Hi all,
I'm just hoping for any advice on how I can broach the subject of cuckolding with my partner of 12yrs.
Our sex life is pretty slow; mainly my fault as I masturbate too much (behind her back) although she is also very vanilla. It isnt like she has low sex drive though, just that she can cope without sex when she isn't having it.
I'd love her to take another man though, but I want her to do it for herself and to enjoy it, not just do it for me. I have no idea how to broach the subject though, as I likely know she will think it taboo and dirty.
Please any advice (dont just say you will try and seduce her). If if you just tell me it is hopeless, I'd rather know.
We are the perfect fit in all othr ways and very much in love.
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It may sound blunt but I think you have two choices you either tell her about your desires or you don't.
Its not for anyone to tell you how to do this because she's your wife but a first step might be to admit that you have this fantasy and see how she reacts. |
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Be careful that your fantasy doesn't turn into reality, she finds someone she likes and stops liking you. If your in love that usually means respecting her and being honest maybe a film which has cuckolding in it, not porn, and then start an exploratory conversation around it and see where it leads to. |
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Pillow talk, you must talk about fantasies? Ask her about her previous sexual encounters before you guys met. If she's happy to talk about them then you could start introducing them into your foreplay. You could go down on her but tell her she has to think of a previous encounter while you make her cum. Onces shes cum and you sink your cock in you could tell her to describe what she was thinking about and make a few filthy suggestions... if shes not up for that (because thats pretty vanilla) you've no chance op  |
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The closest I have got to mentioning it was to say that I have had a recurring dream of watching her have sex while I watched and wanked.
She laughed and thought I was horny and wanted sex, she didn't think I was serious and I lost my nerve to go further.
On other occasions when I have brought it up again she hasn't been horrified but did say that in reality I'd feel stupid... |
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"No idea how to advance from there though..."
As other have indicated you have to take steady progressive baby steps and see how she responds. Don't go full on with cuckold porn just let her know how and why the fantasy of her being with another man genuinely turns you on. |
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Yeah have been here before. As mentioned, pillow talk is best with follow up conversation or even a txt the next day If that’s easier.
After 2 years of slow, occasional chat we eventually made it a reality. Was worth the wait as to this day it’s still the best most enthralling sexual experience I’ve had x |
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I never in a million years thought I'd get my wife into doing this stuff.
It took a long time of gentle conversation, knowing when to back off and when to push a little harder. Eventually, she agreed to give it s go.
We were on here as an active swinging couple for about 7 years, then she got bored of it. There really isn't a lot were didn't do in that time!
Patience, it might happen, it might not. |
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We are a cuckold couple and it evolved from normal swinging where my wife got jealous seeing me with other women so we just started playing with men and then cuckold. But we got together 12 years ago and have been open from day 1 about our fantasies. But it's going to be a difficult conversation if it's never been mentioned before and you will need to be prepared for lots of why questions.
Maybe start watching some porn with her that has cuckold in it or take her out to a bar and then talk to her about other guys looking at her and then slowly say you would like to watch her with other guys |
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"I would not do it, she could prefer the new bloke, keep it as a fantasy "
And you're on a swinging site because? Jeez ive seen my wife fuck lots of guys and shes seen me with a fair few women  . You'll find proper swingers are the most solid couples you'll find. |
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"We are a cuckold couple and it evolved from normal swinging where my wife got jealous seeing me with other women so we just started playing with men and then cuckold. But we got together 12 years ago and have been open from day 1 about our fantasies. But it's going to be a difficult conversation if it's never been mentioned before and you will need to be prepared for lots of why questions.
Maybe start watching some porn with her that has cuckold in it or take her out to a bar and then talk to her about other guys looking at her and then slowly say you would like to watch her with other guys"
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"The closest I have got to mentioning it was to say that I have had a recurring dream of watching her have sex while I watched and wanked.
She laughed and thought I was horny and wanted sex, she didn't think I was serious and I lost my nerve to go further.
On other occasions when I have brought it up again she hasn't been horrified but did say that in reality I'd feel stupid..."
Just keep plugging away and bringing it up during foreplay. I wouldn't go for the porn route yet instead just keep it between you two. Maybe after coronavirus is a memory you could persuade her to visit a club just to watch and see how it goes. |
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I have been a bull for a few couples
And if she just blanks you like she has maybe try setting up a situation with someone you know she would be attracted to
Feed him information on her likes dislikes and sense of humour and see how it goes so she makes her mind up
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I had the same situation for years , book my wife few massages which she enjoyed then slowly told the guy step by step, , was after many massages the guy clipped his cock in her very wet pussy |
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