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Mental Illness / Disability... Don't be afraid
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So this is a very big thing for me to come out and say...
I suffer with a severe mental illness. I have severe and chronic depression, which affects my mood and sex drive. In some cases I am almost polar opposite in my moods...
I find fab is a big release and the social interaction really helps me feel good...
There are times when fab affects my emotional state... In the main it's possitively but sometimes the negative side of fab affects me...
We all put on a mask here or take one off... The person your chatting to right now on fab could be a mental health sufferer. Be kind, to your fellow fab users as you never know what's behind that mask...
I wish more people were like my fab friends...
If you want to add to this to show support for mental health  add your user name at the bottom ... Here I am, I'm Van Petrol and I have a mental health disability x 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's scared 99.99% of people off... Only one person admitted they suffered a mental illness and that person pm'd me direct.... And I applaud that person.
This only proves how fab/public perception turns a blind eye to such things...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll open up, I was diagnosed with depression, OCD, and an anxiety disorder at 20, the counsilor I spoke to explained that I had most likely been chronically depressed and suffering with anxiety since I was 14 or so, which probably explained a lot of issues I had as a young adult.
Sometimes dealing with all three becomes crushing and overwhelming, and the issues of explaining what all three of these mean, means that some of my closest friends dont even know I was diagnosed.
I find that working out, reading and ensuring I have a healthy diet help a lot.
But that said turning down meeting friends sometimes because Im just not in the right mood to be social is horrible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm so proud of everyone who's shared here. It takes a lot of guts to bare your soul to strangers like that, even online.
I suffer from depression and a binge eating disorder. I'm lucky that the depression is quite mild so as long as I can control my environment I can control the depression. The binge eating affects the depression and the depression affects the eating though, so when one gets bad they both get bad.
I've got a wonderful partner and a fwb who I met on here who make me feel so good about myself that I forget about both of them sometimes.
If anyone's struggling and needs a friendly ear feel free to message me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you everyone so far who has shared.... Sometimes it takes a little nudge to bare all.... So proud of the ones who have shared....
I've recently been through a tough employment tribunal at every stage my employer pretty much said I was faking.... They didn't believe how debilitating mental illness is... Hard to explain to anyone who hasn't suffered some kind of mental illness.... Regular folk just cannot fathom it....
Keep plugging away there is light at the end of the tunnel!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So this is a very big thing for me to come out and say...
I suffer with a severe mental illness. I have severe and chronic depression, which affects my mood and sex drive. In some cases I am almost polar opposite in my moods...
I find fab is a big release and the social interaction really helps me feel good...
There are times when fab affects my emotional state... In the main it's possitively but sometimes the negative side of fab affects me...
We all put on a mask here or take one off... The person your chatting to right now on fab could be a mental health sufferer. Be kind, to your fellow fab users as you never know what's behind that mask...
I wish more people were like my fab friends...
If you want to add to this to show support for mental health add your user name at the bottom ... Here I am, I'm Van Petrol and I have a mental health disability x
Van Petrol"
I can say from personal experience and from volunteering in Mental Health that the best treatment for depression is excercise and getting out of the house and getting involved in activities. You can start with 10 mins a day, when I have a bad day I might walk for 3 hours but come back refreshed and lifted. Is it it easy? No, but it does help a lot. I have 5 years of really bad depression and now i have a full time job and continue to help others. |
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I make no secret of the fact I have depression , low self esteem, anxiety and borderline personality disorder and I have to say fab has been life transforming for me the past 6 months have been absolutely amazing for me in many ways I have felt alive rather than merely existing ! 
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I've suffered with depression since I was in my early teens. I have severe anxiety attacks and it's been suggested (although not diagnosed) that I likely have ptsd and some degree of bipolar.
Oh what fun all that is  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am so proud so many are coming forward with their experiences...
For the record... I exercise a lot, I am on antidepressants have been for over 2 years, libido is up and down never know when it's full on or just a quiet whimper... |
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I have suffered with depression for many years but it's only recently after an incident that I was able to admit it and was started on medication.
I am so glad that some of you have support that you can turn to when needed and that fab has helped you but for me and being 100% honest, i don't have the support and fab is actualy making me feel worse and over the past few weeks I just haven't seen the point and has now reached the stage where I am looking at 5 boxes of tablets thinking there really is no point in me carrying on.
I have no friends I can turn to and my family are only interested in me when they want something.
I am not saying this to get attention but because I want people to know that depression is ripping me apart piece by piece and will be doing the same to others, so if you know someone who suffers from depression and haven't spoken to them for a while a quick chat with them about anything could well save their life.
