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By *eeds adventure OP Man over a year ago

pudsey

Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met someone on there who I introduced to this site. We were together for 2 years as a swinging couple. Loads on there are on here too

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By *eeds adventure OP Man over a year ago

pudsey

Pretty much the same then lol the reviews for POF are savage lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's ok I'm not a huge fan. It's better than Badoo though

Ok Cupid is good for finding the kinky ladies as they have questionnaires and one of em is on sex

Tinder is ok

Bumble is awesome. The calibre of women on there is phenomenal

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?"

What do you mean get much from it ??? ... im on there to hopefully find Mr right it's a dating site not fab with extra wemon you can use

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s better than fab had more meets if very nice ladies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to use it but the admin and all the rules out me off

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By *utsidenakedMan over a year ago

Dorchester

Had some greats meets on pof, none on here

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By *ill DoeMan over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?

What do you mean get much from it ??? ... im on there to hopefully find Mr right it's a dating site not fab with extra wemon you can use

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searching for you as we speak xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So far i met 37 ladies on pof since 2007

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A date and a mornings sex off there yesterday.....it works !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I found one meet in POF took months to work it but managed to play with her for a couple of years. Now as far as i know POf is bloody hard work and one pays niw where as it was free

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"I found one meet in POF took months to work it but managed to play with her for a couple of years. Now as far as i know POf is bloody hard work and one pays niw where as it was free"

Pof is hard work because of all the desperate men on here going over there thinking they can get a one night stand on a dating site .... if course it's going to be hard wemon are more cautious now not to get used x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got called fat n ugly by aome woman...way ta boost ya confidance...

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By *utie91Woman over a year ago

Hitchin

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?

What do you mean get much from it ??? ... im on there to hopefully find Mr right it's a dating site not fab with extra wemon you can use

Beat me to it... pof isn’t a sex site, neither is tinder, nor is badoo... if you use any of these sites in the hope of a quick shag then you are probably going to be wildly disappointed.

And I still don’t get why so many men think it’s acceptable to send an opening message of “come fuck me” or “I will destroy you” that is far from attractive guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?

What do you mean get much from it ??? ... im on there to hopefully find Mr right it's a dating site not fab with extra wemon you can use

Beat me to it... pof isn’t a sex site, neither is tinder, nor is badoo... if you use any of these sites in the hope of a quick shag then you are probably going to be wildly disappointed.

And I still don’t get why so many men think it’s acceptable to send an opening message of “come fuck me” or “I will destroy you” that is far from attractive guys. "

I get more sex from those 3 sites than I do fab, albeit my opening gambit is nowhere near the example you used, I have more tact than that

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By *hocko87Man over a year ago

dublin

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?

What do you mean get much from it ??? ... im on there to hopefully find Mr right it's a dating site not fab with extra wemon you can use

You are joking no wonder ladies are scared on the Internet .

Beat me to it... pof isn’t a sex site, neither is tinder, nor is badoo... if you use any of these sites in the hope of a quick shag then you are probably going to be wildly disappointed.

And I still don’t get why so many men think it’s acceptable to send an opening message of “come fuck me” or “I will destroy you” that is far from attractive guys. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find that the site now seems to encourage women to block you, then your profile gets deleted after several blocks or reports. You might just disagree on something then the toys are thrown out. You sort of get an idea of which women want a quick meet as they usually agree to swap pics. The prudish ones generally never get past the first date or even reach the date stage.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We met each other on POF,many years ago,been together ever since,n never a cross word

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who's on Pof today as well as Fab?

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Who's on Pof today as well as Fab?"

I have not been on pof for ages it's too full of men from here just wanting a shag I've found another actual dating site where they want to date chat and not wanting dirty chat to pull one off lol

Sorry for deleted one stupid phone changed my words xx

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"Who's on Pof today as well as Fab?"
. I am on POF , Freedating , OKcupids as well as Fabs I have met ladies on all the dating sites where the dates have developed into regular sexual encounters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing on pof nothing on here either tried nearly all dating apps full of fakes and scammers, pof is probably the worst for fakes had a few chats on pof but they have not led to anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?

What do you mean get much from it ??? ... im on there to hopefully find Mr right it's a dating site not fab with extra wemon you can use

Beat me to it... pof isn’t a sex site, neither is tinder, nor is badoo... if you use any of these sites in the hope of a quick shag then you are probably going to be wildly disappointed.

And I still don’t get why so many men think it’s acceptable to send an opening message of “come fuck me” or “I will destroy you” that is far from attractive guys. "

Yes!! Ugh Fucking hallions.

“I would fuck you” is not a compliment when you would fuck anything!!

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By *andymancanMan over a year ago

Manchester

Met a girl on uniform dating chatted for a while and got fingered by her and hand job at her place on first date and she showed me her toy box from under her bed!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet my friend with benefits on POF and now we are on here.

So it can work out in a positive way.

Really depends on your out look. And what it is that you actually want.

