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"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around. I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean. So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc. I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities. Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar? " I don’t feel stupid it’s the decent thing to do - your mates are selfish arseholes. You keep doing what you’re doing lovely x | |||
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"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around. I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean. So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc. I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities. Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar? " Like you, I live alone and am heartily fed up of not seeing anyone (I'm shielding). But I've not caught it, as many of the people I know have. Staying safe inside is the only thing to do. Your friends, and all the other selfish twats disregarding lockdown, are why you and I are feeling miserable. Remember that x | |||
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"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around. I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean. So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc. I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities. Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar? " Take heart. Your friends are just being inconsiderate prats. It's the likes of them that are extending our general pain. Don't be jealous be angry! You're so in the right for being a proper caring human being! | |||
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"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least. You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. " Surely better to come out alive? | |||
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"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least. You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. " As someone whose mental health has suffered incredibly during this, hard pass. I'll cope with my shit, fix it later, and not risk harming or killing someone. | |||
"You may lose them as friends after all this, but are they really the type of people you want to be friends with? I've seen people I know in a very different light this last year. I'm not going to miss them in the slightest. " Agreed. | |||
"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least. You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. As someone whose mental health has suffered incredibly during this, hard pass. I'll cope with my shit, fix it later, and not risk harming or killing someone." Exactly this 
Living alone, shielding & not having family close is soul destroying. But I know people who have died. So I'll do my utmost to cope & fall apart when it's over. Cos this is the RIGHT THING TO DO! | |||
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"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around. I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean. So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc. I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities. Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar? " You should feel proud, i have to go to work and pretty much have the whole time, i try my best to follow the rules but out and about different working places there are so so many not like you, rule breakers are everywhere unfortunately, It makes me feel very nervous amd worried but not much I can do. If everyone was like you maybe alot wouldn’t have died, it very very sad. Round my way just outside Bristol where we have the mutated version sometimes i think people are talking no notice of the rules, definitely more so this lockdown. Keep your chin up and be very proud of yourself. | |||
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"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least. You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. " This is bad advice sorry. | |||
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"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around. I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean. So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc. I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities. Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar? " You are doing the right thing the stupid ones are those not following the rules,stay strong and continue to be clever | |||
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"Your not stupid for feeling how you do. However a healthy balance needs to be maintained with your mental health, you need to do whats right for you to make sure you come out the other side in a good place." amen to that!!! | |||
"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end " Oh dear | |||
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"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end " People are judgemental everywhere it is part of being human | |||
"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end " Yikes. The health of our nation and our people depends on every single one of us doing the right thing. Just as you judge the "judgemental snitching twats", others judge those whose behaviour is not in the public interest. They have as much right to judge as you do. | |||
"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end " Actually, full of stupid irresponsible twats. | |||
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"Wow I must say I’m overwhelmed with the positive messages I got back on this subject, it’s good to hear so many reassuring views that following the rules is the right way to go regardless of whether others are or not. I think sometimes we can all spend a lot of time overthinking and being stuck in our own heads, it’s difficult to get by when you see many who flout the rules put in place for the good of society. Although it is a minority and for the majority who stick to them, we will be glad to reap the benefits when they are no longer needed. It’s a shame that others are so selfish, and even more so that some of those that are selfish are those I’d call friends. Like a few have mentioned on here, it probably is wise to take some time to reflect on our relationships we have with people and evaluate whether they are still people we want to associate with once the pandemic has passed. I do hope I can continue with my relationships I had pre-covid, putting aside some selfish attitudes they may have and remember the qualities that made our friendships in the first place. Only time will tell. As always, there’s a great community of people on fab and in the world, it’s good to see a warming sense of humanity in the comments and has been a good pick me up in an otherwise shitty weekend "Just remember to keep you're head up mate and focus on enduring and surviving this terrible storm known as the pandemic... Even if life will never be the same again and returns to some form off normality gradually it will be better then nothing.. Some folks offered up some good points/advice which could help at times the question is if you feel comfortable taking them or not it's up to you.. | |||
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"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least. You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. Surely better to come out alive? " The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule. Sure, do what you can to mitigate, but this is with us for generations so unless you're willing to stay indoors for the rest of your life the sanctimony is somewhat boring now. The best thing anyone can do is responsibly bubble up, restricting wider contact while assisting with mental health issues. This is putting aside the fact that there are literally millions of people still working, sharing child custody etc, all of whom are a greater risk of transmission than a couple of people forming a bond to get through this shit. The government forced and will force kids back to school and they are super spreaders, so there's little point in vilifying people who are going through a genuinely difficult time. You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse. | |||
" Surely better to come out alive? The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule. 100k+ is miniscule?? Wow. You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse." If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later. | |||
" Surely better to come out alive? The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule. 100k+ is miniscule?? Wow. You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse. If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later." I feel as though you've incorrectly quoted, so part of your response is my original post, but yes, the numbers you cite are minuscule when weighed against the total population of the UK. That's not to say they are insignificant or worthless, I'm just putting it into context. The ONS reports that 1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021. That's not how many people are ill or have died. That is a tiny fraction of the total population. Yes, it's tragic that people have lost their lives, but throwing numbers out there in lieu of context doesn't help anyone. I agree that everyone should be doing their bit, but the goal is to minimise transmission and mitigate risk, not to eliminate it (because that is impossible). The media loves to refer to this as a deadly disease, which it can be in some instances, but so can flu, strokes, diabetes, COPD and many others. Usually this isn't, as evidenced by the overwhelming majority of people who are asymptomatic. The point being that, while this is more virulent than most, it's no more deadly and it will be around for generations. Those seeking to make intimate, personal connections with one person for the sake of their mental health should not be tarred with the same brush as those having parties and mixing with dozens or hundreds of people. Again, you may be single, but there are people posting in this thread using unsavoury tend to describe those they perceive as transgressors, while being comfortably coupled up. As for me, in case anyone thinks I'm out coughing on old ladies for fun, I've been stuck indoors like the rest of you for the best part of a year. It's not good for me or anyone else and it cannot continue indefinitely. I would bubble up tomorrow if I could meet a compatible woman, which would be no different than any long term cohabiting couple. Trouble with this shit is that it's emotive and people lose sight of reason and logic. | |||
You stick to doing what you're doing and feel proud when you look in that mirror!