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I've suffered from depression since I was a teenager, I also have anger issues but over the years I've learnt to hide both quite well. I finally went to a doctor a few weeks ago after having a pretty bad episode over a weekend where a friend that knows had to come over and look after me for a while, but as expected I finally decided it may be time to seek help, went to a doctor and all they did was ask if I was suicidal and then give me a leaflet. So that was a pretty big waste of my time so it's back to dealing with it myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So this is a very big thing for me to come out and say...
I suffer with a severe mental illness. I have severe and chronic depression, which affects my mood and sex drive. In some cases I am almost polar opposite in my moods...
I find fab is a big release and the social interaction really helps me feel good...
There are times when fab affects my emotional state... In the main it's possitively but sometimes the negative side of fab affects me...
We all put on a mask here or take one off... The person your chatting to right now on fab could be a mental health sufferer. Be kind, to your fellow fab users as you never know what's behind that mask...
I wish more people were like my fab friends...
If you want to add to this to show support for mental health add your user name at the bottom ... Here I am, I'm Van Petrol and I have a mental health disability x
Van Petrol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone who is interested in mental health issues may want to catch an excellent programme on bbc iplayer. It's a Horizen programme called 'why did I go mad.' It focuses on schizophrenia. It doesn't dumb the subject down, but is a great insight into how the condition affects individuals and how many go onto to have positive and productive lives. Well worth a watch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've suffered from depression since I was a teenager, I also have anger issues but over the years I've learnt to hide both quite well. I finally went to a doctor a few weeks ago after having a pretty bad episode over a weekend where a friend that knows had to come over and look after me for a while, but as expected I finally
decided it may be time to seek help, went to a doctor and all they did was ask if I was suicidal and then give me a leaflet. So that was a pretty big waste of my time so it's back to dealing with it myself"
Please see a different Dr not all of them are the same. You should be on medication. He/she should have done that straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have suffered with depression on and off over the years but since I started eating heathily and taking regular exercise I have felt so much better and fitter. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
I struggle with anxiety very badly and it occasionally tips over into depression.
Van - you had a slow start to this thread, but do some forum searches. You'll find loads of threads where members have been amazingly frank about their own experiences and given excellent advice. Fab is actually good like that.
Thanks for addressing the topic again - it's always reassuring to hear from members on this. |
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By *enny79TV/TS
over a year ago
chesterfield |
I'm suffering with v bad depression atm I hardly leave the house and I lost interest in nearly everything but starting to see the light on the other side now going out a bit more even met up with an old friend the other day good luck everyone with any mental illness it's hard but u can get through it xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can Truely say I am so proud members feel they can come forward and share...
I recently went back to the Dr's... The day the cyber attack took place and my health care advisor had me in tears... Good tears because she was so so understanding... Big thanks to Wigan and Leigh PCT and particularly the Golborne and Ashton practices...
The NHS is Truely a great place without them and friends I wouldn't be here to share...
Keep chirpy everyone... And if anyone needs a buddy to lean on to ask questions or just talk drop me a message... Remember your never alone were all in this together x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iam a carer for my partner she suffers with very aggressive auditory hallucinations for 12 years.Recently I had a break down but not shared this with anyone......I have now |
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Great and courageous thread....Sooo many people suffer mental health issues and so many undiagnosed....
Both here live with depression - One severe, the other seasonal.....Lucky we "get" it and can say without fear of judgement that we're not "up for it.."
If we learned one thing over the years it's that honesty really is the best policy...If ur down, say so - Most people will try and understand - Although noone can, truly, unless they walked a few miles on our boots !! |
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By *brnowMan
over a year ago
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I too have suffered with depression and still suffer with anxiety. This was brought on through bullying at work, you might wonder how but bullying happens in many forms and at any age!
It's made my marriage turn into a good friendship only, which is why being able to have a site like this helps although sometimes when no replies or no thanks gets you down the one you do talk to picks you right back up again
It's helped me understand how lives are affected by mental illness and now able to help others in work who suffer and help them through it
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I too have suffered with depression and still suffer with anxiety. This was brought on through bullying at work, you might wonder how but bullying happens in many forms and at any age!
It's made my marriage turn into a good friendship only, which is why being able to have a site like this helps although sometimes when no replies or no thanks gets you down the one you do talk to picks you right back up again
It's helped me understand how lives are affected by mental illness and now able to help others in work who suffer and help them through it
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I quite agree bullying does still happen at work at any age... I'm nearly 40 recently just been through an employment tribunal against a titan of government departments whom I worked for nearly 20years... Still waiting for the verdict.
