If people don't reply it means they are not interested. Some people block anyone they are not interested in. Some people aren't interested in attached guys.
Most people read a profile first then decide whether to read the message or not.
Whining in the forums gets you on even more blocklists.
Manage your expectations
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People dont have to reply if they dont want. Snd blocking its a easy way not to get loads of repetitions messages. I know its hard but couples and women here get loads of weirdos.. no offending no one. |
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Fab has it's own unique behavioural code and range of users. People block to stop unwanted contact, as it would go nowhere. Keeps life simple and saves wasted effort.
Block or no reply= no thanks. Move on
With thousands of users, there's tons of choice to focus on. Invest your energy and effort into making your profile and contact always sell you. |
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I block anyone who doesn’t reply or deletes without reading, or says not interested! Not because of any other reason, than it stops me forgetting and messaging those people again, which reduces the time wasted by myself and potentially the people not interested in me! I have been challenged however when meeting in person at a club etc. when they realise I have blocked them..
It is just a mechanism to reduce the time wasted on a site that is 90% exactly that! 
Don’t take it personally just move on! |
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" I have been challenged however when meeting in person at a club etc. when they realise I have blocked them..
How do they realise you have blocked them ?"
Usually, after playing, they want to swap usernames! Then they realise!!    |
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We want to meet single guys but Fab just isn't the place to find them. We've had to filter out single guys as virtually all messages are dick pics and inane 'how's u'. A tiny percentage bother to read the profile. We get some that claim they've read it and have seen that they're not what they're looking for but still contact us.
We get serial messegers, ones that get angry if we don't reply, ones that are abusive, ones that can barely write and the utterly deranged.
Fab is a much nicer place for us since we applied the filter. Such a shame, as we need more single guys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do us single guys get blocked and not even get responses on here or am I just doing something wrong maybe if so let's me see you're thoughts"
Typically no replies to males ever
You can bet your neighbour or landlord is too
Maybe your mum
No reply again  ??
Watch out for the Wars hire/here
Figures probably 1000/1 males to female |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally think that the algorithm for this site doesn't work for single men anymore. I've been on and off here for over 7years and I've never known it to be this bad. |
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I used to meet a couple who would set traps for deleting.
They would only have safe sex so made a profile wanting bareback and bulk blocked every applicant.
They did the same with bi men and cheating men.
Quite clever I thought. |
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"I personally think that the algorithm for this site doesn't work for single men anymore. I've been on and off here for over 7years and I've never known it to be this bad. "
There are no algorithm causing you problems here.
I suspect that the proportion of swinging couples has dropped compared to singles, especially single males. |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"I personally think that the algorithm for this site doesn't work for single men anymore. I've been on and off here for over 7years and I've never known it to be this bad. "
Yep... Couldn't possibly be that people aren't interested  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally think that the algorithm for this site doesn't work for single men anymore. I've been on and off here for over 7years and I've never known it to be this bad. "
Yes it's an algorithm! I fuck whoever Fab tells me to!!
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over a year ago
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Or maybe it's that you have to be an ugly scruffy cunt these days and the women are all fat munters anyway who think they're 10s because men want to Shag them. It should be called fatswingers. |
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"Or maybe it's that you have to be an ugly scruffy cunt these days and the women are all fat munters anyway who think they're 10s because men want to Shag them. It should be called fatswingers."
I'm an ugly scruffy fat munter cunt and still men beg to fuck me. Then they cry when I say no. 
My ego is doing great though.  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Or maybe it's that you have to be an ugly scruffy cunt these days and the women are all fat munters anyway who think they're 10s because men want to Shag them. It should be called fatswingers.
I'm an ugly scruffy fat munter cunt and still men beg to fuck me. Then they cry when I say no.
My ego is doing great though. "
Slide this way |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"Or maybe it's that you have to be an ugly scruffy cunt these days and the women are all fat munters anyway who think they're 10s because men want to Shag them. It should be called fatswingers."
Why do you blame women for how men treat them? And why do you message women you aren't attracted to, just so you can insult then when they don't want to fuck you? Grow up! |
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over a year ago
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"Or maybe it's that you have to be an ugly scruffy cunt these days and the women are all fat munters anyway who think they're 10s because men want to Shag them. It should be called fatswingers.
