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professional. and your point is w?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Looking through my looked at me list and a word keeps coming up and that's. 'professional' why would I give a dam does it make you a better shag than me a charity volunteer ! No it does not. does it make me more likely to meet you no. In fact I much much less likely to meet someone who bangs on about Being professional. I don't have issues with those who are but do I need to know to make a decision on if we compatible sexually ? no so its for your ego it gives no indication on what you want or enjoy sexually so what's the point ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its like the men who tell me what car they have to impress. So you have a posh car does that make you more likely to have me screaming in mind blowing orgasm than a man who don't drive. WTF I look at a profile as a indicator to sexual compatible not to see how much you earn strange concept I know lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its like the men who tell me what car they have to impress. So you have a posh car does that make you more likely to have me screaming in mind blowing orgasm than a man who don't drive. WTF I look at a profile as a indicator to sexual compatible not to see how much you earn strange concept I know lol "
Best remove endless pics of my car off my profile   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol I get men's obsession with cars well sort of but I have had and know of gals that have had men say we should meet them for car action because they have what ever car they have and I asked why and they said coz I bet you not sucked cock in what ever sort of car they yanking their meat about having lol. Wow I feel so blessed lol block block block lol |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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I guess they are trying to imply a level of education and therefore their ability to converse well. Of course it doesn't mean it I work in office full of professionals some of whom are painfully shy, some lacking any apparent awareness of anything around them although actually their a pretty good bunch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking through my looked at me list and a word keeps coming up and that's. 'professional' why would I give a dam does it make you a better shag than me a charity volunteer ! No it does not. does it make me more likely to meet you no. In fact I much much less likely to meet someone who bangs on about Being professional. I don't have issues with those who are but do I need to know to make a decision on if we compatible sexually ? no so its for your ego it gives no indication on what you want or enjoy sexually so what's the point ?"
I do find it annoying when people ask what I do for a living; a couple of times the answer has resulted in a block - but that's just how it is on here - some people seem to believe that a person's profession is an indicator of whether they're compatible - and maybe they're right ? It's not something that bothers me but hey one thing I've learnt on here is it really is horses for courses in the swinging world and you just have to let others get on with it without getting hung up about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think these people are belittling you're "profession" of charity work... I have seen the word on many profiles and I just took it as, and I could be wrong, they are in a job where they wouldn't be comfortable, or it might not go down well for them if their colleagues were to find out what they did in their private time... Particularly their swinging activities! I think when people use the word they are just reassuring you of their discretion and expressing their desire for the same so while I agree that discretion is something that the majority of us would have anyway without the need of the word, if it helps them to feel more secure and comfortable in meeting then its just a word. And to be totally honest id rather meet with people similar to us who do work for a living |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does'nt bother me if someone says they are professional on their profile
It depends on the context and the rest of the profilw as to whether I may be interested at all
I don't want to read a list of lifetime acheivements,I want to know that this person could be someone id have an interest in sexually,professional or not
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do work for a living actually to those who look down on. Others just coz we not t a professional don't make you better than those who are not. I glad you wil only meet those like you coz I would hate to meet someone so up themselves there's no room for my tong.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Professional and proud here, and I don't give a flying f**k what other people think about me or my profile, certainly not from those I do not give a toss about!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do meet a man who say they are on profile coz its only mentioned not thrown at me in a message in a think yourself lucky I message you way its on his profile but till we started meeting more kt wasn't mentioned and when it was he was just as interested in my work than his own . its the messages I sometimes get that follow that I object to and it occurred to me how important is it sexually. To me not at all to others very. And I have my preferences to I won't meet younger but I try not to do it in am insulting way its just I love older I don't think I better than guys my age I just don't fancy them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just don't see why people get so upset by the word 'Professional' 
I ain't 'Professional'  and I don't get upset by one who is 
Sometimes I think people show a level of 'inverted snobbery' that is just as pointless as 'snobbery'
If the profile is offensive to your sensibilities just ignore it. |
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People are allowed to describe themselves however they like on their profiles. I'm a couch potatoe, profiles telling me how many times they go to the gym, how many miles they run how much they can bench press I know I won't be for them so I look elsewhere. I don't envy their bodies wishing I'd taken better care of mine and start threads about it.
Inverted snobbery is ugly, it makes you look bitter, jealous and twisted.
