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Should we recommend or introduce people a bit more
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
What are everyone's thoughts on recommending previous meets to other people?
Is it something people do?
I think we should do it more. Verifications are all well and good to get an idea if someone is genuine but I just think a mail from someone asking if they would recommend someone who they are potentially meeting up with would be a useful.
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"What are everyone's thoughts on recommending previous meets to other people?
Is it something people do?
I think we should do it more. Verifications are all well and good to get an idea if someone is genuine but I just think a mail from someone asking if they would recommend someone who they are potentially meeting up with would be a useful.
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"What are everyone's thoughts on recommending previous meets to other people?
Is it something people do?
I think we should do it more. Verifications are all well and good to get an idea if someone is genuine but I just think a mail from someone asking if they would recommend someone who they are potentially meeting up with would be a useful.
Would you recommend us??"
100%. A fantastic couple. |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Like a reference?"
It can be anything really. So if I have met a couple for example they might mention me to some people they have met, or I do the same.
Or it could be a message (with their consent obviously) to the person I have met asking if they would recommend me. What they liked or didn't like..
Just an idea really.. |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I love this idea, but there are fake profiles and fake verifications so doesnt that mean these could be fake too?"
oh it's not fool or fake proof that's for sure but still I think it has potential.
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We've stopped putting up veris because of type of thing. Soon as we put one up they would contact the people we met and talk to them as if they came recommended by us! Using our real names and we've not gone beyond messaging them. They've come and gone as different profiles, but you can tell it them by the way they describe themselves.  |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"We've stopped putting up veris because of type of thing. Soon as we put one up they would contact the people we met and talk to them as if they came recommended by us! Using our real names and we've not gone beyond messaging them. They've come and gone as different profiles, but you can tell it them by the way they describe themselves. "
This is just wrong and deceitful. This would be in agreed terms. |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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I think this tends to happen more with club meets. You get chatting to say a couple in the social area and someone pops their head in and asks if they’ve played and if not, they should. It can be a little awkward as one person’s good experience may not be the same as another’s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not something I would want. I can find people I like myself without recommendations. And just because I like someone, doesn't mean everyone else will. "
Agreed x |
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"We've stopped putting up veris because of type of thing. Soon as we put one up they would contact the people we met and talk to them as if they came recommended by us! Using our real names and we've not gone beyond messaging them. They've come and gone as different profiles, but you can tell it them by the way they describe themselves. This is just wrong and deceitful. This would be in agreed terms. "
The thing is we sign off using the tag line Mr and Mrs Shady or The Shadys...
We've our stated position should we be "outed" but obviously we don't want to see it come out, but clearly they have learned something, somewhere, maybe fishing through somebody we've met but all have denied this, and we tend to be on the same page as us in regards to their privacy.
One couple we did have a sleep over with, asked if we minded if they had another couple join us and if it was OK, would we be open to messaging us before had to establish a relationship of sorts beforehand. All was good btw with that and them.
That to us was how it should be and strengthened the bond and our respect we have with them.
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"I think this tends to happen more with club meets. You get chatting to say a couple in the social area and someone pops their head in and asks if they’ve played and if not, they should. It can be a little awkward as one person’s good experience may not be the same as another’s. "
I think you are right. |
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No, I'm not an experience to be reviewed on TripAdvisor. Just because someone enjoyed meetinge doesn't mean someone else would. Just leave a verification saying we turned up and looked like our photos and that's enough for me.
Don't reduce us to commodities to be recommended to each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe not as good an idea as I thought. Introducing people or recommending them. "
I think the word 'recommending' doesnt sit well.. Yes introducing new people in a club is okay and probably appreciated.
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"I’ve been recommended to another couple from a couple I meet.
It is a super small world and a personal nod of the head is far more valuable than any verification in making introductions. "
I was just thinking this is probably something that would benefit men more than women or couples. 
It could be just a status saying "xxx man was lovely to meet!" or a reply to a meet thread by them on the forum. Obviously it's open to abuse and you have to take everything on here with a pinch of skepticism. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"It's not something I would want. I can find people I like myself without recommendations. And just because I like someone, doesn't mean everyone else will. "
This ,even annoys me when people write "give him a chance you won't be disappointed "on veries lol |
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"I'd hate to be "recommended" by anyone. I didn't mean it like that.. let's say me and you were potentially going to meet, you could get a thumbs up on me from someone I've met. "
I wouldn't want to though. I dont care who other people have met and have no interest in what they thought of a said person. I would rather make my own mind up x |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I'd hate to be "recommended" by anyone. I didn't mean it like that.. let's say me and you were potentially going to meet, you could get a thumbs up on me from someone I've met.