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"I used to use it but the admin and all the rules out me off"

Know what you mean, though some women who are looking for genuine, quite frankly are not, in my opinion..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Most are on here in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mens accounts largely get fake accounts requesting to join sites.

Womens accounts largely get fuck requests from men.

Used to be alot better years ago for dating.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I don't think it's even a dating site any more to be honest. More looking for hookups and cheating than proper dating and relationships.

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"I don't think it's even a dating site any more to be honest. More looking for hookups and cheating than proper dating and relationships. "

Too commercialised imo..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I don't think it's even a dating site any more to be honest. More looking for hookups and cheating than proper dating and relationships.

Too commercialised imo.. "

I also get the creepy seen you on fab messages from faceless profiles too. Probably the same faceless fab profiles who send the creepy saw you in shops, town, pub etc messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *aucyladMan over a year ago

Dublin

I got a fucking stalker from it....maybe I was unlucky.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of women use POF for hookups.. I met a woman from POF almost immediately after I logged on, but unfortunately the damn app stopped working after we met.

It got lots of issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have just met someone on Pof and have had a few dates and good times. We are keeping it casual and open too. I think I scored when she mentioned a threesome ffm she had a few years ago.

My Pof account is now hidden so can take a break and go back with a fresh approach when needed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Met a girl on uniform dating chatted for a while and got fingered by her and hand job at her place on first date and she showed me her toy box from under her bed!"

She fingered you or you fingered her ?

And did you find stretch armstrong

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"I don't think it's even a dating site any more to be honest. More looking for hookups and cheating than proper dating and relationships.

Too commercialised imo..

I also get the creepy seen you on fab messages from faceless profiles too. Probably the same faceless fab profiles who send the creepy saw you in shops, town, pub etc messages. "

Lol sorry but that really made me giggle

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By *andymancanMan over a year ago

Manchester

Haha, she fingered me! No stretch armstrong but plenty of other interesting toys

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"Haha, she fingered me! No stretch armstrong but plenty of other interesting toys"

Your name Freddy?

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By *adbury girlWoman over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Who's on Pof today as well as Fab?

I have not been on pof for ages it's too full of men from here just wanting a shag I've found another actual dating site where they want to date chat and not wanting dirty chat to pull one off lol

Sorry for deleted one stupid phone changed my words xx"

What dating site are you using now if you don't mind me asking as I was on pof and tinder but came back to here as would rather people were honest about what they are looking for than pretend they want a relationship when they don't xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Still no dates from the dating sites lol.

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"Still no dates from the dating sites lol. "

Have a platonic friend on POF, but nothing serious

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Still no dates from the dating sites lol.

Have a platonic friend on POF, but nothing serious"

Unfortunately most are looking for nsa or attached

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id love to chat to you but i cant due to your settings xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think it's even a dating site any more to be honest. More looking for hookups and cheating than proper dating and relationships.

Too commercialised imo..

I also get the creepy seen you on fab messages from faceless profiles too. Probably the same faceless fab profiles who send the creepy saw you in shops, town, pub etc messages.

Lol sorry but that really made me giggle

Id would love to chat but cant because of your settings x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I don't think it's even a dating site any more to be honest. More looking for hookups and cheating than proper dating and relationships.

Too commercialised imo..

I also get the creepy seen you on fab messages from faceless profiles too. Probably the same faceless fab profiles who send the creepy saw you in shops, town, pub etc messages.

Lol sorry but that really made me giggle

Id would love to chat but cant because of your settings x"

That's because she has set them to her preferences.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m on there. I had a POF date a couple of weeks ago. I really don’t think it’s a hook up site.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"I’m on there. I had a POF date a couple of weeks ago. I really don’t think it’s a hook up site. "

I do and certainly dont trust the men on there hence why I have not been on for ages x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I’m on there. I had a POF date a couple of weeks ago. I really don’t think it’s a hook up site.

I do and certainly dont trust the men on there hence why I have not been on for ages x "

I second this.

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"Still no dates from the dating sites lol.

Have a platonic friend on POF, but nothing serious

Unfortunately most are looking for nsa or attached"

That's what I think... Often

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

IT's the worst dating site i've ever used.

The UI is awful and not user friendly, it's littered with bots, and the feature (I forget the name) called Ultra Match or something that is supposed to be their unique amazing way to match people who are 'super compatible' is completely useless and might as well show 20 random people to me.

OKC is almost as bad but at least it looks prettier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still seeing someone from there I met a few weeks ago. We have an agreement that we can meet whoever we want as long as we are honest with each other and hide nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I found one meet in POF took months to work it but managed to play with her for a couple of years. Now as far as i know POf is bloody hard work and one pays niw where as it was free

The reverse can be true too, as was said earlier so many fab ladies on there at same time as active on here. Profiles can be spotted with fab jargon...

Always a coffee first... Most obvious give away lol. When you ask them, they immediately block you as if it's ok for them to be using both and not a guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m on there. I had a POF date a couple of weeks ago. I really don’t think it’s a hook up site. "

I used it as a date site but use OkCupid as the ladies are more often looking vanilla date on there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got a fucking stalker from it....maybe I was unlucky."

