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"are you saying that you would rather catch it and die? just so that you can get out and about and enjoy what you have now." No, im not being drawn into that kind of argument, simply because I've had it enough times over the past 2 weeks, but in my humble opinion, there is a 99% recovery rate, I'd take those odds, and especially with my own mental health issues, which can cause suicidle thoughts, I do believe thats probably more likely to kill me than covid-19, again, all just my opinion, and I'm sure as hell not going drag myself into an argument around it all | |||
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"Think everyone feels like this. People who don't live in the nuclear family especially" Yeah its crazy tough, I'm suprised how much of an effect its had, I've been dealing with depression for well over a year now with anti depressants, and had nothing happen for 6 months and then this past 2 weeks has hit me like a train, it's a bit mad really | |||
"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest" You wuss. I've been on "lockdown" for over a year  . | |||
"are you saying that you would rather catch it and die? just so that you can get out and about and enjoy what you have now. No, im not being drawn into that kind of argument, simply because I've had it enough times over the past 2 weeks, but in my humble opinion, there is a 99% recovery rate, I'd take those odds, and especially with my own mental health issues, which can cause suicidle thoughts, I do believe thats probably more likely to kill me than covid-19, again, all just my opinion, and I'm sure as hell not going drag myself into an argument around it all " OP.. Arrange regular calls with friends. And from tomorrow you can get out more. Just seeing ppl out n about helps. Google stuff for anxiety... Lots of help.. Reach out | |||
"Can you call your mates and take your exercise together? I'm off for a walk with my Dad tomorrow, we'll just keep 2m apart" Already in that process! But its proving more difficult than I thought haha! Everyone I ask seems to be to scared to leave the house so wont be trying to meet even at social distancing rules | |||
"are you saying that you would rather catch it and die? just so that you can get out and about and enjoy what you have now. No, im not being drawn into that kind of argument, simply because I've had it enough times over the past 2 weeks, but in my humble opinion, there is a 99% recovery rate, I'd take those odds, and especially with my own mental health issues, which can cause suicidle thoughts, I do believe thats probably more likely to kill me than covid-19, again, all just my opinion, and I'm sure as hell not going drag myself into an argument around it all OP.. Arrange regular calls with friends. And from tomorrow you can get out more. Just seeing ppl out n about helps. Google stuff for anxiety... Lots of help.. Reach out" All things I have been doing! Trying to reach out, I've found im definitely more of a social being than I thought, weirdly my snakes help, not an inneundo genuine animals lol, but yeah | |||
"Can you call your mates and take your exercise together? I'm off for a walk with my Dad tomorrow, we'll just keep 2m apart Already in that process! But its proving more difficult than I thought haha! Everyone I ask seems to be to scared to leave the house so wont be trying to meet even at social distancing rules" That's a shame, I'd rather go for a walk with someone than alone. | |||
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"are you saying that you would rather catch it and die? just so that you can get out and about and enjoy what you have now." No. I think he's reaching out to talk about his mental health and we should appreciate him for doing that. It's a time for all of to think a little from the heart. | |||
"are you saying that you would rather catch it and die? " But he won't catch it and die that's the whole nonsense. In the 20-24 age group upto the 1st May 2020 (from the ONS statistics updated today) there have been 17 death in total involving (not from) Covid 19 and most of those will have other health conditions that contributed to their deaths. This is the nonsense that is going on. As many are now dying from the collateral damage of lockdown as the disease itself which peaked over a month ago. | |||
"With social media etc not sure how people can feel lonely. Maybe make some time to talk to friends and get plenty of exercise as it always helps with low mood. We are the opposite and enjoying the more peaceful way of life. Hope your feeling more upbeat soon. " My social media tends to have the opposite effect, so many people arguing about it all and most people I see saying that we should all stay in untill its gone completly, which wont ever happen, its all bit mad on mine | |||
"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest" Yes. Completely. But you are talking about it, important first step and now that things are shifting a little find spaces that you can be closer to people while staying safe. Hope that you can find a way to ease your anxieties. | |||
"try and stay positive it will end ,i hope you feel better soon . " Im hoping so bud! Appreciate that | |||
" That's a shame, I'd rather go for a walk with someone than alone. " Ive got to agree with you on that. Its nice to walk and have a chat with someone than its to walk alone. | |||
" That's a shame, I'd rather go for a walk with someone than alone. Ive got to agree with you on that. Its nice to walk and have a chat with someone than its to walk alone. " 100% I get bored walking anyway so I'm guessing would be nice to be able to at least chat to someone | |||
"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest" OP you are definitely not alone. I struggle with mental health and a large part of managing it was socialising - going for a look round the shops, meeting a friend for a chat, going to local groups, going to church every week. Without those things to keep me occupied, I find myself slipping into a darker place. For me, phone calls and video chats just aren't effective - I need the face to face contact. Hang in there! | |||