Get over yourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Professional and proud here, and I don't give a flying f**k what other people think about me or my profile, certainly not from those I do not give a toss about!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't see why people get so upset by the word 'Professional'
I ain't 'Professional' and I don't get upset by one who is
Sometimes I think people show a level of 'inverted snobbery' that is just as pointless as 'snobbery'
If the profile is offensive to your sensibilities just ignore it. "
Very well said indeed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A professional is a person who is paid to undertake a specialized set of tasks and to complete them for a fee. The traditional professions were doctors, lawyers, clergymen and commissioned military officers. Today, the term is applied to architects, accountants, educators, engineers, scientists, technology experts, social workers and many more."
Clearly applying the definition above Fab is populated by the complete top 5% of the country in terms of education and earning potential. However, probably not by manners and humility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see the term professional as offensive or snobbery at all, though I'm sure it can and is sometimes used that way.
I'm thinking as previously mentioned it could be mentioned to highlight they are likely to be discrete, or to allow those that might actively seek professional to recognise they are that.
I imagine some people may feel uncomfortable around certain genres of people, so anyone uncomfortable around what they may consider professional acting people then they know to avoid.
OP..
I think you need to ask yourself why you find such word so offensive, so belittling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a lot of people who use the word don't actually understand its meaning.
Besides, I'm not sure I'd want to shout about it on here if I were a doctor or a solicitor or something.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot of people who use the word don't actually understand its meaning.
Besides, I'm not sure I'd want to shout about it on here if I were a doctor or a solicitor or something.
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Exactly and there are a great many real professionals frequenting the site who would not dream of using the term to describe themselves in their ordinary lives, let alone in the swinging world.
Socio-economic descriptors have morphed considerably since they were used by our Victorian and Edwardian ancestors to confirm and cement their understanding of social standing and hierarchy.
Another term that was common between the late 19th and early 20th century was "in trade", used primarily by the upper classes to describe those in the upper-middle and middle classes who had to work for a living rather than living off passive income from vast land and property rentals. It is a term you seldom hear these days but had a condescending tone, even if those it was applied to had considerably more disposable income than the asset rich but cash poor classes that used it to label them as socially inferior.
English economic and social culture is complicated and shaped by centuries of snobbery and inverted snobbery. Probably something that will not be resolved in the pages of Fabswingers. A highly interesting discussion nonetheless.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looking through my looked at me list and a word keeps coming up and that's. 'professional' why would I give a dam does it make you a better shag than me a charity volunteer ! No it does not. does it make me more likely to meet you no. In fact I much much less likely to meet someone who bangs on about Being professional. I don't have issues with those who are but do I need to know to make a decision on if we compatible sexually ? no so its for your ego it gives no indication on what you want or enjoy sexually so what's the point ?"
Me me me me. There are other people reading the profile remember? I don't think its for someones ego that they include the word professional in their profile. I think it's used to quickly give an overall impression of work, dress, attitude, appearance etc. I imagine a lot of folk would find a professional attractive and more desireable, like a lot of landlords (would suit professionals). The fact this "professional" word gets under your skin so much would prompt me to say that perhaps the problem here lies a little closer to home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the idea of stating your a professional is to attract a certain type of person, maybe they are in a high paid job and like to eat in certain restaurants or book higher class hotel than a travel lodge, to meet people who are on the same educational level as them so they have things in common to talk about, and not have to worry about meeting people who's income is to low to afford the type of places they want to use for meets, to some this is more tha just turning up for a fuck, they like to connect on a mental level and maybe they feel they can do that with someone whos on national minimum wage and had to worry about if they can afford to use the hotel suggested
There are loads of odd things i find on here but people are entitled to meet who they like, without question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Professional usually means they are compensating for the lack of something else !!!
really?? what on earth could it compensate for??
odd concept"
Maybe they have a small weiner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My comment was tongue in cheek ... tongue in cheek
It means nothing .. its just another word that people use.
I don't like the word play but its what people use ..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Professional usually means they are compensating for the lack of something else !!!
really?? what on earth could it compensate for??
odd concept
Maybe they have a small weiner "
hahahaha indeed
I think I need to explain better in posts .. my irony isn't always well explained |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why on earth do people constantly get offended by what others put on their profiles.
If people are professional and they want to reflect that, then it is fine. Its not up for discussion about what career choice merits the professional tag. If people object to it then don't message them. Its ridiculous to make assumptions about the sexual prowess of individuals just because you are offended by their choice of words.
Both myself and my partner are 'professionals'. We don't put that on our profile but we are unlikely to meet people who don't appear, by the messages received and the way someone communicates, who we would have little in common with. Its not because we are up ourselves, we probably don't have any similar interests
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im glad they put this on their profiles as im not turned on by professionals so i can easily avoid posh pen pushing men and hone in on rough workmen and baby chav sexpots! Xxx mel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The definition of a 'professional' is some who has a 'profession'!!! Anybody with a job has a profession so by definition, everybody working is a professional!!
