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Definitely the money thing for me. Also more quality time with my son... Less rushing around to sports and training and everything we do normally. I haven't been wearing much make up and my skin looks healthier. Enjoying having more me time for baths, yoga, reading etc. |
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Saved a packet.
Done all the jobs I needed to do around the house garden and paddocks.
Read a lot of books.
Even though I have worked all through I have Spent some quality time with my dogs and horse as I have had nothing else to do in the evenings and weekends. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Spending quality time with my children, playing games that usually only come out at Christmas. Going out on bike rides with them, saving money and generally rushing around a lot less than normal. I quite like it  |
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It has brought me closer to a friend I met last year. Supporting each other confirms the hunch I had that she will be a key person in my life
Buying cheap skincare products from Aldi rather than Clarins etc and realising my skin feels amazing. This will continue to save me money in the future |
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over a year ago
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As I'm working at home most days I don't have to get up at 6.30am. Plus I'm saving on fuel that I'm not using to drive the 52 mile round trip to work & back. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm now learning how to trade effectively in crypto currency. "
I listened to a podcast on onecoin. I had no clue what a crypto currency was before that.
I've had time to listen to podcasts, read books and same as others. Spending less money has been a positive too. |
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over a year ago
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Got used to a slower pace of life, realised a lot of the things I used to fill my life with weren’t making me especially happy. Also working from home has been nice so far. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
Just being able to spend time together alone has been absolutely great
I work hard in a physically demanding job so being off has allowed all those little
aches and sprains that never get time to heal properly have been disappearing  |
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over a year ago
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Ermmmmmm erm ermmmm.
Tbh my life hasn't changed. The negative has been I just got back to driving a month before lockdown and it's now part of my rehab programme but the lockdown has restricted that rather than being able to drive for longer periods as my brain permits. |
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over a year ago
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I've still been working but had to cut my hours with my kids being off. Saved money on pointless shopping trips,sorted a lot of my garden out,generally got on top of stuff that needed doing around the house  |
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The drive to work for me (chimp) was super quick..
We've been walking every day and explored almost every inch of where we live in a 2 mile radius.
Saved money
Had a fantastic time at home together, making cocktails, playing board games, discovering new music.
People on the whole seemed more open to saying good morning and wanting to engage.
We actually don't want things to go back to "normal".. |
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over a year ago
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Saved money.
It's also helped push me to want to leave fab after all this and focus on finding a real connection.
Before this I was only half heartedly trying to date but didn't really put much work into it. Now I can't wait to try and see how it goes |
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This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
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Not showing you in a poor light at all. Everyone needs a break, enjoy it. Xx |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
Not showing you in a poor light at all. Everyone needs a break, enjoy it. Xx"
thank you x |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
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nooo why would it show you in a bad light. Being a carer is hard work... |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
nooo why would it show you in a bad light. Being a carer is hard work... "
Because it's a relief not to be doing it and I know that when one of them calls to tell me x, y or z has gone wrong I don't need to drive over there and sort it. When my mum was taken to a and e it was a huge relief to know that there was absolutely nothing I could do.
My brain tells me it's ok but it feels wrong. |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
nooo why would it show you in a bad light. Being a carer is hard work...
Because it's a relief not to be doing it and I know that when one of them calls to tell me x, y or z has gone wrong I don't need to drive over there and sort it. When my mum was taken to a and e it was a huge relief to know that there was absolutely nothing I could do.
My brain tells me it's ok but it feels wrong. "
it is okay... but your feelings are natural. I've been a carer for my daughter for 23 years .. I still sometimes feel bad about my breaks but it enables me to carry on coping and to give myself much needed down time. Something I am not getting really currently....hence the holiday plans in July or a bit later.. a few days away or even a night at a club is a good tonic.
You cant help them right now but your still doing what you can
Take the time to recharge |
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I dont have to worry about small children screaming in fear and terror as i pass, women turning their faces away and vomitting, or men , giving out the paddington stare, as if my approach has challenged the very fabric of thier whole existence . Cos im not allowed out the fucking door. So it s a win win win win essentially ! |
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Loving the clear skies.
Spending time with my mum, getting to actually know her.
Getting lots of jobs started AND finished! Lol.
Materialism seems less important to many people.
I wonder if it will last? |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
nooo why would it show you in a bad light. Being a carer is hard work...
Because it's a relief not to be doing it and I know that when one of them calls to tell me x, y or z has gone wrong I don't need to drive over there and sort it. When my mum was taken to a and e it was a huge relief to know that there was absolutely nothing I could do.
My brain tells me it's ok but it feels wrong. it is okay... but your feelings are natural. I've been a carer for my daughter for 23 years .. I still sometimes feel bad about my breaks but it enables me to carry on coping and to give myself much needed down time. Something I am not getting really currently....hence the holiday plans in July or a bit later.. a few days away or even a night at a club is a good tonic.
