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"Oh lol. Send your wife. He's only into females lol. That's the cheek of it lol.good luck with your quest."
I find it amusing as well.
Do you think that this site is like a catalogue order shop OP?
I know if you don't ask you don't get, but come on now. |
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"Because I’m only into women "
So are you hoping that someone will just hand their wife over to you for sex?
It may well happen on here sometimes we agree, but is that what you are expecting?
Your profile is very informative, but maybe you need to take another look at it.
There doesn't seem to be any content in it that would make anyone choose you over anyone else.
What you have been through must have been really tough, and hat's off to you. However you need to add what you could offer to others, what you bring to the party. |
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"The guy can watch it he wants . "
No offence but are you being serious?
Apart from the fact that you want it, what is it about you that makes you think that a couple would be interested?
Your profile tells us all about what you have been through, and I salute you for getting through it, but it doesn't say anything about why a couple would choose you. Nothing about what you have to offer beside a need for sex.
Maybe you should give that some thought and add something to your profile?? |
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"Interesting approach, it's just like asking a neighbour if you can have a shot of his lawn mower really.
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No offence intended, and I guess I will be shot down for this probably.
More like I have been ill, please give me sex.
Does the fact that a person has been ill mean you should feel any differently about having sex with them??
Like I said, waiting for the bullets being fired at me now! |
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over a year ago
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I try to be right & polite to everyone , I don’t want to come across as a dickhead as it’s not who iam , I like to approach people in a polite way , if anyone would like to offer me any advice please do. Apparently you have to be thick skinned on here , I aren’t here to be taken the piss out of and I won’t tolerate it . I’m a genuine guy looking for the same thing as everyone else , sex, I appreciate we are all in this lockdown, and I would love to have a genuine meet when it’s SAFE to do so. |
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"I try to be right & polite to everyone , I don’t want to come across as a dickhead as it’s not who iam , I like to approach people in a polite way , if anyone would like to offer me any advice please do. Apparently you have to be thick skinned on here , I aren’t here to be taken the piss out of and I won’t tolerate it . I’m a genuine guy looking for the same thing as everyone else , sex, I appreciate we are all in this lockdown, and I would love to have a genuine meet when it’s SAFE to do so. "
Some advice that we give on here constantly is to explain in your profile what you have to offer others. Why someone should choose you among the tens of thousands of other single guys on here. |
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And this is why single guys can't get a break  . You basically wanna fuck some other dudes partner but want nothing to do with them. Did you actually think this through or did you just let your dick type this out. Amazing you can let them watch tho. Very generous of you. |
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"And this is why single guys can't get a break . You basically wanna fuck some other dudes partner but want nothing to do with them. Did you actually think this through or did you just let your dick type this out. Amazing you can let them watch tho. Very generous of you. "
Agree with you totally.
From what the OP has said, it seems he thinks that this is a place for free sex if you ask for it.
I personally think that he totally has the wrong idea about swinging.
No one is entitled to anything without giving something back. |
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"The guy can watch it he wants .
This is where single guys fail with a couple. The husband is allowing you to join them not the other way round. With that attitude you won't get anywhere."
This is spot on! Not knocking OP at all, but this is the correct approach of 90% of couples - mutual pleasure etc.
Best of luck though OP |
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"The guy can watch it he wants .
This is where single guys fail with a couple. The husband is allowing you to join them not the other way round. With that attitude you won't get anywhere."
Just the husband?  doesn't the wife get a say? |
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"And this is why single guys can't get a break . You basically wanna fuck some other dudes partner but want nothing to do with them. Did you actually think this through or did you just let your dick type this out. Amazing you can let them watch tho. Very generous of you. "
That is the way some couples play |
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"The guy can watch it he wants .
This is where single guys fail with a couple. The husband is allowing you to join them not the other way round. With that attitude you won't get anywhere.
Just the husband? doesn't the wife get a say?"
Like I said, I think the OP has got the idea of this site totally wrong.
He seems to think it is a sex site that you make requests on.
Without being cruel, he has not presented any reason for someone to play with him other than the fact that he has been really sick ( and I totally sympathise) .
I honestly find his attitude to this site and to women quite repulsive.
This is all of what is so wrong with a lot of single guys on here. Sadly, we all get tarred with the same selfish attitude. |
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"The guy can watch it he wants .
This is where single guys fail with a couple. The husband is allowing you to join them not the other way round. With that attitude you won't get anywhere.
Just the husband? doesn't the wife get a say?
Like I said, I think the OP has got the idea of this site totally wrong.
He seems to think it is a sex site that you make requests on.
Without being cruel, he has not presented any reason for someone to play with him other than the fact that he has been really sick ( and I totally sympathise) .
I honestly find his attitude to this site and to women quite repulsive.
This is all of what is so wrong with a lot of single guys on here. Sadly, we all get tarred with the same selfish attitude."
I'm not keen on the idea that it the husband allowing other men to join them. I wouldn't call your attitude repulsive though, that would be rude. |
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"The guy can watch it he wants .