Or just maybe they are looking for Bodie and Doyle!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen one or two people on cam here that look quite frightening. And I'm over 6'.
So perhaps I'm wrong, but when someone says they are professional, I tend to assume their head isn't full of metal and they don't have so many tattoos they look like theyve just fallen into a bucket of dulux's finest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A huge part of meeting someone is how you will get on. Alot of people like to meet people on a similar "professional" standing to themselves as they will know they will have more in common and the conversation will flow more easily. I don't think it's snobbery, it's simple common sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give me [ mrs ] a rough looking builder guy any day , oh and YES to the tattoo's too. What is it with people getting huffy because some people have tatt's ??. Each to their own I say !!... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just checked my profile - doesn't contain the word professional. Last time I was on here pretty sure it did.
Has it's presence, or lack of now, affected the level of meets i've had, the types of people i've met or who have chosen to drop me a line?
Not in the slightest.
Do I care if it's on someone elses? Nope!
Although did see one who's headline was 'professional bi woman' - now that's a job i'd love!
Just don't think i've got the qualifications required!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just checked my profile - doesn't contain the word professional. Last time I was on here pretty sure it did.
Has it's presence, or lack of now, affected the level of meets i've had, the types of people i've met or who have chosen to drop me a line?
Not in the slightest.
Do I care if it's on someone elses? Nope!
Although did see one who's headline was 'professional bi woman' - now that's a job i'd love!
Just don't think i've got the qualifications required!
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"Professional usually means they are compensating for the lack of something else !!!
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we used to have professional couple on our profile, we say that rather than say we are police man/woman ,social worker etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen one or two people on cam here that look quite frightening. And I'm over 6'.
So perhaps I'm wrong, but when someone says they are professional, I tend to assume their head isn't full of metal and they don't have so many tattoos they look like theyve just fallen into a bucket of dulux's finest! "
I know lots of professionals who do have tats and piercings, I have had previous professions which require requisite qualifications and I have said body modifications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im glad they put this on their profiles as im not turned on by professionals so i can easily avoid posh pen pushing men and hone in on rough workmen and baby chav sexpots! Xxx mel"
lol funny you should say that because whenever i see a profile that states they are professional i just get an image of a middle aged bhisness man turning up in a suit, which isnt a look i go for at all so i tend to avoid such profiles too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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does it just mean you're not on the Dole??
whatever about it saying you're great at having a job, people are more likely just using it to describe that they have a working life that they take seriously. it's not always meant to say 'oh i'm sooooooo professional,' or that they take a professional approach to their sex life. Just means they are people who work.
Just get on with asking them do they like your cock pic
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"Im glad they put this on their profiles as im not turned on by professionals so i can easily avoid posh pen pushing men and hone in on rough workmen and baby chav sexpots! Xxx mel
lol funny you should say that because whenever i see a profile that states they are professional i just get an image of a middle aged bhisness man turning up in a suit, which isnt a look i go for at all so i tend to avoid such profiles too "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen one or two people on cam here that look quite frightening. And I'm over 6'.
So perhaps I'm wrong, but when someone says they are professional, I tend to assume their head isn't full of metal and they don't have so many tattoos they look like theyve just fallen into a bucket of dulux's finest! "
Cough. Don't bank on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen one or two people on cam here that look quite frightening. And I'm over 6'.
So perhaps I'm wrong, but when someone says they are professional, I tend to assume their head isn't full of metal and they don't have so many tattoos they look like theyve just fallen into a bucket of dulux's finest! "
nah never judge a book by its cover, im a manager of a huge company so if i chose to i suppose i could class myself as a professional, however i have quite a lot of tattoos ive just had a full back piece, as well as two half sleeves and a semi large leg piece, and several piercings, no comment on the head full of metal lol however i would never describe myself as a professional because i would feel it would send out the wrong image of me, im the sort of person that if you saw me walking down the street you'd think i was on the dole dispite going to a private school and having a very good education..... and i quite like that |
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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago
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"Looking through my looked at me list and a word keeps coming up and that's. 'professional' why would I give a dam does it make you a better shag than me a charity volunteer ! No it does not. does it make me more likely to meet you no. In fact I much much less likely to meet someone who bangs on about Being professional. I don't have issues with those who are but do I need to know to make a decision on if we compatible sexually ? no so its for your ego it gives no indication on what you want or enjoy sexually so what's the point ?"