Me too it was the worst thing ever

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can’t do multiple dating sites and this...

1) I don’t have the time

2) I don’t have the energy

3) I disagree with the “eggs in one basket” thing

There’s enough people on here to have a good variety... to find out someone from here is on there puts me off them instantly.

If you want vanilla say so

If you want kink say so

If you’re there tell us

If you’re here tell them

Kids in sweetshops, man

Fucking hell

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?

What do you mean get much from it ??? ... im on there to hopefully find Mr right it's a dating site not fab with extra wemon you can use

I’m really confused

So let me get this straight...

People use Fab and don’t want a relationship yet those same people use POF et al for dating

What the Hell do people want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Life would be so much easier if people were just clearer in clarifying their intentions...

Good luck everyone

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"Life would be so much easier if people were just clearer in clarifying their intentions...

Good luck everyone

I'm just looking for a partner who I can get to know and have quality time with...

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By *urity555Man over a year ago

south west

We actually met on POF 7 years ago!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had more sex on pof than you'll ever get off this site everyone is to fussy on here. I'm surprised all the single men don't leave this site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So true, many more fucks from Pof and not even a sniff here. One daft date and that was it from this place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So true, many more fucks from Pof and not even a sniff here. One daft date and that was it from this place."

Could it be that on POF they may actually sleep with you thinking you want a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had more sex on pof than you'll ever get off this site everyone is to fussy on here. I'm surprised all the single men don't leave this site"

We have to be fussy! The men outnumber the women by like 40 to 1

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So true, many more fucks from Pof and not even a sniff here. One daft date and that was it from this place.

Could it be that on POF they may actually sleep with you thinking you want a relationship? "

Maybe as most think a magic relationship will happen overnight.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

Someone mentioned POF is a lot easier, I think they're all the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yeah met few on it , dublin is a busy place lol

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By *omewhatSlightlyDazedMan over a year ago

Warwick Birmingham & YamYamLand

Years ago pof used to be fantastic, had quite a few dates and developed a relationship. Many years later I found myself back on there (recently) but sadly there are tons of fake accounts targeting men in a very obvious way! So instead I tried tinder, it's ok but bumble is far better. Now I've found myself a good girl and she's coming to the club with me because she likes to be watched

I don't recommend pof at all anymore but it used to be good. Try bumble but it is for dating, be honest on your profile what you're looking for and be patient.

Women msg 1st on bumble so less work for us men until one is interested then you need to put some effort in. Read her profile, show intrest and be nice.

For women it means you don't get bombarded with hungry men so you only speak with those you are interested in.

Win win if you're looking for dates not fwb etc...

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Years ago pof used to be fantastic, had quite a few dates and developed a relationship. Many years later I found myself back on there (recently) but sadly there are tons of fake accounts targeting men in a very obvious way! So instead I tried tinder, it's ok but bumble is far better. Now I've found myself a good girl and she's coming to the club with me because she likes to be watched

I don't recommend pof at all anymore but it used to be good. Try bumble but it is for dating, be honest on your profile what you're looking for and be patient.

Women msg 1st on bumble so less work for us men until one is interested then you need to put some effort in. Read her profile, show intrest and be nice.

For women it means you don't get bombarded with hungry men so you only speak with those you are interested in.

Win win if you're looking for dates not fwb etc..."

Ty for that info x

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

Erm ok been on bumble how do I msg men ? Or fo they msg me after i do that tick thing lol

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"Erm ok been on bumble how do I msg men ? Or fo they msg me after i do that tick thing lol "

Same as Tinder, except they can no message you.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Erm ok been on bumble how do I msg men ? Or fo they msg me after i do that tick thing lol

Same as Tinder, except they can no message you. "

I cant msg them just swipe ? Lol x sorry all new

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Erm ok been on bumble how do I msg men ? Or fo they msg me after i do that tick thing lol

Same as Tinder, except they can no message you.

I cant msg them just swipe ? Lol x sorry all new "

You can only swipe initially but if they swipe right on you as well then you can message them

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Erm ok been on bumble how do I msg men ? Or fo they msg me after i do that tick thing lol

Same as Tinder, except they can no message you.

I cant msg them just swipe ? Lol x sorry all new

You can only swipe initially but if they swipe right on you as well then you can message them"

Ah so like tinder x

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Someone mentioned POF is a lot easier, I think they're all the same."

The amount of stuff you have to fill out on POF is ridiculous if that how it's gone these days filling out long date application on a website ...I think I pass.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Someone mentioned POF is a lot easier, I think they're all the same.

The amount of stuff you have to fill out on POF is ridiculous if that how it's gone these days filling out long date application on a website ...I think I pass. "

Lol yes some do but you only have to fill what you want x

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

On POF they have a section called near me I find it a little surprising and frustrating that hardly anyone that is near wants to meet.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"On POF they have a section called near me I find it a little surprising and frustrating that hardly anyone that is near wants to meet."