I'm an ugly scruffy fat munter cunt and still men beg to fuck me. Then they cry when I say no.
My ego is doing great though.
Slide this way "
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"We want to meet single guys but Fab just isn't the place to find them. We've had to filter out single guys as virtually all messages are dick pics and inane 'how's u'. A tiny percentage bother to read the profile. We get some that claim they've read it and have seen that they're not what they're looking for but still contact us.
We get serial messegers, ones that get angry if we don't reply, ones that are abusive, ones that can barely write and the utterly deranged.
Fab is a much nicer place for us since we applied the filter. Such a shame, as we need more single guys! "
I can 100% accept that… from the random messages I get, and I am guy!! 
It does ruin it for the 5% of guys who make and effort and have some thoughts going on.. the 95% of dicks! Just spoil it for all!! |
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over a year ago
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"We want to meet single guys but Fab just isn't the place to find them. We've had to filter out single guys as virtually all messages are dick pics and inane 'how's u'. A tiny percentage bother to read the profile. We get some that claim they've read it and have seen that they're not what they're looking for but still contact us.
We get serial messegers, ones that get angry if we don't reply, ones that are abusive, ones that can barely write and the utterly deranged.
Fab is a much nicer place for us since we applied the filter. Such a shame, as we need more single guys! "
So annoying that some dick brain men have to mess it up for us, may I ask what clubs do you usually attend I'm yet to go to a number of clubs would be nice to say hello |
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over a year ago
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I’ve been on here about 7 years and have never managed to get a meet.
I always read the full profile and sit and think and try and write an intelligent / thoughtful / funny response.
I am a model, I’m 6’2, 200lbs shredded with decent bone structure. Have a narrow waist, wide shoulders, I focus on diet to be lean, overhead press for big shoulders, and chin ups for wide v shape back, for my job, and it’s because what (anthropometrically and biologically) are most attracted to.
I am not a weirdo, desperate or rude. If I ever had a meet on here, I would turn up, on time, polite, good communication, do the fun stuff, and be sociable etc etc lol
Can’t get one female to barely even read a message, let alone respond to one. Go figure? |
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"Even if you say hi bang block block block site is going well down
Because they aren't interested in interacting with you! How hard is that to understand?! "
May I ask a question, how many people have you massage frist... |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"Even if you say hi bang block block block site is going well down
Because they aren't interested in interacting with you! How hard is that to understand?!
May I ask a question, how many people have you massage frist..."
Quite alot... It's how I met my fwb |
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"Even if you say hi bang block block block site is going well down
Because they aren't interested in interacting with you! How hard is that to understand?!
May I ask a question, how many people have you massage frist...
Quite alot... It's how I met my fwb"
Go on drop me one so..lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The site itself isn’t to bad, or it hasn’t been for me.
The forums are a totally different matter as a single guy. Unless you’re here 24 hours a day, pretending you’re enjoying endless games of snog, pass or whatever and generally being a raging sycophant, you might as well not bother! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ponding on argument
(Really Sad)
This Sites for pumping images & tiny web chats
Otherwise the Mods & Hardcore Timewatchers creep the relations with pay without
Usually which is closed
No Date
No Date - Mate
No Date
Fancy a Spy one £££ Bae |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got verifications and met couples on here but its getting harder for single guys , plus I don't love myself "
Why don't you love yourself?
Don't let Fab get you down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has just come up in another thread so I am copying and pasting what I put there...
I have only met two people on fab. Both in my older now defunct profile. I have not met anyone on my latest profile.
Mate don't feel down about it. Try and be positive. Be active on the forum and try and socialise using the forums. Whilst everyone is here for sex (mostly) there still needs.to be an element of trust and friendship. The forum let's people see the person you are that might spark the interest of someone you like and who knows what might happen then.
It's easy to feel let down and maybe even feel like a rejection of you. It's not. You just need to be a more active and positive member. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"I’ve been on here about 7 years and have never managed to get a meet.
I always read the full profile and sit and think and try and write an intelligent / thoughtful / funny response.
I am a model, I’m 6’2, 200lbs shredded with decent bone structure. Have a narrow waist, wide shoulders, I focus on diet to be lean, overhead press for big shoulders, and chin ups for wide v shape back, for my job, and it’s because what (anthropometrically and biologically) are most attracted to.