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"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest OP you are definitely not alone. I struggle with mental health and a large part of managing it was socialising - going for a look round the shops, meeting a friend for a chat, going to local groups, going to church every week. Without those things to keep me occupied, I find myself slipping into a darker place. For me, phone calls and video chats just aren't effective - I need the face to face contact. Hang in there! " I couldnt agree with you anymore than I do! Video chats are nice and all but that physical face to face social interaction means so much more than just getting out! You too! Like I say to anyone, if you need a chat, let me know! | |||
"We must be honest and accept a vaccine will prob never happen. A coronavirus category vaccine has never been found. A herd immunity at some point, to some degree has to happen. When is the important question. I wonder what the vanilla dating sites are like right now... Imagine being told you cannot hug someone ever again until a vaccine has been found like Hancock said today. To be single right now must be a nightmare D" Believe me it is! I'm trying to use dating apps and its full of people that are bored in lockdown or just crave the attention, not many use it for such as getting to know someone for when lockdown comes to an end, its hard spotting fake intentions at the minute on those sites! | |||
"We must be honest and accept a vaccine will prob never happen. A coronavirus category vaccine has never been found. A herd immunity at some point, to some degree has to happen. When is the important question. I wonder what the vanilla dating sites are like right now... Imagine being told you cannot hug someone ever again until a vaccine has been found like Hancock said today. To be single right now must be a nightmare D" It is a nightmare. | |||
"With social media etc not sure how people can feel lonely. Maybe make some time to talk to friends and get plenty of exercise as it always helps with low mood. We are the opposite and enjoying the more peaceful way of life. Hope your feeling more upbeat soon. My social media tends to have the opposite effect, so many people arguing about it all and most people I see saying that we should all stay in untill its gone completly, which wont ever happen, its all bit mad on mine " We got rid of social media about 6 years ago, it was full of negativity, fake news and fake people. I honestly feel happier without it. Either way use WhatsApp or facetime and keep in contact with positive people. | |||
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"For what it's worth, I think you're having a perfectly normal reaction to abnormal circumstances. Don't over think, keep a routine and as active as you can. Set daily goals, doesn't have to be anything huge. Above all remind yourself it's the situation that's abnormal, not your reaction to it. There are positives around too... Try to focus on those, it is hard, I work full time and feel lonely as the weeks pass but it is what it is. You're doing great "Thats something I keep reminding myself of I think, and need to start dping more of is reminding myself that it isnt a normal situation, I'm working from home which is unsual for me, but getting ontop of stuff! Gym is normally the biggest help for me but I've learnt training at home is not for me! Slowly starting to accept that there isnt anything I can do to sort the situation so best to make the best I can, even if that isnt brilliant! Haha | |||
"With social media etc not sure how people can feel lonely. Maybe make some time to talk to friends and get plenty of exercise as it always helps with low mood. We are the opposite and enjoying the more peaceful way of life. Hope your feeling more upbeat soon. My social media tends to have the opposite effect, so many people arguing about it all and most people I see saying that we should all stay in untill its gone completly, which wont ever happen, its all bit mad on mine We got rid of social media about 6 years ago, it was full of negativity, fake news and fake people. I honestly feel happier without it. Either way use WhatsApp or facetime and keep in contact with positive people. " In all honesty only reason I've not come off it is bordem, flicking through facebook and instagram tends to be something I do without thinking now which is a scary thought in itself, but I try avoid it actively at the moment just with whats going on, a lot of social media experts that just cause up so much negativity | |||
"For what it's worth, I think you're having a perfectly normal reaction to abnormal circumstances. Don't over think, keep a routine and as active as you can. Set daily goals, doesn't have to be anything huge. Above all remind yourself it's the situation that's abnormal, not your reaction to it. There are positives around too... Try to focus on those, it is hard, I work full time and feel lonely as the weeks pass but it is what it is. You're doing great
Thats something I keep reminding myself of I think, and need to start dping more of is reminding myself that it isnt a normal situation, I'm working from home which is unsual for me, but getting ontop of stuff! Gym is normally the biggest help for me but I've learnt training at home is not for me! Slowly starting to accept that there isnt anything I can do to sort the situation so best to make the best I can, even if that isnt brilliant! Haha"That's great tho 
Acceptance is a liberating concept, we can't fix everything so the ability to adapt is your greatest weapon... | |||
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"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest" Don't worry its only till October only 4 months to go... Nik | |||