Oo never seen that on there lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree and it seems the ones who can’t get there leg over are now issuing this site to try and get it off

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"On POF they have a section called near me I find it a little surprising and frustrating that hardly anyone that is near wants to meet.

Oo never seen that on there lol x "
. Sorry it’s called Nearby

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"On POF they have a section called near me I find it a little surprising and frustrating that hardly anyone that is near wants to meet.

Oo never seen that on there lol x . Sorry it’s called Nearby "

I've deleted my profile on there now too many men just after sex not dating x

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"On POF they have a section called near me I find it a little surprising and frustrating that hardly anyone that is near wants to meet.

Oo never seen that on there lol x . Sorry it’s called Nearby

I've deleted my profile on there now too many men just after sex not dating x "
. Now a days on POF I seem to receive a message saying hi there I respond with a hi back then it’s do you want sex go to this link or website.I don’t think I will be on it much longer

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By *gcw2014Couple over a year ago

just outside of liverpool

I used pof years ago purely as a dating site. Met Tracey on there and 9 years later we are still together and she introduced me to swinging and the world of fab

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"I used pof years ago purely as a dating site. Met Tracey on there and 9 years later we are still together and she introduced me to swinging and the world of fab"

happy it worked out for some xx think its changed a lot now x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!"

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

Its idiots like you who spoil pof no consideration for the womans feelings yer mate you move onto the next one and make her feel like shit about herself when she realises she been used for sex then thrown aside for your next conquest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

Women use men too

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

Women use men too "

True but men should not use that as an excuse to make it acceptable to do it to woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So true, many more fucks from Pof and not even a sniff here. One daft date and that was it from this place.

Could it be that on POF they may actually sleep with you thinking you want a relationship?

Maybe as most think a magic relationship will happen overnight."

Completely missed my sarcasm there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

Women use men too

True but men should not use that as an excuse to make it acceptable to do it to woman. "

Yup the old excuses and tbh who thinks more with the dick ... or Virginia sorry if that sounds vulgar... but I would say men are the most with sex exploitation on the mind x wemon have to much else to think about x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

Women use men too

True but men should not use that as an excuse to make it acceptable to do it to woman.

BORING....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

Talking about Idiots you will be well aware that when you are boring or disrespectful and a man dumps you then you need to look at why he is dumping you and why he is moving on to the next hopefully better candidate. It is called life and we take no crap, dump it and move on, simple. Not sure why you have to moan on about it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

And there you have a prime example of the general mentality of most men on pof. Hence why I'm now using fab as a dating site now as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once pof provided more meets to me than Fab but now it is not worth touching.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Once pof provided more meets to me than Fab but now it is not worth touching.

Nope, your right, I can't get a date on there at all. Sad for a dating site, I have more luck on here.

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By *uckmefackwardsMan over a year ago

Swindon

I met a local woman on pof and then introduced her to this site and swinging, then she found another guy in Brighton and moved there and introduced him to swinging until he threatened her with a knife. She came back, then found another guy in Notting Hill. Fell out with him and came back to me asking me to help her become an escort! Then her 3 sons found out about me and threatened me. After I said bring it on boys, she disappeared!

At no stage did I do anything wrong.

Funny old game innit!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

And there you have a prime example of the general mentality of most men on pof. Hence why I'm now using fab as a dating site now as well. "

Really, really, really, as a woman all you have to do is be pleasant and available on Pof and the offers will come in. Here guys will send the offers but none get accepted as it appears meeting up here is a non starter.

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By *lovisMan over a year ago

Twickenham

"I met a local woman on pof and then introduced her to this site and swinging, then she found another guy in Brighton and moved there and introduced him to swinging until he threatened her with a knife. She came back, then found another guy in Notting Hill. Fell out with him and came back to me asking me to help her become an escort! Then her 3 sons found out about me and threatened me. After I said bring it on boys, she disappeared!

At no stage did I do anything wrong.

Funny old game innit! "

And we have a new storyline for Eastenders!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

And there you have a prime example of the general mentality of most men on pof. Hence why I'm now using fab as a dating site now as well.

I am pleasant and available on here and pof. On both, sadly my preferences get ignored by men who either can't read or choose to ignore and pester anyway. I've met lovely people on her over the years who I still meet up with. They aren't interested in relationships though.

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

Came off pof etc because it was full of men asking for sex, i was on there for dating, if we connected then id introduce him to this side but it would be nice for a man to be actually interested in me without sex being in the question. Maybe its not going to happen haha. X

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

Wow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

POF is a sex site. Some may choose to try to use it for something else but it changed from a loose dating site, (and it always was promoted loosely as a dating site with hookups) when the owners allowed bots and soliciting of sex by profiles.

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

"POF is a sex site. Some may choose to try to use it for something else but it changed from a loose dating site, (and it always was promoted loosely as a dating site with hookups) when the owners allowed bots and soliciting of sex by profiles.