My marriage suffered and ended because of my mental health and my actions on fab... But I now see being single is the best option for me... Yes I am lonely at times but I am more in control of my destiny and life than I have been in 30 years
All I can say to all. Of you no matter your situation in life no one needs to suffer or be alone...
Be open... Dare to share and be amazed at human spirit x |
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Hi I have dyslexia ,PS I cannot spell to good for read to good. That puts people off and it's been hard now not working as I had a Heart condition .still look but single and day time only it's Hari9 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suffer with depression and social anxiety as well, although most times I do manage to cover it up, at other times it can be crippling. This last 5 years or so I have started to slowly get away form it and have started to push myself to do things like go out, perform gigs, and most get back into education for a big career change. It hasn't all been plain sailing and I still have days where I just don't want to get out of bed. However I find getting involved in forums, going out for socials really lifts my mood and in my short time on fab I've already met some great people that really brighten up my day. So to all of you thank you, there is light at the end of this very dark tunnel you just have to push yourself and good things will happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suffer from depression and severe anixity, i have done so for many years, and now since moving back home i am terribly lonely, i go months without seeing people my own age, i cant do anything about it because i am broke and dont know what to do with my life, i have went to my gp and he told me i need to wait 3 months before i can see a professional, what am i to do? Fab doesnt really help me either but its the only way i get to talk to like 2 people on here, i really fear for myself at times and i have been in some seriously dark places |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I suffer from depression and severe anixity, i have done so for many years, and now since moving back home i am terribly lonely, i go months without seeing people my own age, i cant do anything about it because i am broke and dont know what to do with my life, i have went to my gp and he told me i need to wait 3 months before i can see a professional, what am i to do? Fab doesnt really help me either but its the only way i get to talk to like 2 people on here, i really fear for myself at times and i have been in some seriously dark places"
Hang in there fella, I was in the same boat as you, and to a degree still am, If you ever need to talk on here just drop me a pm. I'm 38 and I'm only just getting my life in order now. I think someone said on here earlier just getting out for a walk can help (and costs nothing) I do it occasionally when i'm feeling really low just a little walk can sometimes help clear your mind. I also say hi to people, start up the odd conversation with dog walkers etc to help ease things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem is i live in the fucking middle of nowhere so id love to see a dog walker or just someone to talk too but thats just not an option, ive told one of my old mates about how am feeling and they have been awfull at helping by not even trying to help which makes me realise they are not my mates, which then makes me even more lonely and feeling like shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem is i live in the fucking middle of nowhere so id love to see a dog walker or just someone to talk too but thats just not an option, ive told one of my old mates about how am feeling and they have been awfull at helping by not even trying to help which makes me realise they are not my mates, which then makes me even more lonely and feeling like shit"
I didn't realise it was that remote I guess its difficult for those who haven't suffered with it before to know what you're going through, I used to get all sorts of shit at work with colleages telling me to cheer up, and stop being a miserable bastard. Thing is that only made it worse and I ended up just losing the will to do anything, I just stopped wanting to speak to people anymore I'd hide away and not even my Mrs would understand. I felt that I would bore my mates as well so wouldn't even contact them either. But as I've got older I realise they do care its just they didn't really know how to react to the situation. Do you have any relatives you can visit for a few days or any thing just to get a change of scenery? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No got no one to visit, all my so called mates are too busy too bother about me and the thing is if they where feeling like this and told me id drop everything and go see them but they just are completly diffetent people to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No got no one to visit, all my so called mates are too busy too bother about me and the thing is if they where feeling like this and told me id drop everything and go see them but they just are completly diffetent people to me"
Mate I wish I could do more to help, have you tried the Samaritans? I know they offer much better advice than I could ever do. Another strategy I used was to do little jobs about the house and garden, it doesn't stop the lonleyness but even small things like sorting out cupboards, mowing the lawn or even making a to do list of things to do, I found that took my mind off things and also gave me a feeling of getting control back in my life which helped loads, small little steps like these helped a lot and helped me focus on what I wanted to do with myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hi it is a long hard road but it such a good feeling when you can feel a change in your self I have bpd, depression and anxiety but I cope I have too and sex dies help and is sometimes the anwser answer for bpd |
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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago
Lichfield |
I have suffered from depression and BPD since I was 9 and I've had alot of trauma in my life. I find bedroom fun helps lift my mood and makes me feel better all day. Also when I'm high I get very horny and need alot of sex so I wear my partner then lol. Depression is a horrible illness, the tablets don't work and it makes you very isolated. I know it does me xx
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By *amesLeedsMan
over a year ago
Leeds City Centre Apartment |
I think this site would be bad for depression and self esteem as I get rejected so so many times it's unbelievable
I even offer to spend ages licking girls pussies for nothing in return and get turned down over and over again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this site would be bad for depression and self esteem as I get rejected so so many times it's unbelievable
I even offer to spend ages licking girls pussies for nothing in return and get turned down over and over again"
sounding desperate there it is so uncool ...try the mindful workshops in your community.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So this is a very big thing for me to come out and say...
