Please could I first say that I dont want to upset or offend anyone on here , we are all on here for the same reason , I totally get the ladies on here get 100’s of messages a day and that us blokes have to be thick skinned but why leave messages unread for weeks on end , why not delete them ? As I said Ive no intention of upsetting or wanting to offend anyone , I would love to meet new people & I always like to be polite in all my messages , I dont want my messages to say do you want to suck my d*** as its not how I want any of my messages to come across . Is it something that I’m doing wrong ? is there anything I can change on my profile that would make me stand out better ? |
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"Please could I first say that I dont want to upset or offend anyone on here , we are all on here for the same reason , I totally get the ladies on here get 100’s of messages a day and that us blokes have to be thick skinned but why leave messages unread for weeks on end , why not delete them ? As I said Ive no intention of upsetting or wanting to offend anyone , I would love to meet new people & I always like to be polite in all my messages , I dont want my messages to say do you want to suck my d*** as its not how I want any of my messages to come across . Is it something that I’m doing wrong ? is there anything I can change on my profile that would make me stand out better ? "
People have all sorts of reasons but one thing is very clear, if they're not messaging you, they're unlikely to be interested...
Do yourself a really big favour and either don't look at, or delete your sent messages otherwise you can drive yourself mad keep looking at them in the hope that something will change...
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"Please could I first say that I dont want to upset or offend anyone on here , we are all on here for the same reason , I totally get the ladies on here get 100’s of messages a day and that us blokes have to be thick skinned but why leave messages unread for weeks on end , why not delete them ? As I said Ive no intention of upsetting or wanting to offend anyone , I would love to meet new people & I always like to be polite in all my messages , I dont want my messages to say do you want to suck my d*** as its not how I want any of my messages to come across . Is it something that I’m doing wrong ? is there anything I can change on my profile that would make me stand out better ?
People have all sorts of reasons but one thing is very clear, if they're not messaging you, they're unlikely to be interested...
Do yourself a really big favour and either don't look at, or delete your sent messages otherwise you can drive yourself mad keep looking at them in the hope that something will change...
Hope that helps "
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"Please could I first say that I dont want to upset or offend anyone on here , we are all on here for the same reason , I totally get the ladies on here get 100’s of messages a day and that us blokes have to be thick skinned but why leave messages unread for weeks on end , why not delete them ? As I said Ive no intention of upsetting or wanting to offend anyone , I would love to meet new people & I always like to be polite in all my messages , I dont want my messages to say do you want to suck my d*** as its not how I want any of my messages to come across . Is it something that I’m doing wrong ? is there anything I can change on my profile that would make me stand out better ? "
Don't think you are alone in this. You'll probably find alot of guys have similar mailboxes. It is very difficult to grab someone's attention in your first message. I would suggest reading their profile in detail and get an idea of what might interest them and include that in your messages. As others have said don't be consumed by the unread messages, it's nothing personal just the nature of this place. Maybe get involved in some of the forum discussions that interest you, that will help you become known to people and make it easier to connect. |
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"Please could I first say that I dont want to upset or offend anyone on here , we are all on here for the same reason , I totally get the ladies on here get 100’s of messages a day and that us blokes have to be thick skinned but why leave messages unread for weeks on end , why not delete them ? As I said Ive no intention of upsetting or wanting to offend anyone , I would love to meet new people & I always like to be polite in all my messages , I dont want my messages to say do you want to suck my d*** as its not how I want any of my messages to come across . Is it something that I’m doing wrong ? is there anything I can change on my profile that would make me stand out better ?
Don't think you are alone in this. You'll probably find alot of guys have similar mailboxes. It is very difficult to grab someone's attention in your first message. I would suggest reading their profile in detail and get an idea of what might interest them and include that in your messages. As others have said don't be consumed by the unread messages, it's nothing personal just the nature of this place. Maybe get involved in some of the forum discussions that interest you, that will help you become known to people and make it easier to connect. "
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