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By *CExe OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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I know it's the 'Virus' section, but it's pretty much a medical section now so I'll risk the wrath of the mods.
Any other Bipolar folks on here? I tend to become far, far more active on here when I'm hypomanic and the hypersexuality is kicking in. Love to hear the experiences of others with this crazy brain issue. As is so oft said, I hate having Bipolar, it's awesome. |
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"I know it's the 'Virus' section, but it's pretty much a medical section now so I'll risk the wrath of the mods.
Any other Bipolar folks on here? I tend to become far, far more active on here when I'm hypomanic and the hypersexuality is kicking in. Love to hear the experiences of others with this crazy brain issue. As is so oft said, I hate having Bipolar, it's awesome. "
A friend has it and he gets madly sexual and scarily not afraid of boundaries it seems.
I tend to try talk or meet tgem so I know that no-one is taking advantage and they are safer.
It can be something to deal with though as it doesn't really calm down. |
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"I know it's the 'Virus' section, but it's pretty much a medical section now so I'll risk the wrath of the mods.
Any other Bipolar folks on here? I tend to become far, far more active on here when I'm hypomanic and the hypersexuality is kicking in. Love to hear the experiences of others with this crazy brain issue. As is so oft said, I hate having Bipolar, it's awesome. "
I'm not Bipolar but I'm familiar with it as I have BPD/EUPD- Borderline/Emotionally unstable personality disorder and people confuse them because the behaviours can be similar.
I'm older and I've had meds and a lot of therapy so I have better control over my more.....hypersexual behaviours...also the perimenopause and autism are kicking my butt so libido has dropped a lot than say my 20s or 30s.
I have a schoolmate who is bipolar and although she still had a high drive, she's become more reclusive and has physically illnesses on top.
Being neurodivergent is incredibly frustrating and I'm still coming to terms with the autism. I had my BPD/EUPD diagnosis for over 10 years and I just accept it now.
I'm a lot calmer now than when I was in my 20s. |
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"Cptsd and eupd strongly after a flashback episode I become really anxious just seeing people chatting online in chat or forum is something that helps weird as it seems 😳 "
I know the PTSD too but it's the childhood kind not the military kind. I don't have serious flashbacks but sudden triggers when people do things to remind me how I felt emotionally or physically as a kid.
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Melanie.... would you mind if I asked you a few questions privately re your Autism diagnosis? I read a few of your posts and it sounds very similar to how I am. I've been told for years by friends and family that I'm autistic but it's not until recently I've been open to accepting it. I'm really struggling to get help from the doctor and I'm keen to listen to any advice you could give me as to how I go about finding out. Totally understand if not so thank you in advance. |
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"Cptsd and eupd strongly after a flashback episode I become really anxious just seeing people chatting online in chat or forum is something that helps weird as it seems 😳
I know the PTSD too but it's the childhood kind not the military kind. I don't have serious flashbacks but sudden triggers when people do things to remind me how I felt emotionally or physically as a kid.
The Body keeps Score. "
It sure does amy ptsdis a arse kicker over triggers as well mot much fun |
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By *CExe OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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Yeah, the PTSD can be a real cunt. I have it from childhood experiences as well as working in uniform. It probably amplifies a lot of the mental health issues, but I'm only just beginning to engage with talking therapies after years of resistance. |
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Yep I have Bipolar Disorder and ADHD. This lifestyle has helped alot as I used to self medicate with sex.my behaviour was incredibly risky. At least now I tend to stick to clubs and parties so a little safer. My sex drive is high regardless of hypo or hyper states. I am also perimenopausal and still no dip in my sex drive lol. |
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"Melanie.... would you mind if I asked you a few questions privately re your Autism diagnosis? I read a few of your posts and it sounds very similar to how I am. I've been told for years by friends and family that I'm autistic but it's not until recently I've been open to accepting it. I'm really struggling to get help from the doctor and I'm keen to listen to any advice you could give me as to how I go about finding out. Totally understand if not so thank you in advance."
My route to diagnosis was unconventional and long winded as I had to be treated for BPD/EUPD first.
I'd say the fastest way to be taken seriously
1. email or write to your GP requesting that you do the initial autism questionnaire with them: The AQ-10. Try not to over think it just select the first thing that come to mind. I got 9 out of 10 was in shock as I did it on my own at the behest of my psychotherapist and then we did it again and he reconfirmed it.
2. if you get 5 or more out of 10 request the GP send you to the Autism official diagnosis referral.
3. online is fastest. I had an online assessment of 4/5 video calls. Face to Face will take longer. My referral time from GP to final diagnosis was 6 months...might be shorter as I needed help filling out the questionnaires in the assessments.