Well, it's each to their own. Personally, I find men who are proper 'professionals' a real turn on. I fantasize about being fucked by my doctor ( Who is absolutely gorgeous.) I find something very sexy about a man in a suit who knows how to use his brain and has had an education. I'm strongly attracted to intelligent men. It has never been my intention to belittle anyone else. It's just where a particular attraction is, that's all. |
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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago
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"Looking through my looked at me list and a word keeps coming up and that's. 'professional' why would I give a dam does it make you a better shag than me a charity volunteer ! No it does not. does it make me more likely to meet you no. In fact I much much less likely to meet someone who bangs on about Being professional. I don't have issues with those who are but do I need to know to make a decision on if we compatible sexually ? no so its for your ego it gives no indication on what you want or enjoy sexually so what's the point ?
Well, it's each to their own. Personally, I find men who are proper 'professionals' a real turn on. I fantasize about being fucked by my doctor ( Who is absolutely gorgeous.) I find something very sexy about a man in a suit who knows how to use his brain and has had an education. I'm strongly attracted to intelligent men. It has never been my intention to belittle anyone else. It's just where a particular attraction is, that's all."
Likewise professional women, well dressed; business suit; heels with attitude. intelligent, women that no what they want and get it no matter in the boardroom or out are hugely attractive. I like a woman that is beautiful, strong, and in control, I don't mind her knowing that that is what she is and I certainly find a woman that manipulates a situation to her advantage to be a real scorcher!
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By *allnlongMan
over a year ago
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Excellent thread
I am not going to comment on the term professional, as I agree with much of what has been covered already. X
Though I must say, I do like to know what sort of job people have or want. Never to judge them by, I just think it is interesting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care if people are professional or not...
however! for some people it applies to their compatibility before the bedroom, the social side of things... if you want to meet people for a drink and their usual hide out is the local booze hole and yours is a west end cocktail bar, your going to run into trouble...
because no matter where you go, one or the other will feel uncomfortable.. same with conversation and the like... luckily i am an adaptable person and fit in well to most scenarios... but we often find ourselves meeting "professional" people because they have more money to spend on going to clubs, traveling( aka petrol), and often are the ones that don't mind just going for a drink and seeing how things go... but its not always that way and we dont exclusively meet people based on their profession ... unless of course they are a fit rugby player |
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For us it's shorthand for middle class. It's a crass term, granted, but compatibility outside the bedroom is our preferred guide for compatibility within the bedroom. Whether the term has put off couples we'd have clicked with from ever getting in touch, who knows. Suffice to say we've had fantastic experiences and met enough super people and couples that it isn't something we lose sleep worrying over.
Everyone's profile is designed to attract the type of people they want to meet. That is something to be celebrated, not castigated. |
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"For us it's shorthand for middle class. It's a crass term, granted, but compatibility outside the bedroom is our preferred guide for compatibility within the bedroom. Whether the term has put off couples we'd have clicked with from ever getting in touch, who knows. Suffice to say we've had fantastic experiences and met enough super people and couples that it isn't something we lose sleep worrying over.
Everyone's profile is designed to attract the type of people they want to meet. That is something to be celebrated, not castigated. "
Save your breath! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do work for a living actually to those who look down on. Others just coz we not t a professional don't make you better than those who are not. I glad you wil only meet those like you coz I would hate to meet someone so up themselves there's no room for my tong. "
Well you've cut off all you're holes anyhow, you've got your knickers in a knot over a simple word so that's two down and you're spouting s*#t out of the other. If you don't like the word then move on and get over it, paid or unpaid, working or not, its the attitude some people have that makes peoples minds up about someone and yours is a little bit stinky if I'm honest... People you seem to be looking for would likely not use the word anyway as they're all past retirement age (and do you see me gettin all pishy cos I don't see myself as old and that's what you're seeking?... No, Its a relief) Do you get so uptight when people put on their profile that they want to meet people who are issue free as I suppose that rules you out too!
It's like those idiots who watch a whole episode of Frankie Boyle then complain about the content.... DONT FRIKKIN WATCH THEN and leave the rest of us to enjoy it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im glad they put this on their profiles as im not turned on by professionals so i can easily avoid posh pen pushing men and hone in on rough workmen and baby chav sexpots! Xxx mel
lol funny you should say that because whenever i see a profile that states they are professional i just get an image of a middle aged bhisness man turning up in a suit, which isnt a look i go for at all so i tend to avoid such profiles too "
I agree give me rough and heady any day lol. I have met a man that has professional on his profile and thought don't judge on that and we got on quite well for a while till he got d*unk and text me telling me he wants to do things that I would never ever do lol we tried to carry on like nothing happened after all who dont get d*unk but it just didn't work. Nothing to do with his profile but I do still imagine a man in a suit in a briefcase when I spot that word now. Could be interesting depending what exactly is in briefcase lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess they are trying to imply a level of education and therefore their ability to converse well. Of course it doesn't mean it I work in office full of professionals some of whom are painfully shy, some lacking any apparent awareness of anything around them although actually their a pretty good bunch."
