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"I agree majority of Asian guys are pushy.....but not all. "  | |||
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"Well, I'm anything but pushy. I've experienced white guys that are really pushy as well and just don't get the message. I was part of a meet that I'd arranged with a lady couple of months ago who wasn't into being dominated or whatever, being slapped and stuff yet a white guy (who I shouldn't have invited in the first place as I hadn't met him before) kept slapping her arse really hard until I had to tell him he had to leave as the lady wasn't enjoying it at all. You get all sorts! " You fall into the "exception that disproves the rule". Unfortunately for exceptions, is that most people aren't willing to give exceptions a chance. Once bitten twice shy... At least there are a lot of Whites here that have never met an Asian guy, so they haven't formed any prejudices. You've experienced England's stonehenge, but lucky for you, you haven't experienced "The Great Wall of India". You thought you had it bad, try being Black! | |||
"What is it about Asian guys that people here don't like, what are they scared of? Don't get me wrong, I've had a lot of pleasant experiences with ladies and couples from this site but mostly I fear that ladies and couples don't want to meet us because they imagine we can't speak English or aren't clean. Well I can only speak for myself. I'm meticulously clean and a post-grad (and published write) born and bred in the UK. It's not that I mind people who post 'White guys only' or 'Black guys only' on their profiles. It doesn't offend me in the least everyone has their own preferences. I have had some meets in clubs or parties where I, being an Asian guy, am seen as somebody from another planet. It's a frequent thing with (I should really say Indian) us guys and other Asians guys (and believe it or not, girls) have had this experience, so come on. What is it!?" Methinks you are confusing preference with prejudice .....  | |||
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"I cannot believe that you need to ask this question. The fact is that a truthful answer cannot be given for fear of reprisal." Wow, now this sounds like a typical uneducated, narrow minded, red neck response. 
I'm an asian guy, I am attached but been honest about it too so before anyone takes the moral high ground......!!
I have read and responded to many profiles on here that do NOT state 'no asian or black guys' as i respect the posters wishes. I have spoken to a hell of a lot of women and couples on here that are more than happy to chat away, flirt and share fantasies with, even talk about whens best to meet and all seems to be going really well. We both like each others personalities and are having a great chat, i would mention that im indian through passing conversation. At this point the tone of the conversation changes, the replys take longer to get through and eventually I get told 'sorry your not what im looking for'. So up until that point you have told me you like the way i look, sound and what you want us to get up to but when the word 'indian' comes into the conversation it goes sour.
If you had made it clear in your profile that indians aren't attractive to you I wouldnt have bloody sent you a message.
Before anyone goes on about dont make your race and 'issue', i havn't because the person I have been chatting to hasnt been told that, and when they were they pissed of!!! So how can people say its all about personality not race???
Now Im a Brit born indian guy who lives in SE london I have a cockney twang about my accent so no fresh tones from me, I shower twice a day so no horrible smells, I dress impeccably so i am always very presentable, I dont hound women so no stalker, I deeply respect all races and genders so im NOT an arrogant prick that thinks of anyone to be lesser than me.
I am on here for the swinging experience not to be put down because of I have an Indian Heritage (which im bloody proud of)
I have no issues with people that state they do not want messages from indians, asian, blacks, fats, thins, hairies, smooths, married, single etc. What does piss me off is when people are ignorant and post crap on here saying 'you are making your race the issue' or 'its all about personality' BALLS!!!! and you know it.
The person that posted the attached reply is the typical person I am talking about, if you dont like something then bloody say it. 'Fear of Reprisal' ??? what does that mean, what have asians done to you for you to be too scared to say it?? LOSER.
Sorry for the rant but this subject IS an issue, and its taken me a couple of years to say anything about it. | |||
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"most of you do smell so lets be honest thats why people knock you back  "I've not noticed this. White guys can be just as smelly. | |||
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"i think its more of a culture thing rather than a race thing, imho. most western people hear/see asian society treating women as second class citizens and dont want to be a part of it. cant fault women for it, maybe, blame your own cultural shortcomings, im afraid." Here we go again, another person that thinks they know more about other cultures than their own. My culture is British my heritage is Indian. Im sure the British Government treated millions of women and childeren as 'second class citizens' when they had the 'great empire' or am I wrong?? You are obviously very well travelled and know much more than the average Brit about world culture, either that or you are simply jumping to conclusions and repeating what you heard down the pub. I think I know which applies best !! | |||
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"Why does asian mean just indian/pakistani in this country. Asia is a big bloody continent... just my 2c "I think that too...in the US asian means the people from the far East. I tend to say Asian by region like East Asia, South etc | |||
"i think its more of a culture thing rather than a race thing, imho. most western people hear/see asian society treating women as second class citizens and dont want to be a part of it. cant fault women for it, maybe, blame your own cultural shortcomings, im afraid. Here we go again, another person that thinks they know more about other cultures than their own. My culture is British my heritage is Indian. Im sure the British Government treated millions of women and childeren as 'second class citizens' when they had the 'great empire' or am I wrong?? You are obviously very well travelled and know much more than the average Brit about world culture, either that or you are simply jumping to conclusions and repeating what you heard down the pub. I think I know which applies best !!" | |||
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"I've never refused someone on race and never will, it's unfair to stereotype people because of the colour of their skin. " | |||
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"We would love to invite an Asian couple. Unfortunatly there is no sign of any up here on Fab... We ve had a profile on here for 2yrs and still havent seen any asian couples" Roma there are many type Asian in the browse user name box you will come up wit hone or two then from there you can see their friend list.... the asians are mainly from midlands and south west. | |||
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"Now forgive me for my ignorance, but anyone who follows the wishes of his family and traditions over his own heart isnt someone i want to be involved in...i want a man, not a sheep! " | |||
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" some serious stereotyping going on in this thread people judging entire communities and races by their experience of a few bit like someone saying all swingers are filthy perverts really" Not stereotyping or judging anyone, just stating a preference based on personal experience, and we are all filthy perverts arent we...i know i am  | |||
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But have met some really lovly guys off here too | |||
"I think deep down inside most people do discriminate, whether that's by being racist or ageist or elitist its a personal preference. I'm Asian and i do, i hate meeting Asian single guys, there always so pushy n clingy, they dont understand when u say no thanks. xx ozzie i dont discriminate.. i just hate everyone equally."  Glad you said it Ozzie, it is true though. Whether or not it's a culture thing where women are below men, l can't say for sure. But l definitely feel uncomfortable around Asian guys. A shame cause l know not all will be like it, but finding them will prove very hard and defo not worth my time. Sorry guys..... | |||
"I cannot believe that you need to ask this question. The fact is that a truthful answer cannot be given for fear of reprisal. Wow, now this sounds like a typical uneducated, narrow minded, red neck response.