4.If your GP refuses to refer you or give you the AQ-10, than look for going for a private assessment. I had to go private for my first assessment to deal with the BPD by a mood psychiatrist before the GP took me seriously and IAPT referred me to the community mental health team.
Good luck. Be prepared for all the emotions causing stress but it will settle down....I think...I'm still going through it re-arranging my life to accommodate the autism. luckily the BPD/EUPD side of things has calmed down and I avoid trauma triggers.
Ageing with mental health and neurodivergent brains can be difficult so I want to make sure I have support and skills to deal with it..as I am not looking forward to turning into a Karen curmudgeon.
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"Cptsd and eupd strongly after a flashback episode I become really anxious just seeing people chatting online in chat or forum is something that helps weird as it seems 😳
I know the PTSD too but it's the childhood kind not the military kind. I don't have serious flashbacks but sudden triggers when people do things to remind me how I felt emotionally or physically as a kid.
The Body keeps Score.
It sure does amy ptsdis a arse kicker over triggers as well mot much fun "
Hugs. a peer in my support group hates firework season due to army PTSD. He's in the bathtub with lots of duvets to try to muffle it all. at least he's got a fluffy dog to keep him company now. |
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"Yeah, the PTSD can be a real cunt. I have it from childhood experiences as well as working in uniform. It probably amplifies a lot of the mental health issues, but I'm only just beginning to engage with talking therapies after years of resistance. "
Hugs. I always knew I was weird it was just hard to get anyone to listen...I now know that's because I'm an expert masker. Due to my home and primary school environment, things started to go strange at age 8.
I felt literally insane as a teenager and then work and marital stress in my early 30s causes a full breakdown.
I'm a good....recovery student so I never resisted treatment. My other peers....tell the mental health team to go f. themselves. lol! We have a good morbid laugh in support group sometimes because we all know that we are completely bat shit..just stable in group....sometimes.  |
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"If you don't like my personality just stick around, there will be another one coming shortly..."
I wish that was the case for me. Personality disorder doesn't have anything to do with a person's personality. They just used that an easy naming convention and classification for the DM-V manuals. |
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"Yep I have Bipolar Disorder and ADHD. This lifestyle has helped alot as I used to self medicate with sex.my behaviour was incredibly risky. At least now I tend to stick to clubs and parties so a little safer. My sex drive is high regardless of hypo or hyper states. I am also perimenopausal and still no dip in my sex drive lol. "
My libido definitely dipped and I get hot flashes and night sweats have to sleep with the heating off most of the year!!
Yeah I've done some risky sex..walking the street at night/etc.... much better for me in the clubs. The autism makes me miss red flags social cues too.
Post-pandemic and post intensive therapy 2022 I noticed apathy around sex, dating, masturbation or even watching porn...That had never happened before and was worried because I felt like I am too young to pack up the vagina. lol! Turns out I was probably disconnected from my body so I turned to clubs. I still get disconnected but I know how to reconnect it now.
I just want to be as healthy as possible and that includes sexually. Masking my sexual desire is probably a recipe for disaster...as we all know it could resurface and come out in dysfunctional/maladaptive/unsafe/uncontrolled ways. |
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Bipolar II here but menopause has killed any hypomania really. Now it only manifests itself as extreme anxiety and panic…
It sounds wrong, but I miss so much the hypomanias and the hypersexuality of my 20s/30s. Thankfully it never got out of hand! |
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By *CExe OP Couple 5 weeks ago
Lincoln/Exeter |
"Bipolar II here but menopause has killed any hypomania really. Now it only manifests itself as extreme anxiety and panic…
It sounds wrong, but I miss so much the hypomanias and the hypersexuality of my 20s/30s. Thankfully it never got out of hand! "
My anxiety is absolutely destroying me at the moment. Getting close to panic attacks and feeling horrible a lot of the time. So much so I've actually self referred to the MH folks. Thankfully the hypomania is still a regular visitor with the accompanying hypersexuality. I also feel a little guilty for enjoying the highs. |
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"Bipolar II here but menopause has killed any hypomania really. Now it only manifests itself as extreme anxiety and panic…
It sounds wrong, but I miss so much the hypomanias and the hypersexuality of my 20s/30s. Thankfully it never got out of hand! "
Hugs...my anxiety is getting worse as I get older...I can only put it down to having more responsibility with zero autism support and rapidly changing societal dynamics...and I have no kids, spouse, career or giant home to look after! |
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"Does anyone here with these type of disorders do physical exercise? Apparently, weight training and yoga have a positive impact..."
manual job in the supermarket 2 days a week. trainer one day a week. cycling and swimming all the other days. I can't keep it up as I'm too fatigued. the meds, insomnia and female uterine hormones drain women's energy. Exercising with PMS or PMDD or endometriosis or PCOS or fibroids is an absolute killer. weak and feeling like throwing up. Zero gains when that is happening.
