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when one part of the couple may not be cut out for the lifestyle
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But like u say u made rules that if both parties didn't enjoy u would quit...so if one enjoyed the lifestyle but the other didn't...someone's gna still walk away and not be happy? (Just playing devil's advocate, its my nature. ..lol) |
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Ultimately a decision would have to be made what's more important. A high percentage of the time if one stays in this lifestyle and the other doesn't, it doesn't end well for the couple. And if one sneaks around, they will almost always get caught eventually. |
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This sounds like a communication problem where neither party is willing to listen to the other. I have always believed in the unity of a relationship. if one's not cut out for it the other ones not cut out for it, meanning the relationship is not cut out for it. what is more important in a relationship?  |
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"Ultimately a decision would have to be made what's more important. A high percentage of the time if one stays in this lifestyle and the other doesn't, it doesn't end well for the couple. And if one sneaks around, they will almost always get caught eventually."
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By *razy-CplCouple
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a lot is down to comunication as in people are afraid to say exactly how the feel and just go ahead to keep the other person happy. if ur in a serious relationship or a marraige u have to respect ur partners wishes or u will end up resenting ur partner for not wanting to do it. |
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" a lot is down to comunication as in people are afraid to say exactly how the feel and just go ahead to keep the other person happy. if ur in a serious relationship or a marraige u have to respect ur partners wishes or u will end up resenting ur partner for not wanting to do it. "
We agree.
The fear thing we think is because people don't like to be judged.( we want to live up to our partners expectations.) In today's society a lot of judging goes on. You can witness right here in the forums. And releasing a truth about ourselves makes us vulnerable. There for people don't talk about it. |
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" a lot is down to comunication as in people are afraid to say exactly how the feel and just go ahead to keep the other person happy. if ur in a serious relationship or a marraige u have to respect ur partners wishes or u will end up resenting ur partner for not wanting to do it.
We agree.
The fear thing we think is because people don't like to be judged.( we want to live up to our partners expectations.) In today's society a lot of judging goes on. You can witness right here in the forums. And releasing a truth about ourselves makes us vulnerable. There for people don't talk about it."
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