I’d love to know more about why women swing? Because I meet you and I think you’re incredible, but I wonder what the trigger is to go swinging.
What is it that you like?
Why do you like it?
I’d like to get more in touch with the reasons as sometimes I just think I’m here because I’m I love sex and I’m a man. |
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You know women love sex too, right?
For me it’s because swinging is more interesting to me than multiple random poor quality tinder hookups. Those apps would get me plenty of poor-to-average sex with average men, but wouldn’t get me the threesomes, or F/F, or group sex, or any of the other possible combinations I can find here. It’s also much less likely to get me the like-minded friends I’ve made here. |
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I enjoy the social aspect, meeting and getting to know new and different people. I also love sex and having sex with lots of different people as each is a different experience. So win-win. Xx |
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Thanks girls - and do you think you’re quite rare when compared to normal friends?
Because group fun and expressing yourself I wish more people could do, I wonder what is stopping them?
Some gf’s of mine in the past have found it gross and disgusting. |
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"Thanks girls - and do you think you’re quite rare when compared to normal friends?
Because group fun and expressing yourself I wish more people could do, I wonder what is stopping them?
Some gf’s of mine in the past have found it gross and disgusting. "
I have no idea whether I’m rare or not, mainly because I don’t talk to friends about my sex life and prefer not to hear about theirs. I think probably most people (not just women) aren’t into swinging and would find it weird, but women have a lot of societal expectations on us about sex - basically we’re not supposed to like sex much, and when we do it’s supposed to be vanilla and 1-on-1. So when we do have non-vanilla desires, we’re supposed to be ashamed of them and not act on them. |
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"Thanks girls - and do you think you’re quite rare when compared to normal friends?
Because group fun and expressing yourself I wish more people could do, I wonder what is stopping them?
Some gf’s of mine in the past have found it gross and disgusting. "
Oh yes we're definitely rare.
Our normal friends would be horrified. Hence why none of them know about our lifestyle.   |
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"Thanks girls - and do you think you’re quite rare when compared to normal friends?
Because group fun and expressing yourself I wish more people could do, I wonder what is stopping them?
Some gf’s of mine in the past have found it gross and disgusting.
Oh yes we're definitely rare.
Our normal friends would be horrified. Hence why none of them know about our lifestyle. "
In the early days when I told Mrs H about my swinger past she was also horrified. "I would NEVER do that" was her response on the rare occasion we broached the subject.
Three years on, after watching a documentary on German TV, she just blurted out that she would like to go to a swinger club. Just to have a look of course.
These days she can still blow hot and cold. She can go for a few weeks with no interest at all, then suddenly switch to wanting to go to a club 2 or 3 times a week.
Sometimes we will go to a club and she has no interest at all, then on the next visit will fuck nearly every guy in the place.
Bottom line is that it is a mood thing for her. She loves lots of sex but only when SHE wants it.
Swinging gives her the choice to switch it on or off whenever she pleases.
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Thank you everyone - insightful.
The women and couples I meet seem to be usually 45 yes old plus. It seem to be then that they have the confidence to enjoy the lifestyle.
Women my age in 30’s I just don’t seem to ever meet.
Fortunately though I prefer experienced mature women |
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"I am rare among my friends on that I am open to causal and group sex in high numbers. Most of them accept it but wouldn't do it. Xx"
This.
And I love the social scene. Like my own weird mini religion lol |
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"I’d love to know more about why women swing? Because I meet you and I think you’re incredible, but I wonder what the trigger is to go swinging.
What is it that you like?
Why do you like it?
I’d like to get more in touch with the reasons as sometimes I just think I’m here because I’m I love sex and I’m a man."
Why would you think that their reasons are any different to the reasons of men? |
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I asked because sometimes when I’m with a girl they will think group fun and multiple sexual partners are disgusting, but I never get that with guys who I know.
I thought maybe it was something they say but deep down do not mean it |
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"Thanks girls - and do you think you’re quite rare when compared to normal friends?
Because group fun and expressing yourself I wish more people could do, I wonder what is stopping them?
Some gf’s of mine in the past have found it gross and disgusting.
Oh yes we're definitely rare.
Our normal friends would be horrified. Hence why none of them know about our lifestyle.
In the early days when I told Mrs H about my swinger past she was also horrified. "I would NEVER do that" was her response on the rare occasion we broached the subject.
Three years on, after watching a documentary on German TV, she just blurted out that she would like to go to a swinger club. Just to have a look of course.
These days she can still blow hot and cold. She can go for a few weeks with no interest at all, then suddenly switch to wanting to go to a club 2 or 3 times a week.
Sometimes we will go to a club and she has no interest at all, then on the next visit will fuck nearly every guy in the place.
Bottom line is that it is a mood thing for her. She loves lots of sex but only when SHE wants it.
Swinging gives her the choice to switch it on or off whenever she pleases.
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This sounds very much like Mrs Derwentside...I like it when she's switched on! |
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"I asked because sometimes when I’m with a girl they will think group fun and multiple sexual partners are disgusting, but I never get that with guys who I know.