I wouldn't want to though. I dont care who other people have met and have no interest in what they thought of a said person. I would rather make my own mind up x"
That's a fair point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are everyone's thoughts on recommending previous meets to other people?
Is it something people do?
I think we should do it more. Verifications are all well and good to get an idea if someone is genuine but I just think a mail from someone asking if they would recommend someone who they are potentially meeting up with would be a useful.
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surely its the same premise as a veri only you i assume you would contact people youre going to recommending them to  |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"What are everyone's thoughts on recommending previous meets to other people?
Is it something people do?
I think we should do it more. Verifications are all well and good to get an idea if someone is genuine but I just think a mail from someone asking if they would recommend someone who they are potentially meeting up with would be a useful.
surely its the same premise as a veri only you i assume you would contact people youre going to recommending them to "
I was thinking the person would might be thinking of meeting me would contact them (with their knowledge it was coming). |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Hi
X told me you give a good BJ so do you fancy hooking up?
You mean like that? 
I'd hate it."
No. More along the lines, I'm thinking of meeting X, I see you have had a meet with them it would be great to hear how it all went.
Or as an I introduction...it could be..hey x, we met y recently and I think you two / three would get on really well for xxx reasons. If you're meeting soon then maybe it might be worth giving y a message. See if you hit it off.. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"Hi
X told me you give a good BJ so do you fancy hooking up?
You mean like that?
I'd hate it.No. More along the lines, I'm thinking of meeting X, I see you have had a meet with them it would be great to hear how it all went.
Or as an I introduction...it could be..hey x, we met y recently and I think you two / three would get on really well for xxx reasons. If you're meeting soon then maybe it might be worth giving y a message. See if you hit it off.. "
I think that's the issue I have with it. I don't want people discussing "how it all went" with others. That's private, and between me and the person I've met. Or it should be.
I totally get what you're saying and how it might work for some, but it's just not how I like to do things. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"Hi
X told me you give a good BJ so do you fancy hooking up?
You mean like that?
I'd hate it.No. More along the lines, I'm thinking of meeting X, I see you have had a meet with them it would be great to hear how it all went.
Or as an I introduction...it could be..hey x, we met y recently and I think you two / three would get on really well for xxx reasons. If you're meeting soon then maybe it might be worth giving y a message. See if you hit it off.. "
I wouldn't like that either. I tend to be quite private really. I'll talk about generic sex quite openly but I like to keep real things to myself or discuss them with the person they were with. |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Hi
X told me you give a good BJ so do you fancy hooking up?
You mean like that?
I'd hate it.No. More along the lines, I'm thinking of meeting X, I see you have had a meet with them it would be great to hear how it all went.
Or as an I introduction...it could be..hey x, we met y recently and I think you two / three would get on really well for xxx reasons. If you're meeting soon then maybe it might be worth giving y a message. See if you hit it off..
I think that's the issue I have with it. I don't want people discussing "how it all went" with others. That's private, and between me and the person I've met. Or it should be.
I totally get what you're saying and how it might work for some, but it's just not how I like to do things. "
I understand that. I suppose everyone is different. It was just an idea and it is something I would be in favour of. I certainly wouldn't be going into details anout the sexual fun I've had with someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were chatting to a chap but didn’t want to take it further and he recommended us to another couple which we found very off putting as we are not looking for couples and he didn’t really know us so it’s a no thank you from us.
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"We were chatting to a chap but didn’t want to take it further and he recommended us to another couple which we found very off putting as we are not looking for couples and he didn’t really know us so it’s a no thank you from us.
T"
He shouldn't have done that. What I was suggesting was where all agreed to it. So you agree to it and the person who I/ you have already met agrees to it. Just an idea that's all.. |
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"We were chatting to a chap but didn’t want to take it further and he recommended us to another couple which we found very off putting as we are not looking for couples and he didn’t really know us so it’s a no thank you from us.
THe shouldn't have done that. What I was suggesting was where all agreed to it. So you agree to it and the person who I/ you have already met agrees to it. Just an idea that's all.."
No harm in putting an idea forward . |
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By *ast_jj OP Man
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"We were chatting to a chap but didn’t want to take it further and he recommended us to another couple which we found very off putting as we are not looking for couples and he didn’t really know us so it’s a no thank you from us.
THe shouldn't have done that. What I was suggesting was where all agreed to it. So you agree to it and the person who I/ you have already met agrees to it. Just an idea that's all..
No harm in putting an idea forward . "
True |
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