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex. "

You took the words right out of my mouth with this post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex. "

I didn't say it's the woman's fault... I offered another perspective other than the women blaming the men, or hadn't that occurred to you? It takes two and both have changed the site. You cannot just blame the men as most women tend to do even on here. If I was wanting a relationship I wouldn't be on here and visa versa. Do you not see that it gives the wrong message? One minute you're on here looking hook up, the next on there a relationship. Try to see from an outside perspective that's what I'm saying and maybe then you'll understand why some may see you as available for just hookup. You can't only blame the guys on there...that's what I was saying. Maybe those struggling to find a relationship need to think what other messages they are sending out and try less to blame those who respond to them.

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex.

No you didn't offer a different perspective you said ''For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully'' thats blaming women for the inability of some men to control their cocks and brains.

So if I'm looking for a relationship, I should cease my sexual fun?? If you perceive me a woman as 'easy' or 'available for a hookup' thats on you. As I mentioned on my previous post my profile on pof stated what I was after. Its like saying 'oh but she was wearing heavy make up and a short dress on the weekend so must be like that all the time.

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex.

You took the words right out of my mouth with this post.

It winds me right up!!! God forbid women should want to have a sex life AND want to date on different platforms! How confusing it must be to understand that idea

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By *uckmefackwardsMan over a year ago

Swindon

The worst similar site must be illicit encounters. Just full of time wasters and spanners.

Does anyone know of any good swingers sites because fabs is getting full of similar time wasters now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought POF was great until it stopped working for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Came off pof etc because it was full of men asking for sex, i was on there for dating, if we connected then id introduce him to this side but it would be nice for a man to be actually interested in me without sex being in the question. Maybe its not going to happen haha. X"

Good point, however a lot of people want to just get on with it. Maybe better to be upfront about eventual intentions instead of hiding the truth.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex.

And they wonder why there is a shortage of women in the scene.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a shortage of women in the scene because most are bull-sh*tters (trouble causers) or blokes dressed as women (fakes) or blokes impersonating women in couples (freaks).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting conversation here!

I used POF about 5 years ago. Met a couple good women, and we met regularly for a few years. Quickly it changed into a site full of fakes and unreliable people.

Then I discovered fab and met a few wonderful women here, though it was hard work to find them and get their attention, eventually.

Still haven’t found the perfect site for finding friendship with sex, regularly... Maybe I’m a weirdo for looking for that, who knows!

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

If i could be completely honest on a dating site and say i want a boyfriend i can have an amazing sex life with then id be inundated with requests for one night stands because modern men dont want to form a committed relationship

If i could be honest on Fab and say i dont want one night stands, i want a boyfriend i can have amazing an sex life with id be avoided or told to join a dating site.

I cant win!

Are there any blokes left who want something more solid than meaningless hook-ups?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm on POF and a few other dating sites.. I'm looking for a relationship.. Although they would have to be very special for me to be in a monogamous relationship. I have met some wonderful people on the swinging scene and made some really close friends .. We socialise and go out for meals together regularly . I have a few club buddies yet I'm still looking for the right one to come along . The dates I've had off POF have mostly been ladies that are also on fab . Reading thier profiles on POF they are not looking for one night stands as they can get that on fab. How ironic eh ?

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

"If i could be completely honest on a dating site and say i want a boyfriend i can have an amazing sex life with then id be inundated with requests for one night stands because modern men dont want to form a committed relationship

If i could be honest on Fab and say i dont want one night stands, i want a boyfriend i can have amazing an sex life with id be avoided or told to join a dating site.

I cant win!

Are there any blokes left who want something more solid than meaningless hook-ups?"

Oh my word!!! This is spot on.

Admitting to a potential partner what you want and all of a sudden EVERY conversation is about sex! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was on it i had to pay to see my messages thought so i just deleted the whole thing all together

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

Oh my word!!! This is spot on.

Admitting to a potential partner what you want and all of a sudden EVERY conversation is about sex! X"

I prefer to act normal, and want something that we both want, something meaningful and not just about sex, perhaps is it just sex that he is after?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex.

To blame the males of POF and other online dating sites is ignorant I agree BUT what if you join one and meet a guy with a view to dating, that you don’t rush into anything, you show a little decorum and 6 weeks later you tell him to do one as you notice the wedding ring he forgot to take off?

Too many women have been stung on POF and the like hence our disdain.

You shouldn’t have to be getting restraining orders out on men from POF really... I had to get one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If i could be honest on Fab and say i dont want one night stands, i want a boyfriend i can have amazing an sex life with id be avoided or told to join a dating site.

I cant win!

Are there any blokes left who want something more solid than meaningless hook-ups?"

I have thought this so much... it’s really annoying isn’t it?

Especially when those said men that want to date via POF, talk to women that admit they are on here and still date them, but heaven forbid we ask for a date on here. Jesus you think I’d murdered their puppy, the reaction I get x

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By *leyxxxMan over a year ago

Southampton/London/Bristol

Relationship or just sex, what you looking for is the question.