I am not a weirdo, desperate or rude. If I ever had a meet on here, I would turn up, on time, polite, good communication, do the fun stuff, and be sociable etc etc lol
Can’t get one female to barely even read a message, let alone respond to one. Go figure?"
Try using the meet section or even the chat rooms think about options |
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By *CExeCouple
over a year ago
Lincoln/Exeter |
I've been a single male on here, and now on here as a couple. We blocked single males due to volume of messages and nonsense. Engaging in the forums, going to clubs and not being a horndog are the best ways to get meets. Once you have a few verifications, even from socials or cam, you'll have credibility. |
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I'm not being funny but you see all these women that block you or delete without replying just shows their character. I'm pretty sure most don't behave like that off fab its as if they put on the fab mask and then get taken over and because guys are acting to hungry the women actually think they are all desirable that's how we make them feel. If you was getting 100s of messages a day you'd think you were the absolute nuts as well even if you weren't. Just an observation |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"I'm not being funny but you see all these women that block you or delete without replying just shows their character. I'm pretty sure most don't behave like that off fab its as if they put on the fab mask and then get taken over and because guys are acting to hungry the women actually think they are all desirable that's how we make them feel. If you was getting 100s of messages a day you'd think you were the absolute nuts as well even if you weren't. Just an observation "
I don't get 100s of messages a day... I still am not going to interact with men I have no interest in... You aren't owed a reply, which actually opens up my filters should I choose to change them to exclude you... Also, what is the problem with the block butt? It prevents you messaging someone that isn't interested in you but guys seem to view it as a massively personal insult... Grow up! Also... I know I am decidedly average... I will still only meet men I am attracted to, for sex... Men that message women they think aren't really good enough for them so they can get pissy about no response or delete... Wtf is that about?! |
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over a year ago
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"I'm not being funny but you see all these women that block you or delete without replying just shows their character. I'm pretty sure most don't behave like that off fab its as if they put on the fab mask and then get taken over and because guys are acting to hungry the women actually think they are all desirable that's how we make them feel. If you was getting 100s of messages a day you'd think you were the absolute nuts as well even if you weren't. Just an observation
I don't get 100s of messages a day... I still am not going to interact with men I have no interest in... You aren't owed a reply, which actually opens up my filters should I choose to change them to exclude you... Also, what is the problem with the block butt? It prevents you messaging someone that isn't interested in you but guys seem to view it as a massively personal insult... Grow up! Also... I know I am decidedly average... I will still only meet men I am attracted to, for sex... Men that message women they think aren't really good enough for them so they can get pissy about no response or delete... Wtf is that about?! "
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over a year ago
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"I'm not being funny but you see all these women that block you or delete without replying just shows their character. I'm pretty sure most don't behave like that off fab its as if they put on the fab mask and then get taken over and because guys are acting to hungry the women actually think they are all desirable that's how we make them feel. If you was getting 100s of messages a day you'd think you were the absolute nuts as well even if you weren't. Just an observation "
You'd be amazed how many men still ask me for a meet. Is that my fault or theirs?
The character of self described "nice guys" when a woman say no to having sex with them is interesting to say the least.
Most women don't behave like that off Fab? They smile when some man stranger makes an unwanted sexual comment at us because we don't know if he's a nice guy (abusive when turned down) or a dangerous guy (capable of who knows what).
There's your smile. Xx |
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"So why do women on there profile ask for single men then and some not all once you message block block block just so many timewasters and dreamers on here !!!"
If a woman blocks a man who messages her because she doesn't fancy him, why does this make her a timewaster and dreamer ? |
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over a year ago
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"So why do women on there profile ask for single men then and some not all once you message block block block just so many timewasters and dreamers on here !!!"
If a woman wants a man you assume she wants YOU?
That's so sweet!! |
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No no no no no, what I'm saying is basically guys on here make a bed for themselves (literally just them) by gassing up all the women who then believe the hype feed off it and then the guys don't get a look in and its all their/our own doing. There is nothing wrong with the block button I see it like the buzzer on Britain's got talent. I've seen guys approach women on a night out and got pied or given the wrong number (although its never happened to me, honest). Maybe what guys should do is put on their profiles "if your not interested block or delete messages" that way its a win-lose-win.