This is where single guys fail with a couple. The husband is allowing you to join them not the other way round. With that attitude you won't get anywhere.
Just the husband? doesn't the wife get a say?
Like I said, I think the OP has got the idea of this site totally wrong.
He seems to think it is a sex site that you make requests on.
Without being cruel, he has not presented any reason for someone to play with him other than the fact that he has been really sick ( and I totally sympathise) .
I honestly find his attitude to this site and to women quite repulsive.
This is all of what is so wrong with a lot of single guys on here. Sadly, we all get tarred with the same selfish attitude.
I'm not keen on the idea that it the husband allowing other men to join them. I wouldn't call your attitude repulsive though, that would be rude."
You are being polite, and being a mod I totally understand.
There was another guy on here, he was the same. Played on a disability, while making his comments more and more offensive.
Thankfully he is no longer on the site
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"The guy can watch it he wants .
This is where single guys fail with a couple. The husband is allowing you to join them not the other way round. With that attitude you won't get anywhere.
Just the husband? doesn't the wife get a say?"
Obviously it's a joint decision, but OP was referring to the husband. Doing him a favour by letting him joining him and his wife. |
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Op, I think in common with a high proportion of single men here, that your expectations may be a little bit off target. It's extremely difficult for single men on fab, so having realistic expectations is seriously 1 of the best things to have. It can also drive how you invest your energies, to improve your potential results. There are lots of threads that include guidance on how to improve a single man's expectations and outcomes in the forum. It could be more positive for you to pursue a journey where you may increase your satisfaction and well-being, rather than effortful pursuit that often leads to the opposite. |
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"Op, I think in common with a high proportion of single men here, that your expectations may be a little bit off target. It's extremely difficult for single men on fab, so having realistic expectations is seriously 1 of the best things to have. It can also drive how you invest your energies, to improve your potential results. There are lots of threads that include guidance on how to improve a single man's expectations and outcomes in the forum. It could be more positive for you to pursue a journey where you may increase your satisfaction and well-being, rather than effortful pursuit that often leads to the opposite. "
Sorry, but to me it seems there are people on here that a swingers site is here to provide free sex to whoever wants it.
'Can't get it in real life? I will get from a swingers site. Let's face it. Swingers have sex with others!'
Hate to be brutal, but that is how I see it. |
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"I try to be right & polite to everyone , I don’t want to come across as a dickhead as it’s not who iam , I like to approach people in a polite way , if anyone would like to offer me any advice please do. Apparently you have to be thick skinned on here , I aren’t here to be taken the piss out of and I won’t tolerate it . I’m a genuine guy looking for the same thing as everyone else , sex, I appreciate we are all in this lockdown, and I would love to have a genuine meet when it’s SAFE to do so. "
Who is taking the piss??
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"Unfortunately I haven’t , it wasn’t ment to offend anyone, I’m sorry if that’s how it came across. I’m just wanting the same as everyone else . "
Different people will of course see it different ways.
I see it that you have been through an awful lot, more than most people face in a lifetime, and because of that you are hoping someone will give you free sex.
Is that how you see honestly yourself?
Sorry if it sounds a little harsh, but you are after all asking for an awful lot, and not actually saying what you have to offer.
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"Unfortunately I haven’t , it wasn’t ment to offend anyone, I’m sorry if that’s how it came across. I’m just wanting the same as everyone else .
Different people will of course see it different ways.
I see it that you have been through an awful lot, more than most people face in a lifetime, and because of that you are hoping someone will give you free sex.
Is that how you see honestly yourself?
Sorry if it sounds a little harsh, but you are after all asking for an awful lot, and not actually saying what you have to offer.
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I admit I love sex , in regards to offering , advice on what you mean |
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"Unfortunately I haven’t , it wasn’t ment to offend anyone, I’m sorry if that’s how it came across. I’m just wanting the same as everyone else .
Different people will of course see it different ways.
I see it that you have been through an awful lot, more than most people face in a lifetime, and because of that you are hoping someone will give you free sex.
Is that how you see honestly yourself?
Sorry if it sounds a little harsh, but you are after all asking for an awful lot, and not actually saying what you have to offer.
I admit I love sex , in regards to offering , advice on what you mean "
You have said you have used escorts.
Have you had any actual girlfriends? |
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"Only one , but unfortunately didn’t last .
So you have only ever had sex that you haven't paid for with one person, or did she not give you any?"
My previous ex , she told me that there was apart of me that made her sqeemish l wear urostomy bags all the time which i have to live with , because my bladder is non exsistant my kidney now bypasses the non existing bladder to my urostomy , which is the part she didn’t like. |
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"The guy can watch it he wants .
This is where single guys fail with a couple. The husband is allowing you to join them not the other way round. With that attitude you won't get anywhere."
Agree with this 100% well said! |
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The gent asked a simple question, it might not be everyones kink but there might be a couple out there who enjoys this, each to their own, live and let live etc .
Reading through some of the above posts smacks of bullying, should be ashamed of yourselves. |
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I feel sorry for the Op as well, he’s just phrased it wrongly that’s all. He’s hardly been rude, more direct in what he’s asking for, with his opening post and answers.