Not easy to answear sometimes lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If i could be honest on Fab and say i dont want one night stands, i want a boyfriend i can have amazing an sex life with id be avoided or told to join a dating site.

I cant win!

Are there any blokes left who want something more solid than meaningless hook-ups?"

It might help if you were visible?

I have found that people comment on forums and then they are hidden....baffled.

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

Oh my word!!! This is spot on.

Admitting to a potential partner what you want and all of a sudden EVERY conversation is about sex! X

I prefer to act normal, and want something that we both want, something meaningful and not just about sex, perhaps is it just sex that he is after? "

Which is exactly my point...!!! I'm on a dating website for dating not sex. Which is why I split the two websites but people in pof seem to just want a shag

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By *illieporterWoman over a year ago

newcastle

Hahhha oh my days pof is just like fab

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

If i could be honest on Fab and say i dont want one night stands, i want a boyfriend i can have amazing an sex life with id be avoided or told to join a dating site.

I cant win!

Are there any blokes left who want something more solid than meaningless hook-ups?

It might help if you were visible?

I have found that people comment on forums and then they are hidden....baffled.

But im not hidden...so umm equally as baffled

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just been on it and spoken to an extremely rude guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh my word!!! This is spot on.

Admitting to a potential partner what you want and all of a sudden EVERY conversation is about sex! X

I prefer to act normal, and want something that we both want, something meaningful and not just about sex, perhaps is it just sex that he is after?

Which is exactly my point...!!! I'm on a dating website for dating not sex. Which is why I split the two websites but people in pof seem to just want a shag"

Correct, we want to date and shag, I am not sure what is wrong with that hahaha, we are only human?

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Oh my word!!! This is spot on.

Admitting to a potential partner what you want and all of a sudden EVERY conversation is about sex! X

I prefer to act normal, and want something that we both want, something meaningful and not just about sex, perhaps is it just sex that he is after?

Which is exactly my point...!!! I'm on a dating website for dating not sex. Which is why I split the two websites but people in pof seem to just want a shag

Correct, we want to date and shag, I am not sure what is wrong with that hahaha, we are only human?

Its the lying about wanting a relationship to get a shag thats wrong...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Oh my word!!! This is spot on.

Admitting to a potential partner what you want and all of a sudden EVERY conversation is about sex! X

I prefer to act normal, and want something that we both want, something meaningful and not just about sex, perhaps is it just sex that he is after?

Which is exactly my point...!!! I'm on a dating website for dating not sex. Which is why I split the two websites but people in pof seem to just want a shag

Correct, we want to date and shag, I am not sure what is wrong with that hahaha, we are only human?

Its the lying about wanting a relationship to get a shag thats wrong..."

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Comon now ladies, you know what us guys are like? You are in control on the first night, make them wait if it is important or otherwise just enjoy the fun, as only you only live once.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"Comon now ladies, you know what us guys are like? You are in control on the first night, make them wait if it is important or otherwise just enjoy the fun, as only you only live once.

You cant brush it off as being because "thats what guys are like", just dont be like that! Dont lie, dont deceive, dont be a dick...its not that taxing!

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

You do realise POF has a 'looking for' section where options include 'not looking for anything serious' and 'looking to date with no commitment' and yes you can search for men or indeed woman who only chose that option?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Plenty of fucks u can't beat it

Its not a sex site!

It feels like it, I just parted ways after 4meets and 3fucks with the same woman. Time to move on to the next as this place produces nothing for me.

My problem with POF is it's too easy to be disqualified. All you have to do is message someone looking for nsa and it immediately disqualifies you from being allowed to message some profiles. All well. And good but if all you're doing is responding to somebody's message, a bit harsh. "
it does have a looking for section but they lie about wanting dating and relationships to get laid, same as guys saying they want fwbs on here.

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

I might be terribly wide of the mark but I've always assumed a lot of that 'not looking for anything casual' stuff in profiles is in case someone they know in 'real life' sees their profile and doesn't judge them. Tinder is full of profiles saying 'not here for hookups' but wasn't the whole point of Tinder to facitate casual hookups based on location and initial attraction?

Yes there are people on online dating websites who are looking for 'serious' relationships but at the same time, it's fairly accepted these days that if you are looking for your future vanilla monogamous life partner to join in holy matrimony and in the eyes of the law, that you're better off joining a 'serious' site like eHarmony or Guardian Soulmates etc etc.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I might be terribly wide of the mark but I've always assumed a lot of that 'not looking for anything casual' stuff in profiles is in case someone they know in 'real life' sees their profile and doesn't judge them. Tinder is full of profiles saying 'not here for hookups' but wasn't the whole point of Tinder to facitate casual hookups based on location and initial attraction?

