it out completely so I said that it would make sense if I did it - and after several fraught discussions I got it done just after my 39th birthday.
For me personally there were no side affects or issues, done on a Sat at 10am, home for 1pm and 2 days later I was on the outskirts of a mosh pit at a gig.
Not regretted it once, if your mind is made up it's a no brainer. |
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"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
Thanks in advance "
Does you Wife know that you are here? |
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"Don't have done! I had the snip and now I just shoot dust, honestly, no lie! 
Ffs this! And the thought of anyone taking a knife to my private bits gives me nightmares. "
They don’t use a knife, they use a laser.
Had mine done when I was 28, best decision I made, and never have any problems with the amount I produce either now. |
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I had it done when I was 32. Had 3 kids and knew that I didn't want anymore. Even if I was ito enter a new relationship, I was sure I had completed my family.
The operation took less than 30 mins on a Friday lunchtime and I walked home. Bit tender over the weekend but I was back at work on the Monday. Sex was much better without the risk of an unwanted pregnancy. In terms of emissions, no real change. Cum the same as I did before. |
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Had it done when I was 28 as my then wife could have died if she got pregnant again. Never regretted it, it has given me no problems, and it has meant I could often do without a condom.
I was laid up for a day with swollen and painful balls, but that cleared quickly and I was in full health again. Had to be tested a few weeks later to ensure it had been effective.
There was a scare back around the 80s, I think, that it might cause premature aging, but that seems not to have happened at all.
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It's definitely not to be taken lightly, especially as relationships can fail , that being said it can be reversed reasonably successful nowadays. I had mine at age 32 my wife couldn't use the pill. I was intolerant to condoms and it was the least invasive procedure of the two main forms of sterilisation. If you're sure just go for it.
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Mine has always been the opposite, my cum has always been on the thick side , where I used to be able to shoot to the ceiling, not a chance now. I was told by my GP it's because you no longer have the fluid from your testicles that transports the sperm to your prostate that then mixes into the semen you ejaculate. |
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"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
Thanks in advance "
Your self-autonomy has a higher priority than your relationship status. You have said that you are done with having children.
If the shoe was on the other foot and your wife said she was done with having children, then you would have to respect that too. It works both ways.
The crux of the matter is if one of you wants future children and the other does not, then this imbalance needs to be resolved. |
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Thank you everyone for the reply’s and the PM’s too.
Really appreciate the opinions and experiences you have all given. It is incredibly helpful.
I’m hoping this thread will help someone else make the decision in the future too! |
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Had mine done about 15 years ago!
Hurt like fuck afterwards as I had a hernia repair done at the same time!
I can honestly say- it’s reassuring that the baby issue has gone but i still get real pain where the tubes were cut and sealed! I can feel the end of them-like a very hard pea and very painful if we get a bit carried away or she’s on top! Feels like a punch in the nuts! |
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By *reen2Couple 6 weeks ago
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"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
Thanks in advance "
So from a woman's point of view, IF she was to go on the pill and you didn't want her to, you would be accused of abuse basically, but because she doesn't want to use any form of protection that's ok??
I think you both need to sit down and properly speak about it, you shouldn't feel pressured to NOT get the snip of you feel that's right for you |
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"Thank you everyone for the reply’s and the PM’s too.
Really appreciate the opinions and experiences you have all given. It is incredibly helpful.
I’m hoping this thread will help someone else make the decision in the future too! "
I sure back when I had mine we had village family doctor that want to speak both me and wife together make sure we both understood it what both wanted and understood no easy to reverse |
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Had 3 kids so had it done 20 years ago , right laugh my wife applying the email cream before , no pain but they let my wife watch because she was a nurse , just rest for 48 hrs after with tea , food and beer brought to the bed , cum just as much but no little fishes in it
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I had mine done 2 years ago now in Molesworth Clinic in town I was in and out in 30minutes, tbh the most pain I felt was the numbing section it felt like someone hit your sack with a stretched elastic band. I did feel some tugging as he was trying to get the tube 1 of mine was hiding and he had to move it but other than that it was easy. I did it as I was done with kids etc and didn't want any more it was a good decision on myside. |
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By *lyreelMan 6 weeks ago
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"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.
On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm. Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed."
Same here, intensity not the same, not same feeling of ejaculate surge, cum lot less. Had a few problems after surgery too, surgeon was a useless bastid.
I would NEVER recommend it. |
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I had mine done in my early 30's after 2 children. I knew I was done and even though I divorced years later, still have no regrets. It's a personal choice, but do it for yourself as long as you're happy with your choice, that's all that matter. |
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That's something you will have to discuss in detail with your partner. Obviously things there aren't the best or you would be a couples profile and if you are hear without her knowledge that's a whole other conversation. It can take up to 2 years to get it on the NHS and if your in a relationship they sometimes have a form the the partner needs to complete or if you go private it costs between 600 and 900 quid |
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My cum is the opposite, very thick and has been ever since I had mine thirty four years ago. My GP said its because I no longer have the fluid from the testies that transports the sperm to the prostate and mixes to produce semen. |
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I had it done 7 years ago decided that I wasn't going to have anymore kids. My nutsack swollen up to the size of almost a grapefruit but it was the best decision I've made there's been no aches or pains, but cum volume has gone a lot |
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"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.
