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The good , the bad and the ugly
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you have been doing this for some time we are guessing that not every meet is going to be the best ? In our case , we more often than not go to clubs like chams for fun and try pretty much anything at least once !
However of late we have had equal good as bad nights , often alternate but the good experiences are so good we accept the bad as maybe a karmic thing lol
So is this normal ? Do others get the same experiences and how do you deal with the good the bad and the ugly of the swinging life ?
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"We've been luck as all out meets have been good but that's probably because we only meet 2 or 3 times a year and always chat to people etc for a bit first to ensure we're compatible."
Whilst it might not work for everyone I agree with you.
The "bad and ugly" happened early on, when I first started and was meeting three/four times a month.
Since I cut down to around six a year and arranged meets where I didn't travel more than 400m...all been good.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah I guess when you only have that many meets a year you really wanna be sure they will be good !
Recently we have been doing three a week so it's small wonder we get allsorts of experiences and we never plan anything !
Thanks for your post
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Cant say we have had a bad meet, or a bad encounter in clubs, i tend to be in cock slut mode when i go to clubs, so am easily pleased
For mmf we dont do a lot of chat but my radar is very finely honed so we are never elt down and have fun
Meeting other couples we tend to do in clubs, mainly cos of where we live(its miles for anyone to come) but we never expect anything and even if we just chat and get pissed we have a fab time...
i think for us its about not having any expectations. |
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I think that as one gets more experience, one becomes more discerning about what you want, as well as how well any session fun meets those expectations and needs. For this reason, I'm much more critical of potential partner's ability to satisfy me in that moment, even if it would be great at another time.
So my aim is to be more finely tuned into picking what should work - though there are no guarantees. It works on the flip side too, when something doesn't meet expectations, then I also know about it. So I do get the alternating Good/Bad, but the bad is a little less frequent, and probably not so far off the mark, it's just 'bad' relative to what would have been fantastic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah good points Sophie - we are now getting more of an idea beforehand and the good is getting better all the time thanks to our thoughts as to what works best
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