I stopped one medication with careful monitored tapering because it was giving brain fog and uncontrolled weight gain. I would never advocate anyone stop their mental health meds suddenly......withdrawals are an absolute b*tchy bl00dy b@stard.
Also fun fact the flipping gym actually can be overstimulating for my autistic brain! If you have social anxiety, no gym for you either.
I did go and do some stretching on the Heath when it was dry and warm but that's not the usual outdoor UK scene.
My poor freezing trainer has to stand and watch me slid around in mud and sleet and gale force and snow in some attempt to keep my fat arse and dodgy left hip from de-mobilising me. Lol! |
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"Does anyone here with these type of disorders do physical exercise? Apparently, weight training and yoga have a positive impact..."
Oh depending on the yoga I fall alseep! Lol! Pilates works better for me or a more dynamic movement-based practice...my leisure centre does Iyengar yoga and that keeps me awake in the movements. |
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"Bipolar II here but menopause has killed any hypomania really. Now it only manifests itself as extreme anxiety and panic…
It sounds wrong, but I miss so much the hypomanias and the hypersexuality of my 20s/30s. Thankfully it never got out of hand!
My anxiety is absolutely destroying me at the moment. Getting close to panic attacks and feeling horrible a lot of the time. So much so I've actually self referred to the MH folks. Thankfully the hypomania is still a regular visitor with the accompanying hypersexuality. I also feel a little guilty for enjoying the highs."
Yeah I never get highs like bipolar.... jealous. Lol!
Hopefully the mental health folks ( whoever they are) can help....if not
there are online bipolar forums you can join...I joined them for BPD and I have to join some for autism.
I practice daily three psychotherapy modalities: CBT, DBT and MBT. keeps me out of most trouble with meds. I don't know if they work well for bipolar but some people teach themselves DBT and CBT... and a website that I use is dbtselfhelp. There's also Anxiety UK.
When my anxiety is bad, I use 4-7-8 breathing by Dr Weil and use Spotify and Youtube for guided sessions to calm me down.
Hope that helps a bit. I'm off to bed night all. |
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Hey, read your post.
Is this something new you are experiencing?
For example I've just been moved from olanzapine as it gave me the worst dry mouth in the world
Back on lithium now it's been 4 weeks and I'm still not adjusted, patterns of behavior have changed again for example I've developed an impulse to splurge my money randomly on the most random things.
My libido is all over the shop, the dreams I have currently are so vivid it's scary!
Hope your coping! |
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"If you don't like my personality just stick around, there will be another one coming shortly...
I wish that was the case for me. Personality disorder doesn't have anything to do with a person's personality. They just used that an easy naming convention and classification for the DM-V manuals."
Oh, I know. I was really saying that my masking still slips far too often... |
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Bipolar 1 here. Currently in crisis house after shagging half the country a few weeks back. Thought I was a sex god and so awesome at it! Not feeling so pretty now because the loss of control was very real! I also have told all and sundry what I did so can't even hide from it... even my poor mother! Only a couple of the shags were decent as well. |
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"Bipolar 1 here. Currently in crisis house after shagging half the country a few weeks back. Thought I was a sex god and so awesome at it! Not feeling so pretty now because the loss of control was very real! I also have told all and sundry what I did so can't even hide from it... even my poor mother! Only a couple of the shags were decent as well. "
Been there done that your defo not alone im also bipolar and have done some pretty wild things met pornstars ect the come down and going back into reality is the worse i try to forget |
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This is something we are familiar with too, huge financial decisions were taken - cosmetic surgery, quitting jobs, buy new car the list is endless. But like everything, one learns to manage it and more importantly need to find a suitable support system. Often it’s the loved ones around you who are close to you that can spot the change and tide turning before one feels it himself/herself. We are happy to speak to anyone who no struggles, don’t consider yourself alone… here to support, talk and meet if it helps ❤️ |
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A female friend of mine is bi-polar. She reckons she has 4 personalities. To be honest, I agree with her. We call them "girls" 😂.
She isn't talking to me at the minute but at some point, another girl will be in power and she'll start talking to me again. 😂
She's challenging, but an amazing person. |
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Not bipolar but schizoaffective and I agree I’m definitely on here more during a hypersexual phase or a mania phase. I’m very rarely horny nowadays apart from during an episode |
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