Richard branson achieved nothing education wise yet something tells me he is a rather astute professional who can hold rather a decent conversation !
To me I see when people say " professional " its like they are saying that for whatever reason they would be more attractive to people like the common person .... I say bring on the peasants lol x |
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Well said !!
Im a professional and have stated it in my profile to be honest. Trying to give people an idea of what im like ie in a job etc
Thats the whole idea of a "profile" !!
is to say what your like size, shape, looks,
I dont see the big deal ?
Oh and im good at sex not a professional at it
lol mind you I dont mind being payed for it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking through my looked at me list and a word keeps coming up and that's. 'professional' why would I give a dam does it make you a better shag than me a charity volunteer ! No it does not. does it make me more likely to meet you no. In fact I much much less likely to meet someone who bangs on about Being professional. I don't have issues with those who are but do I need to know to make a decision on if we compatible sexually ? no so its for your ego it gives no indication on what you want or enjoy sexually so what's the point ?"
...is it really that annoying??
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The term 'professional' is used as loosely as the word 'celebrity' these day considering there are only four actual 'professions'
I have heard people describe themselves as 'professional lorry drivers, professional carpenters, etc...been to uni and got a degree in it eh?
Worse still 'professional' footballers/rugby players..as opposed to? (and dont say amateur, most of them get paid as well now)
A self employed one man band selling Betterware is hardly a 'businessman' is he/she?
Most people appear to use it in the same way as some consider THEMSELVES middle class (funny how nobody ever describes themselves as upper/lower class isnt it)..they appear to feel the need to put themselves on a level higher than 'normal people' like the rest of us...
(not a dig at little Jon above, at least he was being honest) |
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To be honest I pay as much attention to it on a profile as the disclaimer.
It won't make me more likely to want to sleep with someone but it doesn't put me off either, I tend to judge whether I'm overcome with the urge to remove my clothes and hers and pleasure her. That normally comes from mental and physical stimuli.
Plus like a lot of things these days the word is blurry...in my life I've been, amongst other things a manager at a dept store and worked at maccy D's when I was a teenager. I now drive cars at high speed round the country for a living. I don't know if any of these are classed as professional and I don't mind much as perhaps the only job that could have any input on my ability to charm and mate was some escorting work I did in my mid-twenties.
Ironically enough the job I really long to do is to be a writer as I get to use my imagination and get paid for it to boot! I don't know if that's classed as professional either really.
To be honest someone saying they are professional to me is like them saying they enjoy playing the odd round of golf, ie no indication on their sexual prowess. Though I've had the most amazing sex on a golf course... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"To be honest I pay as much attention to it on a profile as the disclaimer.
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funny enough I was just about to use the same exact comparison.......
I wonder is some people just use it for the same reason as the "warnings"... because they see others do it... |
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I truly don't get why people are getting their panties in a twist over what others put on their profile to help identify the types of people they want to meet.
If I see a profile stating the person is a very handsome man who goes to the gym twice a day, every day I know I'd not be for him. I wouldn't take umbrage, balance the chips on my shoulders and start huffy threads about men who think they're Brad Pitt.
Park your low self esteem and leave people to put what they like on their profile without ridicule! |
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"professional" originally meant that you had to have specialist educational qualifications to do the job. Hence doctors, solicitors, etc. the perceived high status of these professions made the term desirable and flattering, so other jobs started using it.
I read it on a profile as "someone who can dress smartly, be civilised, discrete and not be the kind of person you'd find on the jeremy kyle show |
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How you choose to describe yourself (particularly in short paragraphs) says a lot about what you value in people.
For those asking "what's the big deal?", it's only natural that when there are value clashes of values people are going to get offended.
Terms like "professional" and "educated" do seem to suggest a bit of snobbery - why would you put it if you didn't think it was a good thing? |
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Good looking couple, man, woman - Average looking couple etc- not movie stars. Dont get above your station or bring yourself down. Just let people accept you the way you are. Beauty is still in the eye of the beholder. If we see an ad with, "good looking couple, man, woman" on it. We will ignore it because we dont think their personality will suit ours and also we find it quite a funny statement to make.