"With social media etc not sure how people can feel lonely. Maybe make some time to talk to friends and get plenty of exercise as it always helps with low mood. We are the opposite and enjoying the more peaceful way of life. Hope your feeling more upbeat soon. My social media tends to have the opposite effect, so many people arguing about it all and most people I see saying that we should all stay in untill its gone completly, which wont ever happen, its all bit mad on mine " Agree with you on the social media - I personally do not 'do' social media - to many keyboard warriors with inflammatory behaviour - the Fab forum being the only exception. I was treated for depression around the turn of the century: I'd let too many things build up and then it was a minor thing that flipped me over the edge. The drug treatment alarmed me - how could I feel so much better after a couple of days when the underlying issues were still there? So, my solution was to get out and about, engage with people, share my feelings, ask for help, connect with people who'd 'been there too'. I also had/have a dog, which was a real lifesaver. Mr Bicpl. | |||
" That's a shame, I'd rather go for a walk with someone than alone. Ive got to agree with you on that. Its nice to walk and have a chat with someone than its to walk alone. " Not on facebook but is there nbours you could knock say hi and ask if they fancy a 2mtr safe walk... try stay away from tv news ive not watch anything if i need to update i will do do via google or read gov web site. OP ive found that the forums will often give great ways to help. Get those rave tunes on and go outside for that walk xx | |||
"are you saying that you would rather catch it and die? just so that you can get out and about and enjoy what you have now." 99 per cent of people recover  | |||
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"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest" I'm lucky and have not been left alone through this. Be aware though, that if you have started to feel stressed and depressed you are not necessarily going to be thinking rationally about lockdown ending. I do not mean that disparigingly, but in your eagerness for it to end you may not behave as you would normally. The "bashing" of lockdown being gradually lifted is more about the utterly chaotic manner in which it has been done. Without, it seems, adequate consultation or consideration. Also the "recovery" is far from a dull one for most people, even the young. If you are unlucky enough to get it the full consequences are unknown and seem to hold the risk of long term lung, kidney or neurological damage or a combination of the three. A friend of mine is an anaesthetist and caught this in March and has still not fully recovered. When you are fit and healthy and Satie crazy and have no direct experience of this you will feel invulnerable. Please think hard because if you are reckless it may not be you who has to deal with the consequences if you are asymptomatic and pass it on. | |||
"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest I'm lucky and have not been left alone through this. Be aware though, that if you have started to feel stressed and depressed you are not necessarily going to be thinking rationally about lockdown ending. I do not mean that disparigingly, but in your eagerness for it to end you may not behave as you would normally. The "bashing" of lockdown being gradually lifted is more about the utterly chaotic manner in which it has been done. Without, it seems, adequate consultation or consideration. Also the "recovery" is far from a dull one for most people, even the young. If you are unlucky enough to get it the full consequences are unknown and seem to hold the risk of long term lung, kidney or neurological damage or a combination of the three. A friend of mine is an anaesthetist and caught this in March and has still not fully recovered. When you are fit and healthy and Satie crazy and have no direct experience of this you will feel invulnerable. Please think hard because if you are reckless it may not be you who has to deal with the consequences if you are asymptomatic and pass it on. " I dont want to be dragged into an argument about lovkdown being right or wrong, peoples opinion at this stage is likely not to change, but again, I have my own opinion and I promise you its been the same from the start, I appreciate people are scared and worried, my biggest fear is lonliness, because that kills more people than anyone realises, I dont claim to be a humanitarian what so ever, people die everyday, as humans we are built with flaws, we risk ourselfs everyday simply getting out of bed, driving just to name a few, as previously stated, in my opinion, I'd take a 99% recovery, regardless of how rough that may be, because I'd rather live my life, than live in constant fear of something that isn't likely to kill me | |||
"I work in mental health .... have you rung the help lines for a chat .... lots of stuff for dealing with anxiety on line and over the phone .... limit your exposure to the news etc .... get outside listen to music .... ever tried meditation ??? There are online fitness classes you can do too. Speak over phone to friends and family not just merely texting . Watch a comedy and have a laugh .... steer clear of too much alcohol or other substances "Made the alcahol mistake a few weeks back! Dont get me wrong I enjoy a beer or 2 but the 6 pack a night wasnt helping! Meditation I have tried previously but my mind wanders so much! Finding music and my pets the biggest help! Anything that helps my mind focus on something else is huge | |||
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"Just heard the cutest thing on radio one, an 18 year old lad is going on a date in the park with a girl he is meeting online... socially distanced maybe but I'm sure us kinky lot could think of fun 2m apart at done point lol D" Amazing! Although you know, when it gets a bit more serious after a few dates....hahah! | |||