You cant help them right now but your still doing what you can
Take the time to recharge "
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Thank you
I hope you get some respite too. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
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I don't think that looks bad on you, you know all their needs are still being met and that you would do whatever they needed if it was necessary for you to do it.
You are fully prepared to go back after all this.
Nothing at all wrong with enjoying less pressure when you know everything is is taking care of, as much as it is in your power. |
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"Saved money.
It's also helped push me to want to leave fab after all this and focus on finding a real connection.
Before this I was only half heartedly trying to date but didn't really put much work into it. Now I can't wait to try and see how it goes "
I’m thinking the same  |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
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Guilt is a horrible thing but you have no reason to believe you might be seen in a bad light in any way, your still there for them and that they asked you to scale back will be reassuring for them and its given you a bit of a respite..
Maybe when in the future you could kero some of the care that you normally do, still see them etc and that time with them is more about you all?
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
I don't think that looks bad on you, you know all their needs are still being met and that you would do whatever they needed if it was necessary for you to do it.
You are fully prepared to go back after all this.
Nothing at all wrong with enjoying less pressure when you know everything is is taking care of, as much as it is in your power."
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
Guilt is a horrible thing but you have no reason to believe you might be seen in a bad light in any way, your still there for them and that they asked you to scale back will be reassuring for them and its given you a bit of a respite..
Maybe when in the future you could kero some of the care that you normally do, still see them etc and that time with them is more about you all?
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Your last point is something that I know they are very conscious of. My mum will say that certain things don't need doing because I know she wants me to just be there on a visit.
I'm still remote IT support  . Trying to talk a 93 year old with limited tech knowledge through downloading pictures from a camera is an experience  |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
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No doesn't show you in a bad light at all, all it shows is how much work caring actually is and that everyone needs a break now and again.
Won't stop you feeling you that way though, it's natural to feel that way when you're a caring person by nature. |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
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No doesn't show you in a bad light at all, all it shows is how much work caring actually is and that everyone needs a break now and again.
Won't stop you feeling you that way though, it's natural to feel that way when you're a caring person by nature."
I think you're right. I'm not sure I am a caring person by nature though. I don't think I'd do it for anyone who wasn't family.
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
Guilt is a horrible thing but you have no reason to believe you might be seen in a bad light in any way, your still there for them and that they asked you to scale back will be reassuring for them and its given you a bit of a respite..
Maybe when in the future you could kero some of the care that you normally do, still see them etc and that time with them is more about you all?
Your last point is something that I know they are very conscious of. My mum will say that certain things don't need doing because I know she wants me to just be there on a visit.
I'm still remote IT support . Trying to talk a 93 year old with limited tech knowledge through downloading pictures from a camera is an experience "
We, although that's a porkie pie as Lynn does the IT have had the same with her parents..
Talking her mum through the online testing application was never going to work so it was done this end, the use of the test kit was only slightly less of a turmoil..
It's a difficult one as we know from when Dad was here prior to the virus he would tell his carers that certain things did not need doing as he didn't want to 'bother them', we had to tell them to not ask but to just do it.. |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
Guilt is a horrible thing but you have no reason to believe you might be seen in a bad light in any way, your still there for them and that they asked you to scale back will be reassuring for them and its given you a bit of a respite..
Maybe when in the future you could kero some of the care that you normally do, still see them etc and that time with them is more about you all?
Your last point is something that I know they are very conscious of. My mum will say that certain things don't need doing because I know she wants me to just be there on a visit.
I'm still remote IT support . Trying to talk a 93 year old with limited tech knowledge through downloading pictures from a camera is an experience
We, although that's a porkie pie as Lynn does the IT have had the same with her parents..
Talking her mum through the online testing application was never going to work so it was done this end, the use of the test kit was only slightly less of a turmoil..
It's a difficult one as we know from when Dad was here prior to the virus he would tell his carers that certain things did not need doing as he didn't want to 'bother them', we had to tell them to not ask but to just do it.. "
Oh god I can empathise with that one. The times I've told my parents that the carers job is to do things for them but they simply will not ask. The same applies to the cleaner. My mum now says "my daughter noticed that the skirting boards need doing" rather than asking outright. |
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"This is going to show me in a poor light.
Because my parents are very elderly they asked me not to go and do the usual stuff I do for them. I didn't realise how much stress this put on me and one positive is that for the past weeks I've been free of that.
I miss them of course and have been and sat in their garden and shouted through the window and done their shopping on line but knowing that when anything else happens they need to ask the carers has given me a bit of a rest.
Once things relax they will let me go back in and I will happily do it but until then I'm enjoying the freedom.
Guilt is a horrible thing but you have no reason to believe you might be seen in a bad light in any way, your still there for them and that they asked you to scale back will be reassuring for them and its given you a bit of a respite..
Maybe when in the future you could kero some of the care that you normally do, still see them etc and that time with them is more about you all?
Your last point is something that I know they are very conscious of. My mum will say that certain things don't need doing because I know she wants me to just be there on a visit.