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"I dont think these people are belittling you're "profession" of charity work... I have seen the word on many profiles and I just took it as, and I could be wrong, they are in a job where they wouldn't be comfortable, or it might not go down well for them if their colleagues were to find out what they did in their private time... Particularly their swinging activities! I think when people use the word they are just reassuring you of their discretion and expressing their desire for the same so while I agree that discretion is something that the majority of us would have anyway without the need of the word, if it helps them to feel more secure and comfortable in meeting then its just a word. And to be totally honest id rather meet with people similar to us who do work for a living "
That is the exact reason that we have it in our profile, its not a boast its just to inform people that we both work and value discretion.  |
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By *eaboMan
over a year ago
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"Its like the men who tell me what car they have to impress. So you have a posh car does that make you more likely to have me screaming in mind blowing orgasm than a man who don't drive. WTF I look at a profile as a indicator to sexual compatible not to see how much you earn strange concept I know lol "
i'm not professional, nor do i drive a car. Am i trying to compensate for having an enormous knob? |
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There seems to be a misconception that only professional people can hold an intelligent/interesting conversation.
I've often found the opposite to be true.
Sure professionals are intelligent but that intelligence is often limited to their chosen field.
Many times I've been amazed, when conversing with a "professional", by their lack of a broad spectrum of general knowledge and worldly wisdom.
What also amuses me is the surprised, bordering on shocked, look on their face when I talk about something that someone like me should know bugger all about. R
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"Why is it a funny statement to make, Do you consider people appreciating themselves a bad thing?!"
No, Im all for people appreciating themselves. I just find it hard to get my head round why certain people consider themselves good looking. "One mans meat is another ones poison". I have been told on numerous occasions that I am attractive (which is a nice complement) but there will be guys who do not find me attractive. Do you see where Im going with this! In otherwords people who declare they are a good looking person, couple on Fab, only think they are, as there will be many who dont. |
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"Why is it a funny statement to make, Do you consider people appreciating themselves a bad thing?!
No, Im all for people appreciating themselves. I just find it hard to get my head round why certain people consider themselves good looking. "One mans meat is another ones poison". I have been told on numerous occasions that I am attractive (which is a nice complement) but there will be guys who do not find me attractive. Do you see where Im going with this! In otherwords people who declare they are a good looking person, couple on Fab, only think they are, as there will be many who dont. "
Very true - eye of the beholder and all that |
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"Strikes me that some of them are so far up their own arse, they don't need to be on here, they can do it all by themselves "
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"Why is it a funny statement to make, Do you consider people appreciating themselves a bad thing?!
No, Im all for people appreciating themselves. I just find it hard to get my head round why certain people consider themselves good looking. "One mans meat is another ones poison". I have been told on numerous occasions that I am attractive (which is a nice complement) but there will be guys who do not find me attractive. Do you see where Im going with this! In otherwords people who declare they are a good looking person, couple on Fab, only think they are, as there will be many who dont. "
I totally understand what you're saying but why are you focusing on those that don't think you are? Now that's something I can't get my head round. Sounds to me like there's a low self concept somewhere there... |
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"Why is it a funny statement to make, Do you consider people appreciating themselves a bad thing?!
No, Im all for people appreciating themselves. I just find it hard to get my head round why certain people consider themselves good looking. "One mans meat is another ones poison". I have been told on numerous occasions that I am attractive (which is a nice complement) but there will be guys who do not find me attractive. Do you see where Im going with this! In otherwords people who declare they are a good looking person, couple on Fab, only think they are, as there will be many who dont. I totally understand what you're saying but why are you focusing on those that don't think you are? Now that's something I can't get my head round. Sounds to me like there's a low self concept somewhere there... "
There's certainly no low self concept or esteem here. I just put this up for debate so you are probably looking at things the wrong way. I am a confident person, outgoing, get along reasonably well with most people and fairly good at business. I dont mind stating these things but I would never state. "I am attractive or good looking". I think this would be pretty shallow of me to state this. |
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"But it's ok to state you're growing old disgracefully? After all a bit of self put down isn't shallow is it..."
Growing old disgracefully is called Humour lol |
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"Its like the men who tell me what car they have to impress. So you have a posh car does that make you more likely to have me screaming in mind blowing orgasm than a man who don't drive. WTF I look at a profile as a indicator to sexual compatible not to see how much you earn strange concept I know lol "
Some guys think of it as a status thing to get the girls. Neither the car or the money impresses me. I have my own transport (abroad) and i earn my own money. |
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Why thank you im glad it wasn't a dig lol
I really didn't think putting professional on the profile was a big deal.