And don't cut yourself short you're far from average for fab or the other world we live in and I mean that sincerely. I await for the blocking
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"You'd be amazed how many men still ask me for a meet. Is that my fault or theirs? "
It's a hook up site that's what we're here for right?
"The character of self described "nice guys" when a woman say no to having sex with them is interesting to say the least."
I've not experienced that but I guess if a woman puts on her profile she's a cum whore but isn't can be slightly confusing.
"Most women don't behave like that off Fab? They smile when some man stranger makes an unwanted sexual comment at us because we don't know if he's a nice guy (abusive when turned down) or a dangerous guy (capable of who knows what)."
So are you saying you do behave the same off fab as on it? If you do then expect unwanted sexual comments. This is fab so in public unless you have a t-shirt on saying "I'M on FAB ARE YOU" (I want 50% please fabswingers.com it was my idea) would guys approach you the same way they do on here. If a guy ever gets aggressive when you reject him just apologise and ask him you buy you a drink when he goes to the bar tell the bouncers or leave.
" There's your smile"
Thanks but I didn't make any sexual comments........ oh you were smiling because you like me |
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"So why do women on there profile ask for single men then and some not all once you message block block block just so many timewasters and dreamers on here !!!"
Because they are not interested in YOU |
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over a year ago
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"You'd be amazed how many men still ask me for a meet. Is that my fault or theirs?
It's a hook up site that's what we're here for right?
The character of self described "nice guys" when a woman say no to having sex with them is interesting to say the least.
I've not experienced that but I guess if a woman puts on her profile she's a cum whore but isn't can be slightly confusing.
Most women don't behave like that off Fab? They smile when some man stranger makes an unwanted sexual comment at us because we don't know if he's a nice guy (abusive when turned down) or a dangerous guy (capable of who knows what).
So are you saying you do behave the same off fab as on it? If you do then expect unwanted sexual comments. This is fab so in public unless you have a t-shirt on saying "I'M on FAB ARE YOU" (I want 50% please fabswingers.com it was my idea) would guys approach you the same way they do on here. If a guy ever gets aggressive when you reject him just apologise and ask him you buy you a drink when he goes to the bar tell the bouncers or leave.
There's your smile Thanks but I didn't make any sexual comments........ oh you were smiling because you like me "
Yes it was a smile because it's Friday and TFI weekend.
Off to buy some tshirts. We can share the £millions and all the drinks the menfolk will buy me.  |
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over a year ago
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It's shit here for single unverified guys. No one will meet unverified guys, but you can't get verified because you can't meet anyone.
Unless you're already in a clique or introduced by someone who is it's pointless here.
They very very rare occasions someone does show interest, it's turns out hey are after something, rent money, buying nudes, or the like.
Overall impression, Fab is utter shit. |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"It's shit here for single unverified guys. No one will meet unverified guys, but you can't get verified because you can't meet anyone.
Unless you're already in a clique or introduced by someone who is it's pointless here.
They very very rare occasions someone does show interest, it's turns out hey are after something, rent money, buying nudes, or the like.
Overall impression, Fab is utter shit."
Funny... I have met quite alot of unverified men... But only ones I am attracted to!! And it's not a hook up site! If you aren't prepared to become more involved in the scene then you will, probably, always struggle |
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over a year ago
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"It's shit here for single unverified guys. No one will meet unverified guys, but you can't get verified because you can't meet anyone.
Unless you're already in a clique or introduced by someone who is it's pointless here.
They very very rare occasions someone does show interest, it's turns out hey are after something, rent money, buying nudes, or the like.
Overall impression, Fab is utter shit.
Funny... I have met quite alot of unverified men... But only ones I am attracted to!! And it's not a hook up site! If you aren't prepared to become more involved in the scene then you will, probably, always struggle "
Thanks love, proves the point that I'm unable to interest a woman on looks alone |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"It's shit here for single unverified guys. No one will meet unverified guys, but you can't get verified because you can't meet anyone.
Unless you're already in a clique or introduced by someone who is it's pointless here.
They very very rare occasions someone does show interest, it's turns out hey are after something, rent money, buying nudes, or the like.
Overall impression, Fab is utter shit.
