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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah see where chaz is bisexual it helps the situation cause it would be for both parties so all would essentially be equal in sexual and living situation? Just wondering if anyone has done this before and how it worked or didn't depending on the case |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are peoples views on polygamy how it works? Does it work if there was a mf couple before hand? Anyone with experience in mmf poly "
assume the f is the one in two relationships here, right ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No the relationship would be equal both of us are bi so would be a case of sharing a bi guy"
ah okay. You may want to look up ethical unicorn hunting (I think that's what to look up) ... While that is generally for women (bi single men are dragons irrc) there's still much to learn about the dynamic. From what little I know, saying "sharing" may send out concerns ... Don't forget it's a three way thing and the dragon has feelings too !
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hahah we are a mf couple looking to possibly see about having a mmf relationship but would like people's views and if it's worked and what theyve done before like history and stuff |
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As a special therapist I find this generally doesn't work simply because all parties have to come to the point of emotional security in themselves first before adding another person to the dynamic.If you are secure and all totally open and honest about what you need and want from such a relationship it can work for atleast part of the journey but the destinations of all of you may change simply because your simply still learning about who you are and what it is you need to be happy in this existence.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I think maybe it might be a easier for us to have a boyfriend maybe so rather then a 3 way relationship then we would have a relationship with another guy so us a one would play with him. Like fwb or a fuckbuddy but more regular. Just thinking really |
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By *uto564Man
over a year ago
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Not polly but me and my partner tried setting up a possible regular meet situation with a guy, but due to work commitments it just didn’t work out he seemed more interested in looking at our pictures than setting up a meet and getting things started…  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah thats what we seem to find a lot these days. People who are good looking and we actually want to meet end up being complete timewasters and just pic collecting. Wish we could rate people on here |
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So let's say you find this boyfriend you can both play with,but he fancies one of you more than the other and eventually chooses to play with that one more than the other,could you handle that or would it create a situation of jealousy between you and your existing partner.Emotion is a strange and powerful thing.I take a rare breed to be balanced enough to appreciate the existing dynamic they are joining to and emotional stable enought to remain in the same place in that dynamic and happy as well as you folks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah I think after talking to everyone we have kinda decided that a fwb or a regular fuxkbuddy may be the best idea so essentially we would have a boyfriend but not a proper one.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always thought that living in an mmf threesome would be ideal, but I’ve never met the right people to make it a permanent arrangement. I’ve twice had long term threesome relationships with mf couples - me staying over with them once or twice a week enjoying intimacy with them both. I’ve had many great mmf experiences, sometimes being a regular partner with an mf couple.
It’s certainly an exciting arrangement, but it is also full of pitfalls. PM me if you’d like to know more |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We're in a similar situation and have often described what we're looking for as a 'part time boyfriend' who we could both enjoy! No luck yet, though we did come kinda close once."
It's more finding someone that fits into your dynamic then anything else but yeah the part time boyfriend is a good way of putting it hope you don't mind if we borrow that saying for our profile lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess I have had a polygomous relationship. I didn’t see it that way at the Time but we were friends that regularly met and played It felt great because we all knew each other well and trusted each other |
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I started to seriously explore the poly dynamic this year. I had a lot of time to think these past 18 months and concluded that a poly-swinger hybrid mix was the best fit for me.
I crave various MMF dynamics with couples but also need genuine intimacy to feel fully rounded with my sexual life. In recent months I've been fortunate enough to meet two solo poly women with a mindset that is understanding of my need to be with couples too.
To say that I'm feeling really fortunate would be a bit of an understatement. All that remains now is to find the right couple/s thats a good match for me. |
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We dabbled in this with a female colleague of mine who had just came out of a nasty relationship. What was meant to be a bit of fun became a relationship between her and us but it wasn't what we hoped. I became insecure, he felt like he was on eggshells all the time and it was all because she wasn't transparent with us like we were with her. It's a very delicate thing to get involved in when you're already a couple, it requires a lot of trust and openness.
We all decided at the time it wasn't for us. She ended up getting back with her ex after too! 
We'd be open to try it again but I think it would have to be with someone who understands how the dynamic works. For now, I'm quite happy with come and go meets. 
Lou x |
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"We dabbled in this with a female colleague of mine who had just came out of a nasty relationship. What was meant to be a bit of fun became a relationship between her and us but it wasn't what we hoped. I became insecure, he felt like he was on eggshells all the time and it was all because she wasn't transparent with us like we were with her. It's a very delicate thing to get involved in when you're already a couple, it requires a lot of trust and openness.
We all decided at the time it wasn't for us. She ended up getting back with her ex after too!
We'd be open to try it again but I think it would have to be with someone who understands how the dynamic works. For now, I'm quite happy with come and go meets.
Lou x"
Thanks a lot this is as I expected that if you can't be completely open and honest it won't work. Jealousy could build from just a little comment and the whole thing breaks down. Doesn't have to be something big but it's the seeds of thought hmmm |
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"We're in a similar situation and have often described what we're looking for as a 'part time boyfriend' who we could both enjoy! No luck yet, though we did come kinda close once.
It's more finding someone that fits into your dynamic then anything else but yeah the part time boyfriend is a good way of putting it hope you don't mind if we borrow that saying for our profile lol"
No we don't mind at all  |
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