Remember this won't last forever. Keep well x
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" Surely better to come out alive? The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule. 100k+ is miniscule?? Wow. You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse. If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later. I feel as though you've incorrectly quoted, so part of your response is my original post, but yes, the numbers you cite are minuscule when weighed against the total population of the UK. That's not to say they are insignificant or worthless, I'm just putting it into context. The ONS reports that 1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021. That's not how many people are ill or have died. That is a tiny fraction of the total population. Yes, it's tragic that people have lost their lives, but throwing numbers out there in lieu of context doesn't help anyone. I agree that everyone should be doing their bit, but the goal is to minimise transmission and mitigate risk, not to eliminate it (because that is impossible). The media loves to refer to this as a deadly disease, which it can be in some instances, but so can flu, strokes, diabetes, COPD and many others. Usually this isn't, as evidenced by the overwhelming majority of people who are asymptomatic. The point being that, while this is more virulent than most, it's no more deadly and it will be around for generations. Those seeking to make intimate, personal connections with one person for the sake of their mental health should not be tarred with the same brush as those having parties and mixing with dozens or hundreds of people. Again, you may be single, but there are people posting in this thread using unsavoury tend to describe those they perceive as transgressors, while being comfortably coupled up. As for me, in case anyone thinks I'm out coughing on old ladies for fun, I've been stuck indoors like the rest of you for the best part of a year. It's not good for me or anyone else and it cannot continue indefinitely. I would bubble up tomorrow if I could meet a compatible woman, which would be no different than any long term cohabiting couple. Trouble with this shit is that it's emotive and people lose sight of reason and logic." "1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021"...And your point? | |||
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" Surely better to come out alive? The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule. 100k+ is miniscule?? Wow. You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse. If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later. I feel as though you've incorrectly quoted, so part of your response is my original post, but yes, the numbers you cite are minuscule when weighed against the total population of the UK. That's not to say they are insignificant or worthless, I'm just putting it into context. The ONS reports that 1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021. That's not how many people are ill or have died. That is a tiny fraction of the total population. Yes, it's tragic that people have lost their lives, but throwing numbers out there in lieu of context doesn't help anyone. I agree that everyone should be doing their bit, but the goal is to minimise transmission and mitigate risk, not to eliminate it (because that is impossible). The media loves to refer to this as a deadly disease, which it can be in some instances, but so can flu, strokes, diabetes, COPD and many others. Usually this isn't, as evidenced by the overwhelming majority of people who are asymptomatic. The point being that, while this is more virulent than most, it's no more deadly and it will be around for generations. Those seeking to make intimate, personal connections with one person for the sake of their mental health should not be tarred with the same brush as those having parties and mixing with dozens or hundreds of people. Again, you may be single, but there are people posting in this thread using unsavoury tend to describe those they perceive as transgressors, while being comfortably coupled up. As for me, in case anyone thinks I'm out coughing on old ladies for fun, I've been stuck indoors like the rest of you for the best part of a year. It's not good for me or anyone else and it cannot continue indefinitely. I would bubble up tomorrow if I could meet a compatible woman, which would be no different than any long term cohabiting couple. Trouble with this shit is that it's emotive and people lose sight of reason and logic." The ONS assessed that 20% of us have had it - 115k dead. Do the maths. How many death would be too much? | |||
"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around. I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean. So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc. I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities. Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar? " You're doing the right thing, OP. You are absolutely not stupid or a mug to be helping to stop the spread of this thing, however far others may put that behind their own enjoyment. Stick with it, friend! | |||
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"We still don't know anyone who has been really poorly with this virus. We have not really followed the rules as we have worked all the way though this so it seems pretty pointless. Don't get us wrong, we have not been arranging meets or been reckless but if we have wanted to have a couple of tea with family members we have done. We had our Christmas as normal and despite the doom and gloom merchants no one who visited us has been ill but they did have a lovely day. " Good for you. Someone not hiding behind the sofa. All about just acting responsibly and being sensible, avoiding vulnerable people. I won’t have the government telling me I can’t see my family and friends though. Even if we get to 200,000 dead it’s tragic, of course, but, still a small number when you consider the population of this country. The reaction we have is disproportionate. Always has been. The government have blood on their hands as far as I’m concerned. Many more lives will be lost in the decades ahead, from their imposition of lockdowns than will ever die from Covid. | |||
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