Funny... I have met quite alot of unverified men... But only ones I am attracted to!! And it's not a hook up site! If you aren't prepared to become more involved in the scene then you will, probably, always struggle
Thanks love, proves the point that I'm unable to interest a woman on looks alone"
How? The amount of women on here is tiny compared to men... How many of the women you see in a day do you think would be interested in you? And don't assume every man someone finds attractive is classed as good looking... They just have something they like... And they have to have a good personality also... One without the other doesn't work... Unfortunately alot of men will be happy with sex with absolutely anyone and are upset when women do not feel the same |
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over a year ago
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Just being able to have a conversation with someone on here would be a start, can't even get past the stage of an initial message, I get blocked with out even being read.
I've been to the club's around here I can get to, one was so cliquey that it was pointless going, couldn't even get a conversation out of the bartender. The other one was so filthy I could have caught tetanus.
I'm all for social meets, or group gatherings where there is no expectations for anything physical to happen, just can't get invited or acknowledged on an open invite / request |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Are you wondering why nobody wants to talk to you even with your current profile? If the area you live is rather sparse aswell, that won't help... I think you need to look at the bigger picture... Lower your expectations... You could be disgustingly attractive and get nowhere with the attitude you appear to have and NEVER rely solely on Fab for anything! Get to a group social... If there isn't one, start one! Then you will be at all of them... Use your initiative |
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"Just being able to have a conversation with someone on here would be a start, can't even get past the stage of an initial message, I get blocked with out even being read.
I've been to the club's around here I can get to, one was so cliquey that it was pointless going, couldn't even get a conversation out of the bartender. The other one was so filthy I could have caught tetanus.
I'm all for social meets, or group gatherings where there is no expectations for anything physical to happen, just can't get invited or acknowledged on an open invite / request"
You've been here 3 months and I can tell you're a bit worn down from it all. You have to really change your perspective and mindset on it or else you will continue the negative spiral!
Being a single guy on here is difficult but it's not impossible, I come from a background of Okcupid and remember when Tinder became popular. Internet connections take work and time, and heck, luck, as you are in a sea of other guys wanting the same.
I've settled into my own little groove, I don't get huge amount of matches, meets and connections but when I do and it progresses, it's amazing because it's with someone I want and they want me. You have to embrace your uniqueness, the absurdity of life and stand out!
I have also deleted a massive chunk of messages from couples and females on here when I realised that they didn't sync up with conversation (1 word replies) or in one case, a couple agreeing to meet as long as I shave off my moustache  |
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"Oh... And clearly MOST men on here struggle to get a response... As do the women! "
When I've met couples, the highlight of them struggling to find another couple is a common theme. Humans connecting is a fickle beast! |
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over a year ago
Northampton |
"Oh... And clearly MOST men on here struggle to get a response... As do the women!
When I've met couples, the highlight of them struggling to find another couple is a common theme. Humans connecting is a fickle beast!"
It is definitely more difficult if you need to find two more people attractive... One is hard enough  |
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By *ainsb1Man
over a year ago
North Lincs/S.Yorks |
I just find it is best to have a genuine chat first on here. Then see how it develops. A big mistake that some make is thinking it is all about sex. Well, that is nice but you won't get far if you treat people without respect. I personally have had a few meets from here and I have been pleasantly surprised. Main thing is that it progressed naturally. |
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By *reamyshotMan
over a year ago
Not too far Not too close |
"If people don't reply it means they are not interested. Some people block anyone they are not interested in. Some people aren't interested in attached guys.
Most people read a profile first then decide whether to read the message or not.
Whining in the forums gets you on even more blocklists.
Manage your expectations
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I think it's more about the mindset and quality of the interactions you do have than the frustrations with the people that don't respond.
I've been on here a while, had some great meets. I usually check out a profile and try to give them a decent message with something that lets them know I've actually looked at their profile and leave the door open for them to respond and see if we click. As a single man your message is one of 100+ that day alone. So you have to make it stand out.
Alot of messages don't get opened and that's ok, because if I had to go through 100s of messages I'd probably lose interest pretty quick. Ones that get read and ignored or deleted I block and move on as they're clearly not interested which is fine also.
Don't take it personal it's just about making yourself stand out and be better than the "how's u" wave and instant cock pic gents.
If youre on here thinking people owe you a response. You're gonna have a bad time. |
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