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CV and your confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

Yes- I am fully aware and whole heartedly agree that I am so very lucky to be alive- but that just adds to my selfish thoughts and makes me feel even more sad. Why am I selfish to be thinking like this?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x

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By *ornyj37Man over a year ago

Devon

Absolutely not alone... Clinging to the fact that one day all will be normal x

"Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Absolutely not alone... Clinging to the fact that one day all will be normal x

Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x"

Normal? Maybe this is our normal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hear you OP.

Not sure what to advise other than some structured exercise might lift your mood.

I've loved the tranquility and slow pace of lockdown, not been affected by it barely at all, but even I am feeling anxious and low a lot of the time, with no apparent reason.

My 'go tos' are a walk and the radio on on my phone to distract my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I hear you OP.

Not sure what to advise other than some structured exercise might lift your mood.

I've loved the tranquility and slow pace of lockdown, not been affected by it barely at all, but even I am feeling anxious and low a lot of the time, with no apparent reason.

My 'go tos' are a walk and the radio on on my phone to distract my thoughts."

Thank you both for your empathy. I am very grateful.

Truly!

Yes I adore a walk... maybe the weather has affected me too as those are dampened right now...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x"

Morning

Sorry to hear your going through it and feeling down. All I would advise is set small goals and start fro nthe beginning. There is no shame in starting again. Rather than doing a 5 mile run, why not set yourself a goal of perhaps walking a mile then build up for there?

Small achievable goals.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x

Morning

Small achievable goals. "

Gosh! Another supportive message- thank you!

How kind you all are- and to a complete stranger too.

I just wish I could do that second run. I ran four on Monday (shorter than my usual) but didn’t enjoy it like I usually would- so haven’t since.

I’m confused by it all

Mrs P x

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By *hropsGuy69Man over a year ago

telford

Hey OP

I went through a terrible patch about 1.5 months ago, I was on furlough, which gave me way too much thinking time - I feared for my job , my ex gf was screwing with my head & upsetting me & my divorce legal costs to ex wife were spiralling ...

I would walk down to the river side everyday sit on a bench and cry into my hands , I’ve never been so low.... So your definitely not alone hunny.

Since then many things have turned around and I’m feeling great again ..

My point being is that things will change for the better , think of a couple of positive things and latch onto them , I waked ALOT - this helped me clear my mind ..... also started an exercise regime (running & rowing) not with the primary goal of losing weight , well maybe to tone a little , but primarily to focus my mind and maybe feel better about myself.

My mistake was not talking to someone , you need to find someone to confide in , I kept everything bottled up which believe me didn’t help...

Anyway im a good listener if you needed a none biased total stranger off a swinging sites ear

Keep strong hun

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By *ornyscotsman198812Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I'm having a problem with putting on weight the now I've always been a slim guy and now I've got myself a barrel growing and I dont like it..especially when I have to go long way to shop as I no longer fit through the gap in the fence for the quick way..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x

Morning

Small achievable goals. "

^ this.

I have a chronic medical condition, so my ability to exercise is limited. I keep track of it on a phone app and love to look back at what I have achieved.

I live alone, but can imagine being locked up with someone all this time would get you down. I can only manage about 2-4 hours in someone's company

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hey OP

I would walk down to the river side everyday sit on a bench and cry into my hands , I’ve never been so low.... So your definitely not alone hunny.

Since then many things have turned around and I’m feeling great again ..

My mistake was not talking to someone , you need to find someone to confide in , I kept everything bottled up which believe me didn’t help...

Anyway im a good listener if you needed a none biased total stranger off a swinging sites ear

Keep strong hun"

Hello!

And such a positive post. Perhaps you’re giving us hope (and others that feel like me as I’m hoping I’m not alone), that these things will pass.

I wish I could get some motivation.

I just need that desire and spark...

Mrs P x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm having a problem with putting on weight the now I've always been a slim guy and now I've got myself a barrel growing and I dont like it..especially when I have to go long way to shop as I no longer fit through the gap in the fence for the quick way.."

Am I allowed to smile at this?

I am- remind me of being a kid squeezing through the cut...

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By *ntelligent Gent.Man over a year ago

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We go through ups and downs and given the circumstances its natural to not be quite yourself. You did the wise thing to share and a down is often followed by an up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x

Morning

Small achievable goals.

^ this.

I have a chronic medical condition, so my ability to exercise is limited. I keep track of it on a phone app and love to look back at what I have achieved.

I live alone, but can imagine being locked up with someone all this time would get you down. I can only manage about 2-4 hours in someone's company

Thank you for sharing.

You’re lovely x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We go through ups and downs and given the circumstances its natural to not be quite yourself. You did the wise thing to share and a down is often followed by an up. "

Hey x

Hope you’re ok?