And people lie on those too lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was on POF a year ago, but purely looking to date, not for sex. After 8 months of finding the vast majority of men wanted nothing more than sex, I changed my thinking. Met one guy, he introduced me to fab, and now I am here having fun for a while. The number of men here I have seen on POF just goes to show they were on the dating site for all the wrong reasons. At least here, everyone knows why, and therefore no false perceptions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Comon now ladies, you know what us guys are like? You are in control on the first night, make them wait if it is important or otherwise just enjoy the fun, as only you only live once.

You cant brush it off as being because "thats what guys are like", just dont be like that! Dont lie, dont deceive, dont be a dick...its not that taxing!"

Relax...it's all good fun. Can you believe it, too many prudes even on a swinging site here too hahaha

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I was on POF a year ago, but purely looking to date, not for sex. After 8 months of finding the vast majority of men wanted nothing more than sex, I changed my thinking. Met one guy, he introduced me to fab, and now I am here having fun for a while. The number of men here I have seen on POF just goes to show they were on the dating site for all the wrong reasons. At least here, everyone knows why, and therefore no false perceptions. "

Exactly this.

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By *arbellsWoman over a year ago

Cambridge

Oh my word!!! This is spot on.

Admitting to a potential partner what you want and all of a sudden EVERY conversation is about sex! X

I prefer to act normal, and want something that we both want, something meaningful and not just about sex, perhaps is it just sex that he is after?

Which is exactly my point...!!! I'm on a dating website for dating not sex. Which is why I split the two websites but people in pof seem to just want a shag

Correct, we want to date and shag, I am not sure what is wrong with that hahaha, we are only human?

Nothing wrong with it but why do men feel like they have to lead with sex or for it to be constantly about sex?! Ask me my interests and get to know me and not my vagina. If you want me to act like a 'lady' on a first date start acting like a gentleman! Obviously this may go both ways for males and females but because I'm straight I only see it with men.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"Comon now ladies, you know what us guys are like? You are in control on the first night, make them wait if it is important or otherwise just enjoy the fun, as only you only live once.

You cant brush it off as being because "thats what guys are like", just dont be like that! Dont lie, dont deceive, dont be a dick...its not that taxing!

Relax...it's all good fun. Can you believe it, too many prudes even on a swinging site here too hahaha

I'm as far from a prude that you can get.

Is it really all good fun? Is it fun for the person being mislead? Is it fun for the person doing it? Do they enjoy destroying and undermining someones confidence and feeling of self worth?

I dont think you're quite grasping the amount emotional damage that lying to and deceiving a person can cause.

One guy doing it is bad. Two is unlucky. But a majority of guys doing it as though its normal acceptable behaviour is just ridiculous, and thats what we have come to now. When did things change? It wasnt always like this was it? What happened?

The pay sites are exactly the same as the free ones.

So whats the solution? Should we just all relax and let folk treat us that way? No. No we shouldnt!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone use plenty of fish?

Get much from it?"

I got the most amazing little sub from POF. Sometimes it surprises you like that

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

Exactly this. "

Can you not want both? ie in the longer term you would like to partner up but in the short term you just want to make new friends and have fun? Some people seem to think it's impossible to be into both at once, but I'm not so sure...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly this.

In my experience on POF there were many men whose account stated they were looking for a serious relationship, but actually just wanted sex. Pof had the option to select a more accurate description of what they were looking for.. For example, looking to date, but nothing serious. To me, that also just meant sex. There were several options available on POF if they simply wanted casual fun /sex.

It is possible to want both for sure, but it's all about being up front about the intension.

I chose to come here to fab, as I stopped my search for a relationship after trying a few dating sites, and decided to have some NSA fun for a while. I don't plan to stay, as long term I want more, but for now, this is my journey and have made some great friends along the way

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I already have regular playmates, I don't feel the need to get more tbh. Hence why I'm only looking to date someone interested in maybe sharing the lifestyle.

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By *rystaldenisonWoman over a year ago

salisbury

When I was younger me and a mate used it for nights out lol ?? and would arrange double dates with a lad and get him to find a single mate ... used to work a treat and we all had loads of fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had a date from there last night I’ve found it okay

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Comon now ladies, you know what us guys are like? You are in control on the first night, make them wait if it is important or otherwise just enjoy the fun, as only you only live once.

You cant brush it off as being because "thats what guys are like", just dont be like that! Dont lie, dont deceive, dont be a dick...its not that taxing!

Relax...it's all good fun. Can you believe it, too many prudes even on a swinging site here too hahaha

I'm as far from a prude that you can get.

Is it really all good fun? Is it fun for the person being mislead? Is it fun for the person doing it? Do they enjoy destroying and undermining someones confidence and feeling of self worth?

I dont think you're quite grasping the amount emotional damage that lying to and deceiving a person can cause.

The pay sites are exactly the same as the free ones.

So whats the solution? Should we just all relax and let folk treat us that way? No. No we shouldnt!