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"Well he did say, we'll see where it goes" Im interested in that, had to nip out to buy pet food today and it seemed a bit busier outside, but still, most people I know or speak to are scared of leaving the house in a more social setting, im happy to meet socially in a park etc, but I think if its 2 consenting people that have assessed there risks, im not sure I'd be against getting a little more personal | |||
"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest" Your not alone in your thoughts.. and then you get the covid champions that seem to think that any one thinking like this is just selfish.. blah blah blah. Your op sounds like 99% of the calls we are receiving on helplines. To be fair I spotted this late and much advice has been given. I hope you start to feel better soon. Hopefully very soon we can start to physically interact with a few more people. A simple hug and yes sex is underestimated on how much of a lift it is for mental and physical health . It has been proved to actually lift your mood and immune system given a boost x Hand in there... your not alone x | |||
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"Just curious guys, I'm aware that people living at home are probably being hit worse than most at the minute, but is anyone feeling more lonly than normal after being locked in for so long? Starting to hit me really hard! I'm missing physically being around other people, be that friends or work colleagues or even new potential partners, obviously I'm missing sex as well which I also think is massivly important in mental and physical well being as a whole, all starting to get a bit much, just a rant really but with the very graduial lifting that is set to kick in from tomorrow, gives me hope that soon can have some form of normality, but even then seeing so many people bashing the lockdown lifting is putting a dampner on that, getting to the stage for me personally, that I'd rather catch it living my life and doing what I need too, rather than feel like im under a constant house arrest Your not alone in your thoughts.. and then you get the covid champions that seem to think that any one thinking like this is just selfish.. blah blah blah. Your op sounds like 99% of the calls we are receiving on helplines. To be fair I spotted this late and much advice has been given. I hope you start to feel better soon. Hopefully very soon we can start to physically interact with a few more people. A simple hug and yes sex is underestimated on how much of a lift it is for mental and physical health . It has been proved to actually lift your mood and immune system given a boost x Hand in there... your not alone x " Thank you for the kind words! I find way too many of the covid champions on my social media so its been really nice to see a lot of positivity on here! Getting there now, nipped out to grab some pet food earlier and was nice to see some more people put and about, hopefully soon enough can get back to somewhat normal physically like you say, all helps! | |||
"Sending love and hugs xx" Thank you! Xx | |||
"Sending love and hugs xx Thank you! Xx" Xxxx | |||
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"Try to phone someone or a charity like mind don't suffer speak out x" My work offer a service that I have used earlier last week, luckily they allowed me to take some time off over the last few weeks as well to clear my head a bit, its getting there now but obviously with what a lot of people are saying around feels like its never going to end sometimes! | |||
"Try to phone someone or a charity like mind don't suffer speak out x My work offer a service that I have used earlier last week, luckily they allowed me to take some time off over the last few weeks as well to clear my head a bit, its getting there now but obviously with what a lot of people are saying around feels like its never going to end sometimes! " It will xx | |||
"Try to phone someone or a charity like mind don't suffer speak out x" this.. they can help... x | |||
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"It's probably a stronger thing for you overall to aim to lift your underlying mental and physical health and eesilience. This would help you to help bounce back more readily, should things deteriorate in any way. As you have tried meditation op, with concentration maintenance issues, I'd recommend yoga, which integrates body and mind, with simple progressive exercises, involving stretching. Because you are focused on your body and breathing, it supports your mind getting to a meditative state without you having to solely focus on a meditation, which had been what had held you back due to that concentration. Yoga is an incredibly good way to increase your physical fitness as well as flexibility. Exercise generally is great for our psychological wellbeing. Back to the yoga. There are many types and Ashtanga yoga is a straightforward, highly popular type that it should be fairly easy to get hold of materials for. If you can find some videos online, you could follow as you practice. It's not competitive, you just involve yourself as is right at any one time. It's rewarding as you start noticing how you are impriving in ability, potentially as you may also be feeling better emotionally. Being around nature has also been researched and shown to improve our psychological health. It could be a walk in a park, possibly a forest, seeing a lake and everyone around you. Keep your thoughts on things that won't get you down, focused on negativity or things that are largely out of your control or ability to influence. Hope these thoughts may spark some ideas or thoughts on things that may support you. " Meditation I have tried, struggled with the things it would have me do, sinply staying still with breathing excercises is not for me, I need to be at least somewhat acti e to take my concentration, almost like a distraction in itself, the positivity is already starting, taking time to enjoy things I do more and focus on things I enjoy | |||