I'm still remote IT support . Trying to talk a 93 year old with limited tech knowledge through downloading pictures from a camera is an experience
We, although that's a porkie pie as Lynn does the IT have had the same with her parents..
Talking her mum through the online testing application was never going to work so it was done this end, the use of the test kit was only slightly less of a turmoil..
It's a difficult one as we know from when Dad was here prior to the virus he would tell his carers that certain things did not need doing as he didn't want to 'bother them', we had to tell them to not ask but to just do it..
Oh god I can empathise with that one. The times I've told my parents that the carers job is to do things for them but they simply will not ask. The same applies to the cleaner. My mum now says "my daughter noticed that the skirting boards need doing" rather than asking outright. "
It must be common for their generation to not want to put upon others which is a good trait but getting Dad to understand he was paying for the service so him thanking them for popping in and sending them off with a satsuma wasn't how it should work..
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For me it’s finding a positive relationship with both myself and a Fab meet.
We met on Valentine’s Day night, spent a lot of time together in the following weeks and when lockdown came I basically said he should move in, selfish on my part as I didn’t want to not see him for how ever many months, but it’s worked out really well!
We’re now in a proper relationship, a piece of my life puzzle is complete and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
My little single parent family has lovingly grown and I look forward to our future xx
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Oh god I can empathise with that one. The times I've told my parents that the carers job is to do things for them but they simply will not ask. The same applies to the cleaner. My mum now says "my daughter noticed that the skirting boards need doing" rather than asking outright.
It must be common for their generation to not want to put upon others which is a good trait but getting Dad to understand he was paying for the service so him thanking them for popping in and sending them off with a satsuma wasn't how it should work..
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that's cheered me up no end just knowing its not only my mum and dad. |
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"I dont have to worry about small children screaming in fear and terror as i pass, women turning their faces away and vomitting, or men , giving out the paddington stare, as if my approach has challenged the very fabric of thier whole existence . Cos im not allowed out the fucking door. So it s a win win win win essentially ! "
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"I dont have to worry about small children screaming in fear and terror as i pass, women turning their faces away and vomitting, or men , giving out the paddington stare, as if my approach has challenged the very fabric of thier whole existence . Cos im not allowed out the fucking door. So it s a win win win win essentially !
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Don't know how to do hearts and rainbows lol but, stay safe |
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"I dont have to worry about small children screaming in fear and terror as i pass, women turning their faces away and vomitting, or men , giving out the paddington stare, as if my approach has challenged the very fabric of thier whole existence . Cos im not allowed out the fucking door. So it s a win win win win essentially !
Don't know how to do hearts and rainbows lol but, stay safe "
Do Reply + quote and you can see how it works.
( love ) ( rainbow ) but without the spaces. |
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By *S_CoupleCouple
over a year ago
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We moved to a new house in November so this has given me a chance to decorate most rooms, sort out the garden, organise the garage and just generally make it feel like a proper ‘home’.
Now I need to organise a whisky evening for some friends  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely nothing as I have to work.  "
I’m exactly the same.
Haven’t managed to save any money, just don’t get paid enough to be able to, lockdown or no lockdown. |
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By *ip2Man
over a year ago
Near Maidenhead |
Well, Cali, I've:
1) Given a bit more to charity;
2) Discovered how much stuff I really need - it's not that much;
3) Done more cycling than I ever thought possible - 600 km this month so far! |
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"We moved to a new house in November so this has given me a chance to decorate most rooms, sort out the garden, organise the garage and just generally make it feel like a proper ‘home’.
Now I need to organise a whisky evening for some friends "
Ditto for me. I have done SO much painting and decorating. And only just finished this morning!
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"We moved to a new house in November so this has given me a chance to decorate most rooms, sort out the garden, organise the garage and just generally make it feel like a proper ‘home’.
Now I need to organise a whisky evening for some friends
Ditto for me. I have done SO much painting and decorating. And only just finished this morning!
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"For me it’s finding a positive relationship with both myself and a Fab meet.
We met on Valentine’s Day night, spent a lot of time together in the following weeks and when lockdown came I basically said he should move in, selfish on my part as I didn’t want to not see him for how ever many months, but it’s worked out really well!
We’re now in a proper relationship, a piece of my life puzzle is complete and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
My little single parent family has lovingly grown and I look forward to our future xx
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Awwww this is excellent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe everyone will finally see how useless the Tories are and I will never have to live under their careless, loveless, greedy, self centred rule again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being able to focus and get back into the zone, eating 'clean' (low carbs) and training hard. I run three times a week and do intense workouts every day. Loving it
I've saved a fortune in not being able to visit my regular hair and beauty salons too!
Also, the garden looks beautiful but I can't take credit for that  |
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over a year ago
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Saved money. Done loads in garden and on allotment. Lost weight...dunno how much as never weighed myself in last 30 years or so....but lady friend from Malvern says I clearly have....we met outside socially distanced before anyone asks. |
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