I thought maybe it was something they say but deep down do not mean it "
Thats more than likely due to the expectations of todays society, school-uni-job-house-marriage-kids....
Those who tend to live in the moment would most likely be more open to new ideas and experiences! |
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I often wonder how the couples on here conversation first started about wanting to swing with other & who generally starts the discussion the man or the women ? My X Wife brought up subject with me once asking me if I would like to go to swinging parties or would I like to introduce another women into our relationship, and like an idiot, I didn’t hesitate at the opportunity, saying yes I would love too, also while emphasising to her that I It wasn’t because I didn’t enjoy our sex life anymore or that I had lost interest in her, it was infact quite the opposite and that I loved her undyingly, it was just something I had always wanted to try & seeing as we both liked to experiment & thought it would be good for us and we should at least check it out and see what happens. Well the look on her face said it all, I fell right into that trap I can tell you, she started accusing me of not wanting her anymore, saying I was perverted, weird, sick in the head. Then we got divorced not long after that ! She got really insecure all the time accusing me of wanting every women that I ever spoke too, It was a crazy time. To be honest I have had the same reaction with all my X Partners. But on that occasion I thought I was ok as we had just had great sex when she asked me and in heard that if the women brings up the conversation then it does tend to happen as she is the one instigating it first, but not in my case. So my message to all you lucky men out there who’s wives or partners are loving the swinging seen together, dont take it for grated as none of my partners would even entertain it with me. I think that’s why my relationships don’t last, as I’m too honest about my needs that i’m adventures and love swinging. I think it’s good for the relationship to spice things up and have fun other wise sex becomes boring, predictable with no passion.
I don’t know why all my X partners We’re so against it I put it down to they must have all been to insecure in themselves but I don’t know why as all of them are attractive, sexy women, we always had a great sex, but may be that was the problem, they either didn’t want to share me or I made them feel so special they couldn’t get their head around the fact I want to go swinging and bring in other people into our sex life, that they considered it disrespectful. Please let me know as I’m interested to here from any couple on here what there experiences are on how they started, who instigated it, Do you ever feel insecure sometimes playing with other partners. I would live to here your thoughts ?? |
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"I often wonder how the couples on here conversation first started about wanting to swing with other & who generally starts the discussion the man or the women ? My X Wife brought up subject with me once asking me if I would like to go to swinging parties or would I like to introduce another women into our relationship, and like an idiot, I didn’t hesitate at the opportunity, saying yes I would love too, also while emphasising to her that I It wasn’t because I didn’t enjoy our sex life anymore or that I had lost interest in her, it was infact quite the opposite and that I loved her undyingly, it was just something I had always wanted to try & seeing as we both liked to experiment & thought it would be good for us and we should at least check it out and see what happens. Well the look on her face said it all, I fell right into that trap I can tell you, she started accusing me of not wanting her anymore, saying I was perverted, weird, sick in the head. Then we got divorced not long after that ! She got really insecure all the time accusing me of wanting every women that I ever spoke too, It was a crazy time. To be honest I have had the same reaction with all my X Partners. But on that occasion I thought I was ok as we had just had great sex when she asked me and in heard that if the women brings up the conversation then it does tend to happen as she is the one instigating it first, but not in my case. So my message to all you lucky men out there who’s wives or partners are loving the swinging seen together, dont take it for grated as none of my partners would even entertain it with me. I think that’s why my relationships don’t last, as I’m too honest about my needs that i’m adventures and love swinging. I think it’s good for the relationship to spice things up and have fun other wise sex becomes boring, predictable with no passion.
I don’t know why all my X partners We’re so against it I put it down to they must have all been to insecure in themselves but I don’t know why as all of them are attractive, sexy women, we always had a great sex, but may be that was the problem, they either didn’t want to share me or I made them feel so special they couldn’t get their head around the fact I want to go swinging and bring in other people into our sex life, that they considered it disrespectful. Please let me know as I’m interested to here from any couple on here what there experiences are on how they started, who instigated it, Do you ever feel insecure sometimes playing with other partners. I would live to here your thoughts ?? "
Interesting story.
Over the years I (Mr) have had 3 different swinger partners.
The 1st one was just a short term GF who I pretty much knew would go for it. She did.  and on and off (even years later) we would occasionally hook up and go to a club.
As someone who had been going to clubs for years I always brought it up as something I did in the past. When I tried that with the second one I was quite shocked when she told me that she had done the same with her ex and wanted to do it again. LOTTERY WIN!
We were together for 4 years and did most of the north west clubs together and had some great fun.
It's over 15 years since we last spoke and I often wonder if she is back on the scene these days. If you read this "D" I hope you are still having fun.
Which brings me to Mrs H.
Again I brought it up quite early as something from my past and her reaction was completely negative.
We had over 3 years of being 100% vanilla until the fateful evening when we watched that documentary (see my earlier post). I suppose she could have been setting a trap for me but fortunately that wasn't the case.
That is nearly 12 years ago now and (although we are not getting any younger) we are still having a great time. |
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