Myself personally I can't say what job I do or other things in my details.
So think its important to give some sort of idea of who and what im about.
Other wise you might as well grab a one night stand in a night club.
Any way who really minds what anybody does for a living, except it makes it easy to chat and understand availability for play time
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I've used the word professional on mine because I have a hard earned degree and masters degree in a particular subject. I agree, it probably doesn't make me a better shag... But it does mean I've got two brain cells to rub together! I prefer to spend intimate time with people who are articulate, and I agree that using the word professional means bugger all really!! Xx |
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Also, I'd like to add that it's not relevant if a person has it on their profile as I think, you either click with them or you don't, I don't like to judge people solely on what their profile says xxx |
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"I've used the word professional on mine because I have a hard earned degree and masters degree in a particular subject. I agree, it probably doesn't make me a better shag... But it does mean I've got two brain cells to rub together! I prefer to spend intimate time with people who are articulate, and I agree that using the word professional means bugger all really!! Xx "
mmm I love rubbing hot tits together..I meant brain cells...sakes....my scrote-brain types this stuff sometimes without my consent.fancy a shag?(that was me that time) |
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"We often think people who put professional on their profile unwittingly give themselves a kind of Hyacinth Bucket image. 
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...And we all know she was dirty as hell beneath the veneer |
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"We often think people who put professional on their profile unwittingly give themselves a kind of Hyacinth Bucket image.
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...And we all know she was dirty as hell beneath the veneer "
I'd assume tho that her hubby had never washed his cock in his life |
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"I've used the word professional on mine because I have a hard earned degree and masters degree in a particular subject. I agree, it probably doesn't make me a better shag... But it does mean I've got two brain cells to rub together! I prefer to spend intimate time with people who are articulate, and I agree that using the word professional means bugger all really!! Xx"
Nothing personal against you, but it really, really doesn't! |
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"I pay attention to this because I want to meet people who can string a sentence together. There's a lot more to a fuck than a round peg in a round hole."
Absolutely, well said. |
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"I've used the word professional on mine because I have a hard earned degree and masters degree in a particular subject. I agree, it probably doesn't make me a better shag... But it does mean I've got two brain cells to rub together! I prefer to spend intimate time with people who are articulate, and I agree that using the word professional means bugger all really!! Xx
mmm I love rubbing hot tits together..I meant brain cells...sakes....my scrote-brain types this stuff sometimes without my consent.fancy a shag?(that was me that time)"
Hehehe! Xx |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"I think the idea of stating your a professional is to attract a certain type of person, maybe they are in a high paid job and like to eat in certain restaurants or book higher class hotel than a travel lodge, to meet people who are on the same educational level as them so they have things in common to talk about, and not have to worry about meeting people who's income is to low to afford the type of places they want to use for meets, to some this is more tha just turning up for a fuck, they like to connect on a mental level and maybe they feel they can do that with someone whos on national minimum wage and had to worry about if they can afford to use the hotel suggested
There are loads of odd things i find on here but people are entitled to meet who they like, without question "
The funny bit though is that some people use it in the 'I'm a partner in a small firm of solicitors sense', and some in the 'I'm the kind of person an estate agent would rent a scabby flat in the suburbs to' sense, and mutual confusion ensues.
As for me, I'm just an amateur at everything.... |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"Professional people are unlikely to want to shag common, rough or scruffy looking people... All about personal choice, just like we all have
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As a young man I used to work as a doorman in the kind of bars where 'professional' men would pick up rough, scruffy young boys, some of whom undoubtedly would ask for some help with the rent before doing the wild thing for the punters.
Most street girls can probably tell you a tale or two about professional guys slumming it - Jeanette Winterson also tells a tale or two about being seduced by married rich women who used to reward her with expensive gifts...
It's a funny old world... |
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"I dont think these people are belittling you're "profession" of charity work... I have seen the word on many profiles and I just took it as, and I could be wrong, they are in a job where they wouldn't be comfortable, or it might not go down well for them if their colleagues were to find out what they did in their private time... Particularly their swinging activities! I think when people use the word they are just reassuring you of their discretion and expressing their desire for the same so while I agree that discretion is something that the majority of us would have anyway without the need of the word, if it helps them to feel more secure and comfortable in meeting then its just a word. And to be totally honest id rather meet with people similar to us who do work for a living "
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"Professional people are unlikely to want to shag common, rough or scruffy looking people... All about personal choice, just like we all have
As a young man I used to work as a doorman in the kind of bars where 'professional' men would pick up rough, scruffy young boys, some of whom undoubtedly would ask for some help with the rent before doing the wild thing for the punters.