On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed."
My next door neighbours girlfriend was my nurse and touched my tiny shriveled balls when showing me where they cut.
I always think of she told him and laughed at least your bird played with me. |
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"Had mine last year. Kids were a complete no go, so time was right. Op was half hour. Discomfort during rather than pain but given whats happening, it's understandable.
Day or so of a strong ache afterwards, a week of tenderness but nothing that interrupted work.
Nothing is affected as a consequence. Mrs R is happier not having to take the pill as she had done for years, so I figured it was the least I could do."
Pretty much the same as above 👆 Had mine 15 years ago and nothing has changed in my performance. (Still average) 😂 |
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Had mine after the last kid 30 plus yrs now and mentally it felt better no worries about anymore and no side effects at the time of getting it just a couple of salt baths |
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By *essTTWoman 6 weeks ago
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"Your wife is right OP, it's not a decision to be taken lightly and assuming you value your relationship it's definitely a joint decision and certainly shouldn't be a battle."
If he valued his relationship probably wouldn't be on here looking to cheat and referring to his partner as 'complicated'..... |
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By *lyreelMan 6 weeks ago
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"Your wife is right OP, it's not a decision to be taken lightly and assuming you value your relationship it's definitely a joint decision and certainly shouldn't be a battle.
If he valued his relationship probably wouldn't be on here looking to cheat and referring to his partner as 'complicated'....."
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Best thing I've ever done. Didn't hurt much (although the bruising is quite impressive!) and had the all clear so complete peace of mind now. One less thing to worry about while exploring with new people!  |
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I had the snip years ago, no regrets.
The procedure was not bad, I felt no pain or discomfort.
The day after, it is uncomfortable going up and down stairs but that passes.
Rough sex and doggy style is a little tender for a few weeks.
You’ll get some blood in your load for about a week.
I heard a load of horror stories beforehand but none of them were remotely near my experience. I’m sure it will be fine for you |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Do it
Had it done 2011
Your wife will need to be on pill or you be using condoms.
For 3 months then you be called back sperm checked .
That's it
Very little pain .
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Had mine a couple of years ago, other than a slightly peculiar almost out of body experience during, and the fact that they really should stitch because the glue is shit (which in fairness they know, they warned me) it's been absolutely fine.
Minimal pain, recovery was good apart from the aforementioned glue failing meaning I had a hole in my pocket for longer than I'd have liked.
A good alternative to the side effects of female contraceptive IMO. If it works for you. |
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Had mine done 30 years ago. Discomfort on the day. Advised to put a tea towel over them then a bag of frozen peas. Following day back to work with only slight discomfort getting out of the car. I was hoping to have more sex, with the wife, but that didn't happen lol |
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"Had it done in my early 30s, with no complications at all and no change to sex life in anyway, still have the same sensation and cum just the same. As other have said though it is not a decision to be taken lightly as reversal is quit a low success rate and very expensive to have done as not covered by the NHS (rightly so) as for your wife not wanting you to have it done this is something you both need to discuss very carefully and work out between the two of you as if I remember rightly you still need your spouse to consent to you having the operation for some reason that I have never understood as it is your body and your choice."
No, that cannot be and is not a rule under UK law. It's entirely the choice of the person getting the op. |
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Had mine on the NHS at 25. Didn't want kids, didn't see the point in having an accident.
Op was 30 mins, slight incision and stitches. Hurt for a day when the painkillers wore off but OTC painkillers are enough. Couple of days later feel normal.
Don't lift anything remotely heavy for two weeks and you'll be fine.
Cum the same volume and consistency, no issues at all. Most post-vasectomy sexual issues are psychosomatic. |
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Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.
So don't consider the snip as temporary.
Far too long to explain here but I had the snip, then a reversal (£1500) - two kids later had the snip again. My nuts have sure been through it 😬 |
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Had mine done 34 years ago, my urologist adopted the procedure of stitching the cut tubes to the inside of the scrotum, so there's no chance of them ever rejoining. Had lots of pain afterwards for around three days, and scrotum was black for around nine days. But that was purely down to his procedure, I know quite a few others who have had it done with little pain. |
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I had the snip last year after our third child. Discussed it with my wife who asked if it was what I really wanted. I told her yes since I didn't want to risk us accidentally having another, we couldn't afford it and I didn't want her having to go through the body trauma of a termination.
In the end it was my body and my choice to get it done.
I was off work for 5 days because mine is a pretty physical role.