Op I don’t think many couples are into what you’re looking for on here, but there maybe one or two.
Good luck with your search  |
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Interesting and confusing approach but to be honest there's probably more chance of covid being cured tomorrow than it working.
It'll probably be easier for you to just aim for singles than couples as I don't think the way you've asked will go down well with couples. Also listen to the above advice about your profile. |
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over a year ago
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I honestly didn’t mean to upset anyone, I want to fully admit that I really miss having that psychical fun , I find the frustration seriously hard, I’m really sorry |
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"I honestly didn’t mean to upset anyone, I want to fully admit that I really miss having that psychical fun , I find the frustration seriously hard, I’m really sorry"
No offence intended again OP, but surely you understand that this site is about fun for each person.
Apart from your need for sex you haven’t actually mentioned one thing you have to offer others.
We really understand your frustration, however surely you are aware that this isn't a site with free sex on tap?
Instead of getting angry why not accept the wealth of good advice you have been given.
This site just isn't for everyone. A lot of people leave disappointed.
You seem to be a cheerful faced guy, did it not work for you when you went to clubs?
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"I honestly didn’t mean to upset anyone, I want to fully admit that I really miss having that psychical fun , I find the frustration seriously hard, I’m really sorry"
This is the worrying part to be honest Mike.
You never meant to upset anyone, and I believe you.
Picture this.
You go to a club, see me with my partner and come across.
You say to me.
'Would you mind if I borrowed your lady for a fuck?'
How do you think that would play out?
And that is no real different to what you are doing here although it isn't face to face.
On reflection, do you think your need for sex is a reason for someone to give it?? Do you think it is good behaviour??
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"I honestly didn’t mean to upset anyone, I want to fully admit that I really miss having that psychical fun , I find the frustration seriously hard, I’m really sorry
This is the worrying part to be honest Mike.
You never meant to upset anyone, and I believe you.
Picture this.
You go to a club, see me with my partner and come across.
You say to me.
'Would you mind if I borrowed your lady for a fuck?'
How do you think that would play out?
And that is no real different to what you are doing here although it isn't face to face.
On reflection, do you think your need for sex is a reason for someone to give it?? Do you think it is good behaviour??
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Ok I get your point ! |
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Glad to see you have finally changed your profile.
At least now even though you never intended it, you don't look like you are looking for a sympathy fuck.
We all rise and fall from our merits. If your's are good, then fair enough, but if no one thinks they are then that is just the way it is.
Good luck on your new journey.
PS. You didn't answer, did you have no luck in the clubs?
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I'd quite like to see this thread deleted. It makes me feel a bit uncomfortable.
Mike you just need to be a bit less direct. Wait for lockdown to finish and keep visiting clubs. Be yourself. If you're a nice guy nice things will come to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve used afew escorts in the past .
I've had a MK2, MK4 XR3i, S2 turbo and a mk5b XR3i
Oh.... You meant something else"
Yes I did mean something else |
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"That was quite an interesting read. Just hope you take on board the feedback others have said OP and rethink your approach moving forward. Good luck though "
I will |
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No one was bullying you Mike. The thing is especially as a man, what ever you say on here will be met with debate. Now if you were a lady the good people of Fab would be blowing smoke up your bum. Sadly that’s how Fab works. |
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"how many couples stop using the site because of this sort of approach? they just get fed up of endless.... i want your wife oh you sit in the corner mate!  "
It's an awful approach.
However let's be fair OP has very limited experience, and I hope that he only posted that way out of ignorance.
To treat the OP just like anyone else, it is quite simple.
Someone needs to find something attractive about him, if not like all of us we have to accept that we don't appeal to others. |
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Firstly I would like to start by apologising to all those I’ve offended or upset by my recent post. I would really like it if someone found me attractive, I appreciate we are in a pandemic but i’m a normal guy who has normal sexual frustration, I admit I find it hard to handle. I don’t mean to be horrible I really don’t, I’m really sorry . |
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I don't think you've offended any body.
I've seen a couple describe single men as no more than sex toys to them today but nobody called them out on it.
People's attitudes to swinging differ but single men probably need to express themselves a bit more carefully |
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"I don't think you've offended any body.
I've seen a couple describe single men as no more than sex toys to them today but nobody called them out on it.
People's attitudes to swinging differ but single men probably need to express themselves a bit more carefully"
Thankyou for the advice. |
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"Firstly I would like to start by apologising to all those I’ve offended or upset by my recent post. I would really like it if someone found me attractive, I appreciate we are in a pandemic but i’m a normal guy who has normal sexual frustration, I admit I find it hard to handle. I don’t mean to be horrible I really don’t, I’m really sorry . "
Don’t be too hard on yourself or feel the need to apologise. Forums are for debate and views on various issues. Nobody was emotionally hurt or insulted by what you posted and if they were they need to get a grip 
This site is for everyone and due to that, they’ll bring their own stories and experiences.
I truly hope things improve for you, don’t lose hope as the old saying goes ‘there’s someone out there for everyone’ |
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