I'm an asian guy, I am attached but been honest about it too so before anyone takes the moral high ground......!!
I have read and responded to many profiles on here that do NOT state 'no asian or black guys' as i respect the posters wishes. I have spoken to a hell of a lot of women and couples on here that are more than happy to chat away, flirt and share fantasies with, even talk about whens best to meet and all seems to be going really well. We both like each others personalities and are having a great chat, i would mention that im indian through passing conversation. At this point the tone of the conversation changes, the replys take longer to get through and eventually I get told 'sorry your not what im looking for'. So up until that point you have told me you like the way i look, sound and what you want us to get up to but when the word 'indian' comes into the conversation it goes sour.
If you had made it clear in your profile that indians aren't attractive to you I wouldnt have bloody sent you a message.
Before anyone goes on about dont make your race and 'issue', i havn't because the person I have been chatting to hasnt been told that, and when they were they pissed of!!! So how can people say its all about personality not race???
Now Im a Brit born indian guy who lives in SE london I have a cockney twang about my accent so no fresh tones from me, I shower twice a day so no horrible smells, I dress impeccably so i am always very presentable, I dont hound women so no stalker, I deeply respect all races and genders so im NOT an arrogant prick that thinks of anyone to be lesser than me.
I am on here for the swinging experience not to be put down because of I have an Indian Heritage (which im bloody proud of)
I have no issues with people that state they do not want messages from indians, asian, blacks, fats, thins, hairies, smooths, married, single etc. What does piss me off is when people are ignorant and post crap on here saying 'you are making your race the issue' or 'its all about personality' BALLS!!!! and you know it.
The person that posted the attached reply is the typical person I am talking about, if you dont like something then bloody say it. 'Fear of Reprisal' ??? what does that mean, what have asians done to you for you to be too scared to say it?? LOSER.
Sorry for the rant but this subject IS an issue, and its taken me a couple of years to say anything about it."... Why did you feel the need to tell them you were 'Indian'? must admit when l think of an 'Indian', the American Native one spring's to mind. Or is that me being racist? l hope not. It's so hard these days to NOT upset someone, somewhere with One's personal opionions.  | |||
"Agesim does my head in, in fact any ism does my head in, I mean I thought looks and personality, and the way you conduct yourself is what counts regardless of age, race, culture " ....l regularly suffer from 'Disibilityism' lol.....the amount of filthy looks l get off both adults and children is shocking. But l'm stuck like it, so ignore comments and looks/stares, Hubby gets annoyed at the plonkers and has been know to point out l'm disabled.....sometimes it's very ammusing watching their face turn a lovely shade of red when he snaps them out their trance and point out they are staring at me. Anyone would think l have limbs missing or have grown and extra head lol....If you're not 'normal', folks love to point it out! | |||
" some serious stereotyping going on in this thread people judging entire communities and races by their experience of a few bit like someone saying all swingers are filthy perverts really Not stereotyping or judging anyone, just stating a preference based on personal experience, and we are all filthy perverts arent we...i know i am "... Be a waste of time being on here and not being filthy perverts wouldn't it? lol.. | |||
"Roma: all the Asians on here are couples, haven't found a single Asian girl on her own yet. And not a single one of those couples meet Asian guys (none that I have been able to find anyway) and almost all of them are up north! catandchris: You got it spot on there, I don't like isms either or any form of labelisation really. This website is all about having good fun sensible fun. MissDeMena: It's sad that you had a bad experience. I'm Asian and I wouldn't let my family pass judgement on who I choose to have a relationship with and I doubt they would do that anyway. Some Asian families can see it as a taboo to marry outside their cultural traditions but I would argue that goes for people of any ethnicity although thankfully people in some countries are more liberal than those in other countries. Time Traveller And Wife: Each to their own. We're all here to have fun. sara_j: It is, I wasn't expecting this - Hear Hear!" ... We had a great evening with a Bi Asian girl. Had no problem finding her. | |||
"Twice in all my years ive been made to feel like something you stood in and both times where from asian guys. However, one of the most lovliest guys i know is indian. I lived in a 97% asian community, with my son being the only white child in the whole school so i have a bit of understanding of the asian culture. What i cant stand, is someone no matter from what ethnic background playing the race card." | |||
