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By *an.this OP Man
over a year ago
Torbay & Bournemouth |
I often wonder how the couples on here conversation first started about wanting to swing with others & who generally starts the discussion the man or the women ? My X Wife brought up subject with me once asking me if I would like to go to swinging parties or would I like to introduce another women into our relationship, and like an idiot, I didn’t hesitate at the opportunity, saying yes I would love too, also while emphasising to her that I It wasn’t because I didn’t enjoy our sex life anymore or that I had lost interest in her, it was infact quite the opposite and that I loved her undyingly, it was just something I had always wanted to try & seeing as we both liked to experiment & thought it would be good for us and we should at least check it out and see what happens. Well the look on her face said it all, I fell right into that trap I can tell you, she started accusing me of not wanting her anymore, saying I was perverted, weird, sick in the head. Then we got divorced not long after that ! She got really insecure all the time accusing me of wanting every women that I ever spoke too, It was a crazy time. To be honest I have had the same reaction with all my X Partners when I bring up the subject. But on that occasion I thought I was ok, as we had just had great sex when she asked me and in heard that if the women brings up the conversation then it does tend to happen as she is the one instigating it first, but not in my case. So my message to all you lucky men out there who’s wives or partners are loving the swinging seen together, dont take it for grated as none of my partners would even entertain it with me.
I think that’s why my relationships don’t last, as I’m too honest about my needs that i’m adventures and love swinging. I think it’s good for the relationship to spice things up and have fun other wise sex becomes boring, predictable with no passion.
I don’t know why all my X partners have been so against it ? I put it down to being to insecure in themselves, but I don’t know why,as all of them are attractive, sexy women, we always had a great sex, but may be that was the problem, they either didn’t want to share me or I made them feel so special they couldn’t get their head around the fact I want to go swinging and bring in other people into our sex life, that they considered it disrespectful. Please let me know as I’m interested to here from any couple on here what there experiences are on how they started, who instigated it, Do you ever feel insecure sometimes playing with other partners. I would love to here your thoughts ??
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