Most street girls can probably tell you a tale or two about professional guys slumming it - Jeanette Winterson also tells a tale or two about being seduced by married rich women who used to reward her with expensive gifts...
It's a funny old world..."
That's not swinging. |
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The story of this thread is the inverted snobbery is much more prevalent (and objectionable) than snobbery and true to form the inverted snobs do their level best to bring everyone down to their level. The tactics of humiliation, insults and bullying are quite normal for the inverted snob to use to attempt to bring the snob from "out of their own arse" and "down a peg or two."
The snob meanwhile, carries on regardless keeping as much distance as possible from the negativity.
Us? - Yes - we are swinging snobs and would never associate with the type of person that takes time out to make an issue of a profile that uses the word professional as means of selectivity.
Yours etc Hyacinth............ |
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"nice to see the non judgemental, live and let live fab vibe is alive and well......sheesh.....
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Amen brother! 
Think this is a good time to tell you all.... in a couple of months I'll be qualified as a professional philosopher!! PROFESSIONAL I tells ya! Isn't that awesome news??
*sits down and hopes for entertaining abuse* |
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"nice to see the non judgemental, live and let live fab vibe is alive and well......sheesh.....
Amen brother!
Think this is a good time to tell you all.... in a couple of months I'll be qualified as a professional philosopher!! PROFESSIONAL I tells ya! Isn't that awesome news??
*sits down and hopes for entertaining abuse* "
I'm underwhelmed. Who was it said that The unexamined cock was not worth lifting? |
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"The story of this thread is the inverted snobbery is much more prevalent (and objectionable) than snobbery and true to form the inverted snobs do their level best to bring everyone down to their level. The tactics of humiliation, insults and bullying are quite normal for the inverted snob to use to attempt to bring the snob from "out of their own arse" and "down a peg or two."
The snob meanwhile, carries on regardless keeping as much distance as possible from the negativity.
Us? - Yes - we are swinging snobs and would never associate with the type of person that takes time out to make an issue of a profile that uses the word professional as means of selectivity.
Yours etc Hyacinth............"
Buck it! |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"Professional people are unlikely to want to shag common, rough or scruffy looking people... All about personal choice, just like we all have
As a young man I used to work as a doorman in the kind of bars where 'professional' men would pick up rough, scruffy young boys, some of whom undoubtedly would ask for some help with the rent before doing the wild thing for the punters.
Most street girls can probably tell you a tale or two about professional guys slumming it - Jeanette Winterson also tells a tale or two about being seduced by married rich women who used to reward her with expensive gifts...
It's a funny old world...
That's not swinging. "
I don't remember saying that it was... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Think this is a good time to tell you all.... in a couple of months I'll be qualified as a professional philosopher!! PROFESSIONAL I tells ya! Isn't that awesome news??
*sits down and hopes for entertaining abuse* "
You may qualify but until you earn something as a philosopher... discuss |
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"nice to see the non judgemental, live and let live fab vibe is alive and well......sheesh.....
Amen brother!
Think this is a good time to tell you all.... in a couple of months I'll be qualified as a professional philosopher!! PROFESSIONAL I tells ya! Isn't that awesome news??
*sits down and hopes for entertaining abuse*
I'm underwhelmed. Who was it said that The unexamined cock was not worth lifting?"
I think that was Socrates after a bit too much thinking juice |
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"Think this is a good time to tell you all.... in a couple of months I'll be qualified as a professional philosopher!! PROFESSIONAL I tells ya! Isn't that awesome news??
*sits down and hopes for entertaining abuse*
You may qualify but until you earn something as a philosopher... discuss"
I'm sure I could earn some money as payment for not annoying people in regards to the cogito... then again I need to invest in a bubble pipe so I'll begin at a deficit... unless the term bubble pipe is a meaningless expression put in place by an evil genie....ah, we have a quandry! |
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"The story of this thread is the inverted snobbery is much more prevalent (and objectionable) than snobbery and true to form the inverted snobs do their level best to bring everyone down to their level. The tactics of humiliation, insults and bullying are quite normal for the inverted snob to use to attempt to bring the snob from "out of their own arse" and "down a peg or two."
The snob meanwhile, carries on regardless keeping as much distance as possible from the negativity.
Us? - Yes - we are swinging snobs and would never associate with the type of person that takes time out to make an issue of a profile that uses the word professional as means of selectivity.
Yours etc Hyacinth............"
What also amuses me is the time and effort these inverted snobs put into trying to decipher what is meant by "professional" and the conclusions they come to. |
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