I hope so x

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By *ntelligent Gent.Man over a year ago

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That's very thoughtful I'm doing just fine. I've been fortunate but definitely had the odd day dreaming of being in New Zealand, Australia, Fiji, Taiwan, Germany, Norway, Sweden et al

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lock down and Covid had affected many people in many ways .. I have been off since mid March ...due back Monday ... I found walking and Gardening helped focus my mind ..Fab is great if your mind is in the right place but sometimes a " no thanks " affects people the wrong way ... Keep smiling and done worry about your mojo ..it's still there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally understandable op & have been feeling the same here. Its like a roller-coaster of corona emotions. Some days I can feel like Mary Poppins at home baking bread and being a domestic goddess and other days it's an effort to even watch Netflix

My only advice would be, be kind to yourself! This situation is not something anyone could of predicted and there is no rules on how we should and shouldn't act so whatever you get done today is good enough, if you have that extra cake that's OK too.

Sending positivity across the water

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Gosh!

I’m overwhelmed by our community love!

Thank you to all of you and for the private messages too.

I have to head to work now so apologise that I can’t say thanks in the day- but I will try to reply when I get home again.

Your kindness is beautiful!

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By *ewkesbury cowboyMan over a year ago

Tewkesbury

I've been in the same boat for a few weeks, doesn't help that my partner broke up with me halfway through lock down. I know it's tough but hang in there and you'll see the other side soon enough

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I think it would be helpful if you could be as compassionate with yourself as you would be with others. This would probably include taking off any pressure, criticism etc and to allow yourself just a period of being and accepting yourself things and you as you are. You can do things, or adjust but just being without any selfimposed pressure could be freeing for your spirit.

If there are small things that you can do to treat yourself, just for being you, theu could be good. And possibly take a few minutes each day to just be with your partner, possibly talk, but have some quiet unpressured time of being with each other, accepting the time and yourselves as you both are now.

Nature is a wonderful healer. Whilst you have loved exercise, consider having some time around nature without any pressure, enjoying it for what it is. A regular routine of getting out doing the same could be great for you.

Touch is healing, so consider giving and getting massage with your partner. Perhaps you could explore yoga together too. Its breathing and relaxation could be mind altering, as you suspend judgement and just be in the moment, which could help your mind regain its calm and strength.

Hope you regain some peace, tranquility and recovery as you move through coming time xx

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By *mmabluTV/TS over a year ago

upton wirral

"Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P x"
You are not alone I think w all have up and down times at present.

Sex is a very small part of it,times are very worrying in many areas

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it would be helpful if you could be as compassionate with yourself as you would be with others. This would probably include taking off any pressure, criticism etc and to allow yourself just a period of being and accepting yourself things and you as you are. You can do things, or adjust but just being without any selfimposed pressure could be freeing for your spirit.

Hope you regain some peace, tranquility and recovery as you move through coming time xx"

What fantastic advice! And so soothing. Gosh! You’ve actually made me cry a little.

Thank you.

I think I do need touch and time.

And I adore being outside. I think the weather and being back indoors at work has had such an impact on my soul.

I will try to follow your advice of listening to what I may say to others... so much easier said than done though eh?

Sending massive love

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Morning,

I have woken today on an almighty low. Does anyone else have these rollercoaster emotions still?

I used to exercise daily. Now I just eat cakes daily and have put on so much weight it’s unreal. That’s affected my confidence but I just can’t seem to bring myself to do anything about it.

I’ve returned to work but lie awake until god knows what hours and wake at sunrise.

There is no sex happening in this house.

It’s all gone Pete Tong.

Maybe some kind advice, or empathy that I’m not alone please?

Mrs P xYou are not alone I think w all have up and down times at present.

Sex is a very small part of it,times are very worrying in many areas"

So very true and I am so grateful for you saying I’m not weird or selfish.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Hope you regain some peace, tranquility and recovery as you move through coming time xx

What fantastic advice! And so soothing. Gosh! You’ve actually made me cry a little.

Thank you.

I think I do need touch and time.

And I adore being outside. I think the weather and being back indoors at work has had such an impact on my soul.

I will try to follow your advice of listening to what I may say to others... so much easier said than done though eh?

Sending massive love

Glad it's potentially of value

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By *iddle ManMan over a year ago

Walsall

So what if people put on a bit of weight or don't feel as they did before. Its perfectly acceptable to feel a little strange and be out of our regular routines. It's played havoc with most people, I've had such terrible sleep patterns and working full time still.

Everyone should be grateful for what we have and know that at some point in the near future things will return to normal and we can all go about our daily lives with a new sense of thankfulness.

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By *erkshireJJMan over a year ago

Marlow

Run baby run!

For many years I have been an enthusiastic and active supporter of Parkrun. I used to look forward to Saturday morning come rain or shine and now that it's shut down I miss it terribly.

To try and keep up my level of fitness I now run on my own, it's not the same, it's too easy to say 'I'll do it tomorrow'. I have to make a consciousness effort to get going, so I know it's harder, but when I get back after a run I feel so much better.

When I'm running I smile and say hello to people, the vast majority say hello back and the positive effect on my mood is great.

So, I would erge you to just go out and run, don't worry about the times or distances - mine have gone to shit over the last few months.

Just run and smile, the worst that they will think is that you are some kind of lunatic.

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