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Do you prefer social meets or just plain old fun?
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So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha! |
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I've only had the pleasure of meeting someone once off here and it was social first, which I prefer, but I do much prefer the whole chatting on here first than clubs, I feel like clubs for a single guy is a lot of pressure to do most of the chasing so to speak and even then I do feel like single guys get painted with the same brush a lot of the times, which is a shame lol, but such is the way! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just sex.
I use FAB to satisfy that need only, I now prefer a few regular guys, then one offs. I socialise with my rl friends. Don’t get me wrong, these chatting, drinks and laughter, but the aim is sex xx |
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"I prefer a social,then to meet for fun if there's attraction and a connection.
My best meets always followed socials.
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Got to agree with that, I think there needs to be some kind of connection first, flirting etc |
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See what I'm noticing is, most, and not everyone but majority, of women and couples always say social first, which is the same as my thoughts on the whole thing really, to add too that then, so meets in general, do you organise them on the site? Because especiay near me, i see very little people chatting nevermind actually being active so to speak |
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"I've only had the pleasure of meeting someone once off here and it was social first, which I prefer, but I do much prefer the whole chatting on here first than clubs, I feel like clubs for a single guy is a lot of pressure to do most of the chasing so to speak and even then I do feel like single guys get painted with the same brush a lot of the times, which is a shame lol, but such is the way!"
Why take things so personal? As with most things in life nothing is ever easy whether it's a business, getting a job or seeking a gf.
It's not a free for all for anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See what I'm noticing is, most, and not everyone but majority, of women and couples always say social first, which is the same as my thoughts on the whole thing really, to add too that then, so meets in general, do you organise them on the site? Because especiay near me, i see very little people chatting nevermind actually being active so to speak"
I suspect the vast majority of meets are arranged via private messages, and not on the public forum.
We certainly wouldn't publish dates and locations on a public thread!  |
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"I've only had the pleasure of meeting someone once off here and it was social first, which I prefer, but I do much prefer the whole chatting on here first than clubs, I feel like clubs for a single guy is a lot of pressure to do most of the chasing so to speak and even then I do feel like single guys get painted with the same brush a lot of the times, which is a shame lol, but such is the way!
Why take things so personal? As with most things in life nothing is ever easy whether it's a business, getting a job or seeking a gf.
It's not a free for all for anyone"
Sorry I dont mean for this to come across as a moody rant! At all, I'm just making a post here, as I stated, its just an opinion, and one that tends to be true, no matter which way you look at it, not that I ever feel personally hard done by, just is what it is |
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"See what I'm noticing is, most, and not everyone but majority, of women and couples always say social first, which is the same as my thoughts on the whole thing really, to add too that then, so meets in general, do you organise them on the site? Because especiay near me, i see very little people chatting nevermind actually being active so to speak
I suspect the vast majority of meets are arranged via private messages, and not on the public forum.
We certainly wouldn't publish dates and locations on a public thread! "
Of course! Thats more what I meant, not through the forums! As you say, dont want random folk turning up when you post details on here! |
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Social meet first, but only with the people we're interested in. Feel that people who insist on meeting in a club scenario are selfishly hedging their bets!
A good social meet can turn straight into fun too, why lose the chemistry of the moment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd love to have more socials, a pub meet, a few drinks to relax everybody, a lot of flirting.
It doesnt necessarily have to lead to sex the first time for at any time really, as long as everybody has fun, is comfortable and ends up a little bit hornier  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The social side is really important to me. I love the flirting, banter, teasing whilst out for drinks, foods etc. Sex in risky places is always fun! I find connection sexually appealing not just looks. Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think you can beat a social meet. Lots of chat and lots of flirting and teasing. If the attraction is there fun to follow another day.
Im of that opinion, always better"
I think it all builds up to a great meet |
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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago
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Fun for me as I don't have a lot of time to socialise as it is and I basically just want guys for sex, so for me let's get down to it striaght away when I'm free..
Althou I do like lots of messages and phone calls before we meet and i do have regular guys I see that our 'friends' that I trust... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we meet,we are meeting to play.
Yes with people we haven't met before,we get to know them a little,there must be some spark,but generally we are meeting to have sex |
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I always ask for a social meet first, and leave the option of play on the first meet open. You know within the first five minutes whether anything is going to happen afterwards 
I hear what you are saying about the club scene OP, and agree it can be pretty soul-destroying to be a single guy in one. I prefer private meets where I feel I’m an equal  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!"
Social every time |
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"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!"
Really depends on the chemistry with the guy i am with. There's no straightforward sinple answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I prefer a meet to get straight to it, but there will have been lots of commutation before the meet so you know that the conversation can flow and if you have the same sort of humour. I don’t mean rip each other’s clothes off as soon as the door opens, there’s at least 20 mins of chat over a a glass of wine first  |
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"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!
Really depends on the chemistry with the guy i am with. There's no straightforward sinple answer"
sin... ple love it  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"We like to do social 1st but it could lead to a play if it's going well"
We only meet if there’s definite attraction so arranging a social with an option to play afterwards works well, but never any pressure or assumptions. Sometimes it isn’t possible so will do a social first but the first option is our preference. Either meeting close to our or there’s when one could can accom, or holiday / weekend away meets where the trip and hotel is already booked |
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"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!"
you can have a social at a club and if the single guy does not show (like many do not) then there are others to talk to and socialize with which can lead to play and it is a safe enviroment. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We have socials with our vanilla friends. We're here to fulfill our sexual fantasies, one of which is sex with total strangers. Clubs provide us with the ideal and safe environment to play out our fantasies and so far they have served us very well and we have had some great spontaneous sex with fellow clubbers. That isn't to say we haven't made friends through swinging too. |
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