Well said!!!! If I'm after a relationship they will wait till I am ready for taking it that next step further my first husband waited 6 months but it showed he was dedicated to me and not a shag... now they are the real men x

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"I already have regular playmates, I don't feel the need to get more tbh. Hence why I'm only looking to date someone interested in maybe sharing the lifestyle. "

They would be a lucky lucky guy with a gal like yourself, you got the figure and curves

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I already have regular playmates, I don't feel the need to get more tbh. Hence why I'm only looking to date someone interested in maybe sharing the lifestyle.

They would be a lucky lucky guy with a gal like yourself, you got the figure and curves"

Thanks

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

Thanks

Anytime _sgiveswood x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We met on pof the rest is history introduced her to this and now we meet mainly in clubs and away from fab but still come on here from time to time..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met two women on pof that led to sexual encounters one In leeds where had it in the Hilton and Halifax at her home. They were both mmmmmmmm

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"I have met two women on pof that led to sexual encounters one In leeds where had it in the Hilton and Halifax at her home. They were both mmmmmmmm

Wonder if they realised you were just using them for sex ....

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

"I have met two women on pof that led to sexual encounters one In leeds where had it in the Hilton and Halifax at her home. They were both mmmmmmmm

Wonder if they realised you were just using them for sex .... "

Not judging, but gives some of the genuine folk a bad name.. unless you make your intentions known..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't recommend pof at all anymore but it used to be good. Try bumble but it is for dating, be honest on your profile what you're looking for and be patient.

Women msg 1st on bumble so less work for us men until one is interested then you need to put some effort in. Read her profile, show intrest and be nice.

For women it means you don't get bombarded with hungry men so you only speak with those you are interested in.

Win win if you're looking for dates not fwb etc..."

Good information ... thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For those women complaining that guys ruined it, nope the ladies opening their legs too freely on it has drawn men just looking for sex to it, and from many accounts quite successfully.

I see it strange that the women who use this for hookups and POF for dating, then complain that guys from here go there using it for hookups. Many are the same ladies, many are the same guys.

Surely it's not the site that determines what it is but rather the people in it?

So yet again its the womans fault for opening her legs? So the behaviour of men is excused because women open their legs!?What a load of crap.

Maybe I used pof for dating because I wanted to date and separate the two sites. I put on my profile on pof 'looking for a relationship' that doesnt mean hassle me for sex.

How others perceive you is just on them as you put it, it does directly effect you too.

How I talk to someone and how they then recurve that is not just their problem it's also my or as it effects how they view me... Just like the way you view me on here. So I still stand by what I said about those using it have changed it and it's not just the women but also the men, but it certainly is about how others view them on it and how they then respond.

As Gandhi quoted, be the change you want to see happen in the world around you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I found one meet in POF took months to work it but managed to play with her for a couple of years. Now as far as i know POf is bloody hard work and one pays niw where as it was free

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"POF is a sex site. Some may choose to try to use it for something else but it changed from a loose dating site, (and it always was promoted loosely as a dating site with hookups) ."

Actually no. It was advertised as dating I remember when he stole the idea of a friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm on pof to date hence why no face pics are on here

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

I'm sure it varies by location but in my area I'd say POF is an 80/20 split with 'serious' making up the 80 vs casual/hookups making up the 20 of profiles I see on there.

I certainly wouldn't call it mainly a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The real question is anyone had success on POF without paying. My experience is I get the same people showing up on multiple pages of search results. also they seem to have improbable jobs eg half seem to be pharmacy assistants.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The real question is anyone had success on POF without paying. My experience is I get the same people showing up on multiple pages of search results. also they seem to have improbable jobs eg half seem to be pharmacy assistants. "

I have yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm on pof to date hence why no face pics are on here"

Tell us your profile name then so we can see you there as we cannot see you here....

My profile was deleted this morning so I created a new one. There are ways and means. That site doesn't care about emotions and creating relationships, it just wants the subscriptions.

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

No, and the thought of paying for the likes of POF or Tinder is anathema to me. I already feel like most dating or meet up sites I am actually wasting my time just to be ignored. The thought of wasting money on being ignored is even worse. Paying for membership isn't gonna make me any more handsome or attractive, is it?

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

I have yes

... but we've already ascertained most women could get laid without leaving the house, all they need to do is stand by a window in lingerie and wave to any passing bloke thst takes their fancy and they'll be at it like rabbits within fifteen minutes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes.. I met the Mr on POF.. never done online dating at all.. i did not subscribe.. 1st fella i messaged, only meet i had.. a week later i was off POF.. 3 months later we were on FAB.. he introduced me to this crazy place.. although 3 month wait was too long in his opinion!! 6 years later we are still together and living happily ever after ... i guess I got lucky!! Mrs xx

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By *layful FoxMan over a year ago

Falmouth/Penryn

Totally agree and it seems the ones who can’t get there leg over are now issuing this site to try and get it off "

Not all...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I found one meet in POF took months to work it but managed to play with her for a couple of years. Now as far as i know POf is bloody hard work and one pays niw where as it was free

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Totally agree and it seems the ones who can’t get there leg over are now issuing this site to try and get it off

Not all..."

A lot are, in my personal experience.

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