But it was the best decision. My orgasms feel different but the comments about decreased loads aren't true, mine are the same if not the difference is negligible. |
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By *ancMan 3 weeks ago
chester |
"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
Thanks in advance "
It’s straight forward takes about 15 minutes under local anaesthetic honestly straightforward |
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I had mine done about seven years ago and the only issue during the procedure was not getting a hard on as the nurse was absolutely stunning and my absolutely perfect fantasy woman…
The procedure was quick and painless. Slight sting from injection but quite strange seeing your tubes out on your lap. No stitches, no glue, and all healed quickly. Some dull aches on and off for a period afterwards and, to this day, the volume is reduced but still significant (multiple previous partners had commented on the large volume produced).
I had mine as done with kids and (now ex) wife wouldn’t have been able to safely carry another child. Long term use of the pill wasn’t a good idea either. Despite now being divorced I’ve no regrets at all. Interestingly, done on the NHS via GP, and wife didn’t have to give consent.
Your bigger issue OP is your complicated relationship. While you’re absolutely free to proceed with your own choice, you won’t be free of the cost of your choice. If you have it done without her consent and against her wishes, your relationship will be far more complicated than it is now. The real conversation to have is with her… but as you’re clearly here without her consent, perhaps it’s the exit clause that you’re looking for? |
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"I had mine done about seven years ago and the only issue during the procedure was not getting a hard on as the nurse was absolutely stunning and my absolutely perfect fantasy woman…
The procedure was quick and painless. Slight sting from injection but quite strange seeing your tubes out on your lap. No stitches, no glue, and all healed quickly. Some dull aches on and off for a period afterwards and, to this day, the volume is reduced but still significant (multiple previous partners had commented on the large volume produced).
I had mine as done with kids and (now ex) wife wouldn’t have been able to safely carry another child. Long term use of the pill wasn’t a good idea either. Despite now being divorced I’ve no regrets at all. Interestingly, done on the NHS via GP, and wife didn’t have to give consent.
Your bigger issue OP is your complicated relationship. While you’re absolutely free to proceed with your own choice, you won’t be free of the cost of your choice. If you have it done without her consent and against her wishes, your relationship will be far more complicated than it is now. The real conversation to have is with her… but as you’re clearly here without her consent, perhaps it’s the exit clause that you’re looking for?"
Tubes on your lap? You must be a stallion ! |
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"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.
My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.
Has anyone had a similar battle?
Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?
Thanks in advance "
I've had the snip, best thing ever! I was worried my drive would go down things like that. But it never and was uncomfortable for couple of days and wife doesn't need tobe on birth control any more, that makes her more happy to. |
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I was brought up to believe that no man should tell a woman what she should/could fo to/with her body. That applies to women as well. If you want the snip, have it. The best thing I did in 2005. I wish I did it after my first child was born in 1982 when my wife asked me to.
I experienced minor discomfort gor a couple of hours but a cuppa and a Ham sandwich aided my recovery |
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By *host63Man 1 week ago
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If you do not want any more children, and your wife feels she isn't done yet I would say she is certainly planning on getting pregnant with or without your consent.
Personally I have had the snip. I have had a couple of ex girlfriends attempting to trap me by getting pregnant by telling me they were on contraception when they were not.
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"If you do not want any more children, and your wife feels she isn't done yet I would say she is certainly planning on getting pregnant with or without your consent.
Personally I have had the snip. I have had a couple of ex girlfriends attempting to trap me by getting pregnant by telling me they were on contraception when they were not.
J"
I agree. I had mine at 37, the dr tried to talk me out of it. But I stood my ground and was admitted that I didn't want any more kids. The woman I was seeing at the time knew that I was having it done when we met but still lost her sh1t once it was done, we soon broke up after. |
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By *rmootMan 1 week ago
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I had mine done 10 years ago once my family was complete. Have since divorced but my age I was done with kids so it was the right decision. Operation wise, it's 20 to 30 minutes. Is more a little discomfort than pain. Feels like a tugging feeling. I took paracetamol day before and kept up with it for about 3 days after. No pain, just an occasional dull ache. But soon passes. I never took any time off work. Just cracked on. They recommended brief style undies as opposed to boxers after the op. Keeps everything in right place. I had a shag a week after I had mine done. No problems, but be careful as you can still father a child for a short time after. Can't remember exactly but I recall something like 20 loads before your clear. Need to clear your pipes. Am sure someone on here knows for definate. You have to be tested after to ensure it was a success. Good luck with it.
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I’ve not had any kids and new I never wanted any, had to have a meeting with the local gp first to discuss, my wife also had to attend and be part of the discussion. Once they were happy with my choice I was referred within a week, op was done after work, no complications had a long 3 day weekend and back to work the next day.
Absolutely no change in the bedroom other than far less anxiety and far more creampies ! |
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Had mine done about a year and a half ago. It wasnt too bad. Bit of discomfort for a bout a week or so but the main issue I had was probably because I didn't even wait 24hrs before having sex again  The wound ended up re opening and had a few trips to hospital to have it checked out. Not given me any issues since |
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