I suffer with a severe mental illness. I have severe and chronic depression, which affects my mood and sex drive. In some cases I am almost polar opposite in my moods...
I find fab is a big release and the social interaction really helps me feel good...
There are times when fab affects my emotional state... In the main it's possitively but sometimes the negative side of fab affects me...
We all put on a mask here or take one off... The person your chatting to right now on fab could be a mental health sufferer. Be kind, to your fellow fab users as you never know what's behind that mask...
I wish more people were like my fab friends...
If you want to add to this to show support for mental health add your user name at the bottom ... Here I am, I'm Van Petrol and I have a mental health disability x
Van Petrol"
I have the same problems I've been suffering/living with mild depression and anxiety for the past 3/4 years it all started one I lost my first job I started to think I wasn't good enough and then I found out my now ex wife was cheating on me via this website and other means which made me question am I actually good enough I mainly try to use this for the social side of things but I've had a couple of meets with people I know outside the world of fab I have tried to reply privately but it's blocked I'm just glad that I'm not the only person on here that's suffering/living with this problem |
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We should all be able to talk about mental health more openly and well done to the OP for starting this thread.
I am off to get some training tomorrow with Mind to help support friends and colleagues to discuss problems. I’m looking forward to it as people shouldn’t suffer alone and talking to someone can help.
Well done to all on here for opening up about their issues. Want to give you all a big hug x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So many have been failed by the services and have committed suicide "
So many have been failed by the community. So few people really care about others in our modern society. It’s not just the “services’” problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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hi. i got diagnosed with a anxziety disorder at 14 regular meds (bispar) till 16 then got told they where tranquilizers so got put on mirtazapine till around 21 then moved on to citalopram and had the shits lol so went to bk mirtazapine docs was to at 24 diagnose me with ptsd. i got signed of work reg counciling and got hold of 2 book over coming anziety and ptsd what does it mean. those books saved my life back then . my doc put me on a new one called sertraline and i had a few probs but it kept me stable till 2 years down the line i found i was over medicating and eventually accidentally overdosed twice but first time i ment too
.. i was so pissed off i felt ad tho the drugs where locking of my emotions and defo making me not finish during sex . docs put me bk on fluoxitine and a quetiapine for the last 3 year till 30 days ago i completely came of to meds own choice.. do i feel better no.. do i have advice maybe.. have i beat depression or anxiety no.. is this usefull or help anyone prob not.. all i no is this world is dark and it will only get worse.. i have been a gym freak since the anziety sometimes it helps sometimes i feel worse.. what does make it better is when u meet that rare one in a thousand that tells u its all gonnna be ok and let u cry on them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi. i got diagnosed with a anxziety disorder at 14 regular meds (bispar) till 16 then got told they where tranquilizers so got put on mirtazapine till around 21 then moved on to citalopram and had the shits lol so went to bk mirtazapine docs was to at 24 diagnose me with ptsd. i got signed of work reg counciling and got hold of 2 book over coming anziety and ptsd what does it mean. those books saved my life back then . my doc put me on a new one called sertraline and i had a few probs but it kept me stable till 2 years down the line i found i was over medicating and eventually accidentally overdosed twice but first time i ment too
.. i was so pissed off i felt ad tho the drugs where locking of my emotions and defo making me not finish during sex . docs put me bk on fluoxitine and a quetiapine for the last 3 year till 30 days ago i completely came of to meds own choice.. do i feel better no.. do i have advice maybe.. have i beat depression or anxiety no.. is this usefull or help anyone prob not.. all i no is this world is dark and it will only get worse.. i have been a gym freak since the anziety sometimes it helps sometimes i feel worse.. what does make it better is when u meet that rare one in a thousand that tells u its all gonnna be ok and let u cry on them "
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